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Updates on Selling Sunset and Vanderpump Rules cast members: The Vowel Files shares exciting personal updates from the casts of Selling Sunset and Vanderpump Rules, including weddings, new music careers, and upcoming episodes with James Kennedy and Ali, and Mary Fitzgerald.
This episode of The Vowel Files features exciting updates about the personal lives of the cast members from Selling Sunset and Vanderpump Rules. The hosts share their anticipation for upcoming events, including weddings and special episodes. G Flip, a new member of Selling Sunset and recent bride, joins the show to discuss their relationship and successful music career. The hosts also reflect on past drama and share their perspectives on misunderstood situations. Next week, fans can look forward to episodes with James Kennedy and Ali, and Mary Fitzgerald from Selling Sunset. The Vowel Files offers a mix of relationship stories, drama, and advice every Monday, and fans can sign up for a free trial of Viofiles.com for exclusive content. Despite missing out on some high-profile guests, the hosts remain positive and excited for the upcoming episodes.
Ariana clarifies Tom's claims about her suicide threat: Tom used Ariana's emotional expression as a weapon, downplaying her feelings and portraying her as unstable. Ariana was initially attracted to Tom's charm and humor but ended the relationship due to his infidelity.
During Ariana Madix's interview on the Call Her Daddy podcast, she clarified Tom Sandoval's claims about her threatening suicide, stating that she was expressing the end of their relationship and her life in LA as she knew it. Tom weaponized this against her, using it as a soundbite to portray her as unstable. Ariana also mentioned that she was initially attracted to Tom for his charm and humor, but his behavior towards her and his infidelity were significant reasons for their breakup. The Uber driver from the night of the incident was mentioned as a potential witness, but their conversation was not shared publicly. Tom's physical attractiveness was defended, but his actions towards Ariana and Raquel have led to a negative public perception.
People are drawn to passion and authenticity, even in questionable relationships: People are complex and can be attracted to individuals despite their flaws, whether in personal or brand relationships. Authenticity and passion inspire us, but constant deception can damage credibility.
People are drawn to passion and authenticity in relationships, even if the actions of their partners may seem questionable or deceptive at times. Ariana's attraction to Tom Sandoval was reportedly based on his earnestness and passion, and despite his recent infidelity, it's understandable why she was drawn to him for nine years. Similarly, Jeff Bezos, one of the richest men in the world, was reportedly drawn to his partner Lauren Sanchez after years of a reported affair, showing that people are complex and can be attracted to individuals despite their flaws. In the realm of brand deals, Ariana's staged move-out was a brilliant marketing move that showcased her ability to thread the needle between authenticity and deception. However, it's important to note that such tactics can't be used constantly without damaging credibility. Ultimately, people are attracted to what inspires them, whether it's passion, authenticity, or the allure of the unknown.
Discussing the cringeworthy nature of reading old sexting messages and the violation of privacy when they're leaked: Respecting others' privacy is crucial, especially for intimate messages. Reading old sexts can be embarrassing and leaking them is a violation. Wealth also brings risks and vulnerabilities, making privacy even more important.
Privacy is important, especially when it comes to intimate messages and personal belongings. During a conversation, the speakers discussed the cringeworthy nature of reading old sexting messages and the violation of privacy when such messages are leaked. They also touched upon the idea that the perception of what is "ick" versus what is "hot" depends on one's feelings towards the person involved. Additionally, the speakers discussed the risks and vulnerabilities that come with immense wealth, such as being a target for theft. In essence, the conversation highlighted the importance of respecting others' privacy and the potential consequences of having significant wealth.
Respecting each other's space and communicating openly: Successfully sharing a living space with a roommate requires mutual respect, open communication, and finding compromises on cleanliness and shared spaces.
Creating a harmonious living situation with a roommate involves respecting each other's space and establishing open communication. Having too many rules can make both parties uncomfortable, and it's essential to remember that the common area is shared. Regarding cleanliness, having a conversation and finding a compromise is more effective than imposing strict rules. Labeling food and enforcing cleanliness standards can be sources of conflict, and it's crucial to approach these issues with understanding and flexibility. Ultimately, the key to a successful roommate relationship is mutual respect and open communication.
