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    4 Biggest Arguments Couples Have and 3 Things To Do About It

    enMarch 26, 2021

    Podcast Summary

    • Enjoying Summer with IKEA, Investing in Wellness, and Healthy RelationshipsIKEA's outdoor offerings make summer enjoyable and affordable. Prioritize wellness through natural herbs, create healthy relationships by understanding conflict roots, and invest in personal growth through podcasts.

      Summer can be more enjoyable and affordable with IKEA's range of outdoor furniture and accessories. Meanwhile, investing in one's wellness, particularly through natural herbs, is essential for overall health. With the average person working for approximately 90,000 hours in their lifetime, it's crucial to partner with companies like UKG that prioritize creating great workplaces. In relationships, common sources of conflict include money, kids, parents, and housework. Understanding the root causes of these arguments and learning effective communication skills can lead to healthier relationships, whether romantic or platonic. Additionally, investing in personal growth through podcasts like On Purpose can contribute significantly to overall well-being.

    • The Importance of Perspective and Teamwork in RelationshipsIn relationships, it's essential to communicate effectively, understand each other's perspectives, and remember that we're on the same side, meant to be a team.

      Key takeaway from the story of the two young monks is the importance of perspective and teamwork in relationships. The monks argued about how to cross a river, each convinced their solution was right, but they failed to consider that they were on the same side and needed to work together. Similarly, in relationships, we may argue over solutions to obstacles, forgetting that we're on the same side and meant to be a team. The deeper message from the old monk was that we're all in this journey of life together, and by focusing on our common goal and working together, we can overcome any obstacle. The story serves as a reminder to communicate effectively, understand each other's perspectives, and remember that we're in this together.

    • Understanding deeper emotions in conflictsIdentify and address fear in arguments, find affordable summer solutions, and take a mindful approach to navigate challenges and find peace.

      Fear can often be the root cause of arguments, even when discussing seemingly trivial matters. This fear can prevent us from having productive discussions and finding solutions. Instead of focusing on specific issues, it's important to identify and address the deeper emotions driving the conflict. Additionally, in other aspects of life, it's possible to find affordable ways to enjoy summer without breaking the bank. Companies like IKEA offer affordable outdoor furniture and accessories, allowing us to create our own summer escapes at home. And when it comes to gut health, supplements like Ritual's Synbiotic Plus can provide support and relief from bloating, gas, and diarrhea. In both personal relationships and everyday life, taking a step back to understand the underlying emotions and needs can lead to more effective communication and solutions. Whether it's through meditation or finding affordable summer solutions, taking a mindful approach can help us navigate challenges and find peace.

    • Effective communication in relationships goes beyond wordsShift from 'rightness mode' to 'team mode' for productive conflicts, consider partner's past experiences and beliefs, use personality quizzes and attachment style discussions for insights

      Effective communication in relationships goes beyond the words we speak and requires an understanding of our partner's unique experiences and beliefs. Meditation mindset can help us shift from a "rightness mode" to a "team mode," allowing us to approach conflicts in a thoughtful and productive way. Friction and arguments can be valuable tools for identifying and resolving underlying issues, but only if we learn to communicate with empathy and understanding. Remember, when we interact with our partners, we're not just engaging with their current actions, but also with their past experiences and beliefs. Therefore, it's crucial to consider our partner's perspective and emotions when communicating. Personality quizzes and attachment style discussions can provide valuable insights into our priorities and attachments, helping us build stronger and more effective communication in our relationships.

    • Understanding Attachment Styles in RelationshipsRecognizing attachment styles can lead to empathy and curiosity, helping navigate conflicts and build stronger relationships.

