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Activation warning: this episode contains explicit and graphic descriptions of attempted suicide, physical assault, sexual assault, and rape. Discretionary caution is strongly advised. This episode is not for children. Please use extreme self-care in listening to this episode and seek immediate help through the national suicide hotline by dialing 988 if you are emotionally activated or triggered by the content of this episode. Or if you are activated and need help from the national sexual assault telephone hotline, call 1-800.656.hope (4673). One of the most revealing signs of hidden abuse, torture, and shame would be attempting to eat your way out of feeling attractive. Gaining hundreds of pounds in an attempt to alter your appearance, to hide any perceived attraction you might unwittingly draw, and risking your health and even your life in the process, is undeniably a profound cry for help. When this method fails, perhaps an actual outcry will suffice...resorting to an all-out tantrum, screaming and cursing-out your perpetrator, refusing to perform the obscene acts demanded, pounding fists and feet into the floor while lamenting the ongoing sexual assaults. Yet, this horrific scene only escalates in to more of a catastrophe as you receive a slap across your face and a beating with a belt, leaving you barely able to stand. However, the gravity of the situation compounds further: adding to the hurt, shame, and anguish, the perpetrator is your pastor, and the person administering your punishment for swearing, while at the same time disbelieving your disclosure of sexual assault, is your own mother—who, incidentally, is your pastor's lover. This is an intense story. Is it difficult to listen to? Perhaps. However, it's a story that MUST be told. I am immensely grateful that Cheryl has the courage, fortitude, and strength to share it. But that's not all—wait until you hear about her healing journey. It's a process, not an event, and Cheryl embraces this journey wholeheartedly. Just listen. #thrivivors #thejanbrobergfoundation #janbroberg #safeinharmsway #epizonstrategy #intentionallyfearless #thelastimsorry #feelingsmall #sasspodcast #retiredcop #traumainformed #traumainformedexpert #sexassaultvictim #survivorsunite #rapevictim #sexualassaultsurvivorstories #podcast #markelconsulting #jessicapridelawfirm #gettraumainformed #safeinharmsway #projectbeloved #saan #irishangel #crimevictimsassistancecenter #coloradoassociationofsexcrimeinvestigators #girlsfightback #outdoordefense #worthfightingfor #thejanbrobergshow #thrivivors #thejanbrobergfoundation #sassyselfdefenseguide #badassselfdefense #imworthfightingfor #vawa #ashforduniversity #amandacoleman #remembermolly #fightrapeculture #forcescience

Last Wednesday I was just sitting at my desk working on this podcast, and out of the blue I got a text from my good friend and former SASS Podcast guest, and Trauma-informed Peak Performance Specialist, Arci Grey! Arci wanted to schedule a phone conversation with me…which I did. We scheduled the call for Thursday…and it wasn’t just a friendly, catch-up call, she was excited to tell me about a FREE trauma-informed, healing workshop series that she is putting on, and wanted to see if I would help her get the word out…HECK, YEAH!!—of course I want to help! Breaking the Invisible Barriers of Trauma is a three-part workshop that she is streaming live, and recording so that if you sign up, you’re eligible to watch it anytime that is convenient for you, and you can watch it over and over! Here's the deal…once we started the conversation, and she told me why she was calling, I asked her if I could record our conversation, and asked her to make the announcement so that I could post our call and let her share her excitement about the upcoming workshop series. The conversation turned into quite the discussion, and I decided to make it a full Bonus Episode! My recommendation is: take a listen! You’ll be glad you did! Arci’s workshop series is going to be awesome! Here’s where you go to sign up!!.... —OR— go to her website (which you should do anyway, cuz it’s awesome, and you’ll learn tons, and there’s a blog you need to check out):   Sign up for the workshop series! Like I said, it’s free! And it’s going to be amazing! Thank you, Arci!!! Arci’s past episodes on Sexual Assault Survivor Stories: And here are some other links you should definitely, please, take a look at: #thrivivors #thejanbrobergfoundation #janbroberg #safeinharmsway #epizonstrategy #intentionallyfearless #thelastimsorry #feelingsmall #sasspodcast #retiredcop #traumainformed #traumainformedexpert #sexassaultvictim #survivorsunite #rapevictim #sexualassaultsurvivorstories #podcast #markelconsulting #jessicapridelawfirm #gettraumainformed #safeinharmsway #projectbeloved #saan #irishangel #crimevictimsassistancecenter #coloradoassociationofsexcrimeinvestigators #girlsfightback #outdoordefense #worthfightingfor #thejanbrobergshow #thrivivors #thejanbrobergfoundation #sassyselfdefenseguide #badassselfdefense #imworthfightingfor #vawa #ashforduniversity #amandacoleman #remembermolly #fightrapeculture #forcescience

