The Only Mind Hack That Works

The internet is full of quick fixes, one-step, get-it-quick BS and in my mind preying on the lazy.

And I know we all get caught and end up disappointed.

With that in mind, I do have the only fix (notice not necessarily quick), it's easy and it's hard, and over the next 5 minutes or so in this 5-minute quickie podcast, I will explain all.

You will be amazed by the results and how consistent they are.

The fact is it is so simple so press play and I'll begin.

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Shine brightly

Paul

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Modeling Role Models

Can we learn from role models? Maybe if we have a BS monitor  :O)

What do I mean by that? Well, some people have acquired and learned skills that we can learn from by modeling them, what they do, and how they do their stuff.

Others pretend, with their shiny showreels on social media and even believe their own hype and we need to be careful whose skills we choose to emulate. Notice I said skills and not the person, we can never be another person, and nor should we, being the unique person you are.

So let's take away the term role models and replace it with skills we would like to learn from people who have these skills already. It becomes the quickest way to learn as you don't have to learn from their mistakes.

The easiest way is to pick one skill at a time, more than that it becomes overwhelming - you'd be surprised how much detail is in each. KISS

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And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism

 

This longer podcast is all about role models. Get specific and get really inspired

 

 

Can anyone be a true role model? I was thinking about role models

 

But that's not why I'm telling you that, because I want to talk about role models. Role models. I mean, do you have role models? And I think we do. But also I think we can get a little bit fixated on them. They become the be all and end all of our goal. And you see, I was thinking about this questioning, can anyone be a true role model? Because even when you think about it, I won't call them failures, but they are failures. We all have our things, which aren't so good, things we need to work on. And they, like us, like me, have to work on their bits. But whether they put themselves up as a role model or whether we don't like the word society, but they're put up as a role model, they come up on YouTube, they come up on Instagram, all that stuff. And after a while they, unbeknowing maybe become a role model with all their flaws. Flaws is a better way. Not failures, flaws. Because we're just human. And a lot of those people talk about being vulnerable. It's so good to be vulnerable. But yet on the reels that we see, they are the least vulnerable person. In fact, they to me, sometimes give off the air that they are, ah, living a perfect life for some. Maybe I'm just seeing it through a different filter, I don't know. Because we see so many people with their show reels shiny, perfect. We've all seen them, haven't we? if you looked at my videos, you'll notice that they're not shiny, they're not show. And they're certainly not perfect. That's not their fault. Well, the majority there is going to be one or two that, to push it too far, do it for their own ends, as it were. But the thing is, what I also thought about this is maybe we're putting them up as role models and they never wanted to be. They're just doing their best job. They're putting up something for us to learn. And for me, this is the way I see it. The ones that I look up to aspire to be, maybe aspire to take on not to be like that, to be them, but to learn their skills. Because they can be both in some ways both inspiring and also down putting. Because it's a show reel and you can get the reverse effect. I guess I want to be just like that. But look at me now. I'll never be able to be like that. And it's then reinforcing those negative, limiting beliefs. I'm not good enough because I can never be good enough, can never be like that. But it's a show reel. You never see all the years that's gone into it. Certainly the ones that I'm thinking of, because I think they are genuine people, they've just been put up there. so it's not them wanting to be m a role model. They're just shining what they've learned, shining the light, ah. Of what they've learned to guide other people. And I think when I look at it that way, I got to use a different filter. I think that's the difference. We have to have a filter, a BS filter. So you see, I don't want to imitate. This is, me talking about me again. I don't want to imitate, but coming through NLP, neurolinguistic programming, I do want to be able to model, you see, I want to because when you model somebody, you model what they are good at. Obviously, you don't model the stuff that they're not. So if we can model what they are really good at, how they are thinking, maybe we can get to the pictures in their minds, but we can certainly get some glimpses of them. So it's not imitation. In some ways it. Maybe it is, but it's not imitation for imitating to be like them. It is try to find the skills and how we can adapt them. Adapt them in our own way. So I say how we do that. Well, you need that filter first, the Bs filter. And once we've cleared those people away, we can then look at what is it about them that inspires us?

 

 

Model people you aspire to be like or have skills you would aspire to learn

 

I want you to think back. Think back to the people that maybe the word role models is not a good description. Cloughy people you aspire to be like or have the skills you would aspire to learn. what are the things that inspire them or inspire you to be like that? Maybe it's their confidence. And I know we're seeing the show reel, but if you look at certainly the people I'm following, I'm noticing some of their videos are lectures. So it's not a show reel if they've not edited it. they are giving a talk, they are trying to share what they know and then you can pick up, well, they have this air of confidence, the way they move their body. Maybe I could learn and try that on. Because when you're modeling, you're trying things on and seeing how you can adapt it to yourself, or maybe adapt what you do into something like that and notice, is it their voice, is it the way they can just pause? For me, and these are my things, I think I'm guessing how people can pause and just suddenly come out with the right words to be able to communicate in such a precise way. To me, that's awe inspiring and it is inspiring. Their use of language. Maybe it's a tone they use. Maybe. I always love it when you can see people who just laugh, laugh at themselves, laugh with other people. To me, when you can be like that, that is true confidence in yourself, that is being vulnerable in the. I think the nice way you're showing, we say show up and show your true self, but actually showing your own qualities. Now, whether you like them or not, it doesn't matter, not to them, because they're saying, this is me, like me or not. And I think that's a great bit of inner confidence you could have. Maybe they are demonstrating skills, skills that you would like to learn. But the thing about this is, you can see, I've been pretty specific about the type of confidence, the use of language, those pauses, the way they talk, walk. But you have to get specific, I think, because you're not going to be able to learn the whole myriad because it's too big and it's too general. So it's about, I think, looking at the people you would like to be more like in their skill set and pick one particular skill and work on that. Because once you get that, you can then maybe build on from that about them building on another aspect of their skills or somebody else and put them together. Because this is all about you, not them. And because it's about you, I don't know, people say, oh, it's all about you, but it is all about you, not them. It's about how you can be inspired to learn. And then as you review what you've learned and notice the effects, did it make your life better? Did it make it worse? And of course, one thing we have to remember is it's going to be bloody awkward when we start because it's not going to be, oh, I'll just do it this way. Because you're going against, I guess, your learnt behaviors, your own habits. But I think your unconscious mind, once it understands how important it is for you, how valuable it's ah, a value to you and it will make you a more comfortable person. I don't want to call it a better person, but you'll be improving your skills and it's your skills you're improving, becoming that better version of yourselves, expanding, evolving that version of yourself into what you're truly here for. I know that's a bit woo woo lala maybe, but that's what you're here for, to create something, I believe to create something special. And it doesn't have to be the biggest, biggest thing in the world, but you can just leave little golden nuggets around, do little kind acts, things like that. But when you do it from your confidence, you show people, you show people what can be done. And I think sometimes instead of just looking at one person, you take two or three in that genre. So you're starting in a database, they're all doing the same type of thing in that one skill set. now I'm getting. So it's a general skill in a specific area. I could learn that. And now you're building not just from one person, you are building your own skill set by really modeling a whole genre of that skill set.

 

 

NLP modeling is really getting into a specific person to find out beliefs

 

So I wonder how many people, first of all, if you would, because it's a personal development podcast, begin to think of the type of skills you would like to learn from other people. Now, ideally it would be someone you could talk to and ask them exactly what you do. The NLP modeling is really getting into a specific person to find out their thoughts, their beliefs, the pictures they make in their mind, the sequence they put those things into their minds and how they talk to themselves. But that's not always the case. You've got that ability, not the ability, you haven't got the. I don't know what I'm going to talk about now. You haven't got that facility of being able to talk to that person. So we're going to use things like YouTube, we're going to use things like podcasts, because you can learn so much. You can use things as books as well because people will explain what they're thinking and then you can model the little significant parts of their thinking. So I wonder if you could just, first of all, maybe just instead of thinking about the people you want to model is what are the things you would like to model? So what specific skills would you like to improve upon or learn newly? Maybe, just let them roll onto a paper, a piece of paper, because once you start getting them on paper, you always know, write that sucker down. It will then, I think, be able to intuit that, the word intuit, be intuitive about other things and other thoughts will come into your mind, which you can slam on that piece of paper. And now you're building up and go, they're all those skills, which one is the most useful to me? In fact, they're all maybe leading you into a one direction of a particular skill. And then you can see, well, how would that affect my life if I learned that skill or if I just got, I have that skill, but I want to get better at it, how would that improve my life? Maybe it'd be my career, maybe it'd be the way I socialize with people, maybe with myself, maybe with my partner, my best friend, significant other, all that stuff. And when you get that, then you can go, okay, where can I find that information? Because now you know how important it is to you because you need to know the effect that it will have on your life. Start that way. And then you understand, ah, it's going to be of value to me. And then get the belief, well, I'm going to do this. That's the only belief you need. I'm going to do this. So now it becomes at the highest level, it's an identity belief, because I'm going to do this, I can do this and, it's a value to you. So beliefs and value are the highest part of the pyramid apart from your identity, but they're linked to your identity. So now you can start looking around, you can start finding that set of people. Maybe this is only one person. You go, that is the one skill, that's it. But maybe there's more. You get a database, or maybe you look around and go, actually, out of all these people, this is the guy who does it best and this is a woman who does it best. I don't know how. you know what I mean? And then you can start studying and looking for that one skill. If you try to do it all, tell you now, it'll blow your mind because they're too big. But you do that one skill, and then you find another and then another, and you begin to act as if. Now, how do you start to act as if? Because I'm going to give you a quick how to in there. You see, what you can do is some people would say, well, just imagine yourself doing it. And you go, I can't do that. I can't just imagine myself doing that. Some people can. But here's an easy way to do it, because we like easy. We like simples. And just because it's simple and it's easy doesn't mean to say you don't have to do the work. You don't have to put the effort in because you do. So you have to put time aside. How long? It's minutes, maybe a minute or so to start off with. But here's how you do it. Are you ready? Now I'm going to tell you how to do it, because you don't have to do it now, because maybe you have to do that work first. But here's how you would do it. Or you could, you begin to notice, say, have either movie screen or just see that person out in front of you, the person you're going to model doing the thing, and you see them doing it. So in effect, you are replaying that video that you've watched on maybe YouTube, or you're imagining seeing them talk if you've heard it on a podcast or in a book. But you can imagine them doing that thing that you want to model because it's important to you. I know it'll happen. And as you imagine seeing that other movie or just seeing that person just suspended out there in space doing that thing that you want to model. And then as you do that, begin to allow it to morph into you. So over a period of 1015 seconds, the picture in your mind, that picture of that you over there, or that them over there, slowly morphs into you over there, and you can begin to see you doing the very same thing. That's right. Now, you could just practice that to start off with, just practice seeing it morphing into you. And then as you get better at it, and it doesn't have to be 2020 vision, for goodness sake, you know that. All you need to do is practice. And it's an awareness as long as you can get an awareness that's that it's morphing into you and you get to understand it, you can then begin to maybe just flow out of your body into that. You over there, having morphed it into you, morphed them into you. You flow into you looking through your own eyes, seeing what you'll see when you're like that, hearing what you'll hear when you like that. And feel, feel the emotions, feel the physicality of it. And then as you come back into you, because all you always have to come back into you, you can then begin to know how to act as if, and if you've got notes of the things you're going to practice, that one little thing you can know, no, you can now start doing it because you're acting as if you've got it already. And yeah, it'll be clunky. Don't think that, oh, I'll be perfect every time because they've done it, they've evolved into that person. But you can learn that skill so much quicker now. It may have taken them ten years to evolve into that skill or evolve that skill into the thing you see now. You can do that in hours, minutes, and then you can start to think. I want you to think of two things when you do that. And you start to act as if you start learning. You actually start seeing. You're reviewing what you've done. Yeah, it's making a difference. You've got two things you can do. What other things can I learn? What other skills can I start to evolve inside me? But also, how can I be a model, a role model, as it were, for that skill? Now, you could share it. You could share how you did it, what you do, what you've learned.

