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Challenging Stereotypes and Embracing Personal Growth: Tine's Authentic Journey from Pipe Salesman to Therapist and Podcaster

This conversation with Tine Collins revolves around personal growth, acknowledging emotions, authenticity, confronting racial bias and the role of podcasting in personal development. Rosanna opens up about her learned distrust of southern white men due to past negative experiences with racism and guest Tine (Nic) Collins, a white southern man, recounts his journey of recognizing and confronting social injustice. Tine discusses his battle with severe depression that led him to embrace therapy, inspiring him to study counseling. This episode underlines the importance of understanding and accepting emotions, as well as reflects on societal norms that discourage emotional exploration. Tine and Rosanna share their journeys from unconscious to deliberate career paths, emphasizing the power of self-awareness. The conversation  centers on personal growth and authenticity in all arenas of life, including work, challenging stereotypes, particularly about southern white men. Tine also introduces his podcast with Taylor Moss, 'The Constant Quest,' focused on personal growth.

Make sure to follow Tine and his podcast on IG @niccatine and @theconstantquestpod

You can also learn more and register for the upcoming event, Disrupt the BS, where you'll receive powerful mindset coaching from Lotus Wilson and breathwork from Rosanna. 

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:06 Unveiling the Guest: Nick Collins

01:02 Exploring Personal Connections and Shared History

01:35 Discussing Racial Awakening and Personal Experiences

03:12 Breaking Stereotypes: A Deep Dive into Empathy

04:08 Confronting Uncomfortable Topics

04:26 Understanding the Impact of Environment and Upbringing

05:26 Addressing Racial Injustice and Personal Growth

06:50 Challenging Assumptions and Embracing Diversity

07:42 The Power of Empathy and Understanding

07:50 Dealing with Prejudice and Stereotypes

09:37 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance

09:51 Confronting Personal Bias and the Impact of Cancel Culture

12:20 The Importance of Growth and Evolution

17:56 Discussing Mental Health and Emotional Vulnerability

21:27 The Struggle with Depression and the Power of Support

30:59 The Journey to Emotional Acceptance

34:02 The Impact of Emotional Intelligence on Relationships

41:44 Transitioning from Pipe Sales to Therapy

44:40 The Unconscious Career Path

44:57 The Fear of Change and Uncertainty

45:39 The Awakening of Self-Awareness

46:38 The Journey to Becoming a Counselor

46:44 The Struggle with Fear and Uncertainty

47:16 The Region Beta Paradox and Its Impact

48:13 The Comfortable Discomfort of Corporate Life

48:36 The Realization of Unfulfilled Potential

49:14 The Decision to Pursue a Master's Degree

49:42 The Struggle with Quota and Achievement

50:44 The Fleeting Satisfaction of Success

51:10 The Parable of the Mexican Fishermen

51:40 The Importance of Authenticity

01:00:27 The Journey of the Constant Quest Podcast

01:02:11 The Value of Authentic Conversations

01:15:41 The Importance of Being True to Yourself

Lotus Wilson, a personal development expert and founder of Renegade Mindset, candidly shares her personal journey from struggling with addiction and self-deception to becoming a successful, empowered entrepreneur. She highlights the importance of self-awareness, changing destructive patterns, and discovering one's identity for personal transformation. Her journey from being a young girl raised in a holistic family to a felon to COO of a company and then to a master practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming is nothing short of inspiring and speaks volumes about her dedication and passion. She introduces 'Disrupt the Bullshit', a two-day transformational event aimed at confronting and changing non-serving patterns and creating fresh identities for a fulfilling life. You can register for 'Disrupt the Bullshit' here and follow Lotus on social media at the links below.

