Explore " queer podcasts" with insightful episodes like "Where Does Feeling Miserable Come From?", "Church, what the hell did you expect me to do?", "Money Can’t Buy You Love, But It Can Help You Love Life EP. 79", "10 Things to STOP Doing. It Could Change Everything!" and "The Power Of Being Grateful EP. 78" from podcasts like ""FreedHearts", "FreedHearts", "It's A Mess, Sis!", "FreedHearts" and "It's A Mess, Sis!"" and more!
Beloved, are you tired of feeling miserable?
Where does misery even come from? What leads to it? The answer may surprise you!
Let’s talk about that, so we can do something about it.
Because, Beloved, you deserve to be happy, content, joyful and loved.
We deconstruct dangerous religious beliefs and false teachings that steal your life, and steal your joy.
In this episode, we look at how different the reality of the actions and core beliefs of the non-affirming, behavior-focused, rules-based part of the Christian church is from what we heard from them – from what they told us Jesus wanted us to do.
We listened, we heard, we did what they said and look what happened??
They turned on us.
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Since Time is Money, and talk is cheap... Let's get straight to the point...
This conversation we talk about money, the perceptions of it, where those perceptions came from and what money is really about for us personally.
Give us a listen, and let us know your thoughts using our contacts below!
OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!
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We are not big fans of New Year’s Resolutions as they are often things you promise to do and then when it does not work out that way, there is a lot of guilt and shame. And we certainly don’t deserve that.
In this episode, we want to do something a little different. Something very special.
We want to share with you 10 things that you can STOP doing!
And these may be things that could change everything… your heart, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about others.
They might even change the world.
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And grateful to be back! This episode our conversation centers around what what it means to be grateful, what we are grateful for and how gratitude has been a powerful tool in our lives. And by now you should know that we organize every episode by DIC'ing it down which stands for Define, Impact, and Cope...and if you don't know, now you know!
Give us a listen, give us your input (using the social media and contact infor below)
and if you vibe...we tribe!
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We have been told by Christians that our opinion on LGBTQ+ people is invalid—that our opinion is invalid because we have two children who are part of that community, and of course, we would just change our opinion to justify them.
No!
Let me tell you something. Since our two kids came out, we have pondered, prayed, pressed for answers. We have sought, studied, searched for God. We listened and asked and listened some more. And through it all we heard that still small voice, expressing truth and love and transcendent peace.
Don’t you dare tell me that our opinion is invalid and doesn’t matter.
We are the ones whose opinion DOES matter, because we have something very important at stake—two very important somethings.
Toxic Christianity has resulted in so much harm, so much pain. It is based in a behavior-focus, rules-based, nonaffirming religion that puts God in a box and justifies rejection, condemnation, and the suffering it imposes.
This teaching is given in such a controlling, cult-like way, with manipulation, threats, gaslighting, that it can be difficult to get out of. That is why we do this work. To help you deconstruct those false beliefs, so you can build a beautiful spiritual journey.
When you start to deconstruct your faith, when you open the box that religion has put God in, when you begin to set your heart free, people will say all kinds of things.
Why? To get you back in line. To deal with their own fear. To maintain control.
Today, we want to share things people will accuse you of when you start deconstructing, so you are best prepared to respond and stay on this beautiful journey you are on.
We have talked about one of the biggest lies you will ever hear in church: That you are broken, unworthy. And we talked about self-love being one of our biggest sources of resilience.
But, much of religious teaching tries to tell you that self-love is a false teaching. Wrong!
Self-love is so powerful, so critical to everything in life, and the lack of self-love is so dangerous and deadly.
In this important episode, we go deeper so we can understand this more, and love ourselves more with joy and freedom.
Beloved, we deserve it! Remember, "you can’t stop me lovin’ myself!"
Hey Y'all
Back w/ another conversation. This time the topic comes from one of listeners wanting to hear us DIC down and explore the our thoughts on the perceptions and expectations of black men in relationships and under societal gender norms. For example ( via the abyss that is the twitter verse): Does a black man sleeping on his stomach make him less of a protector? Does having a nose ring/ septum piercing mean he's gay? These are the stereotypes and expectation we dive into in the episode.
I promise...this episode isn't the dissertation it sounds like. Listen in on the convo, give the topic a thought for yourselves, and let us know your view!
The agenda for this episode:
As always, is to DIC’ it down, which stands for:
Define, Impact, and Cope
This conversation we define what "gender norms" and "masculinity" are to us, discuss the our perceptions and interactions w/ masculinity, and decide how he would like to cope going forward.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and if you vibe...we tribe!
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We’ve talked about the teaching of contempt as one of the deadliest teachings in all humanity.
Another deadly teaching, and one of the biggest lies you will ever in church, is that you are broken. That you are not worthy, that you need fixed, that you need saved.
This false, deadly narrative has led to so much harm!
Part of that is the attempt to make self-love a bad thing, even go so far as to claim that the focus on self-love is a cult!
But, in the words of BTS, you can’t stop me lovin’ myself!
