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    Explore " self help tips" with insightful episodes like "Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 1.", "Let's Talk About the Need to be Right + 17 Tips to Practice.", "Let's Talk About Setting Boundaries vs Controlling Other People.", "Let's Talk About External Validation." and "Let's Talk About People-Pleasing + Conformity." from podcasts like ""We Heal Together", "We Heal Together", "We Heal Together", "We Heal Together" and "We Heal Together"" and more!

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    Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 1.

    Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 1.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
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    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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    Overview of an Apology

    1. Definition of Apologize (Merriam-Webster)
    2. Two key elements of an apology (Mind Tools)
    3. You cannot force an apology (Psychcentral)
    4. Harriet Lerner quote from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
    5. Motives for apology
    6. Four parts to an apology according to O’Hara

    Types of shitty apologies

    1. Tactical apologies
    2. If apologies
    3. NYT Examples
    4. I’m sorry if
    5. Jets Example
    6. I’m sorry but
    7. I’m sorry you
    8. Déjà vu
    9. You know I am..
    10. I guess I..
    11. Not my apology
    12. Actions but no words
    13. Let’s make a deal
    14. Bringing up the other person’s crime sheet (Harriet Lerner) from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
    15. Martyr/Victim Playing - from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
    16. Demanding forgiveness
    17. Love you though (or miss you)
    18. Time passing
    19. Generic “for everything”
    20. Sarcasm: sorry!
    21. Passive Voice

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    We Heal Together
    enDecember 14, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About the Need to be Right + 17 Tips to Practice.

    Let's Talk About the Need to be Right + 17 Tips to Practice.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enDecember 07, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About Setting Boundaries vs Controlling Other People.

    Let's Talk About Setting Boundaries vs Controlling Other People.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enNovember 23, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About External Validation.

    Let's Talk About External Validation.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enNovember 16, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About People-Pleasing + Conformity.

    Let's Talk About People-Pleasing + Conformity.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enNovember 09, 2020
    psychology
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown

    Let's Talk About Changing Our Negative Thoughts.

    Let's Talk About Changing Our Negative Thoughts.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS

    1. Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive (including folders on challenging thoughts, thought records, an overview of cognitive distortions, etc.)

     

    We Heal Together
    enNovember 02, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 2.

    Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 2.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    Workbook + Community + Free Resources

    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Want access to free resources? Click here

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    CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

    1. http://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
    2. https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdf
    3. Gilbertson, T., LPC. (2016, April 08). 3 Essential Ways to Protect Your Personal Boundaries. Retrieved October 24, 2020, from http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/201604/3-essential-ways-protect-your-personal-boundaries 

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    WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIES

    1. Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive
    2. Take the assessment Cordelia mentioned in the episode here
    We Heal Together
    enOctober 26, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 1.

    Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 1.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.  
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    Workbook + Community + Free Resources

    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Want access to free resources? Click here

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    1. http://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
    2. https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdf
    3. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
    4. The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, PhD, Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, & Jeffrey Brantley, MD 

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    WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIES

    1. Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive
    We Heal Together
    enOctober 19, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    27 Tips to Work on Healing from Codependency.

    27 Tips to Work on Healing from Codependency.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.  
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    Workbook + Community + Free Resources

    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Want access to free resources? Click here---------
      We Heal Together Zoom Book Club or We Heal Together Community Hangs
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    CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

    1. Dodes, L., M.D. (2013, August 28). Don't Stay Sober "One Day at a Time". Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-heart-addiction/201308/dont-stay-sober-one-day-time
    2. Ferguson, P. L., Ph.D. (1999). What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like? Retrieved October 3, 2020, from http://www.peggyferguson.com/userfiles/10846/file/NewPDFSw_CartButtons/recovery%20solutions%20for%20addicted%20families/What%20Does%20Recovery%20From%20Codependency%20Look%20Like.pdf
    3. Smith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addiction
    4. Powerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdf
    5. https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf

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    We Heal Together
    enOctober 12, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Let's Take a Look at Codependency.

    Let's Take a Look at Codependency.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enOctober 05, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    (Self Care Wednesday) 5 steps on How To Handle Negative Feedback.

    (Self Care Wednesday) 5 steps on How To Handle Negative Feedback.