New team member, marriage, and game launch: Team introduces new member, launches true crime game and bra brand, with personal milestones shared
The team is excited to introduce new additions to their family, with the arrival of a new team member and the recent marriage of G Flip and Chrishell. A key highlight is the introduction of the game "June's Journey," an engaging true crime mystery app where players can solve crimes as June Parker. The game offers an escape while also stimulating the brain with subtle hidden clues. Another exciting announcement is the launch of 3rd Love, a bra brand that guarantees comfort and support, with a virtual fitting room to help find the perfect fit for every bra problem. The team also shared their recent personal milestones, with G Flip and Chrishell's unplanned and beautiful wedding. Overall, the team is bringing innovative and enjoyable experiences to their audiences, whether it's through gaming or essential everyday items like bras.
Eloping in Las Vegas inspired by The Office: Couple eloped, committed to yearly ceremonies in different locations, and cherished heartfelt vows, driven by disinterest in traditional weddings and love for spontaneity
Chrishell Stause and her partner, Khalid, decided to elope in Las Vegas after years of discussing their desire for a non-traditional wedding. They found inspiration from an episode of The Office where Jim and Pam got married impulsively. Their decision was driven by their disinterest in traditional weddings and their shared love for spontaneity. Since then, they have committed to having a ceremony every year in different locations with varying guest lists. This unconventional approach allows them to celebrate their love frequently and share the experience with their loved ones around the world. During their elopement, Chrishell wrote heartfelt vows, which was a nerve-wracking experience for her as a poet and songwriter. Overall, their relationship is built on mutual support and complementary strengths, making their unconventional marriage a perfect fit for them.
The Importance of Self-Security and Encouragement in Relationships: Having a strong sense of self-worth and security can lead to trust, understanding, and support in relationships. Being open to new experiences and secure in oneself can lead to unexpected and meaningful connections.
Having a strong sense of self-security and worth in a relationship leads to trust, understanding, and support between partners. The speakers, who have experience in the entertainment industry, shared their personal story of how they met and fell in love, highlighting the importance of being secure within oneself and giving each other encouragement. They met briefly in 2021 and reconnected the following year when Crochelle, sensing a potential connection, invited Chrishell to a party to help her make friends in a new city. After several flirtatious encounters, they finally acknowledged their feelings for each other and began a relationship. The experience shows that being open to new experiences and being secure in oneself can lead to unexpected and meaningful connections.
Unexpected love in an unlikely place: Love can unexpectedly blossom from casual friendships and even amidst the distractions of reality TV. Focus on the connection and ignore external noise to nurture the relationship.
Love can unexpectedly blossom even when it's not planned or anticipated. Chrishell and Kushal's relationship started as a casual friendship, but they later discovered mutual feelings for each other. However, Chrishell was about to participate in a reality TV show focused on finding love, and they both tried to avoid falling in love. But despite their efforts, they eventually gave in to their feelings. Their connection was strong, and they found themselves drawn to each other, despite the challenges that came with their public relationship. They dealt with critics and outside noise by focusing on their bond and ignoring the negativity as much as possible. Ultimately, their love story serves as a reminder that sometimes, the most meaningful relationships can come from the most unlikely places.
Navigating unconventional choices and criticism: Focusing on personal happiness and a strong sense of self can help individuals overcome external criticism and lead to resilience and strength in relationships.
Despite facing hate and judgment, making unconventional choices, and dealing with criticism, the happiness and fulfillment derived from these experiences can lead to resilience and strength as individuals and as a couple. The speaker, who is in a relationship with Chrishell, shares how coming out as queer and being in an untraditional marriage have been some of the best decisions they've ever made, despite the negative reactions from the public. They emphasize the importance of focusing on personal happiness and having a strong sense of self to overcome external criticism. The speaker also wrote a song, "Be Your Man," for Chrishell during a time when they were trying not to fall in love, which ultimately became a romantic and meaningful gesture. Through their experiences, they have learned to not let external factors affect them too much and to cherish the defining moments in their lives, even if they are met with judgment.
