Logo
    Search

    How To End Relationships That Impede Your Progress, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO173

    enSeptember 12, 2017

    Podcast Summary

    • Experience with a peeling dash panel in a new Ford GTQuick and effective communication with customers can lead to increased satisfaction and loyalty, even with high-end purchases

      Excellent customer service is crucial, especially when dealing with high-end purchases. In this podcast episode, the host, Andy, shared his experience with a peeling dash panel on his brand new 2017 Ford GT. Despite the car being the first customer car delivered outside of Ford executives and having a custom color, he encountered an issue that bothered him. He reached out to the customer concierge but didn't receive a response, so he contacted a friend who also owned a Ford GT. Within minutes of sharing his frustration, he received a call from the director of Ford Performance. The quick response not only resolved the issue but also left Andy feeling valued as a customer. This experience emphasizes the importance of prompt and effective communication in maintaining customer satisfaction, especially when dealing with expensive purchases.

    • Personally addressing customer issuesAddressing customer complaints can turn a negative situation around, provide valuable feedback, and lead to positive word-of-mouth and business growth.

      As a business owner or entrepreneur, it's essential to take responsibility for addressing customer issues, no matter how big or small the company may be. Henry Ford III, a high-ranking executive, demonstrated this by personally calling a disgruntled customer to apologize and assure them that the issue would be resolved. This not only turned the situation around but also provided valuable feedback for improving the product. Furthermore, handling customer complaints effectively can lead to positive word-of-mouth and business growth. It's crucial to remember that even the most successful companies and their leaders are not above addressing customer concerns and making things right.

    • Surround yourself with positive influencesChoose to keep or cut off negative influences for happiness and fulfillment. Prioritize yourself, even if it's a family member or close friend.

      The people we surround ourselves with significantly impact our lives. We have the power to choose whether to keep negative influences or cut them off. There's no gray area when it comes to dealing with individuals who bring us down or mock our dreams. Even if it's a family member or someone close to us, we must prioritize our own happiness and fulfillment. Following a link directly to iTunes instead of using MFCEO links also helps in terms of rankings and visibility. And remember, we only get one shot at life, so it's essential to do what makes us truly happy.

    • Expressing opinions respectfullyLearning to have respectful debates, listen actively, and be open to learning from others is essential for personal and professional growth.

      Being firm in expressing your opinions and standing up for yourself is not the same as being mean. It's important to recognize the difference and develop the skill of having productive conversations, even when disagreements arise. In today's society, people often see disagreements as confrontational and avoid them, but this mindset can hinder personal and professional growth. It's essential to learn how to have respectful debates, listen actively, and be open to learning from others. Being firm in your beliefs is a valuable skill that can lead to success in various aspects of life. It's essential to remember that not everyone will agree with you, and that's okay. The ability to express your opinions and stand your ground is a sign of confidence and maturity.

    • Understanding and dealing with angry or offended peopleRecognize that some people's anger stems from their insecurities, stay true to your values, and find effective communication and compromise.

      It's essential to understand that some people are easily offended or angry due to their insecurities or arrogance. Recognizing this can help assert yourself confidently, knowing the problem lies with them, not you. It's crucial to have a clear sense of your core values and priorities, enabling you to peacefully part ways with those whose values clash significantly. It's important not to use this advice as an excuse to abandon responsibilities, such as relationships, but rather to find effective communication and compromise. Overall, knowing your values and staying true to them can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth.

    • Letting go of relationships that no longer serve youIt's okay to prioritize yourself and let go of relationships that bring negativity, allowing both parties to find happiness elsewhere.

      It's important to prioritize your responsibilities and commitments towards your loved ones, but if you find yourself in a situation where you need to let go of a relationship that no longer serves you, it's okay to let it drift away. This doesn't make you a bad person, but rather someone who is protecting their own interests and energy. It's natural for people to evolve and grow apart, and sometimes letting go can make them happier in the end. It's not always an easy decision, but it's important to remember that the negativity we give to others is often a reflection of how we make them feel about themselves. By removing yourself from a negative situation, you're allowing them to find happiness elsewhere. It's a delicate balance, but ultimately, it's about making the best decision for yourself and your well-being.

    • Exploring the importance of detachment and growth in relationshipsDetaching from relationships or situations can lead to personal growth, but it's crucial to communicate intentions respectfully and considerately.