Instagram: @lotus.wilson

Facebook: @lotuslwilson

00:00 Introduction

01:31 Lotus Wilson's Personal Journey and Background

01:48 Lotus's Early Life and Introduction to Personal Development

06:05 Lotus's Struggles with Addiction and the Path to Recovery

11:39 The Turning Point: Lotus's Decision to Change

15:37 Lotus's Journey into Personal Development and Coaching

20:24 The Impact of Lotus's Past on Her Coaching Approach

27:00 Lotus's Transition into Full-Time Coaching and Personal Growth

39:20 The Concept of the 'Bold Zone' and Its Role in Personal Development

47:14 Lotus's Philosophy on Personal Transformation and Growth

49:32 Understanding Multiple Identities

51:01 The Journey of Self-Deception

51:56 Breaking Free from Pathological Lying

52:13 Overcoming the Addict Identity

52:23 The Con Artist and Manipulator Phase

52:44 The Awakening: Realizing Self-Deception

53:22 The Impact of Personal Development

55:53 The Transformation: From Deception to Authenticity

57:20 The Continuous Journey of Self-Improvement

58:04 The Power of Embracing Imperfections

01:00:19 Breaking Plates: A Unique Approach to Emotional Release

01:00:44 The Importance of Emotional Processing

01:02:13 The Impact of Trauma on Decision Making

01:03:38 The Struggle of People Pleasing

01:04:44 The Journey of Unbecoming

01:05:58 The Chameleon Identity: A Personal Revelation

01:11:09 The Power of Disrupting Patterns

01:12:44 The Struggle of Perfectionism

01:22:17 The Importance of Value Exchange

01:25:53 The Power of Pattern Disruption

01:30:15 Understanding the Impact of Trauma

01:37:41 The Power of Disrupting Bullshit

In this brief episode Rosanna shares what's happened in her life since the airing of the last episode of Breaking Labels and lets you know what's to come for both Breaking Labels and Her Path to Purpose. Subscribe if you haven't already so you'll be first to know when the next episode comes out. 

If you have any questions, you can email Rosanna at hello@rosannagill.com and follow her and the podcast(s) on Instagram at the following accounts:

https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/

https://www.instagram.com/herpathtopurposepod/

Rosanna shares the impact being diagnosed with Herpes at 19 has had on her self-image and why it's important now more than ever to open up up about the label and how she's overcome the fear of talking about it publicly. 

If you'd like to ask Rosanna any questions about living and dating with Herpes, the impact, or anything else, you can join her Friday November 26, 2021, when she goes live on Facebook and Instagram at 10 am EST. If you would like to submit a question anonymously, you can do it here: Ask Rosanna 

You can also reach out to Rosanna via email at Rosanna@breakinglabelspodcast.com

Links to connect on Social Media:

Rosanna's Instagram: @Rosanna.e.gill

Breaking Labels Instagram: @breakinglabelspodcast

Her Path to Purpose: @herpathtopurposepod

In the third part of the 'A Different Perspective' series, host Rosanna Gill shares insight she gained from the series and shares her own experience with white supremacy. She talks about the downfall on being focused on proving one is not racist or what your intention is versus focusing on how what you say or believe actually impacts others. 

The book Rosanna references during the episode is So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo. 

Connect with host Rosanna Gill to know when her next podcast launches and what the next Breaking Labels series will be about:

• https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/

• https://breakinglabelspodcast.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

Email: Rosanna@breakinglabelspodcast.com

In the second part of the 'A Different Perspective' series, host Rosanna Gill is joined by Lori Harris and Catharine Montgomery to discuss the term 'mulatto' and whether there's really much racism still in the world.  Both Lori and Catharine share insight on how to ask questions and the spirit to ask them in. 

The two books Rosanna recommended as resources are:

The Color of the Law by Richard Rothstein

So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

Lori Harris is a recognized expert in the area of juvenile justice, youth in transition and has testified before the California State legislature. She is now a Certified Life Mastery Consultant who helps women create a life that they love.  You can listen to her podcast, Unlock Your Life, here and if you want a discovery chat with Lori, click here:  https://loriaharris.com/chat/

Catharine Montgomery is a DEI advocate and strategic communicator focused on social justice causes.  You can learn more about the work her company does  to use communications to blend differences in backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives to achieve equality here or on LinkedIn

You can also connect with Catharine via her personal Twitter and LinkedIn. 

Breaking Labels is proud to partner with Tru Supplements, a brand founded to be the simple, complete and honest solution to the need for high-quality natural supplements. Listeners of the podcast receive 5% off their order of Tru Supplements using the promo code breakinglabels at this link: http://gettrusupps.com?aff=663

Connect with host Rosanna Gill and Breaking Labels:

• https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/

• https://breakinglabelspodcast.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

"It cannot inherently be true that I am less than because of my appearance." -Lori Harris

In the first part of the 'A Different Perspective' series, host Rosanna Gill is joined by Lori Harris and Catharine Montgomery to discuss a listener's question as to why a man of color might put down other men of color and what it feels like and means to be told they (Lori and Catharine) are not like 'other blacks' and what that really means. 

In the midst of discussing specific scenarios, the three women  touch on everything from privilege to negative and positive self-talk to white supremacy.  Catharine and Lori each shared their unique experiences and thought-provoking examples that give listeners raw, honest insight.

Lori Harris is a recognized expert in the area of juvenile justice, youth in transition and has testified before the California State legislature. She is now a Certified Life Mastery Consultant who helps women create a life that they love.  You can listen to her podcast, Unlock Your Life, here and if you want a discovery chat with Lori, click here:  https://loriaharris.com/chat/

Catharine Montgomery is a DEI advocate and strategic communicator focused on social justice causes.  You can learn more about the work her company does  to use communications to blend differences in backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives to achieve equality here or on LinkedIn

You can also connect with Catharine via her personal Twitter and LinkedIn. 