The Power of Music and Unexpected Drama in Reality TV: Music can deeply resonate with people, even if unintended, and reality TV can bring unexpected drama and friendships.
Sometimes a simple melody on a guitar can resonate deeply with someone, even if the composer intends it to be about them. This was the case for a songwriter who played an unfinished song for his girlfriend, Michelle, and she instantly fell in love with it. The song later became a hit, but Michelle initially denied that it was about her. The writer took his time to complete the song and eventually showed her the finished product, which she confirmed was indeed about their relationship. The conversation then shifted to Michelle's appearance on the show "Selling Sunset," where she discussed her experiences on the show, including unexpected drama with a co-star named Nicole. Michelle had initially thought season 6 would be drama-free, but things took a turn when Nicole expressed dislike for her. The two had been friends before filming began, and Michelle was surprised by the turn of events. She described the situation as the most drama she had ever experienced in her life. When asked about her thoughts on the situation, I shared that all I knew was that Michelle and Nicole had been friends before the drama unfolded on the show. I also expressed my admiration for Michelle's ability to handle the chaos of filming a reality TV show. Overall, the conversation highlighted the power of music to evoke strong emotions and the unexpected twists and turns that can come with reality TV.
Representation and Education Matter: Representation is crucial in media, and education is essential to promote understanding and acceptance of the LGBTQIA+ community, especially non-binary identities. Open conversations and self-education can bridge gaps and foster a more inclusive society.
Representation matters, especially in media. The cast member discussed how they initially chose not to be part of a reality show due to avoiding drama and protecting their relationship. However, they reconsidered and agreed to participate to represent the queer community and bring awareness to non-binary identities. Education is crucial in promoting understanding and acceptance of the LGBTQIA+ community, particularly regarding non-binary identities. The cast member emphasized the importance of educating oneself and having open conversations to bridge gaps and foster a more inclusive society. Chrishell Stause, a cast member, was praised for her handling of conflicts on the show and standing up for herself, inspiring many viewers. Overall, the conversation highlights the significance of representation and education in fostering a more inclusive and accepting society.
Understanding Nonbinary Identities and Alternative Labels: Respect individuals' identities by using their preferred terms and correcting misgendering with patience and understanding. Explore new hobbies and maintain positive relationships for a healthy work-life balance.
Language and labels are important for individuals to express their identities authentically. Nonbinary individuals may use terms like "wusband" or "wazband" as alternatives to traditional gender-specific terms for spouse. Misgendering can be corrected with a simple acknowledgement and apology. People are still learning about nonbinary identities, and it's important to approach corrections with patience and understanding. Outside of work, it's essential for individuals to have hobbies and passions to maintain a healthy work-life balance. Amanda mentioned her love for Australian Football League (AFL), which she described as a combination of soccer, rugby, and basketball, with unique rules and scoring. AFL involves two teams, goalposts, and bouncing the ball a certain number of times before kicking it through the goalposts for points. It's also important to note that individuals can form healthy relationships with their exes and maintain connections with their families, even after a divorce or separation. Growing up in a blended family, Amanda has experienced this firsthand and emphasizes the importance of maintaining positive relationships with former partners.
Communication and Boundaries in Relationships: Effective communication and setting clear boundaries are essential for maintaining a successful and healthy relationship. Trust and security are key factors in how individuals perceive their partners' past relationships or friendships. Openly discussing topics and having a good sense of humor can strengthen the bond between partners.
Effective communication and setting clear boundaries are crucial elements in maintaining a successful and healthy relationship. As discussed in the conversation, trust and security play a significant role in how individuals perceive their partners' past relationships or friendships. In this particular relationship, the partners have open communication, and they have discussed and clarified expectations around boundaries, such as friendships with exes. The importance of healthy communication was emphasized when one partner was entering a new queer relationship and had questions and concerns about the other partner's non-binary identity and past relationships. By openly discussing these topics, the partners were able to establish a strong foundation for their relationship and avoid misunderstandings. Additionally, having a good sense of humor and being open to new experiences can also contribute to a strong bond between partners.
