#mothering

The sisters attempt to reframe sleepless nights — a problem which comes from a listener. They both agree it’s a hard one especially given that Nat hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in eight years. 

Bec asks if sleeplessness could be reframed for new mothers as doing hard things? Like the cold plunge from the spa — a good shock to the body’s system?

They discuss how the constraints imposed through sleepless nights could lead to generating…something! For Nat it led to the writing of a PhD! Why not write down the wild and awesome thoughts that come in the middle of the night?

Bec reads an excerpt from Nightbitch by Rachel Yoder. They discuss finding some companions who are experiencing the same thing. They ponder the transformations that mothers go through; maybe “nightbitch” is one such iteration.

They discuss the need to stay open to wherever community comes, and painfully for Bec it might not be another soulmate mother. It might be your dad shopping for formula with you! You don’t always know where care will come from and who will surprise you!

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Nat has been thinking about loss now that her son is against kisses. It spurs her to write a piece that she shares, called "Loss and Found."

The sisters muse about some of their great losses and some of the benefits of experiencing pain—it leads us to empathy. 

They manage to get their mom to contribute to the podcast, not in a conversation, but in her own written piece about loss. "Mom" writes about her favourite books that share a commonality in navigating great loss. 

They both shed their first podcast tears. 

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Nat and Bec reframe a new question about the labels we put on our kids. Also they air an interview they have been sitting on with their old friend and singer extraordinaire Felicity Williams. (You might recognize her voice from our opening music!) The theme which resonates through both parts of the episode: the changing seasons of life. 

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Nat encourages everyone to “fail up” and turn our humiliations into successes! #goals #noregrets

Bec and Nat determine that they don’t have one big success to tie them to their past (lucky them!); instead they are resilient types who just keep on chugging. 

Bec learns something new about Nat when it comes to Instagram recipes. Bec shares the story of faking her art project in grade 11 and then getting invited to the gifted art class, and having to grapple with feeling like a fraud. They talk about imposter syndrome and comparison, and their tendencies to downplay their abilities. 

They talk about big mom failures, Nat’s thesis “failure,” Bec’s fight “failures” with Simon, the tightrope walking of being a teacher, and when it’s time to drop the baggage completely. 

Corrections: Written on the Body is written by Jeannette Winterson. NOT Dionne Brand. Rebecca is not to be trusted. 

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Let's talk about Mother's Day and the need for mothering.  

Why do we become unavailable for mothering?  

What is the difference between fixing ourselves and healthy mothering?  

How do we cultivate healthy internal mothering to crawl us into new experiences?