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ABOUT THE GUEST

Oscar Trimboli is an award-winning author, host of the Apple award-winning podcast called Deep Listening, and a sought-after keynote speaker. He is on a quest to create 100 million deep listeners in the workplace through his work with chairs, boards of directors, and executive teams. Oscar has experienced firsthand the transformational impact leaders can have when they listen beyond words.

SHOW SUMMARY

In this episode of the Disruptive Successor Show, Oscar Trimboli, author of "How to Listen: Discover the Hidden Key to Better Communication," joins Jonathan Goldhill to discuss the importance of deep listening in the workplace. Oscar shares his personal journey of discovering the power of listening and how it can transform relationships and improve communication. He explains the five levels of listening and provides practical tips for becoming a better listener. Oscar also emphasizes the significance of paying attention to what is not being said and the role of silence in effective communication.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Good listeners listen to what is said, but great listeners notice what is not said.
• The average person speaks at a rate of 125-150 words per minute, while the average person can listen at a rate of up to 400 words per minute.
• By pausing and allowing silence, you can create space for the other person to express their thoughts and feelings.
• Managing distractions, such as technology notifications, and practicing deep breathing can help improve listening skills.
• Drinking water and staying hydrated can enhance focus and attention during conversations.

QUOTES

• "Your job is to help them notice what they haven't said." - Oscar Trimboli
• "Silence is a sign of wisdom, respect, and authority." - Oscar Trimboli
• "Your body is a complete listening instrument." - Oscar Trimboli

Connect with Oscar and check out his work through the links below.

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oscartrimboli/
• Website: https://www.oscartrimboli.com/howtolisten

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💭 Have you been in a conversation that feels like it’s drifting nowhere?

Oscar Trimboli is an Apple Award-winning podcast host, professional speaker, and author of How to listen: Discover the Hidden Key to Better Communication. He has done extensive research on the topic of listening in the workplace. 

What makes this episode interesting is how Oscar challenged Mick in taking his deep listening skills to the next level by heightening his awareness of a third presence in every dialogue, which in this case is the listeners of the podcast. Applying this illustration in leadership, the third person can be your stakeholders or your competitors and what they would think about the situation you are talking about.

Oscar shares that listening is not about making sense of yourself, but helping the speaker say what they mean. Scientifically speaking, we only hear 14% of what the speaker thinks; hence, great leaders notice even what is not being said. He also talks about the four villains that limit someone’s ability to deeply listen: dramatic, interrupting, lost and shrewd.

🎧 Listen to this episode to know how to use your listening compass to make sure your teams feel seen, heard and valued before, during, and after a conversation. 

🌐 Connect with Oscar:

• Website: https://listeningquiz.com/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oscartrimboli/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oscartrimboli/

Book Mentioned:

• The Square and the Tower by Niall Ferguson

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The ability to communicate eloquently and effectively is a skill. However, relatively few of us are aware of this or actively work to hone this skill.
 
One of the crucial elements of communication is ‘listening.' Unless we are good listeners there is no way we can be effective communicators. However, the human mind is fickle and fleeting. Every 7 to 10 seconds, our minds wander, our listening skills degrade, and communication breaks down.

In this episode, Oscar Trimboli will tell us about the art of listening. So listen carefully!

Oscar Trimboli is an author, host of the Apple award-winning podcast Deep Listening and a sought-after keynote speaker. Along with the Deep Listening Ambassador Community, he is on a quest to create 100 million deep listeners in the workplace. Through his work with chairs, boards of directors, and executive teams, Oscar has experienced first-hand the transformational impact leaders can have when they listen beyond words. 
 
He believes that when leadership teams focus their attention and listening, they will build organizations that create powerful legacies for the people they serve – today and more importantly, for future generations. 
 
Oscar is a marketing and technology industry veteran working for Microsoft, PeopleSoft, Polycom, and Vodafone. He consults with organizations including American Express, AstraZeneca, Cisco, Google, HSBC, IAG, Montblanc, PwC, Salesforce, Sanofi, SAP, and Siemens. 
 
He is the author of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace, Deep Listening - Impact beyond words and Breakthroughs: How to Confront Assumptions 
 
Oscar loves his afternoon walks with his wife, Jennie, and their dog Kilimanjaro. On the weekends, you will find him playing Lego with one or all his four grandchildren. 

How well do you listen to people at work? No, stop and think - how well do you really listen, not just wait for your turn to talk or be distracted by the chatter in your head: "Wish he would hurry the hell up!" or "Here she goes pushing that agenda again, now I will be late for the gym."

Executive coach Oscar Trimboli and author calls it deep listening and he says it involves not just listening to the content but also the meaning, context and most importantly, the unsaid. And it can change your life and your career.

And if you are struggling a little in finding your mojo after being suddenly thrust into WFH, organisational psychologist, podcaster and founder of Inventium, Amantha Imber, shares her science-based tips on how to better structure your day to get stuff done.

Oscar's book: Deep Listening - Impact Beyond Words.

Deep listening quiz

Producer: Maria Tickle

(This program was first broadcast on Radio National on April 13, 2020.)

How well do you listen to people at work? No, stop and think - how well do you really listen, not just wait for your turn to talk or be distracted by the chatter in your head: "Wish he would hurry the hell up!" or "Here she goes pushing that agenda again, now I will be late for the gym."

Executive coach Oscar Trimboli and author calls it deep listening and he says it involves not just listening to the content but also the meaning, context and most importantly, the unsaid. And it can change your life and your career.

And if you are struggling a little in finding your mojo after being suddenly thrust into WFH, organisational psychologist, podcaster and founder of Inventium, Amantha Imber, shares her science-based tips on how to better structure your day to get stuff done.

Oscar's book: Deep Listening - Impact Beyond Words.

Deep listening quiz

Producer: Maria Tickle

What you will learn in this episode

How to become a deep listener 

Practical tips on how to not neglect your existing customers

Acquiring a new customer can cost five times more than retaining an existing customer.

How to listen to what your customers are not saying

Learning to listen to what’s unsaid

Why the magic phrase is ‘Tell me more’ and ‘I’m curious what else you’re thinking about on that topic.’ 

The 5 different levels of listening 

How to take notes in meetings (this is really cool!)

‘If your goal can be achieved in your lifetime, it's not worth going for.’

Resources mentioned in this episode

Deep Listening: Impact Beyond Words by Oscar Trimboli 

Oscar’s Deep Listening Podcast

oscartrimboli.com

Google Alerts

We speak at about 125 to 150 words a minute. You can listen right now at 400 words a minute, but as a speaker, I can think at up 900 words a minute.

Jason Calacanis – This Week in Startups Podcast 

Boris Conrad – World memory champion

The Lion's Share

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Book Recommendations

Deep Listening: Impact Beyond Words by Oscar Trimboli 

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Business you would build on Mars

I think this is a transformational time in commerce. It means that Martians and people from the Earth will be able to trade for the first time. I don't know if it's Bitcoin, but we would need to set up a currency or rate of exchange between the two planets. What we need to do is figure out how do we transact across the galaxy? I hope that will be valuable to both marketplaces, and I know that creating a double sided marketplace is probably the hardest thing you can ever do in software development.

But in terms of promoting it, I just think that we need to get the Elon Musk of Mars, and the Elon Musk of Earth do the first trade together, and just record that in some kind of medium that both planets can see and hopefully that will set off a process of trade that will make both planets closer together.

Get in touch with Oscar

Oscar on LinkedIn

oscartrimboli.com

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