Podcast Summary
Exploring the mysteries of orgasms: Embrace your pleasure, stay present, and consider using helpful resources and tools to enhance your orgasms and overall sexual experiences.
Many issues surrounding orgasms stem from within ourselves, including mental blocks related to control, shame, and stress. Orgasms don't have to be a mystery; they can be enhanced with the right mindset and tools. During this episode of "Sex with Emily," various callers shared their concerns about orgasms, such as fear of losing control, taking too long to finish, and not reaching climax with a partner despite receiving oral sex. Dr. Emily, the host, offered advice and solutions for each situation, emphasizing the importance of staying present and prioritizing pleasure. Additionally, she introduced listeners to products like Promescent's delay spray and warming arousal gel, which can help improve orgasms and enhance the overall sexual experience. The magic wand, a legendary vibrator, was also mentioned as a trusted and iconic tool for achieving orgasms. In summary, this episode encouraged listeners to explore their orgasms more deeply, embrace their pleasure, and consider using helpful resources and tools to enhance their sexual experiences.
Unlearning shame and conditioning for pleasure: Unlearn shame, practice mindfulness, use helpful tools for self-pleasure, prioritize pleasure in life
Pleasure is a fundamental right, and it's important to unlearn any shame or conditioning that may hinder us from fully experiencing it. Heather's story highlights the internal struggles some people face when it comes to allowing themselves to enjoy the pleasurable sensations of masturbation. The cultural narrative of having to earn pleasure or only experiencing it for a specific purpose can create unnecessary anxiety and fear. However, practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation and breathwork can help quiet the mind and allow us to focus on the present moment, making it easier to let go and reach orgasm. The Magic Wand vibrators, with their powerful rumble, can be a helpful tool in this journey towards self-pleasure and self-acceptance. Remember, everyone deserves pleasure, and it's essential to make it a priority in our lives.
Practicing letting go for orgasm: Use meditation, breathing, communication, auditory stimuli, kegel exercises, and moaning to facilitate orgasm by releasing tension and focusing on the present moment. Collaborate with a partner for new experiences.
Achieving an orgasm involves letting go of control and tension, and this can be facilitated through practices such as meditation, breathing, and communication with a supportive partner. The speaker shares that they often get caught up in their thoughts during sexual experiences, leading them to hesitate and stop themselves from reaching orgasm. They suggest using tools like auditory stimuli, kegel exercises, and moaning to help release tension and focus on the present moment. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of communication and collaboration with a partner to explore new experiences and find what works best for both individuals. In summary, the key to achieving an orgasm is to practice letting go of control and tension, and to use various tools and techniques to facilitate this process.
Reducing stress for better sex: Deep breathing, meditation, sex toys, medical advice, communication, and experimentation can all contribute to reducing stress and improving sexual satisfaction.
The primary obstacle to achieving greater pleasure and more frequent orgasms may be within our own control. Anxiety and tension, often caused by our thoughts and expectations, can hinder our sexual experiences. Simple practices like deep breathing and meditation can help reduce stress and improve sexual satisfaction. For individuals experiencing longer than usual time to orgasm, especially as they age, it's essential to understand that this is a common occurrence and that various methods, such as using sex toys or seeking medical advice, can be beneficial. Communication with a partner and openness to experimentation are also crucial elements in maintaining a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship.
Exploring new methods and tools for sexual pleasure: Understanding individual needs, open communication, and experimenting with new tools can enhance sexual experiences and alleviate pressure for orgasm
Exploring different methods and tools for sexual pleasure, such as vibrating rings, prostate toys, and open communication, can help alleviate the pressure of orgasm and enhance overall sexual experience. The discussion also highlighted the importance of understanding individual sexual needs and changes as we age, and the role of healthy communication and play in maintaining a satisfying sex life. Additionally, the mention of Hero Bread offered a solution for those who enjoy bread but want to maintain a healthy lifestyle, by providing low-carb alternatives without sacrificing taste or texture.
Exploring Unique Solutions: Hero Bread and Oh My Bod: Hero Bread offers fiber-rich, low net carb options for bread lovers, while Oh My Bod revolutionizes intimacy with innovative sex toys and app connectivity
Both Hero Bread and Oh My Bod offer unique solutions for different aspects of life. Hero Bread, with its wide range of low net carb options, allows individuals to enjoy various bread products while maintaining a fiber-rich diet and controlling sugar intake. On the other hand, Oh My Bod, a pioneer in sex tech, provides innovative sex toys that offer remote control and music or ambient sound-synced vibrations, adding excitement and connection to relationships, whether long-distance or local. During the discussion, the speaker shared her personal experience with Hero Bread and its versatility, from sandwiches and burgers to French toast and low net carb croissants. She emphasized the convenience of the brand and recommended checking their monthly small batch drops for unique offerings. The conversation then shifted to Oh My Bod, where the co-founder, Suki Dunham, shared her journey from an unlikely sex tech innovator to creating groundbreaking products. She highlighted their app-connected pleasure products, including Bluetooth-enabled toys and the Panty Vibe, which offers various ways to play, including music and ambient sound synchronization, and even a heartbeat-controlled feature for added intimacy.