 

 

You can inspire others by being an example of what can be done

 

That's great to do, because when you do that, you become the author of it. You're the teacher of your own skill. And when you do that, you're learning twice as fast, twice as m, more in depth as it were. When you verbalize it to other people or you just write it down for yourself, you're learning it at a much more detailed, specific level. And that's awesome. But you can also do it by action, being the person you want to be wonderful, but also, inspiring others, others by being that example of what can be done. Because they saw you, what you used to be like, they're seeing what you are now and you go, wow. Even if they didn't even know what you were like, they're looking at you and going, that's a lovely skill to have. I could emulate that because you can inspire people just with the things that you do. And it's in that sharing that makes a difference. Now you know where I'm going to come with this or go with this. It's that sharing that makes a difference.

 

 

Have you ever shared this podcast? If you have, absolutely

 

So, to you. That's right. You. Have you shared a question to you. Have you ever shared this podcast? If you have, absolutely. Bloody awesome. Thank you so much. Would you do it again? And if you haven't shared it, why? No, I won't say why not? Would you, please? It would be lovely if you did, because it's going to. Yes. More people get to listen to it. It makes me feel better when I see the downloads. Yeah, of course it does. I have a little bit of ego in there. Of course it does. But also, I know that more people will be infected and affected by what we're sharing because I believe it's all good stuff. Some of it will really ring home, really resonate with people, with yourself, and then make a difference. So it just makes a difference to one person. Game over. It'd be brilliant. So if you would share, and you also know that, you always get those free hypnosis tracks, paulcloughonline.com podcast, all that stuff. So please feel free to dive in and get all the free stuff you can. When you do that, you'll also get an email and ah, a newsletter, a monthly newsletter which comes out about every two or three months. And on that there's a code, a discount code, so you can buy stuff, the premium stuff, at such a stupidly, ridiculously low price. Because I just want to make a difference to you, a difference to other people. There you go. that's it. If you need more information about this, because I think we'll go into this in more detail. I'm sure I say this every time, but if you need more detail, more, you've got a particular skill you want to learn and I can help you with that. Let me know. Email me, please, feedback at personal developmentunplug.com and I'll bang you out. Reply and I'll also create something for you. And, we'll share it to so many more people, because we all need that. We really do. I need it gets my old gray matter going. It gets me to learn about myself, learn what I don't know, and also reinforces what I do know. It's that thing of sharing and getting to understand what you know and what you don't know and how you can improve. And that's why we're all here, isn't it? Anyway, my friend, thank you so much. From the heart of my bottom, or the bottom of my heart. and I'll see you and hear from you, and you'll hear from me real soon, because as usual, it's time to fly. And if you hang on, if you're new to this podcast, after the time to fly goes off, there'll be a little introduction, like a post introduction, of what the unplugged, podcast is all about. There you go. Enjoy and fly.

 

 

This is the personal development unplugged podcast where we use hypnosis

 

You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Hey, this is the personal development unplugged podcast where we use hypnosis. Yeah, hypnosis, NLP, neurolinguistic programming. Don't worry what it is. It's just a mass of processes that we're going to get you to change. Change to let go of anxiety, low self esteem, and create massive, massive, supreme inner confidence. But that's confidence in your confidence and confidence in your confidence, which means you can do anything and be well, be safe to enjoy, enjoy the world as it should be, with you at, the helm, creating the life that you want. That's what this podcast is about. You and being the best you, you could be, singing from your real voice, aligned with your mission, aligned with your passions. That's what it's about. So if you're interested in letting go of anxiety, if you're interested in letting go of fear, guilt, all those blooming syndromes, impostor syndromes, and every little bit of the mind which is negative, then have a listen here, because we got some wonderful processes and lots of good conversations with, between you and me to get us both thinking in such wonderful ways. You, I'm sure you'll enjoy them. Just take the trance to have a. Have a listen close.

Performing At Your Best

Have you ever performed at your best? And have you ever not?

A 5-minute muse on the need to be perfect and never really feel like you are or have performed at your best.

And then there's the thing that we can always do better but did you do your best right then?

I don't think we look at our performance in this way and if we did how can we keep getting better?

I'll also share a way to feel stupidly GOOD and so much more!   :O)

And all in around five minutes.

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Shine brightly

Paul

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Karen Newell

Sacred Acoustics To Reduce Anxiety

So pleased to have another sharer willing to walk the walk - Karen is an author and specialist in personal development with a diverse body of work that rests upon the foundation of spiritually transformative experiences.

As an innovator in the emerging field of brainwave entrainment audio meditation, Karen empowers others in their journeys of self-discovery. Using Sacred Acoustics recordings and other techniques, she teaches how to engage with your inner world to connect to guidance, achieve inspiration, improve wellness, and develop intuition.

In this recording, Karen shares tools to help reduce anxiety and explains how binaural beats can assist in quieting the mind

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Please visit Karens website and find all her contact details - Plus you can download a free recording of Karen's at www.sacredacoustics.com or email her info@sacredacoustics.com.

Shine brightly

Paul

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This is a longer podcast with a guest from Sacred Acoustics

 

Hey, here's your heads up to this longer podcast. We have a guest, Karen Newell, from sacred Acoustics, and she's going to show us the benefits of sound through meditation, how we can quieten the mind and help clear anxiety. Now, that's got to be a good thing, so please do listen. Warning, warning, warning, warning. You are entering into the unplugged mind of Paul Clough clove. Too late. Personal development unplugged. Hey. Yes, that's right. Clapping. Clapping. Why are we clapping?

 

 

Karen Newell is an expert in entrainment and meditation

 

Well, we have another guest. Another guest who's going to come and do a little talk for us. Her name is Karen, Karen Newell, and she is the co founder of Sacred Acoustics. She's also an author and a specialist in personal development with a diverse body of work that rests upon the foundation of spirituality, transformative experience. Hey, how's that? Her personal growth programs, workshops, guided meditations and teachings enable individuals to achieve life transformations towards a greater fulfillment or self fulfillment and contentment. She is an innovator in the emerging field of brainwave entrainment. That's a word. Entrainment and meditation. And Karen is going to. There'll be the rest of the bio, by the way, on the website, but Karen is going to talk to us about how the tools, tools for help, for anxiety, mental health, and slowing down those racing thoughts that anxiety gives us. And you see, meditations we all know have proven to reduce anxiety. And it's by using binour, I can't even say the word bino. Binourial, binourial, binaural beats explaining, how these beats, because I can't say binourial can quieten the mind just by quieting the. I can't get this right. By quieting the mind, you can now begin to clear or certainly reduce the level of anxiety. And she's going to share a few ways how to use these beats by no meal. I can't say the blooming thing beats to quieten the mind and then how holding a wonderful feeling in our heart will help reduce anxiety, which obviously helps us and those around us and the effects of that. And she goes into a, lot of data to prove that things she does really work. Now, I know, or you know that I know. I love things that are going to help reduce our anxiety, because maybe it does clear anxiety completely. But also I do know that if you can reduce the anxiety that you're feeling, it gives you the opportunity to then look for that root cause, maybe, and deal with it. Because when we're in a full blooded anxiety attack, then we're in the bottle. We can't read the label. We can't take a different perspective on, what's causing that anxiety to deal with the cause. Because, you know, that's where I come from, dealing with the cause, therefore, letting go of the effect, which anxiety is an effect. Anxiety leads to fear and things like that. So anything that can reduce the effect has to be a win, has to be a bonus. And, Karen will go through that with you.