Time to break the shackles off my feet so I can HEAL or whatever MARY MARY said... This really should have been the title but we were playing...
Randomness aside
This episode is about breaking generational curses, cycles, etc so that we can break free of trauma and usher in the lives we desire.
The agenda for this episode:
As always, is to DIC’ it down, which stands for:
Define, Impact, and Cope
This conversation we define what the term generational curse is on google and to us, possibly identify a “curse” we are dealing w/ personally. Then discuss the impact of these “curses” on our lives and how we intend to cope.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!
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Today, we share a letter we received from a beautiful soul – a transgender woman who found hope in the midst of deep pain.
We have called this space, our time together the FreedHearts Deconstruction Zone.
Our goals are to help you deconstruct false, damaging beliefs that are often deeply ingrained.
We want to bring clarity in the midst of confusion, to bring freedom instead of fear, and bring hope to your heart.
That is what we do. That is what this episode is all about.
Recent and possible upcoming Supreme Court rulings, battles in conservative states over books and transgender human rights – and remembering back to a clerk in Kentucky, a baker in Colorado, a florist in Washington... All of these, in one way or another – sometimes direct, sometimes indirect – are all discriminating against LGBTQ+ people, women, children, people of color, and many others, all in the name of 'religious liberty.'
It is indefensible to just add God to it, and expect to get away with all this hate and harm.
Well, we are doing this episode because we want to join the growing voices who will not remain silent, who are not going let them get away with it anymore.
Hey Everybody!
So, we've all felt guilt about something, right?
But,
What do you do with it? Do you just let it consume you? What's the right amount of time to feel guilty before you move on? Do you avoid it? What does it REALLY mean? Is it valid ? Can it be helpful? How do you release it?
These are questions we tackle in this week's conversation centers on "Guilt".
The agenda for this episode:
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope.
This conversation we define “Guilt” and what that means for us, discuss the impact of it inand on our lives, and how we cope or deal with “guilt” from here on out.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
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Hey Hey Y'all
Back with another episode and this one is all about Monogamy...which was often confused with "Monotony" throughout the conversation...Could it have been a Fruedian Slip...possibly...how about you give the conversation a listen and find out!
The agenda for this episode: THE DIC
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope".
This episode explores the definition of Monogamy, the impact in our lives, and how we cope with our understanding of the topic going forward.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!
We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:
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How are you doing? Are you a bit discouraged? Disillusioned?
For those of you with a faith background, those of you deconstructing… How are you doing with your faith overall, spiritually, with church even as a concept?
Have you had it with church? Don’t really know what do to with what you’re feeling?
Yeah, I hear you.
This is the perfect episode for you. Let’s talk.
Support the showToday we’re doing something very special.
We’re going to revisit the most popular episode we have ever done!
It was first broadcast in October 2020. But now, two years later, it’s even more important than ever.
It’s about one of the deadliest teachings in all of humanity. In all of human history.
And, unfortunately, it’s a teaching that seems to have become normal today.
Support the showIs "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired?
"Quiet Quitting" is the new term taking over Tik Tok, Twitter, Linked in, CNN, all the media sites for everyone's likes. Some deem it the perfect merger between life and work and others chalk it up to a vow of inadquacy that will do more harm than good.
So what do we think? That is what this episode is all about. Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired.
The agenda for this episode: THE DIC
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope.
This conversation we define “quiet quitting”, discuss the impact in our lives, explore our thoughts on this emerging theme, and how we intent to incorporate this theme into our lives.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!
We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:
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Well, well, wel...come BACK!
Have you ever felt ...distracted? Fidgety? Unfocused? Uninterested? Described as flighty or immature? and recently felt like your life and personality traits have been read for filth by a tik tok or instagram influencers with no credentials outside of a blue check serving as their only source of validity..? and yet it has made you question...
Do I have it?
ADHD that is....
Same
and that is what this episode is about...so join us as we explore ourselves and do some research on ADHD, develop our understanding of the term and explore the impact it has had on our lives and functioning, and what we plan to do about it.
This Episode's Agenda:
Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope.
This episode we define what ADHD is, identify the role it plays in our lives aka the impact, and end things with how we cope with it in the future.
NOTE* This episode is not intended to be used to diagnose anyone but if you feel that based on the information provided (obtained from the CDC, NIMH, and mayo clinic websites) that you may have ADHD and would like to address it...please reach out to a mental health provider by either contacting your insurance compay for an in-network referral, reaching out to your primary care physician. or using a site such as Psychology Today or Therapy For Black Girls to find a practitioner.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!
We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:
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Ah..."Commitment"
What comes up for you when you hear that word? Does it provide comfort and a steady knowing? Does it make you slightly cringe with a coat of apprehension? A mix of both?
Why?
If you find yourself pondering the above, give this episode a listen so you can see what comes up for you and find your "Why"?
This Episode's Agenda:
Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope.
This episode we attempt to break down what commitment is, why we should even do it, the role it has played in our lives in the past/ present, and how we cope with it in the future.
We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!
We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:
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