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    • The Psychology Behind GhostingGhosting can stem from fear, avoidance, and a need for control, causing deep hurt and confusion. Critically evaluate studies using scientifically proven and statistically significant buzzwords.

      Ghosting, the act of suddenly ending communication without explanation, can be deeply hurtful and confusing. It's a common behavior in various scenarios, including romantic relationships and professional interactions. The psychology behind ghosting lies in fear, avoidance, and a desire for control. People may ghost due to discomfort, insecurities, or a lack of maturity. The hurt felt after being ghosted often leads people to hold on to the past and even reach out when the ghost reappears. In other news, the speaker is currently studying clinical neuroscience, mental disorders in children and youth, and research inquiry at university. Clinical neuroscience focuses on diagnosing conditions based on brain circuitry, while research inquiry teaches how to evaluate the validity of studies. The speaker expressed concern about the misuse of buzzwords like "scientifically proven" and "statistically significant" in studies, urging critical evaluation.

    • Alcohol and breast cancer: Statistical significance vs. everyday significanceAlcohol and breast cancer are not significantly linked, despite common misconceptions. Understanding statistical significance and its everyday implications is essential for accurate health information.

      Alcohol and breast cancer are often mistakenly linked in the media, leading the public to believe there is a connection when in reality, the association is not significant. It's essential to understand the difference between statistical significance and significance in everyday language. The topic of bipolar disorder is fascinating, as it involves dramatic shifts between depressive and manic states. These shifts can last from hours to months, and the symptoms of mania include extreme energy, happiness, and optimism, but also risky behavior and disregard for consequences. Bipolar disorder, previously known as manic depression, is a condition where patients experience both depressive and manic episodes, contrasting with unipolar depression, which only involves depressive states. It's crucial to be aware of these distinctions to better understand mental health conditions and their implications.

    • Understanding Bipolar Disorder and GhostingBipolar disorder needs careful management with meds and therapy. Lithium salts treat manic-depressive episodes but have limitations. Psychological intervention helps outside manic states. Ghosting is someone disappearing from a relationship without warning.

      Bipolar disorder is a complex mental health condition that requires careful management through a combination of medications and psychological interventions. Lithium salts are the oldest and most effective treatment for manic-depressive episodes, but they have limitations and side effects. Psychological intervention is helpful when individuals are not in a manic state, but it's less effective during manic episodes. Misunderstanding bipolar disorder can lead to misdiagnosis, and it's crucial to recognize that ghosting is a different concept altogether. Ghosting refers to someone disappearing without warning from a relationship or communication, leaving the other person in the dark. It's essential to understand the differences between these concepts to avoid confusion and misdiagnosis.

    • Understanding Ghosting in RelationshipsGhosting is a form of communication avoidance that can leave victims feeling confused, hurt, and questioning their worth. Reasons vary, and it can occur at different levels of severity, including orbital ghosting where the ghoster intermittently reappears.

      Ghosting is a form of communication avoidance in relationships, whether romantic or friendly, that leaves the other person feeling confused and hurt. It can occur at different levels of severity, from mild, where someone disappears after initial contact, to moderate, where a connection has been formed but communication suddenly stops, to heavy, where a deeper relationship, including emotional and physical intimacy, is abruptly ended. The reasons for ghosting can stem from deep-rooted issues in the ghoster, and it can leave the victim feeling rejected and questioning their worth. It's important to recognize the signs of ghosting and understand that it's not a reflection of the victim's worth, but rather a reflection of the ghoster's inability to communicate effectively. Additionally, there is a form of ghosting called orbital ghosting, where the ghoster intermittently reappears and disappears, adding an extra layer of confusion and emotional turmoil for the victim.

    • The toxicity of intermittent ghostingGhosting is a manipulative behavior that keeps someone in limbo and shows a lack of respect for emotions and time, with intermittent ghosting being a worse form due to its prolonged impact.

      Being ghosted intermittently by someone is a toxic and manipulative behavior that keeps the person in limbo and focused on the ghoster, making it a worse form of emotional abuse than a clear-cut ghosting. Ghosting is a way for someone to show that they don't value your emotions or time, and it's essential to recognize it as such. People ghost for various reasons, including fear of dealing with their emotions or vulnerability, but it's crucial to understand the impact of such behavior on the other person and consider the long-term consequences. If you find yourself in a situation where someone is ghosting you, it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being and seek closure or move on.

    • Identifying Ghosters: Signs to Look Out ForGhosting is often caused by fear, insecurity, or unwillingness to be vulnerable. Watch for inconsistent communication and lack of personal openness to identify potential ghosters.

      Ghosting is often a result of people's fear or inability to handle conflict, insecurity, or unwillingness to be vulnerable. They may be seeing someone else, bored, or have intense insecurities that prevent them from deepening the connection. To identify if someone is a ghoster, pay attention to the kind of conversations they initiate and if they open up about anything personal. A pattern of inconsistent communication and lack of vulnerability are common signs. These individuals may believe that it's no big deal to ghost, but for those left behind, it can be a painful experience.

    • Experiencing heartbreak as physical painGhosting is a form of manipulation causing long-term damage to self-esteem and confidence.

      Being ghosted in a relationship is a painful experience that can leave you feeling physically and emotionally hurt. The reason it hurts so much is that our brains interpret heartbreak as physical pain, and we also experience withdrawal symptoms due to the drop in neurotransmitters associated with love and attraction. Ghosters often avoid bringing us into their world to make it easier to disappear, but when they do, they leave us feeling uncertain, anxious, and doubting ourselves. Even when they return, we may give them another chance due to the instant relief they provide from our painful emotions. It's important to remember that ghosting is a form of manipulation and can cause long-term damage to our self-esteem and confidence.

    • Understanding Ghosting: Prioritizing Self Over OthersWhen someone ghosts you, they put their needs first, indicating a lack of concern for your feelings. Focus on personal growth and moving forward.

      When someone ghosts you, they prioritize their own wants and needs above yours, indicating they don't have your best interest at heart. It's essential to acknowledge if you hold any responsibility for the situation, but if not, understand that their disappearance is a reflection of their personal issues. To help determine if ghosting has occurred, consider if there was a clear reason for their absence or if communication suddenly ceased without explanation. If it is ghosting, focus on your personal growth and moving forward, rather than trying to change their behavior.

    • Understanding Ghosting and Its ReasonsGhosting can stem from various reasons, including personal issues or communication problems. Regardless, focusing on seeking closure or changing the ghoster is futile. Instead, acknowledge their behavior and prioritize your own needs and emotional well-being.

      If someone has ghosted you, it may be due to various reasons such as feeling devastated, toxic behavior from you, or their own attachment issues. If none of these apply, it might be a legitimate ghosting situation where they have serious communication issues and an avoidant attachment style. In such cases, it's essential to understand that their behavior is not about you and focusing on seeking closure or trying to change them will only keep you emotionally entangled. Instead, try to let go by acknowledging that they prioritize their own needs and their mindset doesn't align with yours. It's crucial to remind yourself that their actions are a reflection of them, not you.

    • Understanding the Psychology of GhostingGhosting is manipulative behavior used for validation. If someone has ghosted you, prioritize self-validation and consider cutting ties or reconnecting as a friend based on personal circumstances.

      Ghosting is often a form of manipulative behavior used by insecure individuals seeking validation. They may watch your stories or like your posts after ghosting as a way to test the waters and gauge your reaction. If you engage, they have achieved their goal and no longer need you. The desire to be with someone who has ghosted you stems from a feeling of lack and the belief that only they can fill that void. However, it's important to remember that you have the power to give yourself the validation and love you need. If someone has ghosted you and wants back in your life romantically, it's best to cut ties completely. If you want them back as a friend, consider your personal circumstances and make a decision based on what feels right for you.

    • The importance of clear communication in romantic interactionsGhosting can indicate a lack of genuine investment, but setting boundaries and communicating openly can help prevent it. If you've ghosted someone, an apology may be necessary to rebuild trust. If you've been ghosted, try to understand the other person's perspective.

      Clear communication is crucial in navigating romantic interactions, whether online or in person. Ghosting, or suddenly cutting off communication without explanation, can leave the other person feeling disrespected and confused. If you've been ghosted, it may be an indication that the other person wasn't genuinely invested in the connection. If you've been the ghoster, acknowledging your behavior and apologizing can help rebuild trust and potentially rekindle the connection. However, if you've ghosted someone you're in love with, it may be best to cut ties completely. To avoid ghosting, it's important to set boundaries and communicate openly about your intentions and feelings. If you need to end a connection, be honest and direct, but compassionate. And if you've been ghosted, try to understand that the other person may have prioritized something else over you.

    • Ghosting and Seeking ClosureGhosting indicates poor communication skills, and seeking closure from a ghoster is unlikely to be productive. Instead, consider calling them out with a one-ended message to make them aware of their actions.

      There are no specific scenarios where seeking closure from being ghosted is warranted. Ghosting indicates poor communication skills, and the ghoster is unlikely to provide satisfactory closure. Instead, consider calling them out with a one-ended message to make them aware of their actions. It's essential not to feel shame when ghosted, as it's a low emotion that should be reserved for situations where we've caused harm to others. Employers not contacting candidates after interviews isn't ghosting, but unprofessional. If you choose to call out a ghoster, ensure your intentions are pure and consider the potential outcomes. Remember, there's a chance they may not respond or may respond negatively.

    • Effective Communication in RelationshipsBe honest and upfront, avoid ghosting, and treat others with respect for healthy relationships

      Communication is key in relationships, whether romantic or casual. If you're feeling the need to call someone out on their behavior, do so with the intention of making them aware, not out of malice. Similarly, if you find yourself ghosting people when they become too attached, it's essential to be upfront about your feelings and intentions. Avoiding conflict and ghosting can be harmful to both parties, desensitizing you to unacceptable treatment and potentially damaging future relationships. Remember, treat others how you want to be treated, and always strive for respect and honesty in your interactions. If you're unsure about how to handle a situation, consider having a difficult conversation or seeking advice from a trusted friend or professional. Communication may be uncomfortable at times, but it's a necessary aspect of building and maintaining healthy relationships.

    • The Power of Self-Love and KindnessSelf-love and kindness are crucial for a happy life. Cherish positive energy, be kind to yourself, don't let negativity bring you down, and spread positivity instead.

      Self-love and kindness are essential for living our best lives. The speaker expresses her gratitude for her listeners and the positive energy they bring to the podcast community. She encourages everyone to be kind to themselves and not let negativity bring them down. Despite not being able to respond to every message, she reads and cherishes each one. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of not taking shit from others or ourselves and spreading positivity instead. Overall, the discussion highlights the importance of self-care, kindness, and community in leading a fulfilling life.

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