      It's normal for people to have different paths in life, and sometimes detaching oneself from certain relationships or situations can serve as a wake-up call for others. However, it's important to approach these conversations with care and respect, rather than attacking or glorifying what the other person lacks. Having a face-to-face conversation can be an effective way to communicate priorities and intentions, potentially leading to growth and understanding for both parties. As in business, sometimes letting go of an employee or friend can lead to their realization of their own potential and eventual success.

    • The importance of confrontation for personal and professional growthSuccessful people understand the value of confrontation for addressing issues and helping others improve, despite potential negative reactions. Be clear, direct, and solution-oriented when having difficult conversations.

      Having direct and honest conversations, also known as confrontation, is essential for personal and professional growth. Confrontation is not about attacking someone, but rather helping them improve and addressing issues. Successful people understand this and are not deterred by potential negative reactions. It's important to detach from people's reactions and focus on the right thing to do. Confrontation can be applied to various situations, including personal relationships and business deals. When faced with difficult conversations, it's important to be clear, direct, and solution-oriented. Ultimately, confrontation is a necessary part of life and should not be avoided due to fear of others' reactions. Instead, focus on the potential benefits and the importance of addressing issues head-on.

    • Being honest and confronting people directly builds respect and integrityHonesty and confrontation, though uncomfortable, are crucial for personal and professional growth, building respect and integrity, and preventing larger problems in the long run.

      Being honest and confronting people directly, even if it's uncomfortable or may cause short-term pain, is crucial for personal and professional growth. It builds respect and integrity, both personally and for your business. In the long run, people often come to appreciate the truth, even if it was difficult to hear at first. Moreover, not addressing issues can lead to larger problems, much like a single bad apple spoiling an entire bunch. As a leader, it's essential to be aware of the attitudes and behaviors within your team, as one negative attitude can potentially harm your entire organization. Honesty and confrontation may be challenging, but they are vital for success.

    • Balancing firmness and employee feedbackEffective leaders listen to employee feedback while maintaining business continuity and integrity, fostering a passionate workforce through openness to constructive criticism.

      Effective leadership involves balancing the need for firmness with the importance of listening to and valuing employee feedback. While it's important to maintain business continuity and integrity, it's equally important to foster a passionate and engaged workforce. This means being open to constructive criticism, even if it's delivered negatively, and being able to distinguish between genuine feedback and whining. By being decisive and perceptive, leaders can create a positive work environment where employees feel heard and valued, leading to better outcomes for both the employees and the business.

    • The power of constructive criticismOpen-mindedness to feedback, even from perceived haters, can lead to personal growth and improvement. Ask if criticism is true and use it as an opportunity for learning.

      Constructive criticism, even if delivered harshly, can lead to personal growth and improvement. The speaker shares his own experience of receiving criticism about his weight and how it ultimately motivated him to make positive changes. He emphasizes the importance of being open-minded and receptive to feedback, even if it comes from someone perceived as a hater. The speaker suggests asking oneself if the criticism is true, rather than getting defensive or offended. Ultimately, the goal is to learn from the feedback and use it as an opportunity for growth.

    • Having a respectful breakupEffective communication and taking responsibility for one's desires and goals are crucial for having a respectful and amicable breakup. Acknowledge differences, have an open and honest conversation, and maintain a positive and respectful connection.

      Effective communication and taking responsibility for one's own desires and goals are key to having a respectful and amicable breakup. Rather than placing blame and harboring ill feelings, it's important to acknowledge the differences in natures and growth between two people. By having an open and honest conversation, both parties can move forward with a clear understanding and respect for each other's individual paths. This approach can lead to a fresh start and happiness for both individuals. It's essential to remember that growth and change are natural, and holding onto past relationships out of fear or jealousy only hinders personal growth. Ultimately, the goal should be to maintain a positive and respectful connection, even as chapters in one's life come to a close.

    • Effective communication in conflictsHaving an open and honest conversation during conflicts can lead to a better outcome for both parties, saving time, energy, and potential financial costs.

      Effective communication is key in any relationship, be it personal or professional. When conflicts arise, it's essential to have an open and honest conversation instead of letting emotions escalate and causing unnecessary drama. The speaker shares an example of a couple, the Rock and his ex-wife, who managed to separate amicably and continue their business relationship. The importance of such conversations is often overlooked, and people tend to focus on the negative emotions instead. It's crucial to remember that the other person will likely be okay without the relationship and that having a mature conversation can lead to a better outcome for both parties. Additionally, people often sense when a breakup or termination is coming, so having the conversation can save time, energy, and potential financial costs.

