78. (WWLD) Fear of Failure, Losing Weight While Drinking, & Handling Toxic Family Members

Podcast Summary

• Moving on from ghosting and betrayal: Prioritize self-care by erasing ghosters from social media and avoiding relationships with cheaters to protect your emotional well-being

  When it comes to dealing with someone who has ghosted you or betrayed your trust in a relationship, it's important to prioritize your own well-being. In the first situation, the speaker suggests erasing any trace of the person who has ghosted you from your social media as a way to move on. In the second situation, the speaker advises against getting back together with someone who has cheated, as trust is difficult, if not impossible, to regain once it has been broken. The speaker also shares their personal opinions on certain behaviors and lifestyles, but the main message is about taking control and protecting yourself when faced with hurtful situations. Additionally, the podcast episode includes a promotion for CarShield's low-cost, month-to-month vehicle protection plan, which offers free roadside assistance, towing, and car rental options.

• Damage to a relationship from cheating or disrespectful behavior is often irreparable: If your partner can't take accountability for their actions, it's a red flag. Prioritize your emotional and mental health in toxic relationships.

  If your partner cheats on you or consistently displays disrespectful behavior, the damage to the relationship is often irreparable. You deserve to feel safe and respected in your relationships. If your partner cannot take accountability for their actions, it's a red flag. In the case of a pregnancy with an ex, it's essential to consider the long-term implications and make a decision that's best for your well-being. Ultimately, if you're in a toxic or unhealthy relationship, it's crucial to prioritize your own emotional and mental health and consider moving on.

• Overcoming Fear of Failure: Embrace new experiences, view failure as learning opportunity, and share new perspectives instead of forcing advice.

  Fear of failure can be overcome by reframing the situation. According to the speaker, staying in the same place, not trying something new, is the same as experiencing failure. However, if one does try and fail, they gain valuable knowledge and character development, making the fear of failure less daunting. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of trying new things and not living with regret. Additionally, when it comes to giving advice, the speaker suggests sharing a new perspective rather than forcing advice upon someone who isn't asking for it. Overall, the takeaway is to approach fear and advice with a positive mindset, understanding that failure is a learning experience and that sharing new perspectives can lead to growth.

• Offer fresh perspectives instead of unsolicited advice: Understand others' motivations and emotions before offering new perspectives, empathize in challenging situations, and remember you have the power to choose your circumstances.

  Instead of giving unsolicited advice, it's more effective to share new perspectives with people. Advice can come across as confrontational and may not be well-received. Instead, try to understand where others are coming from and offer fresh viewpoints. Additionally, when dealing with challenging situations like toxic family members or unrequited crushes, it's essential to empathize with the individuals involved. Understanding their motivations and emotions can help reduce judgment and improve relationships. Lastly, remember that you have the power to choose your circumstances, even if it feels like you're stuck in a difficult situation. By taking a proactive and empathetic approach, you can transform seemingly toxic interactions into opportunities for growth and connection.

• Understanding the Difference Between Friendship and Romantic Attraction: Recognize that enjoying someone's company doesn't always mean romantic feelings. Self-awareness is key to distinguishing between friendship and romantic attraction.

  It's important to distinguish between enjoying the company of someone and having a romantic or sexual attraction to them. The speaker shares her experience of thinking she had feelings for a friend, only to realize she just enjoyed their friendship. She also discusses her experience of having crushes on straight friends, acknowledging that while there's no potential for a romantic relationship, she still enjoys the experience of having a crush. Additionally, she provides advice on managing weight while still drinking, suggesting that individuals should budget the calories from alcohol into their daily intake if they choose not to abstain completely. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's motivations and desires.

• Mindful drinking for fitness: To maintain fitness while drinking alcohol, reduce carbs or increase cardio, avoid sugar mixers, and be aware of added calories.

