Our Father’s Love (Part 9) Can We Be Angry With God?
Our Father’s Love (Part 9) Can We Be Angry With God?
Psalm 103:13-14 “The same way a loving father feels toward his children—that’s but a sample of your tender feelings toward us, your beloved children, who live in awe of you. You know all about us, inside and out. You are mindful that we’re made from dust.”
This verse probably means different things to different people. I can feel the love and tender feelings that our heavenly Father has for us because I know how loving fathers can be. I had an amazing example of a father. I always knew my dad loved me, and I knew of his tender feelings towards us. I wonder if this verse means as much to those who did not have a great father. What if you didn’t know your father loved you? What if he didn’t show you any tender feelings? Are you still able to feel the love coming from this verse?
If you did not feel loved by your Father while you were growing up, I want you to know you were loved by your heavenly Father. He created you and loved you before you were even born. Before your parents even thought about having you, God knew everything about you. The verse above says, “You know all about us, inside and out.” This is something we forget sometimes. We try to hide things from the Lord as if He doesn’t already know. This is especially true when we are angry with the Lord. We don’t think it is okay to be angry with God, so we hide it from him. We actually try to hide it from ourselves as well. We pretend we are not mad, or we tell ourselves we are not angry. When we do this, our anger festers under the surface, and I believe it blocks some of the graces God wants to give us.
When we are holding this anger in and just ignoring it, then we aren’t dealing with it, we aren’t processing it, and we certainly aren’t bringing it to God. These are the exact things we need to do to get rid of the anger or really any feeling that we are having. I understand why we don’t think we can be angry with God. I mean, He is God. He knows what He is doing, and He can prevent things from happening. Nothing happens that he didn’t allow to happen either with His perfect Will or His Permissive Will. We know God uses all things for our good, so how can we be mad at God when He will use whatever we are going through for our good? I understand where these feelings come from, and yet I don’t believe they are complete. Yes, God allows all things to happen, and yes He will use all things for good. That doesn’t mean you won’t have to go through some really hard times. That doesn’t mean that we won’t get ourselves into some pretty serious trouble.
Just because God can use it for good doesn’t mean He wills it for us. It doesn’t mean it was His plan for our life. None of us listen to God perfectly. None of us follow His plan perfectly. Sometimes we will do things to mess things up, and God will allow the consequences of that for some reasons we can understand, like to help us learn and grow, and for some reasons, we will never know about this side of heaven. However, sometimes our painful situations are not a result of something we have done. Sometimes bad stuff just happens, and we have no idea why. No matter how we look at it, we can’t seem to make sense of it.
The reason for this difficult time you are going through or have been through doesn't matter; it is still okay to be angry with God. If there is anyone who can handle our anger, it is the Lord. If you want to have a real relationship with Him, you have to be honest with Him. Think about the people in your life that you have the best relationships with. Why are you so close to them? What makes it a good relationship? The people I am closest to are the people with whom I can be completely honest. I don’t have to watch what I say, and I don't have to pretend to be ok when I am not. They are also the people who know me the best, and I know them the best as well.
Do you have people in your life like that? Do you have someone in your life who can just take one look at you and know that you are not okay? They know you so well that when you say I am fine, they can tell just by the tone in your voice that you are not really fine. Do you have someone in your life who you can tell you you are angry with something they did, and yet you guys are still friends, and you still love each other? I know I do, and it is such a blessing in my life. If we can have friends and loved ones who are capable of loving us even when we are angry with them for something they have done, why do we think we can’t have the same thing with our Heavenly Father? If your friends can tell when you are upset, don’t you think God can tell too? The verse says that He knows all about us, inside and out. That means He knows your feelings too. He has intimate knowledge of every part of you, even more so than your friends or family members do.
Here is the reason I believe it is okay to be angry with God. There were plenty of people in the Bible who cried out to the Lord. I also believe that anger is an emotion, and we can’t help our initial emotions. However, we can decide what we do with those emotions. Are we being angry with God, turning away from Him, and never looking back? Are we angry and crying out to Him and asking Him to help us? Are we asking Him to give us strength? Are we asking Him to give us some understanding? If we get angry and turn away from God, I don’t believe that is ok. However, if we are angry with God and then we try to figure out what to do with that anger, and we take that to God and ask for His help, I think that is ok.
We get to decide if we allow the anger to push us away from God or pull us closer to Him. We can have control over our emotions by having control over our thoughts. Our emotions are caused by the story we are telling ourselves. For instance, if I am angry at God for something, I need to examine what I believe about that thing. For instance, if I am angry with God for taking my child, I would need to examine what I am telling myself. Why am I blaming God? What is the story I am telling myself about what happened, why it happened, and who caused it? If I do not know the answers to these questions, I should bring them to the Lord. The why it happened may be an answer that we don’t ever get this side of heaven. That doesn’t mean we can’t ask the Lord. He wants us to come to Him, He wants us to ask questions. He wants all that we go through to bring us closer to Him, not further away. Our heavenly Father loves us and has tender feelings towards us. He can handle your anger and yet does not want you to stay there. He wants you to take it to Him and then lay it at His feet and let Him pick it up and carry it for you.
Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to bless all those who listen to this episode today. Lord, we love you, and we don’t want to be angry with you. We also don’t understand why you allow bad things to happen to good people. We don’t understand why kids get cancer, why there is human trafficking, why there is domestic abuse, and why people lose their kids or their spouses. There is so much we don’t understand, Lord, please help us. Help us to turn to you when we are confused and when we are angry. Help us to ask you for understanding. Help us to control the story we tell ourselves. Help us not to stay in that anger. We love you so much, Lord. We know you love us, and you know us better than anyone else, and we are so very grateful. We are so grateful for all the unknown things you have protected us from. You are so powerful! We ask all this in accordance with your will and in Jesus’s holy name. Amen!
Thank you so much for joining me on this journey to walk boldly with Jesus. I look forward to meeting you here again on Monday. Remember, Jesus loves you, and so do I! Have a blessed weekend!
In Part 7, I mentioned that I felt the Lord was calling me to end each episode with a Word that He has given to our prayer group. The point of this is so we can all get used to hearing how the Lord talks to us, and so we will recognize when it is Him and when it is the enemy. Here is the word: I ask you to look at your brothers and sisters in the world and recognize that I love them. I want you to be a tangible instrument of my love to them. Do not judge or be impatient. Love them with the same love that I have for you. Be vulnerable as I am vulnerable.