    • Apologies and second chances can lead to improved relationshipsApologies and second chances can deepen bonds and lead to forgiveness, but it's important to communicate openly and know when to move on

      Apologies and second chances can lead to improved relationships, whether personal or professional. When someone acknowledges their mistakes and shows a willingness to make amends, it requires humility from both parties. This can lead to deeper understanding, forgiveness, and even stronger bonds. However, it's important to recognize that there are times when a relationship may not be salvageable. Ultimately, it's about recognizing when to give and when to move on. The speaker shared personal experiences of reconciled friendships and rehired employees, emphasizing the importance of open communication and admitting when one is wrong.

    • Having tough conversations and making tough decisionsTaking responsibility for actions, letting others do the same, and not letting reactions hinder necessary decisions.

      Having difficult conversations and making tough decisions, even when executed compassionately and decisively, can still result in negative reactions from others. It's essential to take responsibility for your actions and let others take responsibility for theirs, while also not letting their reactions prevent you from making necessary decisions. This can be challenging, especially for those who have been acting a certain way for a long time. Additionally, it's important to remember that everyone's experience with the podcast starts from a different point, and both the first and 107th episodes are recommended as excellent starting points to understand the podcast's mission and message.

    • MFCO Movement: Authentic Advice for Personal and Professional GrowthThe MFCO movement offers authentic, actionable advice for individuals seeking to improve their lives and businesses through entrepreneurial mindset education and cutting ties with negative influences.

      The MFCO movement, discussed in episode 100, is a mission to teach real skills and principles for success, not gimmicks or tricks. The creators of this project are passionate about helping individuals navigate society's conflicting values and providing entrepreneurial mindset education, applicable to all professions. They plan to launch an exclusive Entrepreneur Academy with limited enrollment, where attendees will learn how to build and grow successful businesses. Additionally, they encourage listeners to cut ties with negative influences, whether it's people or situations, to foster personal and professional growth. Overall, the MFCO movement aims to provide authentic, actionable advice for individuals seeking to improve their lives and businesses. Keep an eye out for the upcoming Academy application process.

    • Having difficult conversations as a leaderBe firm, direct, and prompt in addressing issues, while maintaining respect and minimizing conflict for productive growth.

      As a leader, having difficult conversations is a necessary part of doing the right thing for yourself, your company, and those around you. It's important to be firm and direct, but not mean, and to address issues promptly to minimize conflict and move forward productively. Remember, negativity can hinder your ability to function effectively, both personally and professionally. It's okay to prioritize your energy and remove obstacles, even if they come from close relationships. These conversations can be challenging, but they're essential for growth and progress.

    • Asking for Audience SupportHelp the hosts grow their audience by leaving a review, sharing the podcast, or recommending it to others.

      The hosts value their listeners' support and ask for reviews, recommendations, and referrals to help grow their audience. They express their gratitude for the opportunity to create and share their content for free, and their enthusiasm for continuing to do so. Essentially, they're asking for their audience's help in spreading the word about the podcast. This not only benefits the hosts, but also ensures that more people can discover and enjoy the content. So, if you've gained value from the podcast, consider leaving a review, sharing it with others, or recommending it to like-minded friends. Your support goes a long way in helping the hosts continue to create and share valuable content.

    Recent Episodes from REAL AF with Andy Frisella

    734. Andy, Tim Young & DJ CTI: Supreme Court Dismisses Social Media Censorship Case, Congressional Report Shows Interference & Brutal Killing Of Jocelyn Nungaray

    734. Andy, Tim Young & DJ CTI: Supreme Court Dismisses Social Media Censorship Case, Congressional Report Shows Interference & Brutal Killing Of Jocelyn Nungaray

    In today's episode, Andy and DJ are joined in the studio by comedian Tim Young. They discuss the Supreme Court's dismissal of the Social Media Censorship case, the congressional report that showed interference in 2020, and what we know about the 2 Venezuelan men accused of killing 12-year-old Jocelyn Nungaray.

