Recorded January 23 , 2021
Topic:
How to love when you feel like leaving
Guest notes:
April Grant is the founder of The Other Side of 40 Blog and Podcast where she encourages us to embrace each new chapter and release anxieties around getting older.
Pre-topic Banter:
Happy Birthday Rhumel! She is an inauguration baby. Speaking of the inauguration, we all found ourselves feeling lighter and happier on that day. Nobody missed the beautiful gem-toned monochromatic wardrobe of the ladies highlighted on this day. Furthermore we had a great laugh at the Bernie memes.
We talked about it:
Every marriage will come to a point (or points) where it gets hard, like really hard. Challenges are to be expected. Actually, you should plan on it.
Hearing stories of how other married couples found themselves at a breaking point, then overcame is invaluable! Enter April Grant.
During this conversation, April walks us through "the wake up call that we needed", the event that exposed the vulnerabilities in her marriage and then she describes how they worked together to fortify their relationship.
- Compliments in DMs
- Realizing of lack of intimacy in marriage
- Breaking point - having that hard conversation
- Healing through commitment and counseling
Episode Quotes:
"[Compliments by male friend] made me feel a way I hadn't felt in my marriage in a long time... I don't know if I'd want to go through the next 40 years of my life NOT feeling attractive and wanted." - April
"[Male friend] makes me feel good. He makes me feel loved and he makes me feel like there is someone looking at me, not as a wife and mother, but just April." - April
"He's [Husband] paying the bills and giving me space, but I don't have the passion and affection that I really want" - April
"If things don't change around here I will leave!" - April
"Prostitutes wouldn't be making good money if it was about intimacy and passion. You can have sex without either of those. ....guys mistakenly think well we are having sex so of course we are intimate." - Rhumel
" I think every marriage goes through the need to reinvent itself and to rejuvenate the feelings of flirty-ness inside the marriage." - Twanda
"It's universal that long term couples a five year period where we struggle, this is our 5-year period. If we can work through this, I know we'll be better for it on the other end." - April's husband
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Related:
Love challenges you may want to try (in marriage)
https://www.thedatingdivas.com/marriage-love-challenges/
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