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    Episode #18: Gritty Stories From the Wild West With Matthew Mayo

    enApril 03, 2014

    Podcast Summary

    • Untold Tales of the Brave Pioneers in the Wild WestThe Wild West was a harsh reality for pioneers, filled with danger and hardships, yet they persevered and played a crucial role in settling the region, inspiring us with their resilience and determination.

      The Wild West was not just a romanticized version of rugged individualism and danger, but also a challenging and hard reality that required specific resilience and determination to survive. Author Matthew Mayo, a New Englander who grew up with a love for the Wild West through media and personal experience, shares stories of these hardy men and women in his book "Cowboys, Mountain Men and Grizzly Bears." Despite the dangers and hardships, these individuals played a significant role in settling the Wild West and continue to inspire us today. If you're interested in learning more about the true stories of the Wild West, check out Matthew Mayo's book and explore the untold tales of these brave pioneers.

    • Fiction writing background shapes historical narrativeThe author's fiction writing skills brought historical events to life, making complex topics relatable and enjoyable for readers.

      The power of literature, particularly adventure and Western genres, played a significant role in shaping the author's interest in American history. This fascination led to a successful career in fiction writing, and when presented with an opportunity to write a non-fiction historical book, the author applied their storytelling skills to create an engaging and informative narrative history. The author's background in fiction writing allowed them to bring historical events to life in an engaging and accessible way, making complex historical topics more relatable and enjoyable for readers. This unique approach, combining the author's fiction writing abilities with meticulous research, resulted in a captivating and informative historical book.

    • Bringing History to Life: Depth, Detail, and Engaging NarrativesThe author meticulously researches historical events, adds depth and detail, and crafts engaging narratives to create a more accurate and enjoyable account of history.

      The author's approach to writing history is to take the basic facts and add depth and detail, creating a more engaging and accurate account of historical events. He uses the example of the OK Corral Gunfight, where he researched extensively to ensure accuracy while also providing an interesting narrative perspective. The author's initial list of potential chapters was extensive, but he narrowed it down by categorizing the stories into three rough themes: mountain men and Indians, man versus nature, and cowboys and gunfighters. This structure helped give the book shape and focus. Overall, the author's goal is to bring history to life in a more engaging and accessible way, while also maintaining accuracy and avoiding common misconceptions.

    • Exploring the lesser-known stories of the Wild WestThe Wild West was filled with more than just gunfights and expected events. Lesser-known stories of survival, bravery, and adventure, like those of Uncle Dick Wooten, Hugh Glass, and Teddy Roosevelt, add depth and complexity to the Wild West narrative.

      The Wild West was more than just gun fights and expected events like the Battle of Little Big Horn or the Gunfight at the O.K. Corral. In his book, the author delved into lesser-known stories, such as Uncle Dick Wooten's encounter with a youth chief in Texas in 1882 or Hugh Glass's survival story. Glass was left for dead by his party after being attacked by a grizzly bear but managed to drag himself 350 miles and survive. Another favorite story of the author's was Teddy Roosevelt's, which conveyed the vigor and engaging essence of the man in a pulpy, manly way. The book as a whole was built in an engaging manner, bringing unexpected incidents to light and showcasing the depth and complexity of the Wild West beyond the typical gunfighter narratives.

    • A Resilient Pioneer: Marie Dorian's StoryMarie Dorian, a Sioux Indian woman, survived unimaginable hardships in the Wild West, including the death of her baby, husband, and trapping partners, but managed to save her two young sons and live a long life.

      Both men and women played significant roles in settling the Wild West, and the stories of their courage and determination continue to inspire us. Marie Dorian, a Sioux Indian woman, is just one example of a resilient pioneer. Traveling with her husband in 1811, she faced unimaginable hardships, including the death of her baby and the loss of her husband and his trapping partners. Despite these challenges, she managed to survive and save her two young sons, ultimately living to a ripe old age. The pioneers' shared traits of determination and curiosity enabled them to face the challenges of settling a new frontier, whether they were seeking adventure, escaping dead-end lives, or simply following their dreams.

    • Story of Annette Riker and Bass Reeves illustrate determination and curiosityDespite facing numerous challenges, Annette Riker and Bass Reeves persevered and thrived, inspiring us to never give up and embrace new experiences with curiosity.

      Determination and curiosity are key to personal growth and survival. The story of Annette Riker, a teenage girl who survived the harsh winter in the Rockies after her father and brothers went missing, is a powerful example of this. Despite facing numerous challenges, including hunting her own food, building a shelter, and fending off predators, Annette persevered and ultimately thrived. Her story serves as a reminder to never give up and to embrace new experiences with curiosity. Another fascinating character in the book is Bass Reeves, a deputy U.S. marshal who embodied honesty and integrity. These real-life lessons from the past continue to inspire and challenge us to be better men today.

    • The Remarkable Story of Deputy Marshal Bass ReevesBass Reeves, an illiterate former slave, became the first US deputy marshal west of the Mississippi in 1875, making over 3,000 arrests with incredible tracking skills and resilience, even tracking down and bringing his own son to justice for murder.

      Matthew Mayo introduced us to an extraordinary figure in American history: Bass Reeves. Reeves was a black man born into slavery, who defied odds and became the first US deputy marshal west of the Mississippi in 1875. Despite being illiterate, he memorized warrants and made over 3,000 arrests. Reeves was known for his incredible tracking skills and was never shot, although he was shot at numerous times. He ended his career having killed 14 men in self-defense. The most challenging case of his thirty-five-year career was when he had to track down and bring his own son to justice for murder. Mayo emphasized that Reeves' story is more than just a tale of a fast-drawing gunman; it's a testament to resilience, courage, and determination. If you're interested in learning more about this remarkable figure, be sure to check out Matt Mayo's book, "Cowboys, Mountain Men and Grizzly Bears," available at MatthewMayo.com.

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