    #CLPSelfCareWednesdays #CLPEpisode58 First, the biggest question to answer is why are we so afraid of #negativecriticism or feedback in the first place? If we know it will ultimately benefit us, why is our gut reaction to freak out, push back and react, or ignore it? Why is it that hearing “Can I give you a bit of feedback?” sends shivers up our spine? We’re hardwired to see #criticism as a threat to our very survival. You put your all into your career and take pride in your work, so when you are #criticized, it can really sting your pride. As you work to evaluate the feedback you’ve been given and implement it moving forward, so I talk about ✔️5 steps on to handle feedback. How you can be sure of what to avoid if you want to dig yourself out and emerge with strength and poise. DISCLAIMER I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO ANY MUSIC THAT IS PLAYED ON THIS EPISODE.
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    Creative Lips Podcast
    en-usOctober 01, 2020
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    self talk
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    Part 2: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Part 2: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    General

    1. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

    Sex Education

    1. https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/sex-education/how-sex-education-funded
    2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gender-and-schooling/201812/funding-abstinence-the-war-sex-ed
    3. https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/138/2/e20161348.full.pdf
    4. https://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/high-school-sex-ed-may-prevent-sexual-assault-college
    5. https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/j.2379-3988.2010.tb00065.x
    6. https://www.guttmacher.org/news-release/2006/premarital-sex-nearly-universal-among-americans-and-has-been-decades

     

    Sex Talk

    1. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
    2. https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/
    3. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
    4. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
    5. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/41/81/4181fd5b-b359-480d-8f91-6f9fffda6cb3/nationalpoll_09-14_v2_1_1.pdf
    6. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/05/21/what-happens-to-our-girls-when-we-dont-talk-about-sex/

    Policing Clothing

    1. https://www.coasthighschool.com/apps/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=687686&type=d&pREC_ID=1127290
    2. Letter by mom to Notre Dame re Leggings: https://ndsmcobserver.com/2019/03/the-legging-problem/
    3. https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/news/a21667/united-airlines-girl-leggings-shaming/
    4. https://time.com/36997/when-enforcing-school-dress-codes-turns-into-slut-shaming/
    5. https://jezebel.com/lets-reinvent-the-dont-be-a-slut-school-dress-code-509077807
    6. https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/virtue_signaling
    7. https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/

    Orgasm Gap

    1. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/orgasm-gap-why-it-exists-what-women-can-do-about-ncna983311

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    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 21, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    self acceptance

    Could I have a Complex PTSD?

    Could I have a Complex PTSD?

    Welcome to Heart's Happiness Podcast created by Manpreet Johal.

    In this  episode of Heart's Happiness Podcast you will learn:

    1. What Complex PTSD is
    2. How we get Complex PTSD and how it is more common then we think
    3. How Complex PTSD represents itself in our adult lives
    4. Real life examples from Manpreet's life
    5. How we heal Complex PTSD to live healthier and happier lives

    If this episode triggers you and you need immediate support please check out our website with details of resources. 

    The book I recommend in the episode is Complex PTSD: Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker.

    I have other book recommendation to kick off your healing in my FREE guide to transform your journey. 

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    Heart's Happiness
    enSeptember 15, 2020
    psychology
    mental health
    therapy
    mental health tips
    healing

    Part 1: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Part 1: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    Sexual Shame

    1. https://familysolutionsok.com/breaking-bad-parenting-legacy-sexual-shame/
    2. https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/02/linking-sexual-shame-and-addiction/

    Virginity

    1. The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti
    2. The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy
    3. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
    4. https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/

    Slut shame

    1. https://feminisminindia.com/2017/04/07/slut-shaming-friend-zone-objectification/
    2. https://www.verywellfamily.com/the-effects-of-slut-shaming-on-teen-girls-460586
    3. https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/

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    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 14, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    sex
    personal development
    brene brown

    Let's Talk About Healing Our Shame.

    Let's Talk About Healing Our Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 07, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Toxic Things I Did & Thought to Keep a Relationship from Ending.

    Toxic Things I Did & Thought to Keep a Relationship from Ending.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS
    1. Article referenced when I talked about Codependency https://www.mindpathcare.com/blog/codependent-behavior-what-it-is-how-to-spot-it-and-what-to-do-about-it/

    We Heal Together
    enAugust 31, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    How to Break Free of Toxic Relationship Patterns.