 

 

Personal development unplugged podcast welcomes Karen Newell

 

So, whilst we're on the same page, we're coming from different directions, as usual, which is why I love to have people on the personal development unplugged podcast to show a diversity. What a word, eh? Used so many different ways, but it's done, in such a nice way. Someone wanting to share their thoughts, share their experiences. And we all know I've been talking about it long enough, when you share something, you get to keep it yourself, and other people get it, too. And she's also going to share a little free audio, and she'll go through that. But also, I just wanted. I found one of my other notes, and this is where we also gel so closely. It's using feelings of gratitude, and Karen will go through that, too, in this short little recording. So give that big, warm welcome to Karen Newell. Over to you, Karen.

 

 

Karen Newell says meditation can help improve mental health

 

Hello, I'm Karen Newell, co founder of Sacred Acoustics and co author of living in a mindful universe. And mental health seems to be a rather popular topic for people to talk about these days. It used to be a little bit taboo. Nobody wanted to admit that they had any mental health problems. It was kind of seen as something not to be discussed, kept behind closed doors. And thanks to a lot of, popular athletes and celebrities and other types of things, mental health has become a topic that is perfectly fine to discuss. And this is something that is very needed in our world today, because, especially anxiety seems to be rampant in our world. It, really became to be noticeable when the world entered into that shutdown because of the COVID pandemic several years ago, back in 2020. And lots of people were looking for tools on how to manage their mental health. Now, meditation is one of those tools, and meditation has been studied for several decades. It's something that's very common in eastern traditions. And it was actually the Dalai Lama who sort of spurred interest in the western world for studying meditation. And so academic institutions have discovered that meditation plays an incredibly helpful role in our physical, health and our mental health. And it can provide lots and lots of benefits. Unfortunately, for many of us in this western world, meditation is very challenging, and that's because we're used to always being active. And meditation is about sitting quietly, developing an inner focus and maintaining that focus on only one thing. And when most of us sit down to meditate, very often what we find in our inner world is that racing thoughts are constantly going and it's not quiet at all. And so we try to meditate and it just becomes more and more difficult. I know for me that was the case. I had learned about all the wonderful benefits of meditation. And then when I tried to do it, it was really hard. And I would sit quietly. I, would set the alarm for ten minutes, and it would seem like an eternity would go by before I could finish, my meditation. So it was really quite a chore and not something that I look forward to. And so I stopped doing it. I stopped and started. I kept hearing about it. And it was a particular quality of sound that really was a turning point for me. And at first it was things like gongs, tuning forks, brass bowls, crystal bowls. Some of you may be familiar with what those sound like, but usually it's sort of a monotonous kind of wavering sound wa like that, just going on and on. And usually there's lots of all of these beautiful overtones, higher frequencies, just amazing to listen to. And it really was able to capture my attention. And so I learned, wow, no wonder people use crystal bowls and brass bowls to help with meditation. And I eventually discovered a very specific type of sound known as binaural beats. And this is created using modern, software. It doesn't come from an instrument, but they're created using different, ah, sets of frequencies. So when you have one frequency in the left ear, a slightly different frequency in the right ear, what you hear, what your brain interprets that to be is a wavering sound wa very similar to what those brass bowls and gongs are emitting. And isn't it interesting, when you analyze the sound coming out of a brass bowl, a crystal bowl and so on, you'll find there's natural binaural beats in there. And so it's no wonder that recordings that, create these binaural beats, more precisely, can be very effective at quieting the mind. And I'm going to tell you why. And that is because these frequencies, like I said, you put one frequency in the left ear, a slightly different frequency in the right ear. It's the difference between those two frequencies that creates the, binaural beat. And so the difference between these two frequencies is associated with different brainwave states. So when a brain is measured using an EEG that's measuring an electric signal that's being put out by the brain in different states, we find that, zero to 4 what's emitted when someone's in the delta state. Delta is associated with sleep. Now, four to 7 associated with the theta state. And that's the state that we're in when we're in meditation or maybe a very deep kind of flow state. alpha is seven to 12. That's associated with focus, concentration, deep relaxation, but not as deep, quite as theta and beta. That's twelve to 30 hz. That's the state when we're in, when we're talking, when we're walking, when we're interacting with others. That's the state when we're often in when we sit down to try to meditate. And so it's no wonder that that beta mind keeps on putting out all of these, hopefully interesting thoughts, but usually they're just distracting and, we'd like them to quiet down. And so using these binaural beats, you can reduce that, mental activity from the beta state closer down into the alpha, theta and delta states.

 

 

Binaural beats can help with anxiety, depression and other mental health issues

 

Now, binaural beats can also be used to help people sleep. And so in that case, you would want to be listening to delta frequencies. But many of us, we want to reach that kind of deep meditative state. That's what can really help with anxiety, depression and other types of mental health issues. and so when you listen to these recordings, you're actually helping get your mind from a beta brainwave state into a theta. That state between awaken, asleep, between delta and theta is what we're looking for. That's the sweet spot. And, on sacredacoustics.com, that's the company I'm, co founder of. We create all kinds of different binaural beat recordings for different purposes. And it was the whole mind bundle. That's a collection of recordings including whole delta, whole theta and whole alpha. That whole mind bundle was used in a pilot study. We were fortunate for a psychiatrist in a busy Manhattan practice, to prescribe these recordings to her patients. She prescribed these recordings that are part of the whole mind bundle. And the same listening protocols that her patients were given are also available on sacredacoustics.com. When you acquire the homemind bundle. But when patients started listening to this, they were, guided to find the best time of day that worked for them to listen to different recordings based on their personal goals in the delta theta and alpha ranges. And what they found was after two weeks of regular listening, they found a 26% reduction in anxiety. Now, the control group were Dr. Usum's other psychiatric patients who were getting regular therapy, but who did not begin listening to these types of recordings. And they noticed in the same period of time, a 7% reduction in anxiety. So that's quite a big difference. Just by adding these recordings to their daily routine, they found a much larger decrease in anxiety. And so this is very useful meditation, which can be so challenging. These recordings help bring your brain into that meditative state without quite as much concern, and trouble. And many of us, when we try to meditate and we're unsuccessful, that just seems to create more anxiety. So finding tools that can help us are very useful. we don't need to just use one technique. We recommend that people try different techniques and find a combination of techniques that works best for you. We're all unique, and so we're not all going to benefit the same way from different styles of meditation. And so there's many types of meditation out there. Some involve chanting, some involve movement, some involve different body positions or mudras where you hold your fingers in certain ways. All of that is available for people to explore with. And the sky's the limit here on, the different types of techniques that you can combine to find what works best for you. I know for me, I found a form of sufi heart rhythm meditation to be quite useful and in combination with the sound and that involved, matching m your breath to, your actual heartbeat. So, say you would count four heartbeats of breathing as opposed to four breaths. And just that extra awareness on the heart was incredibly useful at removing me from that busy thinking mind. And so sound is very useful. Attention to the heart is very useful. One of the, most basic techniques that I often share is to imagine that your breath is moving in and out of your heart. And so it's actually still moving out of your nose and through your mouth. But just imagine, use your imagination and tell yourself, no, it's moving in and out of my heart. And you can expand that into all kinds of interesting types of experiences by imagining that your breath is moving around your body in different ways. For example, you can imagine that your breath is being released to the left side and being, inhale from the right side, exhale to the left side. my favorite one is to exhale out into a circle, a sphere or a bubble that is surrounding your entire body. And then when you inhale, all of that comes back to you, back into your heart. And so you can breathe your heart energy in and out of this bubble that surrounds your entire body. And this is not just imagination, because heartmath institute in northern California, who has been studying the heart for decades, tell us that the heart emits an electromagnetic field, and it expands and contracts around your body just like I described. And, the expansion and contraction is based on your emotional state. So if you're in a very joyful, kind, compassionate kind of state, your electromagnetic field of your heart will be much larger. If you're in more of a, sad or depressed or anxious, upset about something, then you have a much smaller heart field. And so it's expanding and contracting around our bodies, whether we realize it or not. And the beautiful thing is that it seems to affect the people around us. And so we all know what it's like to be with one of those joyful people. It seems we can really sense or feel or resonate with that person's heart energy. And then, of course, we know what it's like to be around people that kind of make us uncomfortable, where maybe there's less resonance between our heart and their heart. And so I feel as though this is something that all of us can really take to heart, literally speaking, is to be aware that this is how our hearts are functioning. And if each of us can take the time to clear any anxieties, unprocessed emotions, anything that we're holding in our heart that's not beneficial or helpful to ourselves and to those around us, when we take the time to clear all of that, it's not only helping yourself, it's helping all those around you. And that's another thing that these binaural beat audio recordings are useful for some people. When they listen to these recordings, they will find that they get emotional and they won't necessarily understand why. but the idea there is to allow whatever emotion pops up in that moment, just imagine that it's being released. It's coming up because it wants your attention. And now you can allow it to release. And like layers of an onion, over time, you can peel back all of these sort of unprocessed emotional traumas from your life. And as you do this, you'll find that your heart, rather than holding on to those hurts that weren't properly processed, it gets replaced. It gets replaced with something else. And that is the essence of who you truly are.