    732. Andy, Vaughn Kohler & DJ CTI: Trump-Biden Debates, Julian Assange Avoids Setting Foot On US Mainland & Alex Jones' Bankruptcy

    732. Andy, Vaughn Kohler & DJ CTI: Trump-Biden Debates, Julian Assange Avoids Setting Foot On US Mainland & Alex Jones' Bankruptcy

    In today's episode, Andy & DJ are joined in the studio by the translucent Pastor of Disaster, Vaughn Kohler. They discuss the upcoming Trump and Biden debates, Julian Assange dropping $500k for a flight to a remote island to avoid setting foot on the US mainland, and a bankruptcy court trustee filing a motion to liquidate Alex Jones' Infowars.

    726. Andy & DJ CTI: GOP Calls Out 51 Intel Officials Over Hunter Laptop, Biden And Zelensky To Ink 10-Year Deal For U.S. Military Support & Spokane Pride Crosswalk Vandalized

    726. Andy & DJ CTI: GOP Calls Out 51 Intel Officials Over Hunter Laptop, Biden And Zelensky To Ink 10-Year Deal For U.S. Military Support & Spokane Pride Crosswalk Vandalized

    In today's episode, Andy & DJ discuss the GOP calling out 51 intel officials over Hunter Biden's laptop, President Biden and Zelensky to ink a 10-year deal for U.S. military support for Ukraine, and Spokane pride's crosswalk being vandalized days after teens were charged with felonies for leaving scooter skid marks on the rainbow pavement.

    Related Episodes

    142. Power and Persuasion: Live Insights from Stanford Experts

    142. Power and Persuasion: Live Insights from Stanford Experts

    A special live edition from the Me2We event at Stanford, where strategic communications expert and podcast host Matt Abrahams joins four distinguished faculty members from Stanford Graduate School of Business:


    Episode Reference Links:


    Connect:


    Chapters:

    (00:00:00) Introduction

    Producer Jenny Luna and host Matt Abrahams introduce a live episode featuring four Stanford GSB faculty members.

    (00:01:40) Navigating Conflicts and Negotiations in Diverse Settings

    Michelle Gelfand discusses managing conflicts and negotiations in broader societal and cultural contexts.

    (00:04:51) Understanding and Managing Diversity

    Brian Lowery introduces the Stanford Institute on Race and outlines strategies for leaders to foster inclusivity and manage diverse workforces.

    (00:07:57) Dynamics of Power and Influence

    Deborah Gruenfeld shares the implications of power dynamics and how they shift from virtual to in-person interactions.

    (00:14:04) Persuasion and Effective Communication

    Zakary Tormala gives insight into the use of pronouns in persuasive communication and the impact of language in shaping audience engagement.

    (00:18:44) Acting with Power in Interactions

    Deborah Gruenfeld discusses her ongoing research on how power dynamics influence investor decisions in startup teams.

    (00:20:47) The Pursuit of Meaningfulness

    Brian Lowery talks about his current focus on what makes life meaningful.

    (00:24:14) Cultural Tightness and Looseness

    Michelle Gelfand explains her research on how cultures manage norms and rules, and the concept of "tight" and "loose" cultures.

    (00:28:52) Persuasive Communication

    Zakary Tormala shares insights from his latest research on framing effects in communication.

    (00:32:13) Participant Reflections

    A Stanford LEAD participant shares experiences from Brian Lowery's class, emphasizing the importance of perspective-taking and trust in leadership.

    (00:33:15) Conclusion


    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Order In the Courthouse (of Love) with Judge Jerry Springer

    Order In the Courthouse (of Love) with Judge Jerry Springer
    On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by TV personality & icon Jerry Springer and they’re talking about his new show “Judge Jerry” on NBC. Plus, Dr. Emily is answering your sex & relationship questions. The two discuss what Judge Jerry is all about – human connection, relationships & (of course) entertainment, as well as Jerry’s angle on how to maintain a happy marriage. Plus, Dr. Emily gives advice on ways to up your oral sex game & what to do when you have feelings for someone other than your spouse.  Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For more information on Judge Jerry, click HERE.  For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    #175: Shreyas Doshi: Better Teams, Better Products

    #175: Shreyas Doshi: Better Teams, Better Products

    Calling on more than two decades of experience working with some of the biggest companies in tech, Shreyas Doshi joins The Knowledge Project for a deep dive into the connection between building a solid team and building a better product. He also discusses the three levels of product work, the origins of conflict on your team, the difference between measurement and evaluation, the benefits and drawbacks of a writing culture, decision-making, growing your competence, and the agency/talent matrix.

