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Join us in celebrating Fight the New Drug’s 13th anniversary as an organization. In this episode, FTND’s Executive Director, Natale, sits down with host Garrett Jonsson to take a trip down memory lane. During this conversation, they reflect on 13 years of FTND’s education, awareness-raising, and impact as well as talk about the growing collection of resources this organization has produced. Listen in as they recognize significant milestones from the past 13 years and look ahead at what’s to come.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

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As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

In this episode of Consider Before Consuming, we talk with Dr. Stephany Powell, the Director of Law Enforcement Training and Survivor Services at the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. For 30 years, Dr. Powell worked with the Los Angeles Police Department, spending several years in their vice unit. Since her retirement, she has spent almost a decade working with victims and survivors of sexual exploitation. During this conversation, Dr. Powell talks with host Garrett Jonsson about sex trafficking, survivor empowerment, and what it will take to have a paradigm shift in the way we view, help, and treat survivors of sex trafficking.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

There are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can include:  I'm not getting enough sex from my spouse; I have no other way to cope with hard things; Every guy does this to some level; I've tried to quit a thousand times and it's impossible–I've resigned myself to it; You all expect too much of me–you don't want me to have a normal life; I need to be free to just be me . . . and the list goes on and on.

The question is—"Do you truly want to break out of the entitlement an d excuses that are enabling your addiction behaviors and keeping you stuck?  In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about their own experiences with "entitlement" and the first steps to breaking free.

Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.com

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Want to learn more about how to move out of "toxic sex" in a marriage relationship and into "True Intimacy"?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriage

Trigger warning: This episode discusses explicit sexual behaviors, drug use, disordered eating, and suicide ideation that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Today’s episode is with Brittni De La Mora, a former porn performer who was known as one of the world’s most famous porn stars. More than ten years after leaving her “fame and fortune” behind, Brittni is a wife, mother, author, speaker, and the founder of a nonprofit. During this conversation, we talked with her about what influenced her to enter the porn industry, how she transitioned out, and how she’s transformed the pain of her past into purpose.

You can connect with Brittni, @BrittniDeLaMora, on all social media platforms.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes frank, explicit, discussions of abuse, drug use, suicide ideation, sex trafficking, and pornographic content that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Join us as we listen back to the amazing, engaging guests we’ve had on the podcast in 2021. From award-winning journalists, to former porn performers, and even sex therapists, we’re sharing our favorite short clips from the episodes we’ve released in 2021. Take a listen to enjoy a quick recap of the conversations we’ve hosted, or to take note of what episodes you want to go back and experience in their entirety.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes explicit descriptions of pornography titles and videos that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Today’s episode is with Paris Berelc, an American actress and model. Paris was born and raised in Wisconsin but moved to Los Angeles at an early age. Today, she is an accomplished actress who is dedicated to using her platform to educate and fight against sexual exploitation. During this conversation, host Garrett Jonsson talks with Paris about why she’s dedicated to this fight, some common misconceptions about sex trafficking, and why she thinks it’s important for young people to have the opportunity to make an educated decision regarding pornography.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses child sexual abuse and suicide ideation. Listener discretion is advised.

Today’s conversation is with Jennifer Nielson, creator and Founder of The Dig, a program developed to help people become emotionally resilient and reclaim their lives from trauma. Throughout this conversation, Jennifer discusses how her childhood sexual abuse led her into a journey of healing from her trauma and eventually creating a business to help others do the same.

You can learn more about Jennifer and her work at The Dig at thedigmodel.com.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

In today’s episode, guest Drew Boa shares how pornography has impacted his life and what he’s doing now to help other men quit porn through Husband Material, the recovery organization he founded. Listen as Drew talks with podcast host Garrett Jonsson about how childhood sexual trauma, early exposure to adult material, and other experiences throughout his life fueled a compulsive porn habit that he was eventually able to overcome. Drew discusses how turning to porn can be a coping mechanism for consumers, how to cultivate self-compassion during recovery, and the benefits of a life free from porn and its influence.

To learn more about Drew, visit HusbandMaterial.com, or look for his book “Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation,” on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes explicit discussions of sex acts, child sexual abuse, sex trafficking, eating disorders, suicide ideation, and drug use that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Today’s episode is with former porn performer Deanna Lynn. Deanna experienced childhood neglect and sexual abuse that led her to normalize porn at a young age, and eventually led to her entering the porn industry. During this conversation, Deanna shares her perspective on her time in the porn industry, how she transitioned out, and what her life looks like today.

