For some people, Christmas Day is the most wonderful time of the year. But for others, catching up with friends and family at this time of the year can lead to pain and sadness and as Dr Emily describes it, an overwhelming feeling of “not-enoughness”.

In this special bonus episode, Dr Emily explains where this feeling comes from and why it pops up year after year. But as always she gives us some helpful advice on what we can do to address it and feel a little less alone this Christmas.

So from us to you, on this Season Finale… Merry Not-Enoughmas.


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"There is not inadequacy in magic, in the bringing in of life" - Alara Sage

Inadequacy is something that all mothers experience.  But why do we experience it?  In this episode, Alara Sage takes you on a journey through her process on the morning of this recording to give you a deep understanding of this wound.

Key learning points:

• Innocence holds the energy of trust and authenticity.
• Childhood experiences can lead to the loss of innocence and a closed heart.
• Embracing innocence in sexual energy can lead to healing and a deeper connection with oneself.
• The mother wound is a deep wound that needs to be acknowledged and healed.
• The creative process requires non-attachment and the freedom to create and destroy.
• Honoring the creative process and witnessing creation is an honor.

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Join host, Pamela Stokes, as we experience our second live Move Into Coherence podcast. Enjoy a little science, a little movement, some EFT Tapping (with or without the tapping) and a lot of coherence. We will be doing a group healing in this week's episode to find freedom from feeling Not Enough. Thank you for joining in! I'm so glad we're here together.

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Mary (44) has a loving spouse, two happy children and successfully runs her own company. Despite everything going well, she always feels it’s not good enough. Or rather, she’s not good enough. She can’t believe the compliments people give her, always feels that her successes are ‘just luck’ and worst of all, deep down she feels like she doesn’t deserve to be here. Why is that? In this episode Berthold helps her exploring the views she holds about herself.

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Am I ready to have a baby Chat with Sarah Willoughby

In today's episode I talk with Sarah Willoughby about how we know it's time to have a baby. What is it that creates that decision and how do we know when we're ready to have a baby? We talk about our experiences, our stories and leave you with some great tips that we hope support you in knowing when you are ready for a baby and things to put into place.

We talk about

1.       how do you know when you're ready to have a baby.

2.       What is that decision to have a baby.

3.       How do you know when you're ready to have a baby.

We each give our top three tips on getting ready to have a baby.

1.       look at toxicity in your life, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Think to be fertile.

2.       Discuss voices and language in our head.

3.       New ways of being journey to self-love.

4.       Health on all levels

a.       understanding connection with body mind spirit

5.       Time to re-create a loving relationship with your body.

a.       if we attack ourselves the body gets confused.

6.       Self-care what is that?

a.       Not feeling enough

b.       Boundaries learning to say no.

c.       Learning to connect with our bodies and ourselves.

7.       Relationship with your partner.

a.       Learning to talk on a whole new level with your partner.

b.       Couples therapy

8.       We talk about products that we put on our body and making sure they are toxic free,

9.       we usually think after the baby I'll be happy.

a.       It's finding happiness now, and then any bonus is more magic.

I trust you find lots of beautiful tips in this episode.

Working with Sarah Willoughby;

1.       Links for Sarah Willoughby

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3.       https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-willoughby-2019/

4.       https://www.facebook.com/SarahWilloughbyAustralia

5.       https://www.facebook.com/sarah.willoughby.923

6.       https://www.instagram.com/sarahwilloughbyaustralia

7.       Links for Liz Walton

8.       Fertility coaching and emotional therapy in Australia - Liz Walton

9.       (10) Liz Walton Creation Coach | Canberra ACT | Facebook

10.   Elizabeth Fry Walton (@lizwalton_fertilitycoach) • Instagram photos and videos

11.   My Podcast

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Delve into the profound truth of salvation as we challenge the common misconception that a mere apology is enough. 

I know we all think there is something about us that is not enough or maybe we don't HAVE enough. This is just a story you are telling yourself. Today's episode will give you 5 things to do that will help you feel satisfied.

