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Narcissism is growing in our society. We simply have more narcissists than we did 50 years ago and as a result it is very likely that you have come in contact with or are in a relationship with one.

It’s even more important to note that we all - yes, every one of us have traits of narcissism, which is really just an Ego State. That can make understanding it even more confusing.

because everyone is diagnosing those with whom they may be in conflict with- and especially their Exes, it’s important to get an idea of what is NOT narcissism.

In this episode, I give a run down of what a narcissist is and give 9 examples of common misconceptions of behaviors that do not necessarily indicate narcissism.

I also explain why trying to figure out it if you are in a relationship with a narcissist is the biggest waste of time and what you should do instead.

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In this season of Thanksgiving, this episode is a gentle reminder to come back to a place of gratitude in your relationship.

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Have you every heard someone who may have two children, say that she has three children- referring to her spouse as the other child? This may sound like a joke, but it often is an insidious clue that the relationship has become parentified. ⁣
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What does a parent/child relationship with a spouse look like? ⁣
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Dr. Zoe discusses how the overall ways that you interact with each other in your relationship may cause one of you to take on more of a parent role or a child role. ⁣
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What are the consequences of having a parent/child relationship?⁣
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How can you exit this dynamic and have a more equally balanced relationship?  ⁣

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 I’m guessing you’ve heard this term before. In case you haven't, it's a term usually associated with the workplace. Quiet quitting describes what happens when dissatisfied workers start doing the bare minimum of their job requirements, sometimes while looking for another job or just because they have given up. They aren’t ready to leave their position, they are not trying to climb the corporate ladder at a job they hate, but they aren’t going to quit either. ⁣
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In the context of a relationship, quiet quitting refers to those who don’t necessarily want to break up, and they certainly don’t want to be the one to do the breaking up, but they are dissatisfied in the relationship and have settled into going through the motions without any real motivation to make the relationship better or to ensure it’s continuation. ⁣
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I share nine signs that you are quiet quitting and how you can respond if you notice your partner is quiet quitting the relationship. ⁣

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Toxic people talk you out of listening to your intuition. They talk you out of seeing the red flags and make you feel like you are overreacting when you notice odd behavior. They talk you out of believing yourself and teach you to believe their lies instead. How do they do it? Why do we believe them? And, why do so many good people end up in bad situations?⁣
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⁣Today I’m talking to Sarah K Ramsey who is the best-selling author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof: Clear the Confusion and Learn to Trust Yourself. She is the host of the Toxic Person Proof podcast which reaches thousands of listeners around the world. She has a new podcast Problem Solved, Decision Made which breaks down the concepts presented in her newest book Problem Solved: Simple Solutions for Complex Problems available September 2022.⁣
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⁣Her work has been featured in Todayshow.com, The Solution Journal, Authority Magazine, UpJourney, Emotional Intelligence Magazine, Transformation Talk Radio, Medium, The Elephant Journal, and Your Best Self TV.⁣
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Watch this episode in video format: HERE⁣

Navigating the Narcissist Masterclass: HERE

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Website: www.SarahRamsey.com⁣
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Becoming Toxic Person Proof: HERE
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⁣Problem Solved:⁣ Simple Habits for Complex Decisions⁣: HERE

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In today’s episode, I answer a question from a listener about how to find herself again when she’s feeling lonely in her relationship and she’s lost a part of herself.⁣⁣⁣
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I help her point the finger back at herself and make intentional personal change, with the knowledge that anytime you make a change in yourself, the system responds in kind.⁣⁣⁣
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Also mentioned, the book The Girl I Used To Know: HERE⁣
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The Intimacy Deck: HERE⁣
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No one wants a relationship full of strife. You want to get along with your partner. You want to be happy. Often as a result of trying to avoid anger and arguments, you will apologize for something that you shouldn’t.

In this episode, I share:

1. When you should apologize and how to avoid false and manipulative apologies.

2. The 4R’s of a healthy apology.

3. 7 things you should never apologize for and why.

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You may spend significant time investing in knowing the people you are in relationship with.

You may know your people well, but how much time do you spend getting to know yourself?

Often, the assumption is that if you spend enough time with someone, you will know them.

The truth is that you can spend a lifetime living in the same home with someone and never know them at all. The same goes for you. You can spend a lifetime in your skin and never get to know yourself.

Listen in as I share some insightful questions that you should be able to easily answer about yourself if you know yourself well.

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How do you maintain a healthy relationship with your adult child who has rejected the faith in which you raised them?

Pamela Henkleman, mom of five adult children, writer, podcaster and coach for midlife mammas shares a wealth of knowledge and experience for navigating your relationship with your adult children when they’ve walked away from the faith- and taking care of yourself in the process.

Whether you are a mom of adult children, or you need to tuck this away for the future, this episode is a must hear.

Watch this episode in video format: HERE

Book mentioned: 

Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Learn more about Pamela: 

www.pamelahenkelman.com

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Think about the last time you cried in front of someone. Did you apologize for your tears?

Why?

In this short episode, I discuss the reasons why women often apologize for their feelings, how your apology affects you and what you can do to get yourself out of this pattern.

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Have you cheated? Have you violated your partner's trust through an in-person affair, secret online relationship, or pornography? Have you repeatedly found the words "I'm sorry" aren't enough to stop the suspicions and accusations? These words, alone, won't lead to relationship repair after an affair, nor do they communicate compassion for the victims of the affair. In this episode, Deborah Miller, a Licensed Professional Counselor who exclusively focuses on the adulterer, encourages a deep self-examination of one's:

- Defense and coping mechanisms, moral code and much more.

We explore questions such as:

• Should you disclose if the affair is over and your partner doesn’t know?

• What do you do when your partner is asking the same questions repeatedly?

• Should you give all the details?

• How do you fix yourself?

Find the courage to act and face the shame and guilt of your betrayal. Own your mistakes and the consequences of your secret-keeping. Stop sabotaging yourself and start repairing your most meaningful relationship the right way. More Than Sorry.

Deborah Miller’s Book, More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity, outlines the five steps crucial to deepening one's apology after committing infidelity by highlighting the journey of diverse couples struggling to repair their relationships. Within these steps and accompanying stories, you'll find seventeen key prompts to encourage journaling for self-improvement, provide self-discovery tools, and lead to a more empathetic and authentic apology. As a result, you will experience personal and relational growth and enhance your intimacy with others by sharing your secrets and repair journey.

More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GKYJCJ3/

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This episode is for all the women who are in relationships that you knew better than to get into or are getting out of a relationship that probably wasn’t working well from the beginning. It’s for the women who are dating and finding themselves choosing the wrong men, for the wrong reasons, staying in relationships longer than they should or finding themselves stuck in the same place, every relationship, six months in.

In this episode, I help you come to terms with the red flags you saw and give you a roadmap about what to do moving forward.

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Philosopher and psychologist William James said “We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we are happy because we laugh.” He knew this more than a century ago- laughter makes us feel good. And today, we’re still exploring the many health benefits and embracing concepts such as laughter yoga and laughter therapy.

In this episode, I provide some examples of how not to use laughter as a deflection of your feelings, what you should do with your feelings first before you go to laughter and how you can utilize laughter in your life to increase your mental health.

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Sherry GABA (licensed psychotherapist and relationship coach author and founder of Wake-up Recovery formerly feature on VH1’s Celebrity rehab) joins me today to discuss the difference between a toxic and co-dependent relationship, signs that you are in a toxic relationship and steps that you can take to heal yourself and move towards health.

Episode resources:

Book:
Love Smacked, How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Smacked-Relationship-Codependency-Everlasting/dp/1628657405

Free eBook:
Narcissistic Partners and Obsessive Love eBook & Quiz: https://sherrygaba.com/npquiz

Membership Coaching Program:
Wake-Up Recovery is an online group coaching program that applies the principals of positive psychology, law of attraction, and mindfulness for codependents, love addicts, and toxic relationships. Includes $1 one month trial: https://wakeuprecovery.com/ig1

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In this episode, I speak with Adele Spraggon, author, speaker and creator of SHIFT: 4 steps to personal empowerment. We speak about how our brains are wired to keep us in patterns that are not serving us. She outlines her re-patterning technique that can help us create lasting change and finally accomplish our goals.

Towards the end of our discussion, she doles out some great advice about how to change your patterns when dealing with gaslighting behavior in your relationship.

She offers a free copy of her book (you pay shipping and handling).

Find her at www.AdeleSpraggon.com

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Sometimes, despite trying all the things, you may have a relationship in your life that has unresolved conflict. Although there is plenty of headway you can make in a relationship when you focus on yourself and change yourself, there are some people with whom you can not find common ground.

Today, I’m excited to bring a guest, Shivonne Davis to talk about managing unresolved conflict and maybe even finding opportunity in it.

Shivonne Davis is a marital strategist for millennial couples. She is the host of the Married Millenials Podcast. She is a soldier for marriage and helps millennial marriages work to restore, redeem and heal their marriages to lead a life of love, joy and abundance under God’s Covenant.

We discuss the difference between regular conflict and unresolved conflict. We discuss strategies for changing our lens and coming to a place of acceptance and we discuss seeing opportunity in conflict, despite disappointment.

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https://shivonnedavis.com

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It’s a new year. It seems we should be celebrating newness, but many are telling me that they felt there was nothing to celebrate on New Year’s Eve. So much is uncertain and people are feeling a general funk.

When we feel sad, it’s a little nudge- sometimes a big proclamation that we need to get deeper into ourselves - maybe pull up a chair, hold our own hand and listen.

So how can a strong woman create space for your sadness when everyone wants you strong? Listen in....

Order my book here: A Year of Self-Care: Daily Practices and Inspiration for Caring for Yourself

Book mentioned: The Radiant Midnight: Depression, Grace, and the Gifts of a Dark Place by Melissa Maimone

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When you were growing up, how often did you hear women in your life talk about how much they loved their body? Dr. Zoe and Anne Poirier, an Intuitive eating and body confidence coach, discuss how women can work towards developing a truce with their taught discontent with their bodies.

Topics discussed:

- Anne’s journey with eating disorders and how she came to a place of body acceptance
- What is intuitive eating and how can you eat intuitively when your barometer is off?
- How to take steps toward self-acceptance when you don’t even like yourself.

About Anne:

Anne is a founder of Shaping Perspective,  A Woman’s Way to Joy. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating & Body Confidence Coach and Speaker

Community link: The Body Joyful Revolution

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Suzy Carroll, a leadership and business mentor, openly shares her journey of self-discovery and self-awareness and how — as a Coach and Course Facilitator — she helps other women realize the same. Plus, she shares how to cure your addiction to busyness and what it really means to have a life of balance.

We also discuss how to gain clarity when you are feeling self-doubt. We talk about not enough syndrome- the difference between healthy busy and unhealthy busy and she gives strategies for how she herself has gained clarity and how she helps other women to do the same.

On this episode you’ll learn:

How to speak to and understand your self-doubt
Strategies to gain clarity when you’re feeling self-doubt
The difference between healthy busy and unhealthy busy
How to incorporate transition time into your day.
The very real dangers of not slowing down.
The first step to breaking the cycle of overwhelm.

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www.suzycarroll.com/

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Do you feel like your work and life are all the same thing? Like one bleeds into the other?

Do you wonder if you're struggling with burnout and what in the world you can do about it?

Listen in as I discuss with Nikole Stanfield, Intuitive life coach, about how women can reclaim their lives when they're struggling through the elusive battle of work/life balance.

Resources from this episode: 

https://www.myintuitioncoach.com/burnout-quiz/

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