 

 

Another heart exercise that's very useful is to generate feelings of gratitude

 

And another heart exercise that's very useful, that really is just critical to any of this, is to generate feelings of gratitude in the heart. And this isn't thinking of things to be grateful for. This is feeling gratitude. And so this can be very challenging. I know it was for me. And over time, it took the kind of act of recalling events from my past that made me feel joyful. And for me, that memory eventually settled, on puppies. I was enamored with puppies when I was a child. I still love dogs to this day. And imagining being with these puppies or dogs is what got that first spark of gratitude to be felt in my heart. And the more any of us can take the time to generate just simple feelings of gratitude, imagine that those feelings of gratitude are residing in your heart. And knowing how the heart function works, it's actually expanding and contracting and sharing that gratitude with the world around you. And so knowing how all of this works can be very useful. And if anyone wants to learn more about sacred acoustics, we have a website, sacredacoustics.com. You can go there and enter your email address, and we'll send you a free 20 minutes recording. Some people, this is the only recording they ever use as part of their practice. This recording is, some people's favorite, and so we hope that you'll be able to use that to determine if binaural beats would be helpful to you in your daily practice. And then also look for the whole mind bundle. Again, that's the set of recordings that was used in the pilot study showing a reduction in anxiety after two weeks of listening. These recordings were made available at the beginning of, 2020, when the first shutdowns of the pandemic first started happening. That's when this pilot study got published in a medical journal, the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, in February of 2020. And so in March, that's when suddenly everyone was faced with, a new life of staying at home, perhaps, and, finding new, innovative, things to do with your time. And so we made those recordings, available for free at that time, and they still remain available for free because the anxiety in our world has not decreased quite enough. And so we would love for people to have access to those with no financial barrier. They're also available for a small, fee. But it's up to you what you're able to spend on these recordings, and you can access these. And anyone who takes time to do this, please accept my gratitude for taking time to go within and to clearing any anxiety and unprocessed emotions that you have using some of these heart exercises that I've shared, and also these audio recordings. Anyone who takes time to do this. Please accept my gratitude for helping yourself, because as you're helping yourself, you're helping all those around you. And for that, I thank you.

 

Hey, friends. Isn't that good? Karen Newell from sacred Acoustics. And you must go and get that free recording and give it a go. And please get in touch with Karen via her website to let her know how much you enjoyed her talk. Because we really do want to have a better life, don't we? We want to be free of anxiety. And there'll always be something, I guess will make us a little bit anxious now and again. But when we know how we can deal with it, then when things come along, we deal with it. That's what it is. We have that positive belief. Done it before. I'll do it again. I've, got this. It's those type of subtle, positive beliefs that allow us to be free, and then we can have those feelings of gratitude that just make everything in the world different for us. Because when we have that gratitude, you're telling your unconscious mind we've got it right. This is the thing. This feeling is the thing that I enjoy. It makes me feel so good. And when I feel this good feeling, this grateful, it means I'm safe, which is that one thing your unconscious mind has to do. Not just the one thing, but it's one of the main things your unconscious mind has to do, cannot not do it. It has to keep you safe. And, once you show your unconscious mind the experiences that you're having right now by feeling grateful, then it makes such a difference. So once again, thank you so much to Karen, and thank you so much to you. And if you found this a benefit, please do email me, too. Feedback at personal developmentunplugged.com. Just let me know your experiences, and, also let me know if you would. Do you like these little snippets of people coming into our world via personal development unplugged, the podcast, sharing what they know. I love it, by the way. I love it. I said I wouldn't do it. There's my little baby. The, unplugged personal development podcast. Personal development, unplugged. It's like my little baby, but I love sharing that, too. To give other people a platform, but it's not the platform to, it's a platform to share. That's what I'm trying to say. And when you get it, you could share it, too. And that would be. And then he said, awesome. That would be absolutely wonderful if you would share the things that you learn here. So please do that. Please let me know as I say, if you like guests coming along, and if so, do you know somebody maybe you'd like? You think they've got something to share? Or maybe it's even you. Maybe you have something to share. And that would be a great thing to do. If we just have a small recording of your wins, your celebrations. That would be awesome. That's just a thought that come into my mind, may go somewhere, may not, but I've put it a seed into your mind now because it's easy to do. We've all got a phone. We can record something easily, effortlessly, and make a difference in the world. Because that's what it's all about, isn't it? Making a difference to us, which makes a difference to the people around us. And, makes a positive difference to little old planet earth. It's that real ecological way of making a difference in not just your life, but everyone's life, being the change you want to see in others. And all those wonderful mimi type things, those ones are the real good things. So again, please enjoy Karen's free recordings and let me know. So until next time, my friend, I am so grateful of your company, and I'm very grateful of Karen putting herself out. Because there's so many people who asked to come on, this little platform of ours. They talk the talk, but they cannot do the walk. And Karen has definitely done the walk today. So thank you so much again. So until next time, my friend, just find those benefits of meditation, sound, and enjoy.

 

 

Personal development unplugged. It's time to fly on your own

 

it's time to fly. Bye bye, now.

 

Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friends.

 

Personal development unplugged.

Getting our feet wet and expecting something different

From a recent experience of a client worrying that they didn't feel the same as the last session - why was that?

That made me think, why would anything we feel be exactly the same as before and let our expectations guide our judgments?

Have you had something similar? Let's muse for 5 minutes and see what we can learn forthe future and come and get your feet wet again.

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A Slap In The Face

A metaphorical one in the kisser!

Now this episode is personal and a little embarrassing being not what you know but doing what you know or not doing. It will make sense   :O)

We all know the saying "First things first" don't we? Again we are getting into that realm of knowing and doing or in this case ...........

As you know, if you're a regular listener, I have talked in the past about wheels and spokes, buckets, and all things about what our lives and personal development are made up of. Well I was getting more frustrated and demotivated the more I looked at my 'stuff' and then it came

The Slap!

The one in the kisser!

And now I understand and am on my way again.

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And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism

Here's your heads up to this longer podcast, the metaphorical. Metaphorical, metaphorical slap in the face. Learning about something and where we're headed. The ultimate vision of who we really want to be. We strive to be. We're inspired to be. That's where we're going. Something I learned about myself. Bit embarrassing, but hey, ho, that's what we're going to do, and we're going to dive straight in.

No introduction about the personal development unplugged podcast

No introduction about the personal development unplugged podcast. You know it. And if you don't, I'm sure you'll find out. Okay, have a listen. It's more interesting to listen than my introduction. Okay, have a listen right now. Personal. Personal develop. Personal developer. well, a slap in the face. A slap in the face. There's a title for you, and it wasn't a literal slap in the face, although it did feel like a little bit. It's some metaphorical slap in the face that I got from me. I slapped myself in the face.

When you go out to make improvements, you can't not make an. Improvement, can you

So let's do first things first, because.

We don't always do that, do we?

And that's how I found out the hard way. So this is a personal sharing, as it were. I like to share personal stuff.

Don't tell anybody about this because it's personal me to you, and it's embarrassing. It's em barassing to me because it shows.

And showed me this wasn't the slap in the face, but it could have been.

It's not what you know, it's doing what you know that counts.

And here's sort, of an example. Way back in February 2019, four years.

Ago,and in my notes, I swore, swore to myself, two episodes, hashtag one.

Two, three and one, two, four.

Wheels and buckets, and they're all about what you want to do with your life.

Diffeent buckets for different areas of your life. Wheels, different. They're all the same theme. Every wheel was a different area of my life. So I'm going to have to do another one. I think I'm going to have to do another one on that because put it all together.

So embarrassingly, and this.

Is the embarrassing part I've been working.

On myself, just like you. I don't stop.

I know I've got things that I need to change, and we can. And every time we grow, we grow, and there's other things we can add to it. We've got new experiences, new learning, so we can keep making those improvements.

And I have made improvements.

You see, when you go out to make improvements, you can't not make an.

Improvement, can you, really?

But you have to look back. You have to look back because you might say to yourself, well, maybe Cloughie, I do try, but I don't notice.

The improvements I've made.

 

And that's why we have to do.

 

That review, because any changes that you've made are now your new normal.

 

And your new normal tends to be.

 

Well, what issues, what issues did I have in that area?

And you have to look back and go, oh, yeah, I was a right old so and so doing that type of stuff.

But now I've changed.

Now you're going to say cloughy, you've told me this before. Yes, I know, and I do repeat.

on this podcast.

But there's a reason for that repetition. Tony Robbins used to say, repetition is.

A mother of skill.

And it's a reminder, a re reminder, because we need reminders. It's amazing how many times we hear.

Something, but it doesn't go in.

And then there's just that one time.

When, oh, yeah, I seem to remember that.

Yeah.

And there's things I want to get.

To grip with different areas of me.

I want to get to grip with new things now.

And that's what happens, because we realize how far we've moved, where we are now and now where we look to the future. What else do I want to do? What can I strive for?

Do you get that now?

What can I strive for next? Hopefully not too many things, because we get overwhelmed, and that's when we get procrastination. So if you're suffering procrastination or overwhelm, just dial it back a little bit. Dial it back. How many things am I trying to do at Once?

Because you can't.

I like to think of each area of my life as being a wheel

Anyway, back to my story, back to.

My wheels and, my spokes. What the hell are you talking about, cloughy? Well, to me, instead of having buckets, different areas of my life. I like to think of each area of my life as being a wheel. Not the old wheel of life that people talk about or used to talk about. They still do, where you would split up a wheel up into different segments, and each segment would be an area.

Of your life, and you'd shade in.

Where you thought you were up to in your life and then go, well, if that was a wheel and you were riding a car. How bumpy would that be? You got to work on those areas.

To pull them all up.

But I found that just having one.

Area was too big, too vague, which.