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Have you ever been treated like "second best"? Or maybe there is a time in your life that you have felt rejected? In this message, Chance Holt shares how to overcome feelings of rejection and walk in your identity in Christ

If so, you are in good company. We see in scripture where Jesus was rejected, on multiple occasions.

Genesis 29:31-35 / Leah just wants to be accepted.

What is Rejection?
The act of not accepting, believing, or considering something.
We have all had a time in our life when we felt not considered?
There are multiple ways to respond to rejection. We see them expressed by emotions, but all these emotions start by believing a lie that the enemy is telling you.
 
John 10:10 / the thief's purpose is to steal kill and destroy. 

Lie #1
Jesus doesn't understand, because he didn't experience rejection like me.
John 7:5 / for even his brothers didn't believe  in him. Jesus experienced a lot of rejection from family and friends. 

Lie #2
He didn't experience the pain that I do though, because he is Jesus
Hebrews 4:15/ This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testing we do, yet he did not sin.
 
How do we overcome and make it through rejection?

1) Pursue a relationship with Healthy Christians
Proverbs 18:24
*Here at VFC. It looks like Lifegroups, school of ministry, MT's, Youth Group/children, Young Adults, Sunday mornings and other groups
around town

2) Expect rejection
Matthew 13:57
*Jesus made sure that he looked different from the world.
Therefore he expected to be rejected. Do you look different?
(Don't be a people pleaser, speak the truth with love.)

3) Live a life of forgiveness and love
Luke 6:28&29, 31

4) Base your worth on God's plan and love for you. Ephesians 1:5&6
*The thing that got Jesus through this world, was knowing God's love and purpose for him.
*The only way for us to not allow lasting results from rejection is by knowing God's love for us.
(There is value in your purpose when your purpose is found in God)

Christians have the same problems as the world, we just have a better solution. 

Matthew 27:39-44 / while experiencing some of the worst rejection and pain known to man, hanging on the cross. Jesus performed another miracle.

This miracle was for us all. It was the miracle of REDEMPTION. 

Redeem- to gain or regain possession of (to buy back). The complete opposite of rejection.

Matthew 1:1-16 / Our God is so big and mighty that he used a bloodline of a completely rejected and unwanted woman named Leah to bring our savior into this world.

Are you believing the lies of the enemy? Or do you find your value through the rejection in God's purpose for you? 

Imam Wisam Sharieff and Dr. Gina DeBarthe discuss the self-acceptance of even our most imperfect parts. Further they discuss what we can do to accept ourselves. What lies are we telling ourselves? How are we getting in our own way? The book Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown is referenced, as well as the Mountain is You by Brianna West.

Do you ever feel like you're not enough or like you're too much?

I want to talk about this today because I recently got a question from a beautiful woman and I helped her find some answers but I thought, I'm going to speak to this because this was an issue in our relationship and even just in my life. This issue would play out in my relationship and I see it with couples all the time.

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Imposter syndrome is a thing we all have to deal with at various points in our lives and in bringing our soul's core desires and callings to life. It is definitely not just a done and dusted thing and can pop up multiple times. 

In this episode I teach you about ways it can show up, and how to best effectively play with it and dance with it so that it disappears of its own accord and leaves you feeling free and more empowered than before. 

So if you don't feel capable or skilled enough or good enough or the right person to do the thing you want to do, this episode is for you. 

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We recently changed the name of our podcast from 'Oh no please not another podcast' to 'Radiant Soul' - please bare with us if the old name sneaks in from time to time while we transition.

Come follow and support Radiant Soul Podcast over on Patreon where I'll share bonus episodes, behind the scenes in the Art Studio and Pottery Studio, teachings, meditations and so much more. 

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Shelby Morisseau lives and grew up in the small town Cochrane, Alberta with a big family! In this conversation we start with Shelby’s childhood and she explains everything that has happened has shaped who she is today! Being the only girl out of 4 kids there were some challenges but her family means everything to her! Shelby has been a competitive dancer since she was very young. Dance became her whole life and a huge part of her identity. She used dance as a way to express herself as she struggled with talking about her mental health. We talk about the demands and lessons she learnt from her dancing career. One of those lessons was listening to your body and after 20 years of dancing she had to stop because of an injury. After this she had to face a lot of her mental health issues as they became very consuming over her everyday life. She used multiple things as an outlet but one was sharing her truth on Instagram! Since then she started creating content because she is such a CREATIVE person! Now she is living the life she always wanted and enjoys all the ups and downs! 

