parallel parenting

BTGO welcomes Carol Reed (Instagram @carolareed), a LegalShield (@legalshield) representative, who talks about the extraordinary benefits of prepaid legal services and how they can be helpful (and save LOTS of money) for those of us spending thousands, some of us even millions, battling difficult people in family court. They even cover your kids until age 26!

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: February 14th, 2023

BTGO welcomes back our friend, Canadian therapist, author, narcissistic abuse expert, and TikTok superstar, Marnie Grundman (Instagram @marniegrundman), who speaks about why certain kids growing up with a narcissistic parent refuse to talk, and how you can help them develop critical thinking skills, as well as a voice.

We also get into the concept of how to reconnect with kids, even if they are adults, who have been groomed to turn against a protective parent, and why it is so important to make sure your children are allowed to feel even the bad experiences.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: February 7th, 2023

This episode is the first in a series on co-parenting vs. parallel parenting. Scott and Vanessa briefly define the two styles of parenting. They also discuss the benefits of co-parenting for the children, and they offer a few ideas for developing a better co-parenting relationship.

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These days everyone is talking about high conflict divorce, but is it always the other party? Today we thought we’d talk about those times when your client is contributing to the conflict and discuss some strategies for helping them identify when they’re getting in their own way.

Have you heard the saying “it takes two to tango”?  That may be true in dance, but in divorce, one person can change the routine. That’s where divorce coaches have the opportunity to help clients recognize when they might be falling into old patterns of conflict that are ineffective.

When we think of times when out client may be the one creating conflict or throwing fuel on the fire, we're reminded of Taylor Swift's song Anti-Hero. The lyrics say:

Me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me
At tea time, everybody agrees
I'll stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror

It can be difficult for clients to look in the mirror and accept the reality that poor emotional management, ineffective communication, lack of boundaries, unrealistic expectations, and short-term thinking are dialing up the conflict.

As professional divorce coaches, you have a variety of tools you can use to help clients see more clearly. While they may not be able to control their spouse's or co-parent's behavior, they can choose not the throw fuel on the fire. We discuss the stop, drop and roll strategy; BIFF, EAR, and GREATT communication strategies, reality testing, impact assessment, and exploring locus of control.

Martin Luther King, Jr has a famous quote that we adapted slightly here that perfectly reflects this idea that one person can change the dance of conflict:

“[Humans] are called upon not to be like a thermometer conforming to the temperature of [conflict], but [they] must be like a thermostat serving to transform the temperature of [conflict]”.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

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Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

BTGO welcomes NJ family law attorney, Katrina Xyloportas (Instagram @katrinaxylo), who discusses how the deficits in the court system right now affect us all, why settlement is a much better option if possible, and the two hats that a divorce attorney should wear as they handle your case.

Our book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances” is now available!! Learn more and order here:

https://BeenThereGotOut.com/book

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded:  January 17th, 2023

BTGO welcomes NY family lawyer Kara Bellew (Instagram @bellewkara), a unicorn of a divorce attorney who is highly trained and very experienced in domestic violence. She talks about how to take ownership of your case, the ways trauma may interfere with moving forward in your divorce or separation, and why it's so important not to approach settlement out of sheer desperation, especially when dealing with a high-conflict ex.

Our book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances” is now available!! Learn more and order here:

https://BeenThereGotOut.com/book

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 12th, 2023

BTGO welcomes back Ally Toyos, child survivor of a reunification camp and founder of the Instagram community @cjeyouthspeak, for part 2 of our interview. After sharing her incredible and nightmarish story in Part 1, Ally talks about the tricky nature of the label "parental alienation," including how it is often weaponized against protective parents in family court, and how reunification might be better handled for actual victims.

Our book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances” is now available!! Learn more and order here:

https://BeenThereGotOut.com/book

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: February 2nd, 2023

BTGO welcomes Ally Toyos, child survivor of a reunification camp and founder of the Instagram community @cjeyouthspeak, for part 1 of our interview. Ally shares her beyond-nightmarish story of ten years of her and her sister's life being abused by a toxic parent and a system profiting off the misery of families already suffering deeply. Ally's is unfortunately a terrible example of what happens when the legal system truly messes up at every level.

We continue the discussion, moving on to the weaponization of the term “parental alienation,” in part 2 of the interview in our next episode.

Our book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances” is now available!! Learn more and order here:

https://BeenThereGotOut.com/book

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded:  January 10th, 2023

Then, shush it, and wait for him to answer. That's it.

When you meet with him later that day or the next day, because you're honoring each other by coming together in this way, when you meet together, here's an example of what you could ask for.

"When you pray for me, I feel ___________. Will you please pray for me today?"
That's it!
Your turn, Stepmama! What will you ask for? Email me & the team at friends@stepfamilypodcast.com
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Want to save families and prevent divorce & re-divorce? Will you partner with me on my mission to mentor and coach 12,000 women in 2023?  Many are struggling as they blend new families, and the odds are not stacked in their favor.  However, GOD IS FOR STEPMOMS & STEPFAMILIES!  Let's save families and prevent re-divorce, together!

