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    732 The Power of Erotic Intelligence with Esther Perel

    enDecember 14, 2018

    Podcast Summary

    • Exploring Desires Beyond SexRecognize what brings pleasure and vitality in life, focus on cultivating those aspects, and improve confidence to deepen intimacy and long-term interest in a partner.

      Desire is not solely related to sex but encompasses various aspects of life that bring pleasure and vitality. These can include nature, friends, sports, music, and confidence. By recognizing what turns us on and off, we can focus on cultivating the former and improving ourselves, leading to a deeper connection and long-term interest in intimacy with a partner. Confidence, in particular, is a significant turn-on for many people. Overall, Perel encourages individuals to explore their desires and take charge of their own sexual and emotional fulfillment.

    • Finding balance in love and desireTo experience love and desire, find moments of playfulness and transgression, prioritize presence, and balance giving and receiving.

      Experiencing love and desire involves finding a balance between giving and receiving, and being in one's element where they don't need constant caretaking. Caretaking can be a powerful experience in love, but it can also be an aphrodisiac. To experience both love and desire, one must calibrate their relationship and find moments of playfulness and transgression. These moments can be just as erotic as traditional romantic gestures, and may even be more meaningful when they occur during the day when energy levels are high. Ultimately, it's important to prioritize being fully present and engaged with one's partner, rather than saving the best of oneself for later.

    • Committed sex requires emotional risk-takingTo reignite passion and keep a relationship vibrant, bring new elements, take emotional risks, and focus on emotional connection between partners.

      Truly committed sex goes beyond the physical act and requires intentional effort, emotional risk-taking, and a willingness to create an erotic space where desire can emerge. People often neglect this approach, opting instead for routine and responsibility. However, to reignite passion and keep the relationship vibrant, it's crucial to bring new elements to the table, taking emotional risks, and focusing on the emotional connection between partners. This approach fosters a sense of mystery and excitement, making the relationship more fulfilling overall.

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