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    • The Role of Gratitude in Mental and Physical HealthGratitude, a positive emotion, improves mental and physical health by lowering blood pressure, protecting the immune system, potentially preserving telomere length, and helping cope with stress and trauma.

      Gratitude, a fundamental positive emotion, plays a crucial role in mental and physical health. According to research by Barbara Fredrickson, positive emotions like gratitude have numerous benefits. They make us feel good and also have tangible health benefits, such as lowering blood pressure, protecting the immune system, and potentially preserving telomere length. Positive emotions also help us cope with stress and bounce back from trauma and loss. It's important to note that the term "gratitude" is used as an umbrella term for positive emotions in general, as they all share the commonality of making us feel good by acknowledging the receipt of something good. Researchers like Barbara Fredrickson have faced challenges in studying positive emotions due to the stigma surrounding happiness and positivity in academia. However, their work has shown that positive emotions are not just feel-good experiences, but also have important health benefits. So, focusing on gratitude and other positive emotions can lead to better mental and physical health in the long run.

    • Positive emotions broaden perspective and improve well-beingExperiencing positive emotions regularly can lead to better mental health, creative problem-solving, improved mood, and the ability to dream bigger dreams.

      Experiencing positive emotions regularly, even mild ones, can lead to significant benefits in terms of mental health and overall well-being. According to research, positive emotions broaden our perspective, allowing us to see the big picture and engage in creative problem-solving and open-minded decision-making. This can lead to better recovery from traumatic events, improved mood, and the ability to dream bigger dreams. Over the course of her career, Barbara Fredrickson has emphasized the importance of acquiring various resources, including those that come from positive experiences. Positivity, or the ability to experience positive emotions, is a valuable resource that can contribute to overall resilience and success.

    • The Power of GratitudePracticing gratitude leads to optimism, willingness to take risks, success, and greater well-being, making individuals less self-preoccupied and fostering interconnectedness.

      Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can lead to numerous psychological benefits. Research by Robert Emmons, a leading expert on gratitude, shows that people who practice gratitude tend to be more optimistic, willing to take calculated risks, successful, and experience greater well-being. Gratitude is distinct from gladness, as the latter doesn't require acknowledging a gift received. Gratitude also makes individuals less self-preoccupied, fostering a clearer understanding of the larger world and our interconnectedness. Additionally, gratitude is a powerful reminder of the interdependence of individuals throughout history and a counterbalance to excessive individualism. Overall, gratitude is a valuable emotion that brings feelings of satisfaction and connection, addressing our primary needs of safety, satisfaction, and connection.

    • The Complexity of GratitudeGratitude can provide strength and resilience, but beware of using it as an excuse for inaction or overlooking systemic issues. Appreciate your blessings and avoid attribution bias.

      Gratitude and thankfulness are complex emotions that can be challenging for some people, especially those facing hardships. It's important to be aware of the potential misuse of these emotions, such as using them as an excuse for not addressing systemic issues or leaving people in poverty. However, gratitude can also serve as a source of strength and resilience, even in difficult circumstances. People with greater privileges and wealth can learn to appreciate their blessings more fully and not fall into the attribution bias, overvaluing their own efforts and underestimating the role of luck in others' success. Ultimately, gratitude is not a substitute for action, but rather a mindset that can help us find contentment and motivation to improve our lives and the lives of those around us.

    • Gratitude and compassion go hand in handFeeling thankful doesn't diminish compassion, it can fuel it. Recognize the role of privilege and use gratitude to make a positive impact.

      Feeling grateful for what we have does not diminish our compassion for those who have less. In fact, genuine thankfulness can lead to a desire to help and make a positive impact on the world. However, some people may find it difficult to feel thankful due to feelings of guilt or discomfort when comparing their privileged circumstances to the struggles of others. It's important to recognize that these feelings are not mutually exclusive, and that thankfulness and compassion can coexist. Additionally, avoiding thankfulness may serve as a way to avoid feeling guilty or overwhelmed by the reality of inequality and privilege. It's important to acknowledge the role of privilege in society and the responsibility that comes with it, while also focusing on the inner resources and benefits that come from practicing gratitude.

    • Embracing Dependencies for GratitudeAcknowledging our dependencies and focusing on appreciation can help us grow our capacity for gratitude. Embrace life's gifts and be aware of tendencies to push away positive experiences.

      Gratitude and thankfulness can be hindered by feelings of vulnerability and dependence, as well as the fear of being obligated to give in return. However, recognizing and accepting these dependencies and focusing on the readiness to appreciate the good things in life can help us grow our capacity for gratitude. We are all dependent on various things and people, and acknowledging this fact doesn't diminish our achievements or self-worth. Additionally, many things we receive, such as the gift of life, cannot be repaid. By embracing these realities, we can open ourselves up to the experience of thankfulness and make the most of the gifts we receive. Practicing a readiness to appreciate and being aware of our tendencies to push away positive experiences can help us cultivate a greater sense of gratitude in our daily lives.