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Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

BTGO welcomes Washington state hypnotherapist Annie Alexander (Instagram: @northwesthypnosis) who speaks about how hypnosis can help eliminate triggers, combat gaslighting, and create a buffer to neutralize trauma, even if you are still experiencing it. She also gets into a number of the side benefits people experience from getting those "cats" out of their head.

Our book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances” is now available!! Learn more and order here:

https://BeenThereGotOut.com/book

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 6th, 2023

So, you know, when you hit the ground running? The day takes off.  And your plans, if you're a planner like me, the planner, it is not directing your attention to where you need to go, and all of a sudden, later on you realize you're blowing up, you're losing your cool there's no fruit of the Spirit.

The self-control has gone south! 😦😡😧

⚔ It's time to ARMOR UP! ⚔
Exodus 14, 16 | Psalm 34:10

✅Beverage☕️🍵🥤
✅Bibles📒
✅Journals 📓
✅Hide in the closet if necessary to focus on what God has for you 😶
✅Podcast turned up!🎙🎧

Journal prompts:
  ⚔ 📒📓What has God given to you this past week?
  ⚔ 📒📓What are you looking forward to this coming week?
  ⚔ 📒📓 How can you honor the Lord as a woman of influence in your stepfamily?

Want to save families and prevent divorce & re-divorce? Will you partner with me on my mission to mentor, train and coach 12,000 women in 2023?  Many are struggling as they blend new families, and the odds are not stacked in their favor.  However, GOD IS FOR STEPMOMS & STEPFAMILIES!  Let's save families and prevent re-divorce, together!

How you can be part of the movement to save families:
1. Share the podcast!
2. Leave a 5-star review!
3. Join the FB group & get connected!

Here are the best ways for you and me to connect and grow together!

Take Your Power Back & Reclaim Your Joy, FAST! www.stepfamilypodcast.com/WorkWithJen
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Next steps:
Step 1: Join the Empowered Community bit.ly/joyfulwithjen
Step 2: BUILD BETTER BOUNDARIES! Powerful Free Handbook + Bonuses!
Step 3: De-Stress Planning - Celebrations Guide! bit.ly/CelebrateWithJen
Step 4: Top 10 tips to Regain Your Power & Prevent Burnout Free Download!
Step 5: Peaceful Co-Parenting Strategies that Work-Mini Workshop $97

Be strong, and let your heart be courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24

BTGO welcomes NJ CPA Paul Mendelsohn (Instagram: @paulmendelsohn_cpa) who discusses red flags to watch for with an accountant during the divorce process, how you can handle the IRS if your ex files false information on tax returns, and a number of resources you can use to help you get through this!

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 31st, 2023

BTGO welcomes Canadian Alex Shaw (Instagram: @alexandria_m_c), who shares her incredible story of being trafficked and living with a gang (which saved her life!) to working with law enforcement and other services so that what happened to her won't happen to others. She also gets into what family members and friends can do to actually help loved ones in dangerous relationships.

Thanks so much to @bosslady.to for making this happen!

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 26th, 2023

BTGO welcomes author, musician, educator, and presence advocate, Gloria Williams (Instagram: @iamgloriawilliams), who discusses how to help kids build confidence through songwriting, the significance of building safe spaces and community, and tips on how to help your child conquer fear.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 24th,2023

BTGO welcomes Minnesota family lawyer Cathy Jones (Instagram: @cat.jones.90), who talks about the important stuff you need to know to properly prepare for divorce, including some things to think about if you move out of the house, exactly why to be very careful with posting anything on social media (again!), and what to know about removing items from your home, both before and after a divorce is finalized.

Check out Cathy's “Second Saturday” Divorce Support Group to find out more info, as well as wife.org.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: January 19th, 2023

BTGO welcomes back our friend and NY family lawyer and domestic violence attorney (as well as TikTok superstar), Stephanie (Instagram @steph_ny_law), who discusses what it really takes for a court to enforce orders, how to prepare before trying to get a restraining order, and why getting specific language in your custody order is so important.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: December 8t, 2022

BTGO welcomes educator and child relationship expert Clarissa Constantine from Parent T(w)een Connection (Instagram @parentweenconnection), who speaks in depth about the foundations of connection to use to ensure that you are your child's safe space, what to do during emotional explosions, and why it's so important to give yourself the space to be human.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: December 6th, 2022

BTGO welcomes forensic accountant and investigator Tracy Coenen (Instagram @divorcemoneyguide), who discusses how to tell if there's financial fraud in your marriage, why it's so important to do a cost/benefit analysis before hiring a forensic expert, and how to save yourself money during the discovery process.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: December 1st, 2022

BTGO welcomes back Canadian author, survivor, trauma expert, therapist, and TikTok superstar Marnie Grundman (Instagram @marniegrundman), who talks about the awful and unfortunately common situation of your toxic ex aligning with your abusive parents during a court battle, how our childhood trauma reappears through triggers during legal abuse, and how we can learn to trust ourselves in the midst of it all.

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: November 8th, 2022

BTGO welcomes back therapist, author, narcissistic abuse expert, and our good friend Chelsey Brooke Cole (Instagram @chelseybrookecole), who talks about the way the narcissist's voice gets into your head, how you slowly lose yourself, and most importantly, how to get yourself back after ending the relationship!

Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.

Recorded: December 12th, 2022