Cast members of Selling Sunset are true to their on-screen personas: The speaker's encounters with a few cast members align with their TV personalities, and Chrishell may seek peace in her relationship.
The cast members of Selling Sunset are authentic to their on-screen personas, according to the speaker's personal experiences. The speaker admits that they have only met a few cast members outside of the show but notes that everyone they have interacted with is exactly how they appear on television. Regarding Chrishell and Christine's relationship, the speaker is unsure of Chrishell's intentions but believes she may want peace and move on from the drama. The speaker also shares their favorite smells, which are reminiscent of their childhood and their passion for music. Lastly, the speaker discusses their musical background and the transition from playing in bands to having a solo career. They explain that they still play in a band with multi-instrumentalists and that drums have always been their first love. The speaker also shares that they wrote music secretly before coming out and that their singing voice and music were hidden passions.
Finding Solutions to Common Problems: Discovering innovative solutions to common issues, like perfect-fitting strapless bras, and effective communication can lead to positive experiences and improved relationships.
Everyone has their protective layers, whether it's music or a well-fitting bra. For the speaker, drums were her shield for years, but eventually, she was ready to share her story and her music. Similarly, 3rd Love aims to make bra shopping a positive experience by solving common problems with their innovative solutions. In the discussion, the speaker shared her frustration with finding a perfect-fitting strapless bra for a wedding. After trying various options, she discovered 3rd Love and was thrilled with the result. The conversation also touched on a personal issue where the speaker uninvited her girlfriend to a sister's wedding due to miscommunication. The situation led to tension, but ultimately, the speaker learned the importance of clear communication. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of finding solutions to common problems, whether it's in relationships or bra shopping, and the value of effective communication.
Miscommunications in relationships can lead to hurtful words and misunderstandings: Effective communication is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Misunderstandings can be addressed by taking a step back and discussing feelings in person.
Effective communication is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships. Miscommunications can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and even the end of a relationship. In the discussed situation, a miscommunication between the speaker and their partner during graduation day resulted in the partner feeling ignored and unwanted, leading to hurtful words and accusations. The speaker acknowledged their role in the miscommunication but also emphasized the importance of taking a step back to evaluate the situation before reacting. The incident also highlighted the importance of being open to discussing feelings and miscommunications in person, to avoid misunderstandings and misconstrued messages. Overall, the experience served as a reminder of the importance of clear and effective communication in relationships.
Effective communication in relationships: Addressing anxious behavior and misunderstandings: Communicate effectively in person when emotions run high, use positive language and affirmations, understand each other's communication styles and triggers, and be patient and understanding.
Effective communication is key in any relationship, especially when dealing with anxiety and misunderstandings. The speaker in this conversation expressed concerns about their partner's anxious behavior and the impact it has on their communication. They shared that their partner becomes anxious when they don't respond to messages right away, leading to misunderstandings and potential arguments. The speaker suggested that setting aside time for in-person conversations when emotions are running high can be more effective than communicating via text. They also mentioned the importance of using positive language and affirmations when bringing up sensitive topics to avoid triggering anxiety. Another important takeaway is the need for both partners to understand each other's communication styles and triggers. The speaker acknowledged that they cannot always respond immediately to messages due to work or other commitments, which causes their partner to feel anxious and ignored. By being aware of this and communicating openly about their schedules and availability, the partners can work together to find solutions that work for both of them. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of open and effective communication in any relationship, and the need for both partners to be understanding and patient with each other's unique communication styles and needs.
Communication and shared interests matter in relationships: Effective communication and a sense of 'us' are crucial for individuals with anxious attachment styles. Compatibility and shared interests are also essential for long-term relationship success.