Topics Discussed:

Topics Discussed: 

• Small town living and Family Influence 

• Gratitude for family and Relationships 

• Communication with others

• Dancing and Mindset as a dancer

• Team work and Becoming a team player

• Dance being a safe space and an outlet 

• Neck injury 

• Listening to what your body needs

• Feeling lost because she has always done dance

• Dance became her only identity 

• Wanting to be known for more than just dance 

• Highlights of dancing career

• Learning how to take constructive criticism 

• MENTAL HEALTH 

• Made a video and posted it on Instagram about her struggles (She felt like she had so much to share and did want to keep it in anymore)

• Feeling NOT GOOD ENOUGH

• Letting others get inside her head 

• Comparison 

• Being vulnerable on social media 

• Not glamorizing the lifestyle 

• Being real and raw on social media 

• Things to do to make your social media less toxic 

• Being an emotional and highly sensitive person 

• Limiting beliefs 

• Content creator 

• How she became a content creator 

• Breaking point - Therapy 

• Depression

• Shift in mindset 

• Manifesting and owning what she wanted 

• SELF SABOTAGE

• Acknowledging what is going on 

• Support system 

• Perks of being your own boss

• Steps to get started as a Content Creator 

• Healing and Putting yourself out there

• Managing emotions and checking in with yourself 

• Gratitude for all experiences

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Sending love and joy your way!

Selina Novello

Have you ever felt Less Than or Not Enough? Or rejected from a school, a job, or other people? The abstract standards of others are not under your control, and no singular attribute determines your worth.  Rather than alter and become someone you weren't meant to be, instead remember, discover, and celebrate your best self!

Join Catherine in this episode as she explores what happens when we give so much of ourselves to support others be that in personal relationships, working relationship or in a volunteering capacity. This episode endeavours to find a balance between doing and being, caring for others and caring for self. It tries to illuminate the truth that your needs are as important as the needs of others & that self care is a critical way to support ourselves in this busy, busy world. This episode was recorded in one take so there may be imperfections but that's reflective of real life - imperfect! and Catherine's goal in this podcast and this life is not the attainment of perfection but rather the acceptance of her flawed self.  Do yourself a massive favour today - don't rob yourself of the love you can offer yourself ❤️

Shari Collins has lived most of her life in Calgary! She was raised as an only child and mainly by her mother. Her parents got divorced when she was very young and a little while after her dad decided to abandon them. This affected Shari greatly and left her feeling confused and heartbroken. It took her a long time to get over this. In her twenties, she started to work and decided to let it go. Her mom had given her some advice and told her that she was carrying around deluxe baggage everywhere she went and she needed to decide to let that go. It wasn't hurting anyone but herself. Now looking back at it she sees it as a blessing and how much it has shaped who she is today.

We also got to talk about her career in oil and gas and how she deals with uncertainty every day. She took some courses but never took anything seriously till her mom put her foot down! Her advice to someone who is struggling with schooling is to enjoy where you are at in life and to know that you will find your path. You just can't stop looking! 

Shari shared some of the hardest times in her life but also some of the best! When I asked her what was the best time in her life she said it's now! Shari is in the best relationship she's been in for a very long time and has found the person she's meant to be with! It's so refreshing to hear something so positive! She had been in the dating world for a long time and had many failed relationships. Shari shared some of her war stories from online dating. Shari’s family has also grown and she has met her half-brother for the first time this year!

Connect with me on Instagram, Facebook, TIK TOk, and now YOUTUBE!!! You can now watch all the interviews on my youtube channel! If you have a story you would like to share with the world, reach out to me!

Sending love and joy your way!

