Podcast Summary
Inner Voice, Outer World: Listening to our inner voice and honoring our boundaries can lead to a more liberated and organized life, improving not only our own lives but also contributing to a better world.
Embracing and honoring our "no's" and "yes's" can lead to a more liberated and organized life. Dr. Kelly Brogan, a New York Times best-selling author and clinical psychiatrist, shares her insights on the importance of listening to our inner voice and making choices that align with our authentic selves. She encourages us to stop settling and tolerating situations that don't serve us, and instead, trust our instincts and honor our boundaries. By doing so, we can improve not only our own lives but also contribute to a better world. Dr. Brogan's journey from advocating for women's access to medications to helping them reclaim their bodies and inner power is a testament to her ability to change her mind and evolve.
Beliefs and New Information: Encountering new information can challenge deeply held beliefs, leading to feelings of vulnerability and emptiness, but also growth and learning to embrace uncertainty
Our understanding of the world and ourselves is constantly evolving, and we may hold beliefs that are later proven to be incorrect. The speaker shares her experiences of encountering new information that challenged her deeply held beliefs, from the nature of DNA to her approach to health and wellness. She describes feeling a sense of delight in being right, but also vulnerability and emptiness when her beliefs were disproven. Ultimately, she learned to embrace uncertainty and the possibility of change, recognizing that growth often comes from challenging our assumptions and being open to new perspectives.
Betrayal and fear: Betrayal can lead to fear and a desire for power and control, but addressing underlying fears and wounds related to father figures can lead to healing and security
Betrayal, whether it comes from personal relationships or the loss of a mentor, can lead to a deep sense of abandonment and fear. This fear can manifest as a desire for power and control, fueled by a belief that women are not safe in a world dominated by men. This belief, in turn, can lead to a focus on freedom and rebellion as a means of coping with that fear. However, this approach may not ultimately bring true safety or security. Instead, understanding and addressing the underlying fears and wounds, particularly those related to the father figure, can lead to a more profound sense of security and healing.
Personal growth and inner father: Recognizing and maturing inner father leads to healthier relationships and greater sense of safety and fulfillment. Self-care and developing masculine competencies are essential. Acknowledging need for support and using positive reinforcement towards men can foster safer world for women.
Personal growth involves recognizing and maturing different aspects of ourselves, including the inner father or caretaker, and learning to appreciate and support the masculine energy in ourselves and others. This can lead to healthier relationships and a greater sense of safety and fulfillment. The speaker shares her experience of this transformation and the importance of acknowledging the need for support from others, rather than trying to do everything alone. She also emphasizes the role of self-care and developing masculine competencies as part of this process. Additionally, the use of positive reinforcement and appreciation towards men can help them feel valued and contribute to a safer world for women.
Self-Validation: Instead of suppressing or coercing parts of ourselves, validate and show interest for a safer and trusting world in relationships and experiences. Trusting ourselves and handling things ourselves promotes flow and recognizing individual needs is essential.
Instead of trying to suppress or coerce parts of ourselves that are raising alarms or feeling unsafe, it's more effective to validate and show interest in those parts. This approach helps alleviate pressure and allows for a safer and more trusting world, both in relationships and in our own experiences. Trusting ourselves and our ability to discern our needs is crucial, as is learning to handle things ourselves when possible, rather than relying on manipulation or strategy. Additionally, recognizing and respecting our individual needs, such as time containers, is essential for allowing our bodies to drop into a state of flow.
Recognizing and addressing unheard parts: Recognizing and addressing unheard parts of ourselves can lead to greater emotional connection and healthier relationships, rather than manipulatively seeking validation from others.
Recognizing and addressing the parts of ourselves that don't feel safe or heard can lead to greater emotional connection and reassignment of relationships. This can be achieved by making the other person feel seen and valued, rather than manipulatively playing the damsel in distress. By embodying a sense of fullness and strength, women can interact with men from a place of devotion and respect, fostering healthier and more authentic relationships. This practice not only benefits the woman, but also contributes to making the world safer for all women by promoting self-focus, self-discovery, and self-care.
Desires and Boundaries: Be clear about who is asking for what and the direction of pleasure or consent in relationships, using tools like the wheel of consent to practice effective communication.
Clarity in communication, especially around desires and boundaries, is crucial for both personal and professional relationships. This discussion highlighted the importance of understanding the directionality of giving and receiving, and the value of being clear about who is asking for what and in what direction the pleasure or consent is flowing. The concept of eroticism was brought up as a powerful tool for developing this skill, as it requires individuals to be introspective and clear about their own desires and boundaries. Betty Martin's work on the wheel of consent was mentioned as a helpful resource for understanding these concepts and practicing clear communication. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of owning and expressing one's desires, rather than trying to derive pleasure from someone else's experience or guessing at their needs.
Erotic reclamation: Erotic reclamation through vulnerability and consensual spanking, facilitated by a professional, can lead to self-affirmation, healing, and community connection, challenging inner critic and reclaiming divinity.
Embracing vulnerability and allowing oneself to be spanked in a safe and consensual environment, facilitated by a professional Dominant and somatic therapist, can lead to powerful experiences of self-affirmation, healing, and community connection. This experience challenged the speaker's inner critic and helped her reclaim her divinity and radiance, as well as her hard-earned success. The therapist's use of affirmations, playful intolerance, and community reinforcement created a transformative experience that went beyond individual healing and touched the universal experience of playing hide and seek with one's own divinity. This approach, rooted in erotic reclamation, can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery.