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Buckle up and brace yourselves for an exhilarating ride into the fast and fabulous world of ESTPs in today's thrilling episode! Meet the masters of spontaneity and action, the life-force at every party and the quick thinkers in every crisis. These resourceful dynamos are always ready for the next adventure. They're all about diving into the unknown, embracing challenges head-on, and bringing everyone along for the thrill of it. With their can-do spirit and knack for rallying others, ESTPs are a powerhouse of energy, charisma, and enthusiasm.

While their love for spontaneity and breaking the norm sure sets them apart, it can also be the very source of their self-doubt. One day, they're the superstars, soaring high and achieving greatness, and the next, they might face unexpected challenges that leave them questioning their abilities. Does their rule-bending make them less deserving of success? Does their resistance to long-term planning question their competency? Are their impulsive decisions and inconsistent performances a sign that they're frauds?

Stay tuned as we unravel how the Imposter Syndrome manifests in ESTPs' lives, from self-sabotaging behaviors and an unsatisfied thirst for fulfillment to the constant risk of burnout and the impact on their relationships. We'll explore how the fear of being exposed as an imposter can lead them to procrastinate, dodge challenging opportunities, and even downplay their successes. Get ready to witness the hidden emotional landscapes of ESTPs, the fears lurking beneath their lively exterior, and the steps they can take to combat the Imposter Syndrome. You won't want to miss this action-packed journey into the world of ESTPs!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

• [01:36] Episode Introduction
• [07:03] Why Does the ESTP Experience Imposter Syndrome?
• [15:31] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on ESTPs
• [25:38] Episode Gem
• [27:20] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

·         Self-sabotage is a common pattern among ESTPs with Imposter Syndrome, as they struggle with their own perceived inadequacy. Procrastination becomes a familiar companion for ESTPs with Imposter Syndrome. They may put off important tasks or projects, fearing that they won't meet their own high standards or that they will ultimately fail.

·         ESTPs are typically high-energy individuals who thrive in dynamic environments. However, the relentless pursuit of success and the constant self-doubt that accompanies Imposter Syndrome can push them to the brink of exhaustion. They may find themselves in a perpetual cycle of overworking, always striving to prove their worth and competence.

·         ESTPs' impulsiveness may result in sporadic or unpredictable performance. They might excel in some situations while underperforming in others. This inconsistency can lead to doubts about their own competence and contribute to Imposter Syndrome. They may feel like imposters when they experience setbacks or struggle to meet expectations.

·         Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles is, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Erin Clements continues her life-evaluated testimony by sharing statements that sometimes trigger emotions that dominate our current thinking. Comments that are meant to encourage others can be processed negatively. We do not know why we think and feel the way we do until we assess our life and statements that impact our thinking. Too often, we make impulsive statements with negative connotations that stay with the person we speak to for a long time. Through coaching and counseling, we can overcome low confidence and self-images resulting from these statements.

Andrea Pollack became a homeschooler for her 23-year-old autistic son after serving 19 years as a litigator. Following eight years of homeschooling, he returned to public school. Andrea is now sharing her parenting experience with other parents in a way that does not exist in the industry. Andrea's observation is too many therapists are not parenting guidance. Andrea developed an education and coaching program that teaches parenting strategies while helping parents develop the mindset to implement learning strategies effectively. She earned a Master's Degree in Education to have the greatest impact in helping other parents. You can learn more about Andrea and contract her services through https://www.autismparentsconnect.org/andreas-mission/ and https://autismparentsolutions.com/.

When was the last time you said something you wish you hadn’t? 

Your impulsive tendencies affect you in more ways than simply putting your foot in your mouth…again.

Even when it may seem impossible, you can build in the practice of slowing down. Why does this matter for busy ADHD brains? Let’s discuss why you crave peace in your turbo-speed brain and how it helps both you and your family when you sloooooooow down. 

When your brain goes non-stop, how do you create calm in chaos? We’ll dive deep into this discussion at our ADHD Moms retreat in October. You deserve a weekend to rest, focus on you, and learn how you best slow down to take care of yourself (and not snap at your kids every day.) Join us here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat

When anger is out of control, it’s time to slow down, because anger can cause a domino effect of resentment, bitterness, substance use, not to mention broken relationships. If we want to experience love, joy and peace in our life, learning to practice patience will develop in us the fruit we need to live the ‘abundant life’. 

“Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires”. James 1:20

Getting to ‘know’ our spiritual Father starts with listening before we speak. Becoming a new creation in Christ is a journey of becoming like a child learning to trust, respect and honor God. It all begins with seeking to ‘understand’ and becoming a good listener getting to ‘know’ your father’s voice. 

“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry”. 

With the unrealistic standards of beauty we are bombarded with in society, it’s no wonder so many people suffer from eating disorders. But could it be that many of the causes of eating disorders are based more in biology than sociology? In the second part of “Love Your Brain “ series, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen describe conditions in the brain and body that may lead to eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia.

Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D., explains why adults with ADHD are at higher risk for obesity—we may impulsively choose junky foods, and emotional overwhelm can lead us to self-soothe with carbs—and shares more mindful approaches to eating and food-shopping.

Executive function challenges frequently lead to financial woes for ADHD adults. Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D., offers tips on curbing impulsive spending and sticking to a budget, and recommends the best money management apps.