      Our attachment styles, formed in our early years, significantly impact how we approach relationships and respond to stress. The three most common attachment styles are secure, anxious, and avoidant. Secure individuals feel comfortable trusting and asking for support, while anxious types struggle with insecurity and seek constant reassurance. Avoidant individuals rely solely on themselves and fear losing freedom when asked to compromise. Even those with a secure attachment style can be triggered to behave anxiously or avoidantly during extreme stress. Understanding attachment styles can help us navigate conflicts and arguments in relationships. For instance, if you're usually secure but your partner's behavior triggers anxiety, you might fear there's something hidden and assume the worst. Conversely, if your partner is avoidant, they might fear losing control and rebel against perceived restrictions. Recognizing our attachment styles and those of our partners can lead to curiosity and empathy, allowing us to shift from negative emotions to understanding the root causes of their words and actions. This shift towards curiosity and kindness can ultimately help us build stronger, more resilient relationships.

    • Managing emotions in relationshipsPractice mindfulness techniques to calm emotions and shift to a curious, understanding mindset to address deeper reasons behind conflicts and strengthen relationships.

      Effective communication in relationships involves recognizing and managing emotions in the moment, rather than letting them escalate into arguments. This can be achieved through practicing mindfulness techniques, such as box breathing, to pause and calm the nervous system. By shifting to a curious and understanding mindset, couples can address the deeper reasons behind conflicts and work towards resolving them. This requires conscious effort and training, much like an athlete trains for optimal performance. An example of this in action is a couple who repeatedly argued about one partner's reluctance to stand up to their family. By taking a step back and having an open and exploratory conversation, they were able to uncover the underlying fear and insecurity that was fueling the conflict. This allowed them to address the root cause and strengthen their relationship.

    • Understanding Differences in Parenting StylesRecognizing the root cause of criticisms and having productive conversations can help resolve conflicts and build stronger relationships.

      Effective communication and understanding are key to resolving conflicts, especially when it comes to parenting decisions. The man in the story was able to reassure his wife and have a deeper conversation with his mother by recognizing the root cause of their criticisms: a difference in parenting styles. By acknowledging this and explaining that their decisions were based on current resources and information, he was able to alleviate their concerns and reduce stress for everyone involved. The practice of having productive conversations before arguments, such as setting rules of engagement and priming the space with positive questions, can help foster a deeper connection and understanding between parties. By focusing on the connection beyond conflict, we can build stronger relationships and navigate disagreements more effectively.

    • Effective communication and understanding during argumentsDuring disagreements, focus on expressing gratitude and understanding instead of accusation to create safety and resolve issues

      Appreciating our differences is essential in any relationship, but it's easy to forget this and instead become irritated or resentful. When we argue, effective communication and understanding are key. Each partner should take turns sharing what helps and hurts during arguments, and make a commitment to practicing active listening and expressing gratitude daily. By focusing on understanding rather than accusation, we can create safety within the argument and get to the root of the issue. Remember, a strong foundation of appreciation and friendship is necessary for a healthy relationship, and expressing gratitude specifically and sincerely is an effective way to foster that foundation.

    • Expressing gratitude daily strengthens relationshipsDaily gratitude, unforgettable experiences, and mental health prioritization contribute to stronger relationships and overall well-being

      Expressing gratitude towards your partner every day can significantly improve your relationship. It helps build a deeper connection, encourages productive arguments, and serves as a reminder of the deep-rooted love between both individuals. Additionally, planning unforgettable experiences with the help of services like booking.com can contribute to overall happiness and well-being. Lastly, prioritizing mental health through accessible and convenient online therapy platforms like BetterHelp is essential for managing personal challenges and maintaining overall wellness.

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    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted over 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute and Affective Software Inc. as well as author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work


    Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute and Co-Founder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist and author, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. 


    This episode explores: how to talk (and listen) to your partner in moments of conflict; what to do before you start trying to solve a problem together; why “there’s no such thing as constructive criticism;” the details of John’s research findings, which have allowed him to predict with stunning accuracy whether a couple will get divorced; how the Gottmans themselves do when it comes to operationalizing their findings/advice; how and why betrayal occurs; when a couple should consider separating; the role mindfulness can play in healthy relationships; and the role of humor in relationships.