Is why I said a wheel is an area of my life. But the spokes in between, they're the things that make up the wheel. So you could have a wheel for health, and the spokes might be exercise.

Could be diet, could be what you.

Et, not when you eat, but things like, supplements.

Maybe it's rest, sleep, who knows? That's health.

But then there's lots of other things.

Relationships and things like that. And I know I have to do this, and I don't like the have.

To, and I know I need to do this, and I don't like the word need, and I should do this and I should. It should be. I want to should. There's a should in there already, isn't there? We should all over ourselves.

And, I know I really want to do this. And I started again, and I got.

This lovely little notebook, and it's all divided. It was bought to me from my son. And I've got little yellow, little yellow pages in between with lots of other pages in between. So I thought, to me, that's it. Every yellow page will be the start of a new wheel, and every page.

Will be a spoke within that wheel.

And then I just got into it, and then I found myself. I started. Have you ever done this? You start with the best of intentions.

And it's not the intention, I would go to, but it's like the best of intentions.

I want to do this.

It's a good idea.

But I tell myself off now because I found myself. I didn't carry on.

I didn't keep it going, did bits and pieces.

I did the gym. I worked out a, lot of my health work about the exercises, because.

That was an easy one. I knew that.

So I was writing down stuff I knew and the sort of stuff I was doing, but because of that, it wasn't that motivational. I wasn't motivated to carry on with the hard stuff.

And then I just didn't do it.

And then I got the biggest slap in the face.

Just like that.

I thought to myself, I'm doing all this stuff towards a bloody.

What?

Cloughie.

What are you doing?

What is this towards?

What are you trying to do?

I've got all the wheels. Got all the spokes. Well, I haven't got the spokes. I got the wheels, but I didn't.

Bother to get the spokes, but, I'm now questioning, are they the right ones?

Well, they're not wrong, but could I do better ones?

And even that didn't sort of, sort.

Of get me motivated. And then there it was again. Another slap in the face. I was metaphorically pretty dazed by then. You see what happened? It suddenly got to me, this big aha moment.

You dick, Cloughie, you're dope. Not good dope, but dopey.

Old dopey.

Dopey Cloughie.

You have to have the ultimate vision that you've got in the moment

I reminded myself, I've been talking about ultimate visions. The best version of yourself, the best version of us, me, you.

And can you imagine it? Well, I could. Not quite in the detail I wanted to at the moment, but I've talked.

About it so much about him.

It's all in your imagination. And by the way, ultimate vision is never going to be ultimate because it's.

Going to keep evolving, you're going to find ways to keep improving, but you have to have the ultimate vision that you've got in the moment. And I did one of these a long time ago.

I did a lovely ultimate vision in.

My early days of NLP, I wrote out my ultimate vision and it was beautifully typed. I put it in a lovely font, I put it on a six by.

Four card and it was lovely.

And it was load of balls, really. Well, it wasn't then. It was what I was going to aspire to. But when I look at it, or when I looked at it again not too long ago, I thought to myself, I've changed so much, so much of those words now. are they nice words?

But they're no longer appropriate to me. They don't fit. I need to move on.

Well, I have moved on and I need to move this ultimate vision and.

I started to think about it.

First things first. What's the intention of having wheels, spokes, buckets, whatever you want to improve this personal development. The intention is to be the best.

Version of yourself, isn't it?

So it's a big picture? The big picture, the most best version. The real me, the best real me I can think of. That's my intention. That's where I'm going. And everything else now will fit inside that.

Paul: I wanted to know who I want to aspire to be

First things first. So before thinking of the sections, I.

Wanted to know who I want to aspire to be.

To what end as well. What would happen if I, you know, what, that ultimate vision of myself, what would that pull do? be

Because it's the ultimate vision of me.

So what did I do? I started to see myself doing my little visualization, but then I was doing it writing down, because you know what I say, you got to write that sucker down.

So in that book, I found a.

Blank page before for all the other.

Stuff I've done, and I wrote down everything I could about that me, I.

Aspire to be to, or I aspire to be that ultimate vision, that best version of myself. I wrote everything I could.

What would the beliefs, that ultimate vision, that ultimate me, the best version of me have? And they weren't the beliefs I have.

Now, but there are the beliefs. I know that if I had them, well, it would be amazing. What about the values? The values that ultimate vision of me would hold himself to? And I wrote those down.

And the good thing, well, to me.

I felt good about that because they.

Were the same values that I have in me now.

It's all about being trust, honesty. But then a new one popped in.

Loyalty.

yeah, they come together. And then I started to think, well.

When that ultimate version of me, that.

Best version of me is living a life with these wonderful, powerful beliefs about my identity, who I believed I was with, the wonderful values, the things that were really important to me, that me out there, what emotions would I experience more of, what behaviors would I do.

The high level behaviors that, I would hold myself to, and, what would those behaviors begin to attract or do?

And there was things like being non.

 

Judgmental, because I'm a little bit judgmental sometimes, you. But being open minded, being kind, looking deeper. and I went on and on, and it made me quite emotional to write it, to think, where is this all coming from?

 

And then I realized it's coming from me, cloughy, it's inside you.

So if it's inside you to write.

Down, you know, you can aspire to be there because you've got those skills. All you have to do is start. How do you do that?

How do you start to use them?

I didn't finish that sentence off, but I jumped in. You can start to think of, well, what would happen if I acted as.

If I was the ultimate vision. Yeah, I probably won't get it all. I know I won't, but I'll get a lot further, lot nearer if I act as if.

And now when I think about it, and I just think of how I would act, how that ultimate vision of.

Me would be, I can now visualize.

It so much more.

I can visualize me, cloughy Paul out there.

And then I can start to say.

Well, what would the wheels the sections of my life, the content and whatever. What would be the real special, specific.

Wheels that make up that ultimate vision?

Me.

And then the spokes that are part.

Of that ultimate vision.

And you see, now I've got that. Can you tell my voice has changed? I've just noticed my voice has changed because I'm more motivated to start working on it. Really looking at those wheels and the spokes.

 

So that's what I'm going to do. Maybe I said about another, I think this is going to have to be another pod as well. So another pod, another episode. That's, if you're interested, of how we.

Can really get that ultimate vision in.

Our heads, I think I've given you.

A good idea, but if you wanted.

A bit more help with maybe like a little process to do that, a little visualization in an episode, we could do that. And then how we can take that into wheels, spokes, buckets, whatever you like.

And the whole thing about this is it's bloody simple.

And to do it, all you need to do is those simple steps, the simple steps that I'm taking.

And it is an. And it's exciting. It's exciting. Now let me know.

Let me know if that's of interest.

To you and we'll do another episode.

I'd love to know what your thoughts are about this. Is it inspiring or has it inspired you? I'm not an inspiring speaker, but does it inspire you?

A little bit.

And, just as a re reminder, my meta view of this one, just looking down on everything I'd been talking about or thinking about and writing about.

Paul Clough: Think about what your intention is when thinking about personal developmen

First things first. Before we start, set your blood. Think about what your intention is. No, I thought my intention was to work out the bits and pieces. No, my first intention was, where am I headed?

 

What do I expect? What am I looking for? Now?

You might say, oh, maybe I.

Missed out all these years, all these.

Months, all these days, but it's never.

Too late because we're always evolving and.

You have to, so we're always starting over. So I wonder how curious you couldbe about that and doing what, you.

Know, actually doing and not just knowing what, you know, doing what, you know, the mastery of you bringing back that intention. There you go. There you go. I hope there's a few golden. Gold. Yeah, Goldie golden nuggets out there for you. And you feel inspired to give yourself a metaphorical slap in the face. Oh, dough. As homer from the Simpsons would say, and start to think about personal development. Where am I going what is my ultimate vision of me? Who do I aspire to be? Yeah. And if you could share this with other people, that'd be awesome. I always like you to share. It would be great if you do. Because if everyone just gets that little glimmer of moving towards your ultimate vision, it's what we're put on this, I believe, put on this little old planet earth to do, to be it's growth, evolving and creating new things as we do it. And everyone gets a benefit. So if you could share this, that would be awesome. Press that subscribe follow button, all that, all that stuff I say. And email me if you want another episode in this or what part of it you'd like even more detail on. And that's feedback at personal developmentunplugged.com. And you can catch me on Twitter, or x or whatever it is now. And Instagram all that stuff. Have a little look, just google my name, unplugged and all that stuff, and you'll see my face and you'll know it's me because I'll have all that I have, put up all my reels and things like that. Anyway, until the next time, my friend. This has been fun. I enjoyed this. So let's have a good one and fly. Oh, and also have more fun than you can.

You are now leaving the uncloved mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friends.

Personal development unplugged.

 

Showing up - More often

Because sometimes we don't

In this wonderful world of personal development, we are constantly told to show up, be our best self, and be vulnerable by singing from our voice and it's a good thing to do

and in this episode, I'm here to give you permission not to - WHAT!

It's okay to strive to show up and sometimes forget because that's life and if we can aim to be consistent in learning from those times. Then we will show up more often. We don't learn from getting down on ourselves but we will if we're kind to ourselves (and others)

When we do we get to show up more often - well that's the basis of this 5 minute muse

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Paul

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Dealing With The Past - Simply

Let's take 5 minutes or so to think about memories, those ones from the past - do they really exist, does the past really exist, and if so where?

And I know we have been here before, in the past, and that no longer exists - does it

And if it doesn't exist why does it feel so real and affect me so much? Exactly - that's where we going in the next few minutes if you wish to press play.

But I have a question for you to ask your unconscious mind of those annoying looping memories and then they tend to just disappear back into the past where they belong.