Designing sex toys for intimacy and problem-solving: Oh My God Toys creates innovative, inclusive sex toys that prioritize intimacy and solve problems for couples, such as the Penis Ring with music feature and the age-friendly Love Life Rev finger vibe.
Oh My God Toys prioritizes solving problems and enhancing intimacy through their sex toy designs. Two of their popular recommendations for couples are the G Spot Vibe and the Penis Ring. The Penis Ring allows partners to enjoy music during sex while maintaining contact with the clitoris. The extended touch design ensures both partners receive satisfaction. The Love Life Rev, another popular toy, was designed with an aging population in mind, addressing ageism in sex. It's a finger vibe that doesn't require holding, making it accessible for those with arthritis or other mobility issues. Their best-selling Cuddle and Cuddle Mini are versatile, user-friendly, and designed based on customer feedback. Overall, Oh My God Toys focuses on creating high-quality, innovative, and inclusive sex toys that cater to various needs and preferences.
Embrace your unique sexual experiences: Exploring your body through mindful masturbation can lead to new discoveries and greater sexual satisfaction. Practice mindfulness and take the time to truly explore your body.
It's important to embrace your unique sexual experiences and not feel self-conscious about them. During the holiday season, a listener named Brooke shared her struggle with orgasming through touch or penetration, and feeling like she was missing out. The expert on the podcast reassured her that everyone is different and that exploring your body through mindful masturbation can help broaden horizons and make penetration more comfortable. It's a common challenge to stay present and focused during self-exploration, but practicing mindfulness and taking the time to truly explore your body can lead to new discoveries and greater sexual satisfaction. Additionally, the expert recommended checking out the Black Friday and Cyber Monday sale at their company, offering 30% off site-wide and a free vibrator with every purchase, as a way to enhance one's sexual exploration during the holiday season.
Exploring Sexual Pleasure: A Practice of Patience and Curiosity: Stay present, practice techniques, not overly focused on orgasm, use vibrators, remember individual differences, address pain with professionals, and approach with patience and curiosity.
Exploring sexual pleasure involves learning to stay present in the moment, practicing with different techniques, and not being overly focused on orgasm as the end goal. Using a vibrator can help access nerve endings that are harder to reach and can be used in conjunction with manual stimulation. It's important to remember that everyone's body responds differently and that there is a lot to learn about one's own preferences. For those experiencing pain during penetration, it may be helpful to see a pelvic floor physical therapist to address potential pelvic floor tension or conditions like vaginismus or vulvodynia. Overall, sexual exploration is a practice that requires patience, curiosity, and a willingness to try new things.
Improve sex pain and discomfort with pelvic floor therapy: 80% of women face sex pain, pelvic floor therapy can help, advocate for yourself, communicate with partners, seek specialized care
Pelvic floor physical therapy can significantly improve pain and discomfort during sex for many women. Pelvic floor muscles are connected to the muscles surrounding the clitoris, and pain or tightness can restrict nerve endings and blood flow, making it difficult to achieve orgasm. Breathing exercises and seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist can help alleviate these issues. It's important to remember that 80% of women experience pain during sex at some point in their lives, and it's essential to advocate for yourself and seek out specialized healthcare professionals to address these concerns. Communication and openness with partners are also crucial for a fulfilling sexual relationship. If you're struggling with sexual pain or discomfort, don't suffer in silence – seek out resources and support to improve your sexual health and wellbeing.
Communication is key to a satisfying sexual relationship: Effective communication about desires and needs can lead to deeper intimacy and greater pleasure in a sexual relationship. Be present in the moment and open to new experiences.
Effective communication is essential for a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. The speaker shared his personal experience of being in a long-term marriage where he felt unfulfilled sexually due to lack of open conversation about desires and needs. He emphasized the importance of discussing sex with your partner, as it becomes increasingly difficult to do so the longer you're together. The speaker also highlighted the importance of being present in the moment during intimate encounters and being open to exploring new things with your partner. He expressed gratitude for having found a new partner who encourages open communication and is able to experience orgasm with a penis, which he found to be a game-changer. Overall, the speaker's message was that having open and honest conversations about sex can lead to greater pleasure and deeper intimacy in a relationship.
Communication is key to a satisfying sexual relationship: Explore new experiences with your partner, discuss boundaries and interests, use resources to broaden horizons, and prioritize open communication to deepen connection and enhance the sexual experience.
Open and honest communication is essential for a satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship. The speaker shared his experience of exploring new sexual experiences with his partner and how they discussed their boundaries and interests. He emphasized the importance of having conversations about sex, even if it's about fantasies or past experiences, to deepen the connection and understanding between partners. The speaker also recommended using resources like the "yes, no, maybe" list and educational podcasts to explore new ideas and broaden horizons together. Ultimately, the key is to approach these conversations with a willingness to learn and grow, and to prioritize open and honest communication as a means of enhancing the sexual experience.