    Content warning: There are a few mentions of sensitive topics, most notably domestic violence, which Julie discusses for a few minutes towards the end of the interview. 


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/john-julie-gottman-418


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    How to Argue Better | Oren Jay Sofer

    How to Argue Better | Oren Jay Sofer

    This episode dives into our archives to revisit the notion of communication as a learnable skill. Often some of the most painful situations you encounter are the result of poor communication. The good news is that communication is a skill that can be learned. 


    Author and meditation teacher Oren Jay Sofer, a leading figure in the field of interpersonal communication, breaks down how communication can be one of the most powerful levers for creating positive change in your life. 


    Oren Jay Sofer is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. He also teaches mindfulness, meditation and nonviolent communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. He graduated from Insight Meditation Center’s Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto.



    In this conversation, we also talk about:

    • How to become aware of what motivates you to communicate the way you do 
    • Strategies for how to have more meaningful conversations
    • What it means to lead with presence
    • How conflict has the possibility to deepen our relationships and make peace 



    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-repost-165

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    3 Reasons Why Your Partner Is Closed Off From You & 6 Steps To Steps To Opening Up

    3 Reasons Why Your Partner Is Closed Off From You & 6 Steps To Steps To Opening Up

    Have you ever flown through a no-fly zone? Not many of us have, but in today's episode Jay Shetty reminds us that we navigate them every day in our relationships with others. Learning the right way to go about it is crucial.

    Being in a relationship has its ups and downs. It is how you respond to those ebbs and flows that will help determine your relationship’s success. Today you'll learn Jay Shetty’s six steps to resolving relationship no-fly zones.

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    Vanessa Hudgens ON: Manifesting Love & Finding Confidence From Within

    Vanessa Hudgens ON: Manifesting Love & Finding Confidence From Within

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    Jay Shetty sits down with Vanessa Hudgens to talk about manifestation & importance of nurturing your inner child. As we grow up, we always think that we should start being serious in life just because we are adults. But we should always remember that inner child in us, so have fun and believe in magic - protect the child in you. 

    Vanessa Hudgens is an American actress, singer, entrepreneur, and producer. After making her feature film debut in Thirteen, she rose to fame portraying Gabriella Montez in the High School Musical film series, which brought her significant mainstream success. 

    Since the release of her studio albums and the High School Musical franchise, Vanessa has focused on her acting career. She has appeared in films like Bandslam, Beastly, Sucker Punch, Journey 2: The Mysterious Island, Spring Breakers, The Princess Switch, Second Act, and Bad Boys for Life. She also launched her beverage business, Caliwater, a line of cactus water, and her own skincare brand, Know Beauty.

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    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 05:12 How she discovered ZenZone
    • 08:18 Spirituality & mindfulness has always been a part of her life
    • 13:15 Importance of having & nurturing your inner child
    • 15:23 How she navigated a very tough industry
    • 17:35 Experience that gave her a sense of groundedness
    • 19:56 Witchcraft and rituals
    • 22:35 How rituals & manifestations work for her
    • 25:29 Identifying if you are with the right person
    • 28:35 Importance of asking the uncomfortable questions
    • 31:24 Good things come when you least expect them
    • 35:18 Having the confidence on doing things alone
    • 40:17 How she remains present
    • 43:08 Her passion for collaborating with people
    • 46:24 Her creative & intuitive works
    • 50:12 How she balances & prioritizes different things in life
    • 56:21 Vanessa’s Final Five

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    9 Tips to Communicate Better With Your Ex

    9 Tips to Communicate Better With Your Ex

    There is nothing so disheartening then either putting your phone down, sending a text or email and standing their regretting everything that just happened, what was said and the back tracking that is now to be rectified, on top of everything in divorce life.

    Communicating with your ex is about you being wiser, calmer and less triggered. In this gold nugget I share with you my top 9 tips to not communicate better, but change the way you see communicating with your ex as something that the sooner you get into a better modus operandi with the easier it will be going forwards.

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