the patriarchy

This special Valentine's week episode is dedicated to smashing The Patriarchy by tapping deep into the well of your self-love. Because if you want to live your vida mas chévere, if you want to design your best childfree Latina life, you need to have a healthy relationship with yourself.

How do you get that? Listen in for practical tips on how to prioritize self-care rituals, savor moments of joy, and release negativity so you can reach the point where you are actively, intentionally, and fiercely in love with yourself.

Because if there's one thing The Patriarchy hates, it's when women love themselves fully. Especially if those women are childfree Latinas.

3 takeaways from this episode are: 

1. Self-love is crucial for designing your best life and living la vida más chévere.
2. Neglecting self-love has detrimental effects on your self-esteem, relationships, and personal development.
3. Actively pushing past the discomfort of learning to love yourself combats social conditioning, and can start with bite size moments.

Bonus takeaway: being in love with yourself means you're never alone on Valentine's Day!

Join us as we navigate the journey to self-love, celebrate our unique Latine identities, and embrace the power of self-empowerment through self-care. This episode is a loving reminder to all childfree Latinas that self-love is not only essential, but a radical act of revolution.

To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 56.

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Storyteller Talia Molé, an activist, anthropologist, and artist, shares her journey confronting societal pressures, the impact of language on reproductive rights, and her mission to redefine motherhood. From fighting for a hysterectomy to battling for debt forgiveness, Talia is a powerhouse.

In this re-released episode, we dive deep into the significance of storytelling, dismantling patriarchal narratives, and celebrating various forms of motherhood and family. While emphasizing the need for storytelling as a vehicle for healing and social change, Talia also touches upon how society's narrow definition of motherhood undermines the varied forms of support and love that individuals can offer to their communities. As the conversation unfolds, Paulette and Talia emphasize the importance of giving voices to different forms of motherhood beyond traditional perceptions, fostering solidarity and acceptance within their communities.

Key takeaways from this episode:

• Embracing the concept of "child-free" over "childless" empowers individuals to recognize their freedom and choice, instead of framing their lives as lacking something.
• Challenging the dominant narrative of motherhood involves elevating diverse forms of motherhood, resisting societal restrictions, and sustaining life through creative practices.
• Through storytelling and artistic expression, individuals can advocate for bodily autonomy and work towards social change, offering healing and support to their communities.

More about Talia:

Talia Molé believes in the artist as a rebellious and revolutionary teacher whose purpose is to disrupt the status quo inspiring conversations that lead to greater questioning and awakening within a communal body. As an artist, she has dedicated her time to understanding social change through different social spaces and disciplines within academia and beyond. She molded and polished her role as an activist/scholar with the help of a B.F.A. in Theatre Performance, an M.S. in Counseling, and a PhD in Anthropology and Social Change. Her field of research and exploration revolves around lived expressions of mother/motherhood/mothering, within marginalized populations, that serve as a radical remembrance of matriarchal ancestry, lineage and community.

Talia is the founder of "We are Phoenixing" a creative consultation business dedicated to mentoring creative practitioners.

For more about Talia, check out the extended show notes and transcript at PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 51.

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Zaddies, Zaddiettes, Zommies, Zons, Zisters, Zives, Zusbands, this is a call to action, there is a MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS! In a world that is quickly trying to correct the past and push towards a more amicable future, shouldn't we be concerned with the well being of each individual? Seerut recently shared some alarming statistics about men's mental health - prompted by young men's fascination with Andrew Tate - on social media and to her surprise was met with backlash. Followers encouraging suicide, homelessness and depression. That's when it was blaringly obvious this discussion needed to happen. The patriarchy is a popular phrase these days, but is the common man who's struggling much like any other person truly a patriarch? When men make up about half of the population, yet are majority of the homeless, addicted and suicidal, what does that mean? We may not have the answers, but maybe a discussion and some catharsis is a step in the right direction.

Seerut is a psychotherapist based in London, trained at the University of Roehampton in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy. She works using an integrative model (which means incorporating different therapeutic styles) depending on clients and circumstances. Her main modality is psychodynamic psychotherapy which is derivative of the psychoanalytic tradition. The basic premise of her work is helping to understand what has happened, so that to better understand what is happening in the here and now, those can then make meaningful change in their lives.

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Today we learn about automatons from hundreds of years ago, the most famous of which may have been The Mechanical Turk, which played chess with actual people in the room and got pissy with you if you tried to cheat. Then it's a personal story of a deeply unsettling babysitting gig, the 1989 Olympic Festival in Norman, Oklahoma, and the bleak shitscape that our lives as Americans is becoming. It's fucking awful! Join us.

BONUS: The OK 89 Olympic Festival in its entirety, cued up to Roger Miller's performance, which was unquestionably the best part.

GUEST INFORMATION: ANUSHAY HOSSAIN'S BIO

Anushay Hossain is a journalist and political analyst whose work is featured on CNN, MSNBC, PBS, and more. Her writings on politics, gender, race, immigration, and being Muslim in America are published on Forbes, CNN, The Daily Beast, and Medium.

She is the author of The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women. She is also the host of the Spilling Chai podcast.

Anushay is the Washington Correspondent for the Daily Ittefaq where she pens a political column for the iconic Bangladeshi newspaper, providing in-depth analysis on the latest from Capitol Hill.

She guest-hosted Al-Jazeera English’s (AJE), “The Stream” from 2012-2013 and is a panelist on PBS’ feminist news-analysis program, “To The Contrary.”

Anushay completed her undergraduate studies at the University of Virginia (UVA) and has a Master’s degree from the University of Sussex. A passionate linguist, she studied Italian while living in Rome and is fluent in five languages.

Anushay is married and lives in Washington, DC with her husband and two children. 

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• Check out her website: https://anushayhossain.com/

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The "Western World" has trained most who live here to feel as if monogamy is natural and normal: that it's "just the way thigs are." But humans are not wired up to live in monogamous frameworks. Evolutionarily, we fit somewhere between monogamy and polyamory, and our history as a species makes it easy to recognize why.  This week's episode is all about polyamory (poly: many, amor: love).

My guest is Dr. Stephanie Webb, whose book, Use Your Words: Opening Language for Open Relationships, examines the link between cultural norms, language and polyamory. Like many things in US culture, love is policed in ways we seldom talk about and hardly notice. The feeling of, "that's just the way things are" is the result of being covertly taught what love can and cannot be.