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We’re kicking off the new year with a sampler of segments you may have missed from past episodes. Guests discuss common medications with sexual side effects; nonbinary identities; and techniques for climbing out of a sex rut – plus, Karen’s Sermon on reminders to self for moving through relationship anxiety. We’re taking two weeks off and coming back with a whole new season!

In this episode:

• Ren Grabert - S2E22: Are Your Meds Messing with Your Sex Life?
• Panel - S2E2: Bust Out of Your Sex Rut (ft. Jason Best, Tazima Parris, Heather Rider)
• Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound - S2E7: The Sex-Positive Parent

“What’s Up with That?” episodes with Logan Pierce 

• Cisgender
• Transgender
• Nonbinary
• Pronouns

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Do you avoid difficult conversations with partners, or leap right into the sticky stuff? In the second episode in our Eavesdropping series — unplanned, no-holds-barred conversations, beginning with a guest’s question for Karen — Brandon Hunter-Haydon asks, “What does it mean to choose pain over suffering?”

In this episode:

• Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Intimacy coach & therapist
• More on the Wheel of Consent - Hear our interview (S2E25)

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Is it time to exit an LTR that’s not working? How will you know? Panelists answer a listener question on getting out (or not), plus Karen’s Sermon on what keeps us stuck in situations we don’t want. 

In this episode:

• Heather Shannon - Sex therapist
• Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex and gender rebels
•  Mksthingshappin - Kink & relationship coach 

Karen’s Steve Gadd YouTube rabbit hole:

• The full song, 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover - Paul Simon
• Drummer Steve Gadd demonstrates the intro
• Drummer Stephen Taylor breaks it down even further

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Many people are radically re-examining their relationship values — both in dating and with long-term partners — after a year and a half of pandemic living. Panelists discuss newfound pickiness on dating apps, being honest with yourself, and finding your center in a time of crisis.

In this episode:

• Tazima Parris - Sex coach & pleasure mentor
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Psychotherapist & intimacy coach
• Jera Brown - Sex and relationship writer & fetish provider
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"My partner is a flirt. He says this is who he is..." Panelists answer a frustrated listener’s question on different social styles within a couple. Plus, the sticky wicket of starting a nonmonogamy convo in an established relationship.

In this episode:

• Tazima Parris - Sex & intimacy coach
• Diane Long - Body worker & empowerment self defense teacher
• Mark Vaughan - Certified sex therapist
• Wanna come to a Divorce Party? Join Karen and Rebellious Magazine on Tuesday, August 31 for a celebration of life after significant splits! (Online gathering, free to the public)
• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola - Get it on Bookshop, our affiliate partner.

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How do we discover what turns us on? Does the erotic come from taboo, longing, surprise? How can we get more of it to juice our relationships and fantasies? Panelists offer tips to cultivate more eroticism in our lives. Plus host Karen Yates' Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex positivity.

In this episode:

• Jera Brown - sex writer
•  Mksthingshappin - kink and relationship coach
• Elmo Painter - sex-positive psychotherapist
• Erotic Creativity podcast episode
• Anything That Moves podcast episode
• July 2019 live show

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Books in this episode:

• Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns - Philip Miller
• Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay - Anne Carson
• The Erotic Mind - Jack Morin

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A new year is upon us as we go into the season finale of season 5 of Battle Of The Sexes. From Dangote's ex to relationship times, join Denver B as we take a deep dive into lips, remarriage and many things in-between. 

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What’s it like to embark on a new sexual lifestyle in middle age? Or to figure out—after unfulfilling long-term relationships—what kind of sexual being you want to become? Two real people tell their stories. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about the possibility of change.

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• Therapist Pat Cochran tells the story of her development as a sexual person, from teen years to 60 and beyond. Recorded live at The Boxcar in Chicago, January 2020.
• Kinkster and Dom Peter aka MksThingsHappin talks about getting into kink after 40, and discusses elements of his current 24/7 lifestyle. Recorded live at The Boxcar, Chicago, June 2019.
• Full Color Life Therapy
• Mksthingshappin

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As we face another round of public-space restrictions this fall due to a rise in COVID cases, we wanted to revisit this episode. Our panel gives great suggestions for thriving during this strange time, especially if you and your partner both work from home (and maybe also have kids). Plus a sexy Burning Man story, and host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound.

• Sex & intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane, Director of Operations and Communications for #open, return from episode one to talk about sex in long-term relationships during the COVID pandemic. 
• David, co-founder of OUTspoken, a live LGBTQ storytelling event in Chicago, tells the tale of one sexy afternoon at Burning Man. From our first live show, October 2018 at Stage 773.
• Host Karen Yates closes the episode with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about being present in our bodies in the moment.

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• Matthew Amador
• Sarah Sloane
• OUTspoken LGBTQ Storytelling
• October 2018 Live Show

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Are you stuck in a sex rut? Karen talks with three knowledgeable guests from different corners of the sex-positive world about erotic creativity and how to sustain it. Their juicy in-depth conversation ranges from roleplay and kink to tantra and mindfulness. 

Guests:

• Corinne Diachuk is an advanced teacher of Therapeutic Yoga, a somatic sex educator,  and a faculty member at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Education
• Goddess Erica is a Sexual Empowerment Coach, Orgasmic Birth Doula, and Dominatrix
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon (a veteran guest on our live shows) is a psychotherapist, group facilitator, and sexual health advocate

Links:

NewCity interview with Karen Yates

Institute for the Study of Somatic Education

The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin

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Are you and your partner both working from home? Maybe with kids underfoot? How's your libido been? Our panelists Tazima Parris, Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane return to talk about sex in long-term relationships during the COVID pandemic. Plus the story of one sexy afternoon at Burning Man from David, co-founder of OUTspoken, an LGBTQ storytelling series in Chicago. From our October 2018 live show at Constellation Chicago.

Host Karen Yates closes the episode with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about being present in our bodies in the moment.

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Tracy K. Smith’s poem “Song” is filled with observations of a loved person: their habits, the things they do when they think nobody is watching. Love is shown and celebrated in observing the small practices of another.  

A question to reflect on after you listen: What’s something small and quiet you’ve noticed about a loved one?

About the poet:

Tracy K. Smith is a professor of creative writing at Princeton University and the former poet laureate of the United States. Her poetry collections include Life on Mars, winner of the Pulitzer Prize, Duende, and The Body’s Prize. Her memoir is Ordinary Light, and she also hosts the podcast, The Slowdown.

“Song” comes from Tracy K. Smith’s book Life on Mars. Thank you to Graywolf Press, who published the book and to The Permissions Company, who let us use Tracy’s poem. Read it on our website at onbeing.org.

Find the transcript for this episode at onbeing.org.

The original music in this episode was composed by Gautam Srikishan

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