You can find Deanna Lynn’s books “Purchased: Leaving the Sex Trade” and “Integrated: Living Beyond the Sex Trade” on Amazon.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes descriptions of suicide ideation that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

This week’s episode is with Ashlynn Mitchell, who heard about Fight the New Drug years ago and has been a Fighter ever since. She and her former partner experienced how pornography can disrupt couple intimacy and relationship harmony. During this conversation, podcast host Garrett Jonsson talks with Ashlynn about her experience with betrayal trauma, what it means to “be the buffalo” by facing challenges head on, and the importance of self-care amidst hardships.

You can find Ashlynn on her website www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal and listen to her podcast "This is Ashlynn" on Apple Podcasts.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

In this episode of Consider Before Consuming, we talk with Kristi Wells, the CEO and Co-Founder of Safe House Project, an organization with the mission to end domestic child sex trafficking through education, survivor empowerment, and safe housing. They hope to increase victim identification, provide emergency services to survivors, and empower survivors to a path to freedom, all in an effort to end child sex trafficking in America. Listen to Kristi talk with podcast host, Garrett Jonsson, and dispel myths about sex trafficking and share what Safe House Project is doing to help end child exploitation.

You can learn more about Safe House Project at SafeHouseProject.org and can access their free online trafficking prevention training, OnWatch, at iamonwatch.org.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

In this episode, Mark and Steve address a common question submitted by a PBSE listener—

I have listened to many episodes of your podcast. They have all been very helpful. My question is: Do you consider every man who views porn an “addict” or “sex addict?” My husband confessed to viewing pornography (no other acting out) for the last two and a half years. He can describe the events that led him to cross that line in our marriage. He has told me on two different occasions that he was tempted and was able to identify the feelings that triggered him for both times. I’m in a support group with other women and most of their husbands were addicted to porn as a teenager and brought it into the marriage and have been viewing porn for 10, 20, 30 years. I know that my husband could slip or relapse. I’m just wondering if you ever encounter clients who get sucked into porn through a stressful time but sought help early enough, say a year or two. Would they be considered addicts as well? I am assuming since porn is addicting that could be the case? Thank you both for your dedication to the podcast and the topic of pornography.

Here are just a few of the things Mark and Steve discuss—

• What IS the Definition of Porn/Sex Addiction?
• Addiction is a spectrum - not an on-or-off switch
• What are the consequences/outcomes of addiction?

How to determine if he is an addict and the depth of his addiction—

• What level of insight/vulnerability does he display?
• What is he doing (ongoing) to cope with difficult feelings and emotions?
• What is his level of reactivity?
• What does his capacity to empathize look like?
• Is he present/engaged in sex?
• How open/safe do you feel with him? 
• Are you comfortable asking him hard questions?

Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.com

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Here's an article that can help you learn more about HOW the brain works in sex/porn addition and HOW to set healthy boundaries in recovery—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/brain-science-porn-sex-addiction

Saving Innocence was founded in 2010 with a mission to help serve, empower, and advocate for child victims of sex trafficking. In this episode, podcast host Garrett Jonsson sits down with Executive Director Alan Smyth to discuss the work Saving Innocence has done to help over 2,000 victims of child sex trafficking. Also, learn more about how anyone can tangibly help to decrease the demand for sex trafficking and exploitation.

You can learn more about Saving Innocence at savinginnocence.org. 
To attend Saving Innocence’s virtual gala on September 9, 2021, visit SavingInnocenceGala.org.

To find the book co-authored by Alan Smyth, “Men! Fight For Me,” visit fightforme.net.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

To support this podcast, click here.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

When it comes to daily life and being subjected to a "sexualized culture," what are the "healthy boundaries" in sex/porn addiction recovery?

What can/should an addict-in-recovery STOP doing in "regular" life? What is too strict or too lax?

When does an addict cross the line into rationalization, minimization and denial?

How do we "collaborate" on this as a couple?

When and how can we start to integrate ourselves back into regular, normal life—or can we ever do that!

In this episode, Mark and Steve answer these tough questions and more.

 Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.com

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Here's an article that can help you learn more about HOW the brain works in sex/porn addition and HOW to set healthy boundaries in recovery—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/brain-science-porn-sex-addiction

This episode is with Christian, the founder of a branding agency called 1924us. As a recovering porn addict, Christian uses his platform to speak on the issue of pornography through eye-catching designs and sharing his own experiences. Listen to Christian talk with podcast host Garrett Jonsson about the role being sexually abused as a child played in his struggle with pornography, how he eventually overcame it, and why he believes it’s important to use his company’s platform to speak up on this issue.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To support this podcast, click here.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.



This episode is with well-known TikTok personality and psychotherapist Matthias J. Barker. As a licensed therapist, Matthias focuses on helping people overcome childhood trauma and marital issues and helping people move towards what’s meaningful in the midst of hardship. In this episode, listen to Matthias talk to podcast host, Garrett Jonsson, about the issue of shame when dealing with your own compulsion to view pornography, how betrayal trauma can impact partners of porn consumers, and how to overcome a struggle with pornography with compassion for yourself and your partner.You can find Matthias on TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube at @matthiasjbarker or at matthiasjbarker.com.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To support this podcast, click here.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes frank, explicit, discussions of sexual exploitation, sex trafficking, and pornographic content that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Phillip Martin is an award-winning journalist and a senior investigative reporter for The GBH News Center for Investigative Reporting. He and fellow journalist Jenifer McKim recently created an investigative series, titled, “Unseen: The Boy Victims Of The Sex Trade,” that highlights the underreported issue of exploitation and trafficking of boys in the underground sex trade. Listen to podcast host Garrett Jonsson talk to Phillip about what led him to write about this topic and why it’s important to discuss this often-overlooked issue, and hear about some real examples of boys who experienced exploitation.

To read about the “Unseen: The Boy Victims Of The Sex Trade” series, visit ftnd.org/gbh.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To support this podcast, click here.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

Trigger Warning: This discussion includes frank, explicit, discussions of abuse and pornographic content that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.

Alia grew up in Ventura, California, with a young mother. From a very young age, Alia experienced sexual abuse at the hands of her mother’s boyfriend. Her warped understanding of love and affection pushed her to seek out validation from older men on social media. By the time she was 14, she had entered into a relationship with a man twice her age who then trafficked her. When she was 18, the exploitation Alia experienced evolved into performing in strip clubs where she was eventually invited by a customer to join the porn industry. Ultimately, Alia’s experience in the porn industry was dramatically different from the glamorous and empowered life that was initially promised to her. Even as a popular mainstream performer, she experienced more trafficking, abuse, and exploitation, eventually breaking free and connecting with other sex industry survivors. See how Alia’s childhood abuse paved the way for her career in the commercial sex industry, and why she finally left on her own terms.

Click here to learn more about the guest, and access the resources discussed in this episode.

To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.

Click here to support this podcast.

As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Fight the New Drug collaborates with a variety of qualified organizations and individuals with varying personal beliefs, affiliations, and political persuasions. As FTND is a non-religious and non-legislative organization, the personal beliefs, affiliations, and persuasions of any of our team members or of those we collaborate with do not reflect or impact the mission of Fight the New Drug.

When we rely on "sheer motivation" to break out of porn addiction, this will easily plunge us into a pit where we become stuck in "emotional wallowing."' Then to escape the wallowing, we move back into addiction outlets—and the "wallowing cycle" spins around and around.

In this episode, Mark and Steve guide listeners in HOW to move out of emotional wallowing and into Vision and Meaning.

Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.com

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Here's a great article on the "Brain Science" behind porn and sex addiction—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/brain-science-porn-sex-addiction

Here's an article about healing Betrayal Trauma—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/healing-betrayal-trauma-video

Want to learn more about HOW to break free from porn?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/overcome-porn-sex-addiction

Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-porn

A podcast listener asked about her husband's risky, bizarre, self-centered sexual behaviors; his Erectile Dysfunction; and how these are related to his porn/sex addiction.

In this episode Mark and Steve talk raw and real about these issues. They relate this to their own experiences with addiction and the many clients they've worked with over the decades. They discuss:

-  How porn/sex addiction radically alters the "Arousal Template" resulting in a dramatic impact on healthy sexuality.

-  Unaltered by extreme outside influences, a healthy Arousal Template represents our "sexual authenticity."

-  Is our Arousal Template formed by nature or nurture?

-  How can changes in the Arousal Template lead to Erectile Dysfunction?

-  Can one's Arousal Template be changed in positive ways? If so, HOW?


Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.com

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services