Effective communication and a sense of "us" or "we" in a relationship can be crucial for individuals with anxious attachment styles. Using inclusive language can help create a more harmonious dynamic. However, compatibility and shared interests are also essential for long-term success. The speaker mentioned feeling financially burdened in their relationship and a lack of compatibility in various areas. They also shared concerns about their partner's reluctance to meet family and lack of interest in getting to know them. These issues can contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction and a sense that the relationship may not be the right one. Ultimately, it's important to identify and address any challenges in a relationship, focusing on communication, compromise, and shared interests to foster a healthy and lasting connection.
Concerns about girlfriend's lack of effort in relationship: Relationships need effort from both partners. If one person isn't making an effort to bond, consider having an honest conversation about compatibility and potential breakup.
A relationship requires effort from both partners to make it work. The speaker expresses concern about his girlfriend's behavior around his family and friends, as she seems unwilling to make an effort to connect with them. He feels that their relationship is based on early promises and ideals rather than compatibility and mutual respect. The speaker suggests that the girlfriend may need to acknowledge her introverted personality and make an effort to bond with those important to her partner. Ultimately, the speaker encourages the listener to have an honest conversation with themselves about the compatibility and effort in their relationship, and to consider breaking up if there are significant issues. The fear of disappointing one's partner and being labeled the "bad guy" can make the decision to end a relationship difficult, but sometimes it's necessary for both parties to move on and find a more fulfilling connection.
Assessing Relationship Health at Weddings: Be honest and direct when ending unhealthy relationships. Find a partner who brings contentment and peace, not anxiety or frustration. Attend weddings as a litmus test for relationship health.
Sometimes relationships may not serve the best interests of both parties involved, and it's essential to prioritize personal happiness and compatibility. The speakers emphasized the importance of being direct and honest when ending a relationship, even if it's uncomfortable. They also suggested that it's important to find a partner who brings contentment and peace into one's life rather than anxiety and frustration. Additionally, the speakers highlighted the significance of attending weddings as a litmus test for the health of a relationship. If a couple feels disconnected at a wedding, it may be a sign that they are not compatible and should consider ending the relationship. Overall, the speakers encouraged the importance of being true to oneself and prioritizing personal happiness.
Connecting with fans and finding inspiration: Musician prioritizes fan engagement, draws inspiration from drum teacher, and values overall happiness and loved ones' joy in career goals.
For the interviewee, engaging with their audience is a crucial aspect of being a successful musician. They make an effort to connect with fans before and after shows, as well as during performances by talking and bantering between songs. Growing up, they struggled to find representation and an idol in the music industry that was similar to them as a queer, non-binary person. Instead, they found their inspiration in their drum teacher. Their career goals prioritize their overall happiness and the joy they bring to their loved ones, including providing for them and bringing them to shows. They have already collaborated with one of their idols, Travis Barker, and are open to more collaborations in the future.
Passionate musician and advocate for non-binary representation: G Flip, an Australian artist, expresses love for music, authenticity, and acceptance for non-binary individuals, emphasizing education and open conversations for a more inclusive world.
G Flip, an Australian musician and drummer, is passionate about both creating music and inspiring representation and acceptance for non-binary individuals. With a collection of eight drum kits in his drum room, G Flip expresses his love for music and his desire to work with various artists. He also reflects on the importance of authenticity and self-expression, particularly in relation to his own journey understanding his non-binary identity. Furthermore, he emphasizes the significance of education and open conversations in creating a more accepting world for gender diverse individuals. G Flip is currently touring and playing shows for pride this June, and tickets can be purchased on his website, gflipmusic.com.
Intimate photos in long-term relationships: Sharing intimate photos can strengthen long-term relationships, but consider risks and ensure mutual trust and consent before sharing outside of committed relationships. Watermark photos before sharing for privacy.
Sharing intimate photos, or "nudes," in a long-term relationship can help keep the connection alive when physical proximity is not possible. However, it's important to be cautious and considerate when sharing such content outside of a committed relationship, as there are potential risks involved, such as privacy concerns and the permanence of digital content. To mitigate these risks, it's recommended to watermark your photos before sharing them. Overall, the decision to share intimate photos should be based on mutual trust and consent within the context of the relationship.
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