    • Practicing Gratitude Improves Mental HealthRegularly expressing gratitude boosts mental health, deepens relationships, and fosters a more positive perspective on life

      Practicing gratitude regularly, whether it's through simple acts like expressing thankfulness during meals or more formal exercises like the 3 blessings practice, can significantly improve mental health and well-being. This practice goes beyond just intellectual acknowledgment of things to be grateful for, but encourages an experience of gratitude and happiness that becomes deeply ingrained. The benefits of this practice extend beyond personal well-being, as it can also lead to improved relationships with others by fostering a more mellow, forgiving, and tolerant attitude. Additionally, expanding the scope of what one is grateful for, even to seemingly small or trivial things, can lead to a greater sense of awe and appreciation for the world around us. Ultimately, practicing gratitude can help shift our perspective from focusing on our own role in life's events to recognizing the gifts and blessings that come our way.

    • Cultivating Gratitude and AppreciationFocusing on gratitude for external good fortune leads to mental well-being, essential for agency and positive emotions. Research by Barbara Fredrickson supports this, but embracing gratitude fully can be challenging. Practical ways to foster a more grateful attitude include recognizing good fortune, expressing thanks, and reflecting on past blessings.

      Cultivating a mindset of gratitude and appreciation for the good things in life, even those beyond our control, can lead us to a more altruistic, kind, and mentally healthier perspective. When we accept that much of our good fortune is due to external causes, we can focus on what we can control and take responsibility for. Gratitude is linked to agency, and both are essential for mental well-being. The discussion touched on the benefits of positive emotions, the research of Barbara Fredrickson, the challenges of fully embracing gratitude, and practical ways to foster a more grateful attitude. Next week, we'll explore the idea of taking pleasure in the good experiences life brings us.

    Recent Episodes from Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior
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    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself

    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself
    Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response: an appeasement strategy where we manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 2:15: What the fawn response looks like 9:05: Power imbalances, shame, and contempt 11:35: What personal history tends to lead to fawning? 20:00: How to work on the tendency to fawn 36:30: Shame, self-acceptance, and opening up to self-expression 41:25: The fawn response in relationship 46:40: Becoming your own source of safety 52:20: Making equitable arrangements, and acknowledging your best efforts 1:01:50: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira
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    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag

    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag
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    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want

    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want
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    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe

    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe
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    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation

    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation
    Dr. Rick and Forrest continue their series on the stress responses with the “fight” response to stress. They explore anger, repression, and the balance of self-expression and self-regulation before talking about how we can claim the adaptive aspects of the fight response without falling prey to its more problematic aspects. A major focus of the episode is resentment and repression, alongside related topics like empowering yourself, managing expectations, and “experiencing out.” You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:15: The useful aspects of anger 5:40: Specific behaviors associated with the fight response 8:35: Giving yourself permission to express anger 13:40: Navigating resentment 21:40: Thwarted expectations as a source of unhealthy anger 32:05: Claiming your anger, and being wary of its seductive nature 35:45: Developing an authentic sense of empowerment 39:45: Going from complaint to request 43:30: Antidotes to unhealthy anger 52:40: Challenging authority without feeling intimidated or shamed 54:20: When we’re angry at ourselves 59:00: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy
    In this mega-episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson explore everything you need to know about therapy. They share how you can get more from therapy, finding the approach that’s right for you, and some perspectives on why therapy is so expensive. They then run through the five major schools of Western psychotherapy before discussing a few alternative modalities. You’ll learn how long to stick with a therapist before looking for alternatives, questions to ask a prospective therapist, and how to maximize your results. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: The biggest factors that contribute to therapy going well 7:25: Finding the therapeutic modality that works for you 14:00: The cost of therapy, and the problem created by insurance companies 20:35: The five major schools of western psychotherapy 21:20: Psychodynamic therapy, and investigating the unconscious 23:20: Behavioral therapy, and variable reinforcement 25:55: Humanistic psychology, and seeing the good in yourself 29:05: Cognitive therapy, why insurance companies like CBT, and exploring our beliefs 36:15: Mindfulness-based therapies, and being with our experiences 41:15: Family systems therapy, social justice, somatic therapy, and non-Western thinking 46:20: The differences (and similarities) between therapy and coaching 52:40: How long therapy should take, and how to evaluate if it’s working 1:02:15: The role of client motivation  1:04:55: Questions to ask a prospective therapist 1:10:15: The importance of the therapist’s engagement 1:12:50: Common qualities Rick found challenging with past clients 1:16:05: The importance of internalizing change, and recognizing what’s really shifting 1:21:20: Recap Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Healing After Trauma with Dr. Peter Levine

