parallel parenting

BTGO welcomes Michigan family lawyer and former investigator JayAttorney (Instagram @tipsdivorceattorney), who talks about financial fraud and shares her list of incredible ways to find your ex's HIDDEN ASSETS and protect yourself from financial abuse during your divorce.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website, BeenThereGotOut.com, and sign up for a free discovery call, or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

 
Recorded: November 15th, 2022 

BTGO welcomes NY psychologist, evaluator, and risk assessment expert Dr. Liz Stilwell (Instagram @drstilwell), who talks about the different types of evaluators used for custody, how a background in psychology may be helpful, and how and why professionals realistically handle claims of parental alienation.

The controversial topic of reunification therapy and reunification camps is part of this provocative interview as well.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, 

Recorded - October 27th, 2022

BTGO welcomes California family lawyer Erin Levine (Instagram: @hellodivorce), who talks about some red flags that indicate a high-conflict divorce and ways to lower the conflict during the process, including some answers to questions from our live audience.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded Date 10/18/2022

In this episode, BTGO welcomes back our good friend, Dawn Brauer (Instagram @securebabies), an expert on child development, who talks about what you can do when your toxic ex is trying to alienate your children and how feeling frazzled is a signal that something needs to be healed, and walks us through her “S.E.C.U.R.E.” acronym by explaining exactly how we can help our kids be as happy and healthy as possible throughout their lives.

Check out Dawn’s brand new Tummy Time support group for parents of infants! @littlebeanhousecafe_

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website, BeenThereGotOut.com, and sign up for a free discovery call, or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded on September 6th, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back New Jersey psychologist and custody evaluator Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksinger) who speaks about what parental alienation actually means - that it's not a syndrome, but a series of behaviors - ways a parent may be encouraging a child to reject another parent, and what you can do if you are being rejected by your child, among other things!

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce,  custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded October 12, 2022

BTGO welcomes New Jersey custody evaluator, Dr. Mark Singer (Instagram @drmarksinger), who discusses the importance of cultural knowledge and comfort when choosing an evaluator, how to best prepare for the process, and how courts are not meant to raise your children.

This is just Part I of the conversation, and Part II will involve how to deal with parental alienation behaviors if one parent is trying to turn the child against the other.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded September 8th, 2022.

In this episode, BTGO welcomes California attorney, Dr. Jude Egan (Instagram @jude_should_be_writing), who talks about why the job of children's advocates - like minors' counsels or attorneys for the children, is so tricky; how lowering legal fees benefits both lawyers and clients; some pros and cons of “unbundled services;” and how his own personal loss in court was a big win in expanding the legal ramifications of coercive control in California!

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded July 5th, 2022

One of the hardest parts of divorce for any parent is the idea of losing time with their children.  In this episode, we discuss how divorce coaches can help clients process some of the obstacles that get in the way of crafting parenting plans that focus on the needs of the children instead of the needs of the parents to maintain their identity.

Navigating timesharing and decision making can tough issues when it comes to designing a parenting plan. Neither parent wants to feel as if they're being delegated to take a back seat in their child's life When parents feel that the role they've played is being threatened, emotions run high and negotiations stall.

Our job as divorce coaches is to help our clients shift their mindset and understand that their status or position as "mom" or "dad" is not defined by the percentage of time the children spend with them. Their status as a parent is irrefutable and unchanging. Their ability to be the "math homework helper" or "boyfriend breakup counselor" or "soccer team cheerleader" is not altered by a calendar.

The child's perception of their parent's identity has not changed. Children do not see their moms or dads differently because they are not physically present. The only thing that will cause a child to view their parent otherwise is a parents' own actions. Gatekeeping behaviors like making disparaging comments or restricting access can confuse children about parental roles - timesharing does not.

The big question we can help clients answer is: "Am I making this about me or am I making it about my child?" This isn't easy work. Holding up a mirror to help clients see and move past their identity threats requires a lot of affirmation and validation. And it requires helping them shift from seeing it as a loss of identity to an opportunity to expand their identity.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

We know the best way to help children in divorce is to insure an ongoing, stable, loving relationship with both parents. But in reality, that's not always easy for our clients. Co-parenting can be a nightmare. Today, we discuss how, as divorce coaches, we can support our clients shift in mindset to be able to communicate effectively and shield their kids from the conflict.

Sometimes the hardest transition is parents moving from being stakeholders in each other's lives as a married couple to business partners whose only concern is their children.  Restructuring that relationship can take some time. We can help clients identify other times in their lives when they've had to forge an effective working relationship with someone they didn't like. How were they able to do and how can they use those skills and strategies to manage their new co-parenting relationship?

We can also hold a mirror up and ask our client to examine if any of their behaviors are contributing the the trouble. In other words, are they failing to check their own sh&t? One person absolutely has the ability to create a shift in the relationship dynamic and if your client is throwing fuel on the fire, then they need to have some accountability for that.

And don't forget to spread hope. Hope that everyone is in crisis right now, everything is uncertain. It's entirely possible that once the ink is dry on their agreement and things settle down, their co-parenting relationship may experience a shift as well. Sometimes a few months or a year makes a big difference.

