Podcast Summary
The Power of Keeping Promises to Yourself: Keeping promises to yourself builds self-trust, self-understanding, and self-reliance, leading to greater independence and confidence.
...keeping a promise to yourself is a powerful form of self-love and self-respect. It improves your self-trust, helps you understand yourself better, and allows you to rely on yourself. When you make and keep promises to yourself, you build a strong reputation for self-reliance, which can be terrifying at first but ultimately leads to a greater sense of independence and confidence. This is especially important in relationships and other areas of life where you may feel uncertain or vulnerable. By focusing on the benefits of keeping promises to yourself, you can start setting achievable goals and build a stronger, more self-assured version of yourself.
Keeping promises to yourself boosts self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love: Consistently following through with commitments to yourself raises personal expectations and makes it easier to achieve desires, while failing to do so lowers expectations and reliance on others
Keeping promises to yourself builds self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love, allowing you to be self-reliant and set higher goals. Conversely, breaking promises to yourself can lead to a lack of trust in yourself, increased reliance on others, and lower goals. By consistently following through with commitments to yourself, you raise the bar for what you expect in life, making it easier to achieve your desires. Conversely, failing to keep promises to yourself can lead to a lack of trust in your abilities and a lowering of personal expectations.
Rebuild trust in yourself by keeping small promises: Start with an easy promise to build trust and confidence in yourself, gradually increasing the challenge as you succeed
Building trust in yourself starts with making and keeping simple promises to yourself. Repeatedly failing to follow through on promises can erode your trust in yourself and your abilities. To turn this around, begin with an easy promise that presents a challenge but is still achievable. For instance, I decided to have a cup of coffee only after being awake for an hour instead of my usual five a day. This small change required minimal effort but helped me establish trust in my ability to follow through on a commitment to myself. By starting small and building on successes, you can gradually rebuild trust in yourself and increase your confidence in your abilities.
Building confidence and discipline through small promises: Focusing on small promises and following through builds trust in yourself to keep larger ones. Set clear boundaries and stick to them, even with occasional exceptions.
Making small promises to yourself and following through can help build the confidence and discipline needed to keep larger promises. The speaker shared their personal experience of giving up vaping after having a bad experience with the taste, and how they've been able to keep that promise for nearly a year by focusing on not vaping rather than trying not to. They emphasized the importance of setting clear boundaries and sticking to them, even if it means allowing for occasional exceptions. By consistently following through on smaller promises, the speaker believes they've built the trust in themselves to keep the larger ones. This approach can be applied to various aspects of life, from personal health to professional goals. The key is to focus on the commitment and the end result, rather than the struggle or the temptation to deviate.
Make promises when it's hard: Making genuine promises to ourselves requires self-awareness and discipline, not impulsiveness or moments of ease.
Making promises to ourselves should not be done impulsively or in moments of ease, such as after indulging in something we know we shouldn't have. Instead, we should make promises when it's difficult, as this is when our commitment to keeping that promise is truly tested. The example given is of people who make promises to stop having cake with their coffee, but make the promise after they've already eaten the cake. This is not a genuine commitment, as they're likely to have already given in to their desire for the cake. Similarly, we should not make promises when we're feeling low or after engaging in behaviors we regret, as these are not genuine moments for making meaningful commitments to ourselves. Instead, we should make promises when it's hard, and if we can't keep that promise, we should adjust it to make it more achievable. Ultimately, keeping genuine promises to ourselves requires self-awareness and discipline, and making promises impulsively or in moments of ease undermines our ability to follow through.
Setting and following through with small goals builds self-confidence: Start with easy promises, gradually increase difficulty, build a track record, strengthen belief in abilities, increase happiness, and confidence, observe inspiring role models, create a clean track record, and foster self-trust and personal growth.
Setting and following through with small, achievable goals is crucial for building self-confidence and a strong sense of self-reliability. Start with easy promises to yourself and gradually increase the difficulty as you build a track record of following through. The ability to keep promises to yourself leads to a stronger belief in your abilities, increased happiness, and confidence in your own skin. Observing someone who consistently follows through on their promises can be inspiring and serves as a reminder of the power of keeping our word to ourselves. The ultimate goal is to create a clean track record, where anything we say we will do, we actually do. This consistent follow-through leads to a greater sense of self-trust and overall personal growth.
Asking the right questions when making promises: Considering if promises are realistic, achievable, measurable, and focusing on action rather than talk, leads to personal growth and improved self-reliance.
Setting realistic and achievable promises to yourself is crucial for personal growth and development. Here are some key questions to ask yourself when making a promise: 1. Is the promise made at an appropriate time and is it achievable given your current circumstances? 2. Is the promise based on past behaviors and is it realistic, or does it need to be made more manageable? 3. Are your excuses valid, and if so, how can you adjust the promise accordingly? 4. Is the promise measurable, so you can track your progress? 5. Are you focusing more on talking about the promise than actually taking action? By considering these questions, you can ensure that your promises are meaningful, achievable, and ultimately, lead to personal growth and improved self-reliance. Remember, keeping promises to yourself builds trust and strengthens your relationship with yourself, making you less dependent on others and more confident in your abilities.
Reflecting on Goals and Structuring Our Lives: Be kind to yourself during goal setting, remember it's okay to make mistakes, stay focused, and never give up on your dreams.
As we enter a new year, it's important to reflect on our goals and how we want to structure our lives. This includes our relationships, both with others and ourselves. Don't be too hard on yourself during this process. Remember to be kind and compassionate, not only to those around you, but also to yourself. If you need more guidance on setting your goals, check out the linked episode in the show notes. And above all, don't let negativity bring you down. Keep pushing forward and believe in yourself. Remember, it's okay to make mistakes and adjust as needed. The key is to keep moving forward and never give up on your dreams. So, be kind to yourself, stay focused, and make this year your best yet.