If you have a question you'd like discussed as part of this series, you can ask it all completely anonymously here: https://www.custominsight.com/box/?cb29894zqkd

Breaking Labels is proud to partner with Tru Supplements, a brand founded to be the simple, complete and honest solution to the need for high-quality natural supplements. Listeners of the podcast receive 5% off their order of Tru Supplements using the promo code breakinglabels at this link: http://gettrusupps.com?aff=663

To donate to the production and advertising costs for A Different Perspective, check out this page on Go Fund Her: https://gofundher.com/differentperspective

Connect with host Rosanna Gill and Breaking Labels:

• https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/

• https://breakinglabelspodcast.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

“Why not me?” asks stay-at-home mother Stephanie Mahoney when evaluating her hesitancy to achieve her goals. After years of believing that being a mom and lacking a degree would prevent her from finding professional success, Stephanie decided to travel outside her comfort zone. 

After experiencing a difficult postpartum during the pandemic, Stephanie had a change of perspective and began allowing positive affirmations into her life. Stephanie is now a passionate brand ambassador for Monat, a naturally-based skincare and shampoo line. Although she sometimes feels judged for her position in multi-level marketing, Stephanie now understands that she “can’t please everyone” and continues to make a difference in people’s lives.

Tune into this week’s episode of Breaking Labels for a conversation on shifting your mindset and speaking your dreams into existence. Through Stephanie’s determination to build a financially freeing career, learn how anything is possible with consistent action and a positive frame of mind.

Quotes
• “I had to find myself where I was going to go down a very dark hole of postpartum, mother of three, trying to figure that out and I couldn't take the kids anywhere. I couldn't see my family. I couldn't see friends. And to be honest with you, when you get backed into a corner like that, it's either Option A: go down the spiraling rabbit hole, or Option B: get uncomfortable.” (16:41-17:10)

• “You're 40% more likely to achieve a goal when you write it down and you speak it into existence. That's why people say speak it out loud, tell people about it. Because your brain is going to start hearing that and now it's going to start finding things to help prove that correctly.” (44:40-44:57)

• “Why not me? Why am I limiting myself because I'm a mom, because I didn't get a degree, because I didn't finish? I've never finished anything in my life. Because I've been in relationship to relationship from kid to kid to kid. Like, dang it. I'm going to see something through and if that means scraping myself out of the soil for seven years like a bamboo tree, then gosh darn it. If that's what it takes, and that's what God has for me, then I'm going to continue to do it.” (49:25-50:00)

• “My biggest fear was not pleasing people and doing my own thing and not worrying about what other people think. The minute I just changed that mindset and said, ‘You know, I'm gonna put myself out there.’ If I lose followers, that's fine. That means I'm niching down to people who do want to follow me. If you don't want to see what I have to say, that's okay. I can't please everyone, I can't speak to everyone. I can speak to my niche and my people that I can relate with and basically be friends with because that's what this is about.” (1:08:32-1:09:05)

• “There's nothing wrong with making money as long as you're trying to serve people. You're trying to send a positive message. I don't think that there is anything wrong with that.” (1:13:16-1:13:32)

• “If you're in multilevel marketing or wanting to be a part of multi level marketing, then I would just say choose wisely. Don't just go to your friend who's like, ‘Oh, sign up with me because I love it.’ Find someone who's serious. Find someone who has your best interests at heart.” (1:28:17-1:28:33)

Links
Connect with Stephanie Mahoney: https://www.instagram.com/stephlmahoney/

* To donate to the production and advertising costs for A Different Perspective, check out this page on Go Fund Her: https://gofundher.com/differentperspective

* To donate to the production and advertising costs for Her Time, check out this page on Go Fund Her: https://gofundher.com/hertime

Connect with host Rosanna Gill and Breaking Labels:
• https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/
• https://breakinglabelspodcast.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

Have a scenario where you asked or said something that offended someone, but you don't know why? Share the details and it will be discussed on the Breaking Labels podcast during the 'A Different Perspective' series. Here is the link where you can ask it all completely anonymously: https://www.custominsight.com/box/?cb29894zqkd

Schedule a consultation for aligners with Candid and get $250 off your aligners: http://cnd.co/v/rosanna_2

Breaking Labels is proud to partner with Tru Supplements, a brand founded to be the simple, complete and honest solution to the need for high-quality natural supplements. Listeners of the podcast receive 5% off their order of Tru Supplements using the promo code breakinglabels at this link: http://gettrusupps.com?aff=663

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For this episode, I wanted to take the time to talk about the future. Specifically, about this podcast and two new projects that I’ve been working on.