  If you want to drink alcohol and still maintain your fitness goals, you need to be mindful of the calories you consume. Each drink or shot contains around 100 calories of pure alcohol. To offset this, consider reducing your carb intake or increasing your cardio on the days you drink. For instance, if your maintenance calories are 2,000, and you know 500 calories will go towards alcohol, either eat 1,500 calories that day or do an extra 500 calories of cardio. Remember, the key is to stay in your caloric deficit. Additionally, avoid mixers with sugar and opt for diet sodas instead. And while you may burn some extra calories from dancing or being active while drinking, keep in mind that every drink still adds calories to your daily intake.

• Honesty and Understanding Emotions: Be honest, even in tough situations. Identify the root cause of anger instead of focusing on the emotion itself. Maximize what's already working and refine current efforts before making significant changes.

  Honesty, even in difficult situations, is important. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being honest, even if it means sharing a "hack" or secret that may not be ideal. Anger is a cover emotion for powerlessness, and understanding this can help individuals deal with their anger more effectively. Instead of focusing on the anger itself, it's essential to identify the root cause of the emotion. Additionally, to take things to the next level, it's crucial to maximize what's already working instead of constantly changing and innovating. The speaker shares a personal experience of learning this lesson the hard way and emphasizes the importance of consistency and refining current efforts before making significant changes. Finally, the speaker addresses a personal situation and encourages staying strong and true to oneself, even when faced with difficult requests or situations.

• Protecting Yourself: Prioritize Safety and Well-being: When dealing with a restraining order, prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. Consider past experiences and the actions of the other party before making a decision to remove it.

  When dealing with a restraining order, prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. It's important to remember that the decision to remove a restraining order should be made solely based on your feelings and needs, not due to external pressure or guilt. Past experiences and the actions of the other party should be considered when making this decision. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for protecting yourself. Be aware of how people behave when they have power, and remember to show the same consideration when you have it. Your safety and well-being are paramount, and you have the power to make decisions that prioritize them.

• Acknowledging the Good and Bad: Recognize the importance of acknowledging both positive and negative aspects in relationships and situations. Make informed decisions based on a clear and accurate understanding.

  It's important to acknowledge both the good and bad in people and situations, rather than trying to ignore the negative. This applies to relationships, where it's crucial to hold space for both the positive and negative aspects, and to make informed decisions based on a clear and accurate understanding. Additionally, people may need to experience the consequences of their actions before they change, and it's essential to let them go through their own learning process, even if it's painful to watch. In the context of the discussion about restraining orders, it was emphasized that once they're dropped, getting a new one can be challenging, so it's essential to carefully consider the decision. Overall, the key takeaway is to approach situations with a clear-eyed understanding, acknowledging both the good and bad, and making decisions based on that information.

• Understanding the Reason Behind Calls from Past Relationships: People may call back due to their own emotional needs, not love or care. True change is noticeable and consistent.

  The person calling you back might not be doing so out of love or care, but rather due to an inability to handle the feelings and voids left behind when you're gone. This behavior can be a power play and a sign of deeper issues. If someone genuinely loves and cares for you, they won't abuse or abandon you. Additionally, true change is noticeable and doesn't require hesitation or questioning. People can change, but if someone's behavior remains consistent and you see no change in their approach to situations, don't expect a different outcome. Remember, you deserve better and have the power to make a change.

• Engage with creators through comments and thumbs up: Leaving comments and giving thumbs up on YouTube helps build a connection with content creators and shows support for their work, contributing to the success of the content and building a strong online community. Stay safe and be careful.

  Audience engagement on platforms like YouTube can be encouraged through simple actions such as leaving a comment and giving a thumbs up. The speaker emphasizes the importance of this practice, as it helps to build a connection with the content creator and shows support for their work. This is a quick and effective way for viewers to contribute to the online community and contribute to the success of the content they enjoy. Additionally, the speaker emphasizes the importance of safety and caution, encouraging everyone to stay safe and be careful. The speaker also mentions that they will be back next Sunday with more content. Overall, the main message is that small actions from viewers can make a big impact on content creators, and that engagement and support are crucial for building a strong online community.