The best news? Strategic communication is a skill that can be learned. Partner with your client to craft those effective BIFF responses. You'll be amazed at the transformation as they begin to write their own strategic responses and get to experience that peace and freedom. And help them understand the implications of failing to take a pause. When they react emotionally and fire off that nasty text or email, it could compromise their case.

Be sure to check out our Conflicted Co-Parent Divorce Coach Training Intensive if you're interested in adding this specialty to your divorce coaching practice.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome our friend, fellow coach, and author, Michelle (Instagram @the_pistolwhip_hippie), who talks about some of the unique problems people face when viewing family court and its authority figures as a place for validation, how what looks like punishment might be a positive opportunity, and especially how to help your children cope with a toxic parent by healing yourself first.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded 7/28/22

Growing up, what did you imagine starting a family would entail?

A peaceful partnership or marriage? Help around the house? Easygoing children?  Maybe even a white picket fence?

For many of us, the lives we’re living as mothers are not the ones we imagined, and it can be so hard to let go of that original story. Which brings us to the question: how do we rewrite our narratives so they feel true, and honest and good?

This episode features a conversation with my friend, Amanda Cunningham, who I met years ago at a yoga teacher training. She’s head of development for the nonprofit Her Future Coalition and the Yoga Medicine Seva Foundation and mother to her four-year-old son, Boone.

Amanda is also a single parent whose first years of motherhood involved being plunged in national politics. Today she speaks with exemplary grace and candor about what the experience was like – and is still like. 

For the single moms listening – this one’s for you – but I think women in partnerships can also learn from Amanda’s story, and discover how they too might rewrite their motherhood narratives.

Resources & Links

Amanda is a beautiful writer. You can find some of her writing on Instagram. She also wrote a beautiful essay about her marriage story, which I strongly recommend.

Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com. 

Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, which gets pretty intense, we welcome our friend Katie (Instagram @kwg19). 20 years after escaping with her children to a women's shelter, she reflects back on getting help where she least expected it, the horror of family court, and the long-term effects of her experience on herself and her children.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded October 12th, 2021

On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome retired judge and family lawyer Anthony Bompiani (TikTok @anthonybompiani) for more reality checks and wisdom on how to handle our children being forced to go with a toxic parent, being under the microscope of family court, self-validation, what to ask before hiring an attorney, vexatious litigation, his answer to family court reform, and other questions straight from our audience.

Be sure to check out his latest webinar, programs, and merch which you can find under the link in his bio on Tik Tok!

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded August 17th, 2021

On this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome superstar coach, author, and podcaster Matt Phifer (Instagram @mattphifercoaching), who talks about trauma bonding and its impact on making a separation or divorce much more difficult, why knowing your rights is IMPERATIVE, and why it's essential to cut all ties other than with the kids during the court process.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded August 4th, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our great friend, Dr. Barb Hughson (Instagram @drbarbh), a professional mediator and therapist with a strong background in child psychology, decades of experience, and unrivaled EMPATHY.

We talk about how to prepare for mediation, make it as successful as possible when dealing with a high conflict personality, ways to avoid future litigation, and a unique concept where a child's voice can be heard and included.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded June 6th, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome the host of the Slam the Gavel podcast, Maryann Petri.

After years of peacefully co-parenting, Maryann suddenly found herself fending off allegations of child abuse by her ex-husband and his new wife (who also worked at the courthouse). The experience caused severe physical, emotional, and financial damage. Forced to go pro se, Maryann appealed in superior court and achieved a victory that proved to be life-saving.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded May 14th, 2021

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome California Family Law Attorney Brian Pakpour (TikTok @brithefamilyguy), who talks about realistic expectations in divorce agreements with a high-conflict partner, the nitty-gritty details that should be included in parenting plans, and then, for the first time publicly, shares an emotional, personal story from his own life as a child of divorce.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded January 26th, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back Steve the Bodyguard (Instagram @protectionfromabuse @thebodyguard.official), who offers a wealth of information about the nature of STALKING, why restraining orders actually are more than just a piece of paper, and the importance of a weapon to protect yourself if you are in an abusive relationship (and what the best option is and why), plus much, much more!

You can call his FREE National Domestic Violence safety chat line for more information at 833-657-7683.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded June 6th, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we  welcome our new friend, Coach Chris Jackson (Instagram @the_kineticlife_coach), an adult child of a narcissistic father, who managed to stop the cycle of intergenerational trauma, put his energy into sports resulting in a career as a professional football player, and then become a successful entrepreneur helping others realize their dreams.

We talk about the effects on children growing up in a toxic family, why it's important to express anger, the ladder of liberation, and how to move forward in life once you're out of the muck.

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody
battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD
YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance
based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the
other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded July 21, 2022

In this episode of the Been There Got Out Podcast, we welcome back our friend, narcissistic abuse expert, coach, and best-selling author Tracy Malone (Instagram @tracyamalone), who talks about her new book, “Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Sh*t Up.”

We also discuss what Tracy calls the “three-bucket strategy” of telling people about your divorce, the importance of parenting plans, and how to deal with lies, smear campaigns, and false allegations, both in and out of court!

Remember, if you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody
battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD
YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance
based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the
other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded May 24th, 2022