Inspired by my desire for a talk about race and ethnicity, I’ve decided to launch a series here on the Breaking Labels podcast called “A Different Perspective”. In this series, I’ll be having really open conversations that get into the questions some people have a hard time asking -- and answering.

My second project is a brand new podcast called, “Her Time”, a show dedicated to stories of women who feel that they are meant to do something more and are called to answer that gentle rage within themselves.

With so many new things happening, I also wanted to take the time to thank every single one of you guys listening in! I wouldn’t be where I am today if not for the absolutely overwhelming support you all have given me. 

Episode Highlights:

• Questions open us to discussions but statements don’t
• About my new series, “A Different Perspective”
• What the “Her Time” podcast will focus on
• My future plans for “Breaking Labels”

Links referenced in this episode:

• Mixxxed Chicks Instagram
• The Kinswomen Podcast
• To donate to the production and advertising costs for A Different Perspective, check out this page on Go Fund Her: https://gofundher.com/differentperspective
• To donate to the production and advertising costs for Her Time, check out this page on Go Fund Her: https://gofundher.com/hertime

Connect with host Rosanna Gill and Breaking Labels:

• Website | Breaking Labels Podcast
• Instagram | @breakinglabelspodcast
• Instagram | @rosanna.e.gill

Have a scenario where you asked or said something that offended someone, but you don't know why?

Share the details and it will be discussed on the Breaking Labels podcast during the 'A Different Perspective' series. Here is the link where you can ask it all completely anonymously: https://www.custominsight.com/box/?cb29894zqkd

“You can choose to lead your life beyond the predicament you’re in. You can choose to see the light.” This was the advice that jewelry designer Lia Valencia’s mother gave her. At the time, they were living a difficult life in Philadelphia, and Lia was headed down a negative path. However, Lia credits her mother's words for unlocking her life, letting her natural light shine through, and inspiring her to start her joyful jewelry brand, Valencia Key.

Lia’s mother also taught her that if you choose something, you should see it through. Lia took this advice to heart through her every endeavor, propelling her to earn a Master's in Education and her Cosmetology Instructor License. Realizing her goal of styling for QVC, Lia spent five years making this dream a reality. There, she met the incredible dream makers who changed her life and gave her the courage to become the designer she is today. Although not all of Lia’s accomplishments have served her long-term, she understands the power of learning who you are and that even if your progress is slow, positive energy will get you there. 

Tune into this week’s episode of Breaking Labels for a conversation on choosing joy no matter what hurdles come your way. Through Lia’s story of entrepreneurship, learn how to “speak your dreams into the world,” finish what you start, and maintain your enthusiasm for life to achieve your goals.

Quotes
• “I started in super humble beginnings, and I love sharing that because it shows it doesn't matter where you come from. It doesn't matter what the world says about you. All that matters is what you believe to be true in your heart, and what you decide to do with the power that is you.” (12:05-12:19)

• “You can choose to lead. You can choose to lead your life beyond the predicament we're in. You can choose to see the light. You can choose to define that your predicament does not determine your destiny. And then she left it and said, ‘And you choose.’ And that was that easy.” (16:27-16:47)

• “One power is really truly understanding who you are, what your strengths are, what you're good at, what works for you, what doesn't work for you.” (22:28-22:35)

• “I feel like enthusiasm, energy and light is more powerful than any skill you'll ever obtain. Because you can't manufacture that.” (26:40-26:50)

• “But my message that I want to give to everyone now, a key that I'd love to give to everyone now is to speak your dreams into the world. And it's really important, it's served me so well. But what, I must be clear. Speak your dreams without expectation. You're not looking to receive something when you speak it out. You are literally just getting it out of your body to permeate into the world. So that it can land in the world.” (32:15-32:49)

Links
Connect with Lia Valencia Key:
• www.valenciakey.com
• https://www.instagram.com/liavalenciakey/
• https://www.instagram.com/valenciakeydesign/

Connect with host Rosanna Gill and Breaking Labels:
• https://www.instagram.com/breakinglabelspodcast/
• https://breakinglabelspodcast.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/rosanna.e.gill/

Have a scenario where you asked or said something that offended someone, but you don't know why? Share the details and it will be discussed on the Breaking Labels podcast during the 'A Different Perspective' series. Here is the link where you can ask it all completely anonymously: https://www.custominsight.com/box/?cb29894zqkd

Schedule a consultation for aligners with Candid and get $250 off your aligners: http://cnd.co/v/rosanna_2

Breaking Labels is proud to partner with Tru Supplements, a brand founded to be the simple, complete and honest solution to the need for high-quality natural supplements. Listeners of the podcast receive 5% off their order of Tru Supplements using the promo code breakinglabels at this link: http://gettrusupps.com?aff=663

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