Selina Novello

Sheila Hoogenboom has quite an extraordinary story. She grew up with a blue-collar family that was very simple. She was raised in BC and had an older brother. As a teen, her brother got into a lot of trouble and so her mom and dad really focussed on him. She did not receive as much guidance because of this. When she was young she really struggled with finding a path and direction. She was one who drifted through High School and planned to go back to school but never did.

She got pregnant at a very young age and decided after unpredictable circumstances to give her daughter up for adoption. She knew she could not provide for that daughter. Later in her life, she met a guy and they moved in together right away. They had a traditional marriage and had two kids, a son, and a daughter. But things turned negative really quickly. Sheila's husband  committed suicide which was life-altering for the whole family. Back then mental health was not talked about the way it is today. People treated her differently as they thought something was wrong with them. Some people left her but some really great friends stayed. In the beginning, she didn't really give herself time to feel as she was focused on the kids. Through all the judgment she received she continued to get support. Sheila struggled with many feelings but being a wife and a mother was the ultimate wait for someone to leave you. Her self-esteem took a hard hit for the next 20 years. She asked herself why she wasn't enough and struggled with why he left her. 

She was back in the same position of when she gave her first daughter up for adoption. How was she supposed to raise these children alone. She had amazing tools that she learned from a parenting program. Her grieving process didn't begin until later as her main focus was her kids. Her kids also struggled greatly from this and asked themselves some more questions like what was wrong with them and they had a great fear that she would leave them as well. She continued to have an open dialogue with her kids. She said that her close friends and her tribe were vile to her survival. She emphasized how important it is to have a tribe of women.

Her kids pushed her to start dating again and got into a relationship that wasn't great. She had a great job and was very involved in the community but she gave herself very little credit for all the amazing things she did. After a lot of work and a little manifestation she found her happily ever after and is living the life of her dreams. She met her daughter that she gave up when she was young and all the guilt went away. Shelia now knows her worth and celebrates who she is now!

Connect with me on Instagram, Facebook, TIK TOk, and now YOUTUBE!!! You can now watch all the interviews on my youtube channel! If you have a story you would like to share with the world, reach out to me!

Sending love and joy your way!

Selina Novello

It's the premiere episode of The Grown-Ass Woman's Guide! Let's dive in, shall we? In a recent poll, 100 Grown-Ass women were asked: “How often do you feel like you're not enough in one or more areas of your life?”

The answer may surprise you. But what’s even more important is WHY we feel like we’re not enough and what we can do about it. In this episode, you’ll hear from therapist Melody Murray who provides some key insight Plus,  learn five simple ways to feel more enough that’s worked for me and so many other grown-ass women.

1. Identify the area or areas in which you feel like you're not enough.  If there are multiple, write them all down, but then we're going to pick one at a time to go through the process. 
2. Define what enough looks like in that area. What does it even mean?  What does it look like to be enough as a mom, in your job or a friendship? It really helps to define what it is that you think is enough so you can actually compare where you are and where you think you should be. 
3. Imagine someone you love, it could be your best friend, a sister, neighbor, maybe even a daughter.  Would you hold her to the same impossible standards you expect of yourself?  Would you judge her so harshly?  Or would you cut her some slack? What makes you so unique that you are expected to achieve some bogus level and be this person that you would never expect someone else to be?  
4. Who is determining your enoughness or not enoughness? When we put our own value in the comments of other people, how can we  not feel  like we're not enough, especially when that person hasn't even gone through their own healing journey?  Spoiler alert: the person you should be listening to is you.
   5. Imagine for a moment that you are enough right now.  Just be quiet with yourself  and say, I am a human being doing the very best I can.  And that's enough. I  am enough.  How would your life look if you stopped and you reminded yourself every day just for five seconds, 10 seconds, 30 seconds, five minutes? 

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Brother Andrew talks about being unQualified, unprepared and not enough.

Today we talk about the feelings of not-enoughness around working outside the home. Or even inside the home! 

When making the decision to work outside the home, many women feel a tremendous burden trying to balance the priorities of work and family life. Oftentimes we feel that when we're great employees, we're terrible mothers and vice versa.