    Healing After Trauma with Dr. Peter Levine
    Somatic psychology legend Dr. Peter Levine joins Dr. Rick and Forrest to explore how we can use body-based approaches to recover from traumatic experiences. Peter uses his personal history with trauma to illustrate the practices he’s taught to thousands of people through his work. They discuss the importance of resourcing experiences, creating safety, developing interoception, abandonment wounds, bringing a diverse perspective to somatic work, and working with shame.  Please be aware that this episode includes a description of sexual assault. About our Guest: Dr. Peter Levine is the creator of Somatic Experiencing and the Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education. He’s taught at a number of universities, has received Lifetime Achievement awards from numerous organizations, and is the best-selling author of several books, including Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma, and his most recent book An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:15: Peter’s dream about publishing his recent book 6:40: Themes connecting the personal and professional for Peter 10:15: Physicalization, pendulation, and decontextualization of trauma 16:15: Presence with others, and moving gently into shame to move through it 20:55: The fundamental view that we our innately healthy, and completing the arc 23:05: When the prompt “feel it in your body” doesn’t work 28:15: Advice for when you don’t have access to therapy or a SEP practitioner 30:35: Tenderness 34:30: Anchoring in the here and now when accessing past memories 39:35: Conceiving of yourself as a source of safety 43:30: Generating your own internal wellbeing 46:20: Acknowledging the reality of your history, patience, and completion 49:45: Living by dying 52:15: Recap Offer from Dr. Rick: If you'd like to improve your self-worth, check out Rick's new 4-hour, live online workshop. You'll learn methods and practices that can actually change your brain and your habits, so you start nurturing your sense of worth and belonging. Our listeners can get 20% off with coupon code BeingWell20: https://selfworthworkshop.com/ Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Recovering from a Challenging Childhood: Reclaim, Resupply, and Repair

    Recovering from a Challenging Childhood: Reclaim, Resupply, and Repair
    Dr. Rick and Forrest explore a huge topic: what can we do to recover from a difficult childhood as an adult? Rick introduces a three step process that can help us reclaim our past, identify the key needs we have these days, and internalize related positive experiences. They discuss related tools from psychology like releasing repressed emotions, claiming agency where we can, and changing what we emphasize in the story of our lives. If you had a hard time growing up, this one’s for you. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: Recovering from childhood wounds - Reclaim, Resupply, and Repair 7:00: Clarifying your personal narrative, and the importance of agency 12:25: How the unmet needs from your past impacts your present 18:25: Changing what we emphasize in the story we tell ourselves 28:50: Letting the fizz out of the bottle 32:20: Identifying the right medicine for your unresolved wounds  38:00: How developing competency helps you break free from your past 41:50: Self-soothing through envisioning positive experiences 45:00: The process of letting go of the childhood you wish you had 57:50: Naming what you want from life, and the universal ground of being 1:02:00: Recap  Offer from Dr. Rick: If you'd like to improve your self-worth, check out Rick's new 4-hour, live online workshop. You'll learn methods and practices that can actually change your brain and your habits, so you start nurturing your sense of worth and belonging. Our listeners can get 20% off with coupon code BeingWell20: https://selfworthworkshop.com/ Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Trust your gut with Seed’s DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month.  Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Visit airdoctorpro.com and use promo code BEING to receive up to $300 off air purifiers! When you use our code, you’ll also receive a free 3-year warranty on any unit, an $84 value Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

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    Let's Talk About Mental Health. Because the more we talk about it, the easier it gets.

    Warning: Contains occasional mild coarse language.

    Becoming a Super (& Sexy) Woman with Nicole Lapin

    Becoming a Super (& Sexy) Woman with Nicole Lapin
    On today’s show, joining Dr. Emily is best-selling author & co-host of the Hush Money podcast Nicole Lapin & they’re talking about her new book, Becoming Super Woman: A Simple 12-Step Plan to Go from Burnout to Balance. They discuss ways to prevent burnout by finding a good balance for your work and home life, why you want to be “super woman” not SuperWoman, & the family, finance & fun plan – the 3 F’s that will help maintain a steady, level-headed lifestyle.  Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com For more information on Nicole Lapin, click HERE.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    You Can Change

    You Can Change

    You can make yourself happier today. Your life circumstances and personality aren't nearly as important as you think in deciding how happy you can be. Dr Laurie Santos explains how understanding the latest science will point you in the right direction and make you more satisfied with your life. Are you ready to feel better?

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