There's probably another longer episode to come from this Oooooo! I'll send you an email and tell you what I think of Paul I hear you think  'O)

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Dealing With Anger PART 2

Diving into the 'How To'

So now we get to learn more about the intention of anger and how it really is an inappropriate emotion. We can see examples where others have used it to propel their lives, using the energy contained in the emotion and that's ok, I guess, if you don't hold onto it.

Can you think of better emotions to use? I can and I'm also guessing if you were to remember times you achieved a goal and enjoyed the process anger was at the back of the queue  :O)

If you haven't listened to part 1 it would help you get the best out of this part 2 and guide you to make changes - Anger doesn't only affect those with it but all those close to them and so will letting go of anger. Do it for yourself and others to get the benefit. win-win-win-win

So come dive in with me and find ways to release anger and the end of those stories

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This is part two of the personal development unplugged podcast

Heads up. This is part two. Part two? The second part. That's what a part two is, of dealing with anger. This is where we deal with the process of letting it go and changing, creating the life we want. So I. You haven't listened to part one. Please do, because it will make so much more sense, obviously. So have a listen to part one, and then if you want, then you can come straight into this. So that'll be fine. Absolutely. Superb. So here we go. I know it's important to you. Have a listen after this.

Okay, my friend, welcome back. Hopefully, now you've listened to part one, getting ready to let go, make the changes you want. Create a rich life. Because you'll be amazed. You'll be amazed when things change. Your new normal will be so rich. And in fact, I believe over time, you'll forget the old life, uh, the old way, because it no longer served you. It will no longer serve you anyway. But it's all been done. We're going to create that new way of being so it's really exciting, isn't it? I think it's really exciting. And if you remember in the first part, told you a little bit about the, uh, positive intention behind anger, trying to protect you. It's a secondary emotion. It comes in after fight and flight, and fight and flight is what protects you. Anyway, it's hardwired, as we said in your neurology. So no worries. You're always going to be protected. And what we want now is to create a way that you use the learnings, the learnings from the past, so you can be safe and therefore you can access better, uh, more appropriate emotions, behaviors and beliefs. Because when you do that, you're going to be so protected, but feeling comfortable, feeling good. And that's where we're going to be going in a short while. You remember those stories I was telling you about the guy who came and saw me with all that anger? Remember that NLP guy came up on for his presentation? And Geoff Thompson? We're going to finish those shortly. But first of all, I want you to find a comfortable place. And this is not hypnosis, by the way. You might find you're going to go inside because you're going to use your memory and maybe a little bit of imagination. So if you can find a place where you're going to be undisturbed, you're going to want to be writing things down. And I know when people go, oh, bloody hell, do I have to? Yes, it's so important that you write this bugger down, because in order to get the real depth of this, when you write it down, you have to go inside and find the right words, find, uh, how to communicate your thoughts in your head to the paper. And that makes this process so much more deeper and more connection, uh, I believe a more deeper connection with your unconscious mind. So yes, you do have to write it down. And the other bonus of that is you can come back, come back at any time, and especially in the second part of this process, you can come back and add to it, add to the things that are going to make your life richer. And I think that's important because when we come back, and it's also a great reminder, or a re reminder, as my son hates me to say, a re reminder. It's a re reminder of your commitment, your commitment to change and what you're going to get and what you're aiming for. Because we have to have an intention, and our intention is what we anticipate to achieve. I believe, and I like even go to expect this is our expectation. So you have your intention, and you may be able to visualize it from the words. Well, you will. You'll be able to visualize it from the words that you write down. And you'll be able to see a new you, a new you that is doing all the things that you want it to want him to do, her, uh, to do whichever way around you are. But it is so important that you can come back to this and, uh, even look at it and go, do you know what? I'm going to make that even better because now I know the process. I can make it even better. I will make it even better. I'm going to start to think about consequences, opportunities, because that's where we're going to start going. I'm not going to give you all now because we're going to go through the process, but I just want you to find that place where you'll be generally undisturbed, so you don't need complete solitude, but it's somewhere where you can focus and think about or use your thinking. Go inside and just muse and then write on your paper. So go and find a comfortable place, that quiet place, and set your intention, your expectation of releasing this negative emotion of anger and finding wonderful ways to put in place of the old way. And you don't know what they are yet, but we're going to go there. Okay, so get ready, and then we'll jump into the second part of this.

 

 

Ask yourself what negative emotion is costing you today or in the past

 

There you go. Okay, let's get there. Now you see what happens. Say we were to look down upon it and what we're going to ask, we're going to ask ourselves some questions. But what I have to say to you is, if you're going to do this with me, if you're going to do this, you're going to need a pen and paper because we're going to have to write it down. As I said, we're going to look down on our life, as it were. Ask ourselves some questions, get some answers. But you have to do both. Don't just do it 50 50 because we're going to do some negatives and we want to do the positives. Don't want to leave anybody in anything. So remember, I'm a therapist, and your therapist, if you want to do this, it's not a big deal, but just do the. Just do it all. So I want you to write down, first of all, what you think that emotion is. Uh oh, maybe it's. And you can swear and do whatever you like. If it's anger, or whatever, you can write it down on the top of the page, right in the middle. If it's a mind map, if you're doing a mind map, just draw a line down the middle, because we're going to have the one side and then we're going to have difference on the other side and the first one. The question is, what's it costing you? So let's just refine that a little bit. What has it cost you? And, um, write that down. Be honest with yourself. What's it bloody cost you? It'll probably cost you relationships. It might have cost you jobs, it might have cost you maybe physical things. Maybe you've done damage. What has it cost you in the past? And write those down. And when you write those down, you're going to say, be honest. Just go through all those. Not all the times, but the one, the significant ones that come to mind. What has it cost you today? Let's be honest. Because if it's costing you things which are negative, then your unconscious mind is going to start to see, oh, it's not working, is it? Because everything, the effects of this are, uh, negative. And then I want you to think, well, okay, what's it costing me right now, today, holding on to this? And it could well be your health, could be finance, could be relationships, not just necessarily romantic relationships. It could be the family, friends, social work colleagues. Write it down. Write the answers down. All on the same side. Right or left, I don't care. And then what would be the consequences if you were to choose to continue to have this emotion and think about that? Just don't go mad. We got to be realistic. But what would the cost be? What would be the consequence if you continued to choose this anger or this negative emotion? We'll go with anger. And when you look at all of that, you might just want a summary. You can ask yourself, well, how is this working for me? And you know how the answer is. It nearly swore. It's not. It's not at all, is it? But I want you to be really honest with yourself, to know that your unconscious mind is doing something for a positive reason. But what are the effects now? Might have worked at the very first time, maybe the second time, but after that, it diminishes, and now it's causing you harm, it's causing you negative effects through negative behaviors, negative emotions. And then you've got the other side of the paper again. You got to write this down and make sure you do it.

 

 

What beliefs would you rather have about yourself? And they'd be positive

 

How would you rather be? Just think, how would you rather be. So what beliefs would you rather have about yourself? And they'd be positive. They're not, I'm not angry person, because that's a negative. I'm not angry. Now, how would you be? Maybe how I would rather be is a loving person, a kind person, maybe gentle. I don't know. That came to my mind. Just what belief would you have? And it's going to start off with I'm. Even if it's the subtle one, like, I'm okay, I've got this. I can deal with this easily, effortlessly. I'm the type of person that stands up for myself in the appropriate manner. So what beliefs would you have about yourself? Because these are identity beliefs of how you would rather be in place of the old way. So no negatives. So I would rather believe I'm not angry person. No, that we want these in the positive. How would you be if you had this right now, the way you want to be? What would you believe in yourself and write those buggers down. What emotions would you have instead in place of the old anger? So it might be calmness, might be an awareness, maybe reflection, maybe just feeling of comfortable. I love comfortable. Because when you're comfortable, you can access all different things. You can access different emotions. Thoughtful, empathetic. If you like empathy, you can have anything you want. There's one beginning with a common I can always forget the bloody thing, but that's the one I want. Now what behaviors would you have in place instead of the old one? Reflect on the behaviors that would come from those emotions. So if you're, I don't know, just say you were comfortable, well, maybe you would walk differently, you would breathe differently, wouldn't you? You'd probably see things more clearly. You'd be able to talk to yourself in a different way, wouldn't you? How would you like to talk to yourself in place of the old way? And as you think of that, you're seeing in some ways, and I know you've got to, got to see it. Even if you don't see it in perfect 2020 vision, somewhere in your mind's eye there's a vision of yourself. How, uh, you'd like to be believing about yourself in such a positive way, accessing really good positive emotions, having the behaviors, using the learnings you've learnt along with all the experiences. And when you're like that, how would affect you in the world? What would the effect be on you personally? I'm sure you'd be more healthier, I'm sure you'd have more opportunities. I'm sure your esteem would grow because you can be a warrior, huh? But you can also be a lover. You can be not a comedian, but have humor. You put those three together, that's a wonderful combination. So what would the effect of on you be when you're believing in yourself in that positive way, positive emotions and those behaviors, and how would that affect others, the people around you, your close friends, maybe closer than that. Uh, those one to one relationships. What about family? How would it affect your family? How would it affect you at your work, maybe in your social life, your health, life? M how would affect your prospects for living and life? And when you think about that, what would be the consequences of being like that? What are the opportunities that are going to come your way that in the past wouldn't at all, but now, when you're like this, what are those opportunities? What dreams could you have and believe they could become true? And when you imagine all of that as one, what would that feel like? And try to describe that feeling. You have to write this down. You have to. There's no, well, I can think about it. Cloughie. Uh, I can do this. No, you have to write all of these down because it's your reminder. You can go back to all of this. You can schedule some thinking time and expand upon it. You can do it daily, and then you can see the changes. You can make it richer. So you schedule in this and you imagine one of the things, how would I act? As if I was to act as if I have those beliefs, those emotions and behaviors, and the learnings and the experiences and those wonderful goals, how would I act? And if I was to act as if right now, what would that be like? And describe it. Yes, a lot of writing, but it's going to be so worthwhile. And it doesn't have to be pages and pages, but it's so worthwhile. So when you schedule just thinking, maybe just daily seeing that you, it's a bit like that ultimate vision of yourself, but just imagine yourself having let go and now acting as if see yourself over there being that person has all the beliefs, attributes, emotions, behaviors, the skills, and is continued learning and is starting to take those opportunities that come their way. And I'll tell you what happens when you do that. We were talking about, um, that NLP man within minutes on the stage, and it was literally probably about 1520 minutes. He had tears at the end of it, but there were tears of joy. Tears of joy, because he suddenly realized, I don't need that anymore. I've let it go. And he could see in his future, just, as I said, the consequences now of the change that he'd made. And we saw him during the training. From that moment on, he was a great participant practitioner up to then, but he just got so much more out of the training. And I know he went to see various, uh, people to explain just things, and he felt so much stronger for it.