    Doshi is best known as the leader of some of the most successful products from Stripe, where he was one of the company’s first product managers. He also led and grew several products at Twitter, Google, and Yahoo. He currently advises fast-growing startups on strategy, scaling, and product management. Doshi is also a frequent angel investor and has privately coached product managers from Amazon, Meta, Salesforce, Uber, and LinkedIn.

    --

    Want even more? Members get early access, hand-edited transcripts, member-only episodes, and so much more. Learn more here: https://fs.blog/membership/

    Every Sunday our Brain Food newsletter shares timeless insights and ideas that you can use at work and home. Add it to your inbox: https://fs.blog/newsletter/

    Follow Shane on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ShaneAParrish

    Our Sponsors:

    MetaLab: Helping the world’s top companies design, build, and ship amazing products and services. https://www.metalab.com

    Aeropress: Press your perfect cup, every time. https://aeropress.com

    Avoid These 10 Boundary Mistakes That Make You Look Difficult

    Avoid These 10 Boundary Mistakes That Make You Look Difficult

    Ever wondered why your attempts at establishing limits are met with resistance, or why your conversations don't lead to the mutual respect you're aiming for? We'll delve deep into the mistakes you might not even realize you're making, and how they can negatively impact your interactions.

    Tune in to this episode to discover:

    ️ The importance of context and tone in boundary-setting conversations to prevent miscommunication.

    ️ Examples of passive-aggressive or aggressive boundary-setting language.

    ️ 7 Principles for confrontation-free boundaries.

     

    Get a FREE guide on the 7 Steps To Say No Without Hurting Any Feelings: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/sayno 

     

    Other Episodes You’ll Like

    13 Reasons Why People Don’t Respect Your Boundaries

    How Do You Outsmart A Manipulator? 7 Proven Strategies To Tackle Manipulation Head-On

    The Power of Self-Respect: 10 Ways to Treat Yourself with Dignity

    Confidently Say No In A Respectful Way (In 7 Easy Steps)

    18 Signs That You Are A People Pleaser

    9 Questions To Decide When To Practice Speaking Up Ahead

     

    Follow Ivna Curi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/  

     

    Free Resources

    FREE guide on the 7 Steps To Say No Without Hurting Any Feelings: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/sayno

    FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude 

    Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/

    From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate

    Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics

    Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/

    Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

    Our Linkedin Blog Articles:  https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/  

    TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It’s Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak

    10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

    Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

    Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

    Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/

     

    Work With Us

    Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops  

    Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/

    Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings

    Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com

    Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2

    Website: https://assertiveway.com

     

    Support The Podcast

    Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915

    Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion

     

    Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company:  http://assertiveway.com/workshops

    Unleash Your Voice: 50 Powerful Strategies to Assert Yourself

    Unleash Your Voice: 50 Powerful Strategies to Assert Yourself

    Is speaking up always about loud confrontations and setting boundaries with toxic individuals? No! Explore how speaking up is an essential skill for various interactions with a clear purpose. From securing a promotion to simply feeling heard, learn how to use your voice deliberately and positively. This episode is a guide to gaining more control over your life and career by effectively expressing your intentions to others.

    Tune in to this episode to discover:

    ✔️ 50 inspiring approaches to speak your mind.

    ✔️ The importance of a clear purpose in speaking up.

     

    Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company:  http://assertiveway.com/workshops

     

    Follow Ivna Curi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/  

     

    Other Episodes You’ll Like

    18 Signs That You Are A People Pleaser

    10 Steps To Be Both Assertive And Likable When You Speak Up

    Speak Your Truth: 10 Tips to Becoming a Confident, Assertive Communicator

    Silent No More: Breaking the Chains of Passive Communication

    What Is Your Most Used Communication Style At Work?

    How To Advocate For Yourself Even If You’re A People Pleaser Or Have Impostor Syndrome (With Erika Diaz)

    Are You Introverted, Shy, Anxious, Or Passive? How To Tell The Difference

     

    Free Resources

    FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude 

    Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/

    From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate

    Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics

    Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/

    Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

    Our Linkedin Blog Articles:  https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/  

    TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It’s Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak

    10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

    Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

    Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

    Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/

     

    Work With Us

    Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops  

    Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/

    Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings

    Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com

    Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2

    Website: https://assertiveway.com

     

    Support The Podcast

    Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915

    Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion