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    How to Get Motivated Even When You Don’t Feel Like It

    enSeptember 02, 2024
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    Podcast Summary

    • Brain function, motivationUnderstanding brain function is crucial for motivation and living a fulfilling life, as shown by Dr. Alok Kanogia's journey from addiction to monkhood and beyond.

      Understanding how your brain works is key to unlocking motivation and living a more fulfilling life. Dr. Alok Kanogia, a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and leading expert on motivation and dopamine, shares that we've been taught many things in school, but not how our minds function or how we can tap into our inner motivation. Dr. K's journey from struggling with video game addiction to becoming a monk and eventually a doctor illustrates the importance of self-understanding and taking control of your life. By learning how your mind works, you can direct your actions towards your goals and create a more purposeful and meaningful life.

    • Inner motivationUnderstanding the human mind from the inside out and learning to act independently of external influences can lead to inner motivation and greater control over our actions.

      Motivation comes from within and is influenced by various factors such as emotions, identity, and comparison. The mistake we often make is trying to increase motivation instead of learning to act independently of it. Dr. K's experience of facing rejections and persisting in his goals despite external pressures is a testament to the power of inner motivation. He also emphasized the importance of understanding the human mind from the inside out and being aware of how external factors shape our perceptions of happiness and motivation. In the digital age, where external influences can be overwhelming, it's crucial to equip ourselves with the tools to navigate our internal world and take control of our actions.

    • Addiction and HappinessAddiction arises when we prioritize momentary pleasures over long-term happiness, activating the nucleus accumbens and leading to fleeting satisfaction, while Garma Farda encourages focusing on actions rather than outcomes to gain more control and improve overall well-being.

      Living a life where your wants and desires in the moment control your actions can lead to addiction and unhappiness. The brain responds to pleasure and pain, and addictions activate the nucleus accumbens, giving us pleasure and craving while suppressing negative emotions. However, these feelings are fleeting, leading us to chase after them repeatedly. Instead, the principle of Garma Farda suggests focusing on actions rather than outcomes to gain more control over behavior and make life easier. Our society's emphasis on outcomes contributes to burnout and lack of motivation. To help change behavior, motivational interviewing, a proven technique, can increase motivation by addressing the conflict between what we want to do and what we don't want to do.

    • Motivation and Brain WiringOur brains prefer pleasure over pain, making it hard to take action towards goals. Focusing on the action and letting go of the attachment to the outcome can help make progress and avoid the pendulum effect. We're in control of our actions.

      Our brains are wired to move away from pain and towards pleasure. This means that when we set goals and focus on the desired outcome, we may struggle with taking action due to the perceived pain or effort required to get there. Instead, it's important to focus on the action itself and let go of the attachment to the outcome. By understanding this motivational circuitry, we can stop fighting against ourselves and instead utilize our brains to make progress towards our goals. This can help us avoid the pendulum effect of constantly switching between negative situations and make consistent progress. Ultimately, the key is to remember that we are in control of our actions and not the other way around.

    • Mental barrier to trying new thingsFocusing on the present action and abandoning the idea of consistency can help overcome mental barriers to trying new things by allowing us to tap into the power of detachment and put all our energy into the action.

      The difference between trying something for the first time and trying it again after multiple failures is solely in our minds. The action itself remains the same, but our emotions and the stories we tell ourselves about our past failures can hold us back. To overcome this mental barrier, it's essential to focus on the present action and abandon the idea of consistency every day. Instead, we should anticipate the negative and separate ourselves from the pleasure or pain associated with the outcome. By doing so, we can tap into the power of detachment and put all our energy into the action at hand.

    • Controlling own actionsFocus on what we can control and let go of the need to control others using motivational interviewing to encourage change in others through acknowledgement, validation, and support

      We cannot control the actions or emotions of others, but we can control our own actions. Dr. K emphasized the importance of focusing on what we can do next and letting go of the need to control others. This concept, known as motivational interviewing, can be used to encourage change in others by acknowledging their struggles and validating their feelings, rather than pushing them to change. By understanding their perspective and offering support, we can create a more open and productive conversation. This approach not only makes the conversation more effective, but also shows respect and empathy towards the other person.

    • Creating space for motivationInstead of forcing action, create space for motivation to emerge naturally. Understand internal conflicts and build strength to overcome them.

      Instead of trying to force ourselves or others to take action, we should create space for motivation to naturally emerge. Human psychology resists being pushed, so it's more effective to let people come to their own conclusions and make their own decisions. Additionally, understanding that we are often highly motivated to stay in our current situation, even when we feel stuck, can help us reframe our mindset and take action. Awareness of our internal conflicts is key to increasing willpower and making lasting changes. By monitoring and staying present with our conflicts, we can build the strength to overcome them and cultivate a deeper understanding of our actions and their consequences.

    • Self-reflectionSelf-reflection helps us understand motivations, reactions, and patterns without judgment, leading to more informed decisions and a deeper understanding of ourselves.

      Taking time to reflect on our actions, whether positive or negative, can significantly impact our behavior in the future. This practice, known as dwelling or awareness, allows us to understand our motivations, reactions, and patterns without judgment. By acknowledging our thoughts and feelings, we can make more informed decisions and develop a deeper understanding of ourselves. Instead of focusing solely on fixing problems, it's essential to take a step back and examine the root causes. Through self-reflection and awareness, we can gain control of all parts of ourselves and live more intentionally. So, spend some time getting to know yourself, and you'll be amazed at how much easier it becomes to navigate the challenges in your life.

    • Focusing on selfWe cannot control external situations, but we can control our reactions and actions, and focusing on these can significantly improve our lives

      We often focus too much on things outside of our control and neglect the things we can influence, which is ourselves. Dr. K emphasized that we cannot control whether we get into medical school, get hired for a job, or lose weight, but we can control how we react to these situations and whether we beat ourselves up over them. By focusing on our actions and letting go of self-inflicted shame and self-criticism, we can significantly improve our lives. It's important to remember that the world is uncontrollable, and our energy is best spent on the things we can influence. So, instead of trying to control the uncontrollable, focus on your actions and the way you respond to the world around you.

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