 

 

What happened when Geoff Thompson channeled and learnt from his anger

 

So what happened to Geoff Thompson, this bruiser, this bouncer? I mean, he's like five black belts in five different bloody ways. He said he can kill you in five different ways and all that stuff. But what happened when he channeled and learnt from his anger, when he used that energy, first of all, to write, but write books that help people, help people create lives for themselves to be able to deal with the things that he dealt with. He also wrote, um, film place. Film place, scripts for films, whatever it is. And they were really emotional. This is this big bruiser now writing screenplays. And what happened? He won a bloody BAFTA. He's been writing plays. He's got books. He does talks, and he inspires people. I've talked about him before. He's such a lovely man. So he's let go of the anger, and he's learned from it. I believe he's learned. He says he's channeled it into doing all this stuff, but I just think his unconscious mind has learned from it. It's no longer protecting. How can we use that energy into different things? So it's just using the energy, not using the anger. That's my view. And, uh, what happened to my client? Well, he came back after the session, and I didn't know he was coming back. And, uh, my sons had taken. Had made the appointment for me. And when I saw it in the diary, I thought to myself, oh, bugger. Maybe it didn't work. That's the first thing. It's like that negative thing you think of. Oh, no. You always think the worst. Don't we? We do. Oh, no, it hasn't worked. But he came in and said, I'm going to pay for this session, but I don't want a session. I want to sit here and talk to you and explain to you what's happened. And he told me, he said, I've been to the doctor. I'll have been to the hospital. My body is now getting better. Everything is starting to get better and get, uh. Uh. All the dials are getting more positive. And all this stuff. I say dials because they don't look quite big. All his metabolism everything was changing for the positive back to normal health. He said, my son, we don't live together because we found out really he needs his time, his space, and so do I. But we meet and we meet often, and we have this wonderful connection now. He said, just as special, he said, you don't know where I've been last weekend, do you? I ain't got bloody clue. So I'll tell you where I've been, Paul. I've just come back from the christening of my granddaughter, and I stayed with my daughter and her husband and my granddaughter, and I was at the christening. And that's all down to letting go. These are the consequences to him of letting go of that anger and being able to access those positive beliefs, the emotions, the behaviors, and learning from everything. And yes, two of those people, my NLP man, or Joseph's NLP man, my man, they were based or, uh, used processes. But the processes, in some ways, what I've explained to you, learning from the past and then learning how you can change and be better in the future. Geoff Thompson, he created that same, I believe, similar process. He learned from the past, learned what was working. He knew if he carried on, it would have been a disaster, the consequences. And he decided to change and channel that energy into the good. So that's exactly what we've done today or in this episode. And so that really means I've put equals an equal sign in my notes. So can you. But there's a couple of pre work credits. One is you have to decide what you want and you have to decide to be it. Uh, acting as if. Just act as if you've got everything you need. Yes, I know you haven't done the work yet, but if you were just to act as it, that would change everything straight away and would give you the platform, the foundations. But when you look at what it's cost you and look what you can do in future and write down the things that would do that. Because here's the thing. If you say, well, I want to be calm, you've got calm inside you because you wouldn't know you wanted it. If you wanted to have whatever emotion or whatever behavior, you can learn it. And I know you've already got it in you anyway, because if you didn't know about it, you wouldn't know to want it or think it would be good. And these are the learnings you are using your conscious mind. End with your unconscious mind to learn. Learn what will work because they're coming from the experiences that your unconscious mind has missed because it's been using that old negative emotion of, say, anger. So you have to decide this or something better. That's what you have to ask when you do this, this or something better because that's then putting the lowest bar and you're going to achieve it more and more.

 

 

Take charge, decide, become the driver of your bus, not be a passenger

 

Now, as you know, there's a couple of things I want to finish off with. One of the things I wanted to tell you, I always put these notes on the side of my paper and, uh, what I want to tell you, what was this all about? And one of the things was, don't put up with it. Take charge, decide, become the driver of your bus, not be a passenger. Get empowered. Because when you're empowered you're at. Cause you're taking responsibility. We talk about, I can do this, I get to do this good. And here's the real thing, which is that taking responsibility, it's up to you and only you. No, don't give me any excuses or don't give yourself any excuses. Oh, I couldn't do it because of. No, no one makes you, you make you, you choose. Once you've choose and use the will to do whatever you, whatever you can, the will to do whatever you need to do, you'll get there.

 

 

If you want more help on personal development, ask Paul Clough

 

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Dealing With Anger PART 1

Another episode based on a listener's email telling of their battle with anger and how the effects were ruining every part of their life. And I know this is not an isolated issue having worked with clients with debilitating anger.

It affects most of us to some degree or other and it is not, I beleive, acceptable in any way and yes I too have and do work on this.

I have split this between two episodes, so they are just the right size to get it and the work on it. Even if you say to yourself Well I'm not an angry person - you don't have to be angry all the time to work on it - deal with the snowball before it grows bigger as it slowly rolls down the hill - nip it in the bud.

The stories I share are of real people and how quickly they were able to let go of their anger and the effects when they did.

And you won't have to wait long for the second episode as I've swapped it with the next FMQ.

It's so important to learn about the negative emotions in our lives and how we can deal with them quickly and comfortably so please share this episode - you will never know how far the effect of doing so will travel.

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Hey, your heads up. Heads up to the longer podcast. It's another listener question, and it's about dealing with anger, excessive anger, anger that is really destroying a person's life and the people in their life. We're going to go through that. I'm going to give you some stories, true stories, of what can be achieved easily, and effortlessly, and also a process that you can use. So get a pen and paper. Yes, it means writing, but do that because it's so important. So have a listen after this little intro, and then we'll get right into it.

 

Oh, and I forgot, I've decided to split this up into two sections. I'm not going to leave you hanging. So it goes over a week to week, because I think it's important that once you start the process, you dive straight into it and you keep that motivation. But it was a long recording and I wanted you to get the basics. And, then in the second recording, actually sit down and work through the process so there's no distractions, no tiredness, no laziness. Say laziness. But I mean trying to put putting things off. You can actually concentrate and focus for that shorter period of time. And really home in onto that process or processes, because it's a process, but processes, they're all together. So bear with me because this is important. So, first part is setting the foundations, setting the scene, starting off the stories, and then part two will be getting into the process and, well, completing the stories. I hope, that's okay with you. And I say I won't keep you hanging. The next episode will be in the next couple of days or so. Okay. Hello. Hello.

 

 

The longer podcast from personal development unplugged is about anger

 

The longer podcast from personal development unplugged is with me, Paul, and I have another question, a, listener's question. So, one of the five or so listeners who are with you listening here. And it's all about bloody anger. Anger. I think we all get anger of some degree or another, don't we? But sometimes anger can be a real swearing, a real nightmare, a, ah, nightmare for the people who have the anger, and a nightmare for the people who have to suffer it along around them. So, anger has so many negative effects. It's a negative emotion. In my mind, it's a completely negative emotion and has no benefit. I've argued that for quite a few times, because some people think anger actually motivates them, and it can do, and I'll give you a story about that. But I don't think it's the best, emotion if you want motivation. But sometimes if you got it, you just got to maybe use it until you find a better way. You see, I know of people who have really suffered, really suffered with anger and the effects, and it's ruined their lives or it ruined their life at the time, because I've also seen it disappear in, in one case, literally minutes within one session. And that was when the time was right, the process was right. And I guess two people in the right place, because this was a long time ago, a long time ago, one of my early days, early days seeing clients. And this guy came along and said, I've got this terrible, terrible anger. It's so bad that my doctor has told me I need to find some type of psychological help, which is why I've come to you. Because everything within my body physically is going downhill, and in time, it will actually kill me. Oh, blimey, Riley. I thought to myself, this is a biggie. And I said, okay, well, we can do. Sure, I'm sure. Let's just start talking. He said, now, before you do that, I just want to make sure you can, if you're any good, because I said, let's have a look. He said, well, I want you to stop me smoking. Help me stop smoking. If you can help me stop smoking, then I'll trust you with this biggie. And I said, well, maybe the smoking is helping you. Every behavior is a positive intent, just like the anger. But maybe that smoking is helping you deal with the anger. And if we take that away, he said, no, no, I want to see how good you are. So we did it. And he came back, said, yeah, that's fine, dandy.

