Pt 3: Top 5 Relationship Savers. I’m hoping that you are starting to think about these ideas I’m sharing with you. It takes a strong person to see themselves for who they are…Relationships Saver: Motivation Counts…not just behavior. Behavior is an outside-in approach that doesn’t work long-term, and it tends to lead to poor relationships.
· Last time – children’s behaviors.
· In marriage counseling, sometimes I start by inviting the couple to act as a team: needs. It assumes love is there. It can build trust quickly if consistent. But if the motivation isn’t there, it doesn’t work as well. This is a behavioral approach that if the motivation to work on the relationship is there, it doesn’t work either. What happens, “one will say ‘they don’t mean it’” It puts me in a bind…want real answers and quick fix, but real answers include individual issues and often not just relationship strategies. CHANGING motivation takes a personal commitment to SELF for self. Not just to appease a spouse. So I’m saying that, like anything in life, you have to own it. You cannot expect something outside of you to motivate you to do it. That is your job. In the last episode, we talked about this. Do your part, express your needs, and step into creating the relationship you desire from your end. No blame. Do it out of the love for the TEAM and follow through. GREAT IDEA: LLT as a couple!
· Where are your behaviors and motivations misaligned? Heart and head?
· Where are you being led by fear, guilt, or shame? If it is all the time, today is the day to start LLT…be the gift to everyone else around you.
· Where to start today? HOPE. Yes, life can be different. 21 yrs of marriage.
LLT is the path from outside to inside. Journey to the center of self.
How does addressing your motivations and not just behaviors help you LEAD Lucky? As a leader of a team or business, your motivations are seen in your behaviors (not perfectly)…Your motivation can stir HOPE or shut HOPE down. Make your environment a place you desire to work
Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do?
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