Activation warning: this episode contains explicit and graphic descriptions of physical assault, sexual assault, and rape. Discretionary caution is strongly advised. This episode is not for children. Please use extreme self-care in listening to this episode and seek immediate help through the national sexual assault telephone hotline if you are activated or triggered by calling 1-800.656.HOPE (4673).  This is the concluding episode of Scarlett Robertson’s appalling and traumatic assault: physically, sexually, emotionally and verbally, at the hands of her then-partner. I would encourage you to listen to parts 1 and 2 before you begin part 3, so that you will have a complete understanding of this convoluted and complex assaultive relationship. This episode continues in the description of the emotional and cognizant realization by Scarlett that her then-boyfriend had not just manipulated, used, and verbally assaulted her, but that he has raped her, and that the rape included an extremely painful physical assault. And then her immediate confusion about what to do about it all. When, after she left the scene of the assault and went to her home, she is shortly after confronted by him again in an irate, verbally abusive tirade and which ends with the theft of her personal property. Calling the police to report it all resulted in additional trauma…both then, and currently, as she struggles with the realization of the truth of what happened to her at the hands of Charlie (not her ex-boyfriend’s real name), but also at the hands of medical personnel when she had attempted suicide years ago, and by the response of the police when they showed up at her house to take her report. The fortitude that Scarlett exudes through it all, even while telling her story, is as astounding as it is commendable. The fact that she wants to make sure that her story gets out to the world is incredible. Scarlett wants to ensure that anyone who has experienced interpersonal relationship trauma, does not feel like they are alone. She and I both encourage all victims and survivors of rape, sexual assault, and emotional abuse seek help, reach out to support networks, and remember that healing is possible. Together, we can work towards a world where survivors are heard, believed, and protected. Part of Scarlett’s healing journey involves being a subscriber to the online community of Thrivivors, part of The Jan Broberg Foundation. If you are interested in joining and participating in the many aspects of the organization that are helping victims and survivors heal, there is a link below. October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. And while most people don’t realize the prevalence of domestic violence in this country and around the world, what’s even more misunderstood are the dynamics of domestic violence, and the fact that most relationships that involve domestic violence, regardless of the gender identities of the partnerships involved, include sexual assault and/or rape. I want to encourage you, if you’re reading this, and/or are a SASS listener, to become more educated and aware of the dynamics of domestic violence and interpersonal violence, so you can become more active in recognizing the signs and symptoms of DV relationships and help those who are seeking help; so you can help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault; so you can be trauma-informed and not risk re-traumatizing victims and survivors; and so you can help provide resources and further the knowledge base in our communities about what needs to be done to help reduce the prevalence of domestic violence, rape, and sexual assault. The best start to all of this is to Start By Believing. Because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Please subscribe, rate, and share Sexual Assault Survivor Stories with everyone you know, whether you listen to every episode or not. Subscribing helps SASS grow. And please leave a comment…I would greatly appreciate hearing from you. OR, you can also leave a note for Scarlett. Thank you!

In this intensely courageous episode, we have the privilege of hearing the powerful story of Mallory Tingey, an adult survivor of childhood, intra-familial sexual assault. Mallory is a good friend of my niece, Melissa, who shared with Mallory some information about this podcast. Melissa knew of Mallory’s history of being sexually assaulted at the hands of Mallory’s step-brothers and suggested that Mallory would be a great guest for this show. Mallory took the time to listen to a few episodes and told Melissa that she’d be willing to be on the show. So, when Melissa told me about Mallory’s willingness to be on the show, I contacted Mallory and we began conversing with each other via text messages, then a phone call. Mallory agreed to share her story of sexual assault and shares her experiences of the abuse perpetrated by three of her stepbrothers, shedding light on the lasting impact of such trauma. One of the painful aspects of being a child victim of sexual assault that Mallory talks about is the ripple affect that intra-familial sexual assault has on the entire family. Prior to the assaults, Mallory had a trusting, if not loving, relationship with her siblings. But that all changed when the sexual assault began, first at the hands of her older step-brother, who soon after left on a church-related mission, and then, the same day he left, a second step-brother, and later a third step-brother began sexually assaulting Mallory. The details of the broken relationships that these assaults caused are heart-breaking, but necessary to know about in order for us to have a better grasp on how these cases are so deeply destructive, not only to the victim, but to the entire family, and how complicated the once-solid trust system can become in navigating the normal, daily routines of family life after sexual trauma comes in. Mallory’s story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the capacity for healing and resilience. Through her vulnerability, Mallory provides valuable insights for survivors, their loved ones, and anyone seeking to understand the profound challenges faced by survivors of childhood sexual assault. Remember, if you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments of support and encouragement to Mallory, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