    How to Break Free of Toxic Relationship Patterns.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    HOW TO BREAK OUT OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

    1. Heal all the parts of you (including the part of you that stayed or wanted to stay).
    2. Find a licensed counselor/therapist: Check out Open Path if you are in the US & money is an issue [https://openpathcollective.org/].
    3. Explore childhood wounds.
    4. Make a list of warning signs/red flags for future relationships.
    5. Be gentle with yourself.
    6. Read books to help you understand your issues better [i.e., I realized I struggle with codependency issues, so the following books helped me: “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie” & “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody”]
    7. Buy a workbook for self-esteem [i.e., I bought “the Self Esteem Workbook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi”]
    8. Accept help from your support system and friends.
    9. Focus on living in the present.
    10. Practice positive self-talk.
    11. Write out a list of dealbreakers that you will stick to in the future.
    12. Assess what your boundaries are [see below for examples].
    13. Go no contact with your ex.
    14. Fully acknowledge you have a pattern of being in toxic relationships.
    15. Explore what relationships were modeled to you as a child.
    16. Think about a friend or family member’s relationship that you respect.  Take notes [i.e., try to find a new “model” for a healthy relationship].
    17. Give yourself time to heal.  Do not date until you are healed.
    18. Form new friendships + build a social network.
    19. Reconnect with any family + friends that you drifted from during your toxic relationship
    20. Develop hobbies + interests.
    21. Learn how to trust your gut/intuition in relationships.
    22. Consider seeing a psychiatrist for underlying issues (i.e., depression).
    23. Go outside more + go for walks.
    24. Don’t be afraid to tell your story.
    25. Cut out people from your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
    26. Get some sunlight + go outside.
    27. Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.
    28. Take care of basic hygiene (brush your teeth, take a shower, etc.).
    29. Get rid of any reminders of your ex.
    30. Accept reality + abandon the fantasy.

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    CORDELIA’S BOUNDARIES:

    1. I will not sleep with someone who calls me names.
    2. I will not reach out to someone who abandoned me.
    3. I will not take back someone who cheated.
    4. I will not have conversations with anyone if I feel desperate.
    We Heal Together
    enAugust 24, 2020
    mental health
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown

    Let's Talk About What Abuse Looks Like in Relationships.

    Let's Talk About What Abuse Looks Like in Relationships.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS
    1. TYPES OF ABUSE - https://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/

    2. WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE? - https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/

    3. SIGNS OF MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ABUSE - https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse

    4. DEFINITION OF SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/5547/silent-treatment-abuse/

    5. SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/silent-treatment-covert-abuse.262/

     

    RESOURCES TO GET HELP

    1. Follow @codependentrecovery on Instagram for more tips.

    2. https://www.thehotline.org/: Available 24/7 for chat & calls [1-800-787-3224) for women, men, and LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence. They also offer safety planning.

    3. https://coda.org/ - runs online support groups for people struggling with Codependency.
    4. www.domesticshelters.org – helps you locate shelters and resources.They also have some online support groups.

    5. https://openpathcollective.org/ - a great resource for finding an affordable counselor

    6. https://www.womenslaw.org/ - can look up laws by state

    7. https://translifeline.org/ - Crisis hotline surviving transgender people (1-877-565-8860)

    8. https://www.rainn.org/ - Available 24/7 for chats & calls [1-800-656-4673] for sexual assault survivors.

    9. https://1in6.org/ - Available 24/7 chat for men who are survivors of sexual assault.  Also offer weekly support group online meetings

    10. https://hotpeachpages.net/ - For non-US residents, this site directs you to services for domestic abuse internationally.

    11. https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/safety-planning-covid19/ -  For help with safety planning.

    12. https://www.loveisrespect.org/ - Supports youth and young adults in ending dating violence. The website includes planning resources, legal help, educator toolkits, and more—[Can also call 1-800-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522].
    13. https://www.strongheartshelpline.org/ - StrongHearts Native Helpline is a safe domestic, dating, and sexual violence helpline for American Indians and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy daily from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CT. Anonymous and confidential. [1-844-762-8483]

    14. https://www.nwnetwork.org/ - The Northwest Network works to end abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities. It strives to support and empower all survivors through education and advocacy. [1-206-568-7777]

    15. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. [1-800-273-8255]

    16. https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 - Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melanie Beattie [useful book for recognizing some areas that may need work & may be keeping you in the relationship]

    17. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626255938/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_LcsqFbV12KY81 - The Self-Esteem Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by Glenn R. Schiraldi Ph.D. [useful workbook that helps with your self-esteem]

    We Heal Together
    enAugust 22, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Introduction: What's This Podcast All About?

    Introduction: What's This Podcast All About?

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    We Heal Together
    enAugust 22, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags
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