 

 

Let's talk about this anger. You see, let's look at anger as secondary

 

Let's talk about this anger. He said, it's so bad. As I said, my body is closing down on myself. My son, who used to live with me, can't stand me. So he's left my daughter, who's just about to have my first granddaughter. She's said, I'm not welcome. Not welcome to see her and have her new family when it comes, because of the way I've been said, I really need help. And, I'm not going to tell you this. I don't normally ask, about what's happening. I was bit inquisitive, but he told me, and, I'm not going to share that with you because it was just, it was a very, very emotional story. But his anger was so much that the voice inside his head was so loud all the time that these were the days of like the, Walkmans with a CD disc you put in and, what have you. He used to have it on turn out of ten in volume. So, you know, here, trying to drown out the noise in his head. That's how bad it was. And we did one process, it was just the right process just for him. Oh, there's a funny noise. And then, you see, it was all a matter of learning, learning at the unconscious level, not the conscious level. But we can do some learning at the conscious level because we're going to do it here today. But you see, it reminded me of somebody else who I really look up to. And there's a guy called Jeff Thompson. He used to be a bouncer. Not a nice man at that time, and even tell you he was not a nice man. And he said he used to get really, really angry because of the things that he'd suffered in the past that had in some ways not made him, but had created this man with, armor. He had tattoos and things like that. He had armor and he was like a doorman and he was in a really tough area and he excelled at that. But he said when he let that go and started to do other stuff and became very spiritual, he said he was still angry. But he would use that anger, and he would find a vehicle. Well, that was a vehicle, but he would find a destination, something that he could use that anger to a positive, effect. So not being angry and shouting at people, he would actually use that energy, the energy within him that was so volatile to do some wonderful things. And I even saw it, on my son's, Joseph's very first NLP training. There was a guy there, we were letting go of anger. It was just a topic on timeline therapy. And he came up to the stage to do the demo. We weren't quite sure because we never quite sure the background, but he found out that he had been holding on to anger for over 20 years, and it was still inside him, it still affected him. And in that demonstration, which was minutes, not hours, well, I'll tell you later. You see, let's look at anger, because for me, I say it's, a negative emotion. It's totally inappropriate in my mind. It serves no benefit. I'm sure it has a positive intention, I know, and the unconscious mind uses it. But to me, there's better emotions, better behaviors to use. You see, I think it's secondary, and I've been taught that it's secondary because you have fight and flight as your hardwired protection measure. It's hardwired in your neurology. No one can take it away. Your unconscious mind clicks into fight or flight. I know there's a freeze in there, but sometimes. But fight and flight is there, and, that really protects you. See, why would you need anger to protect you? In fact, why would you need all the other negative emotions to protect you? Because they don't work. But it's what your unconscious mind has found that works. Way back then, when you first experienced something and got angry and, it protected you in some way, maybe kept people away, maybe somehow it looked after you and it thought, well, I can continue do this or continue to keep doing this, but it's not appropriate, because if you don't learn, you see, I remember, and this is what really convinced me, that anger as well as fear, they're both secondary emotions that come after fight and flight. See, I was walking my dog. Another story, true story, walking my dog, taz. Beautiful little dog. Little got, him from one of those home things. And he was about four when I got him, I think, bless him, and he was frightened of everything. And we got him m through that, and we used to go for lovely walks. And he was a little bit of like a sheepy type dog. So I'd walk down the middle of, this green open grassland and he would run round the outside and he loved it. And then we'd meet up in the middle and then we'd walk home and one day we're doing this, and there was two or three dogs suddenly ran out of the side and started attacking, attacking him. So fight and fly. I suddenly went shouting at them, yeah, get off, get off, get off.

 

Yeah.

 

And they did. But what I didn't see was the group of guys round the corner whose dogs they were. And they were either drunk or drugged or both. And they started coming for me. Now what are you doing? Shout out to my dogs now. Fight and flight. I could have tried to fight, but there was more of them. And to be honest, I didn't. I thought the best thing to do was to, flight to flight. So they couldn't walk very fast because they were a little bit jaggedy on their feet with whatever they'd taken. So I walked pretty fast and got taz with me and we moved pretty fast to get away from that. Then I got home and whether it's like an adrenaline dump or not, I don't know, but I suddenly got really angry. Angry. Why are those people? How can they be like that? How can they be so aggressive towards me? We were doing nothing. How can they be doing that? And I got so angry with myself. Why didn't I just suddenly stop and go, ra. And then the fear came in. Yeah, but what happened if they had knives or whatever, could have died, been attacked and killed. I got fearful about it. And then angry and fear. And they came after the fight. Flight. The fight and the flight protected me. Without thinking. It just happened. And then that anger and that fear started to, get inside me until I realized, do you know what? We did the right thing. We did the right thing.

 

 

Find a therapist. What do you mean, find a therapist

 

And maybe next time to be a little bit more observant and maybe go at different times and just keep an eye out. So I learned from that. Never had a problem again. So it was about learning. And then that anger and that fear just disappeared from that thing. But if it hadn't had done, maybe that would be like a significant emotional event. That's what we call these things in timeline therapy and NLP, a significant emotional event. And that could have caused me then to have those fear, either a fear or anger in other events in the future. Because my unconscious mind might thought, well, it worked, but it doesn't. So inappropriate. And they're totally in direct conflict with what your unconscious mind is trying to do, trying to protect you. But fear doesn't protect you, as we said, because it's bloody frightening. Anger doesn't protect you because you don't see, you see red. But if you're aware you're calm in a way that you can access the true skills that you need, that's what protects you. Being comfortable, being able to recognize a situation and act appropriately, that's protection. And you see, I believe all these negative emotions, such as anger, have a starting point. Again, as we said, significant emotional event an see, and it needs learning from. And once you learn, you won't need the emotion and the behavior anymore because you have learned and that what your unconscious mind was thinking and acting and using as a protection measure is no longer appropriate because it's learned. It doesn't need it anymore because you've got what you need. And therefore, in the future, anything happened, you'll use the learnings and they'll protect you. But the thing is, if you are finding, and, we're talking about anger and dealing with anger, but this could be, as you know, in brackets, any other bloody emotion, if it's really causing you extreme difficulty, then go to one to one. What do you mean, one to one? Cloughy. What I mean is find a therapist. Find a therapist. One to one. I know there's a lot of adverts about, you can do it by text, you can do it by phone. Have you ever tried to read the emotion in, a text? Sometimes even on the phone, you can get the emotion, but you can't see the face, and you don't know whether it's a joke or it's being serious. So I really believe if you can, one to one, whether it's on Zoom or whether it's in with the therapist, face to face, ideally face to face, because I love that, but for other people. But find that brilliant therapist, and it'll go really quickly, just as I said, goes quite easily. And you see, but what you can do, because even if you are going to look for a therapist or you're working with a therapist right now, what we're going to do now will not do any harm. It will, I believe, assist you to move on even quicker.

 

 

Paul Cluff: Get ready for part two of the NLP process

 

Okay, so that's where I'm going to end this episode or this, portion of the episode. This part one I want you to, if it's okay, is to just consider in your mind how important it is to you to let go of this negative emotion, to let go of the associated behaviors, to let go of the effects both to yourself, to, the people around you, to maybe your job, friends, family, even little old planet earth is not getting the best out of you, is it? And if that's really important to you, I know that it is. You can begin to set your intention. Set, your intent. Say that again. Set your intention for. I'm going to do this. I really am. I'm going to get a pad, maybe some. Just some paper, some pencil. Some pencil. some pencil. Get a pencil. Pen, because you're going to need it in the second part. And it's not big stuff, but you're going to need it, because when we start doing the process, we're going to start making notes that you can refer to. And it's important that you do, because once you start the process of putting things on paper, you will get inspired to write more. Not volumes, tombs, as they call them, I think, or tomes, but you'll get intuition, I think. And certainly in the second part of the process, you can build upon it, even, to make things even richer. I'm, not going to tell you what they are or what it means, but you will get inspired. I know. So have just a little muse and decide. This is it. I've had enough. This anger in brackets, any other bloody thing, closed brackets, is no longer serving me. And I want to find a better way. I want to find a better way. And I'm prepared to do whatever it takes. And, whatever it takes is literally not that much. So if that's okay, we're going to stop here and just collect your thoughts, maybe, and get ready. Get ready for part two, where we'll go into the process of, letting things go. Hope, this makes sense. I recorded it all in one go, and then I just had this, the intuition of saying, do you know what? I think we got to do it slightly different. So that's what we're going to do. Okay? So until next time, my friend, get ready, get inspired. I've got this, I get to do this. I'm going to have the will to do whatever it takes to change, change my life and create a rich life. Okay, there you go. I see you very soon. bye bye now. Oh, just before you go, just a re reminder, that if you want, to access any of the free hypnosis and NLP process tracks that I have, there's about 60, 65 of them I was looking at the other day and covers such a myriad of different things. If you do want access to that, please go to paulcluffonline.com podcast and you'll get an email giving you your link to those 65 plus tracks. You can just, unload them, download them and keep them forever. So please do that. And if you want, share that with other people as well, because that'd be great to give them access to all these tools. They'll make a difference. I know they will. They will make a difference. So if that's of interest to you, just go to. As I said, I'll repeat it now. Re reminder, paulcluffonline.com podcast. You'll also get a newsletter from that. And it sometimes is so regular, it might even be monthly, not normally. And they're very short. Just giving you an update of what to expect or what you may have missed. And sometimes they're just video. Who knows? So if any of that's of interest, have it with my compliments. Okay? So get ready for part two. It's going to be coming very, very shortly, and it's going to make a difference, I'm sure.

 

 

Paul Clough leaves personal development unplugged to fly solo

 

Bye bye now. Let's fly.

 

You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.

 

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