37. Alan Manwaring: Revisiting Perspectives on His Healing Path Back in early April, I introduced you to my good friend, Alan Manwaring. He was my guest on Episode 26. Alan is not only my good friend, but he is also a mutual friend of Jan Broberg, and in fact, is Executive Director of The Jan Broberg Foundation! So, Alan and I work together on that board, but we also have many aspects of our lives with which we share several commonalities. Another one of our commonalities is that we both have had experiences of having been sexually assaulted. It was that commonality that I believe drew us together initially in our early friendship, and it has bonded us on several levels as we share with each other our personal trauma stories. (If you haven’t listened to Episode 26, it would probably be enlightening for this episode.) In this week’s episode, Alan and I pick up where we left off with that previous episode, and we discuss Alan’s continuing obstacles and hurdles on his healing path. Alan and I share some of the same obstacles and hurdles. And I think you’ll find that all of us who are on that same healing path, have many of the same obstacles and hurdles. It’s why this podcast is growing. We’re helping each other on that same healing path. This episode is short, but power-packed; I think you’ll find it inspiring and helpful. Remember, if you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me and telling me your thoughts about the show…how it has impacted your life or the life of someone you know. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Please take note of and visit the important links below; and where applicable, your monetary donation would be greatly appreciated: https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/

36. Cassie Nicholas: A Trauma-Informed Journey of Healing & Hope  Cassie Nicholas was born and grew up in the remote Appalachian Mountains of southwestern West Virginia. Her early childhood memories include sexual assault and consequently trying to call 911 at the age of three, but not having any success. Now, as an adult, she has a complex merging of childhood and adolescent memories: a loving and kind but oppressed mother, who herself grew up in a sexually and physically abusive home;  a strong, loving bond with her special-needs older sister; and the traumatic sexual trafficking she endured at the hands of her emotionally and sexually abusive father to neighbors and affluent members of the small town where she grew up, including various town doctors.   Leaving the abuse wasn’t easy…nor was it the answer to her problems. She later became married to an emotionally and sexually abusive wife. Her story of escape from interpersonal, marital violence, into a life of homelessness and hardship, all the while trying to heal through becoming trauma-informed is inspiring and captivating: Cassie tells her story with an enthralling, storytelling talent that is articulate and mesmerizing. And by the end of this interview, she’ll have captured your heart and compassion, like she did mine; Cassie is an enthralling narrator. Cassie is one of my SASS listeners who reached out to me at my invitation to be on the show to utilize the podcast platform to inform and educated others about the tactics and manipulations of predators, but also about the path to surviving and healing from rape and sexual assault. I am truly honored to know Cassie and privileged to have had the opportunity of interviewing her. It is truly a pleasure to have her on my show. If you're a victim or survivor of rape, sexual assault, or any form of interpersonal violence, and would like to be a guest on our show, please email me; let's have a conversation about the possibility. I would greatly appreciate you taking the time to rate this episode and subscribe to Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. I would also appreciate your comments, both in the episode comments, and if you’d like, by emailing me and telling me your thoughts about the show…how it has impacted your life or the life of someone you know. Thank you for being part of our efforts, and for your loyalty in listening to the show. Please share this podcast with everyone you know.  And remember to do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault…together we can make a difference if we all Start By Believing; because we all know someone whose life has been affected by rape or sexual assault. Please take note of and visit the important links below; and where applicable, your monetary donation would be greatly appreciated:   https://saprea.org https://www.instagram.com/cieralancaster/