sexual betrayal

In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss strategies for moving forward after the discovery of betrayal in relationships. The episode emphasizes the emotional turmoil that follows discovery, and the importance of establishing safety and stabilization. They share personal stories, including Justin's own missteps post-discovery and the journey towards healing. Tara and Justin advocate for setting boundaries, seeking support outside the marital relationship, and the necessity of finding a supportive community for both the betrayed and the betrayer. They stress that healing from addiction and betrayal is a shared but individual journey that requires patience, understanding, and outside help.

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In this Q&A episode, host Tara McCausland interviews Steven and Rhyll Croshaw,  co-founders of S.A.  Lifeline Foundation, who share their experiences and insights on setting boundaries and bottom lines in relationships and personal recovery. They discuss the differences between boundaries and bottom lines. Steven explains how he sets his 'bottom lines' - personal safeguards established to protect him from negative triggers. Rhyll talks about the importance of allowing individuals to set their own bottom lines and that boundaries give betrayed partners choice in responding to behaviors that cause them to feel unsafe.  They conclude with how a lifestyle of setting and holding boundaries and bottom lines has healed and enriched their marriage which has been affected by sexual betrayal and addiction.

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Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, we are continuing our conversation around the church’s response to betrayal trauma, sex addiction, and sexual issues in marriage. Last episode we shared stories of churches that have responded well and churches that responded poorly. We finish this topic by brainstorming solutions for the leadership of churches to consider in this vulnerable and tender area of sex and betrayal.

We Discuss:

1. What would you tell Pastors about the consequence problematic porn viewing has on the husband?
2. What would you tell Pastors about couples who come to them with sexual issues in their marriage?
3. What hope can we leave?

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

The devastating pain and confusion caused by your husband's porn addiction can easily create a distance or wall between you and God. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk about the realities of Betrayal Trauma HOW you can "let go and let God"—which is NOT easy!—

• Marital Betrayal—WHY would God allow this to happen???
• Manipulation and "Gaslighting" may cause you to doubt your intuition!
• Why didn't God tell you along the way about your husband's betrayal?
• If God won't protect you, then you have to protect yourself? Who has your back?
•  Deeply flawed religious/cultural traditions about "men being more sexual" and a woman's obligation to meet her husband's "needs."
• How to develop a personal "alliance" with God FIRST and then look to the marriage.
• How to establish a CLEAR division of responsibilities—HIS recovery; YOUR healing; the marriage—a "3-part deal" with God enabling and empowering all of it.   

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Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-porn

How can you "heal" your marriage relationship?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/how-to-mend-your-marriage

Ready to STOP Keeping Secrets in your marriage?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/no-more-secrets-in-your-marriage

What is the difference between "True Intimacy" and "sex" in a marriage relationship?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriage