Podcast Summary
Focus on getting 50 rejections instead of clients: Investing in personal development and coaching can lead to significant growth. Focus on getting rejected 50 times to build resilience and improve skills.
Personal development and coaching are valuable investments in oneself, and they can lead to significant growth and impact on the world. The speaker, Ali, shares his experience of working with a client who was struggling to get clients and encourages her to focus on getting 50 rejections instead. He also discusses his conversation with Simon Alexander Ong, a personal development entrepreneur, coach, and public speaker, about the importance of self-investment and the evolution of the coaching industry. Ali shares his own journey of becoming a coach and how he initially had a limited understanding of what it meant. He also highlights Simon's inspiring responses to his challenges and questions during their conversation. The speaker encourages listeners to consider who their counsel would be if they could choose any individuals, dead or alive. Lastly, he invites viewers to subscribe to his channel and shares his appreciation for Simon's work. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth, self-investment, and the impact of coaching on individuals and society.
Discover your potential with a coach: Coaching is a rewarding career that helps people discover their own solutions and reach their goals. Find a coach with expertise in your area to unlock your potential and make positive progress in your personal or professional life.
Coaching is a meaningful and fulfilling career path that goes beyond just making extra money. It's about using your natural ability to help and guide others to discover their own solutions and reach their goals. Coaching is not about telling people what to do, but rather asking the right questions to help them uncover their own path forward. It's a mentoring role that can be beneficial for anyone looking to make progress in their personal or professional life. Coaching has become more accessible than ever before, and it's not just limited to high-level executives. If you enjoy helping people and want to make a positive impact, coaching could be a rewarding career choice for you. To find a coach, start by seeking out someone who has experience and expertise in the area you want to improve. It could be through recommendations from trusted sources, online research, or attending events related to coaching. Remember, a good coach will believe in you and help you believe in yourself, pushing you to become better than you were yesterday. So, if you're looking to make a change, consider hiring a coach to help you unlock your potential and achieve your goals.
Experience coaching before investing: Offer a free trial or insightful conversation to potential clients to increase chances of investment, use trailers instead of titles, and focus on root causes before tactics to ensure success
Before investing in a coach or any service, it's beneficial to experience it first. This can be achieved through a free trial or a powerful conversation, where the coach gives the potential client a taste of what coaching can do for them. This approach can increase the likelihood of the client wanting to invest in the service. Coaches should also use trailers, or brief descriptions, instead of titles when introducing themselves to potential clients, to avoid being judged based on preconceived notions. The conversation should begin at a broad level, addressing the root causes of the client's challenges, before focusing on specific tactics. This approach ensures that clients have the necessary resources and mindset to take action. Overall, providing a valuable experience is key to building a successful coaching practice.
Selling Ourselves: Two Sales to Consider: Believe in your value, share authentic emotional stories, and unlock the hero potential within others to effectively communicate and sell yourself or your business.
Effective communication, especially when introducing oneself or one's business, requires authenticity and a compelling narrative. According to the discussion, there are two sales to consider: selling ourselves to others and selling ourselves to ourselves. Until we believe in our own value, we may feel uncomfortable or "cringe" when sharing our story. Authenticity comes from a place of belief and inspiration. It's important to package our message in a way that captures attention, as people have short attention spans and are more likely to engage with emotional stories than facts and figures. When introducing ourselves, sharing a captivating story about what we do and the impact we've had on others can help potential customers or partners put themselves in the shoes of our success stories and see their own potential. Remember, as coaches or guides, our role is to unlock the hero potential within others.
Understanding what's important to someone through curious questions: Effective coaching involves asking questions to uncover unique definitions of success and freedom, inspiring action and reflection.
Effective coaching involves understanding what is important to the person you're speaking with by asking curious questions. This process, inspired by Sherlock Holmes, allows you to uncover their unique definition of success and freedom. By exploring these concepts together, you can move the conversation into a land of possibility and inspire action. Coaching can help people reflect and connect the dots they've collected throughout their lives. However, having the space to do so is crucial. For some, this might mean creating time and sacrificing other commitments. Ultimately, having a compelling and exciting vision for your life serves as a magnetic charge, pulling you forward and keeping you positively charged.
Focus on present curiosity to discover passion or purpose: Instead of seeking a lifelong passion, explore present curiosities to find new opportunities and experiences that may lead to your passion or purpose. Trust the process and take small steps forward to discover your path.
Instead of focusing on finding a specific passion or purpose for your entire life, it's more productive to ask yourself what you're most curious about in the present moment. Curiosity can lead you to new experiences and opportunities that may ultimately reveal your passion or purpose. Trusting the process and taking small steps forward can help you discover your path one step at a time. Remember, you don't need to have the entire map laid out in front of you. Instead, focus on the present and ask yourself what one small action you can take today that will move you closer to your vision. By balancing a compelling vision with small, manageable actions, you can make progress towards your goals without feeling overwhelmed.
Importance of having a clear vision for personal growth: Having a clear vision, even with incomplete clarity, is essential for personal growth. Nutrition and investing are examples of areas where a vision can guide decisions and actions towards a fulfilling life.
Having a clear vision is important for personal growth, even if you don't have complete clarity on your passion and purpose. The speaker shared his experience with Huel, a nutritionally complete and affordable meal alternative that he uses for busy days. He highlighted the benefits of Huel's high-protein and low-carb black edition for workout days and its reasonable price. The speaker also mentioned his experience with investing through Trading 212, emphasizing its user-friendly features, including the ability to invest with fake money and follow others' pies for inspiration. In the context of personal growth, having a vision means having a general idea of what you want to achieve, even if the details are not fully clear yet. This vision can evolve and become clearer over time as you gain more knowledge and experience. So whether it's through nutrition or investing, having a clear vision can help guide your decisions and actions towards a fulfilling and productive life.
Define and prioritize your vision for a fulfilling life: Define a clear vision for your life, start with a simple concept and expand it as you grow, ask why it's important and take specific actions to make it a reality.
Having a clear and meaningful vision for your life is essential for personal growth and fulfillment. This vision can start as a simple one-word concept, such as "freedom," but as you take small steps forward and expose yourself to new experiences, it will expand and become more specific. For instance, a doctor's vision of freedom might evolve into a desire to work fewer hours and focus on lifelong learning through podcasting. It's important to ask yourself why this vision is important and what specific actions you can take to make it a reality. By prioritizing your vision, you can break free from the barriers that have been holding you back for years and live a more fulfilling life. In the case of the doctor, taking small steps like starting to read different material or attending events could have led to starting a podcast years ago, which would have brought her greater intellectual stimulation and fulfillment.
Questioning the root cause of feeling time-starved: Examine personal commitment to making time for passions and consider external influences, prioritize and create time through small, specific commitments, and effectively support others by actively listening and gathering data.
The perception of not having enough time to pursue personal interests, despite a strong desire to do so, may be rooted in external influences rather than an intrinsic desire. It's essential to question whether one is truly committed to making time for what matters most, rather than assuming a lack of time is the issue. By recognizing the importance of personal fulfillment and making small, specific commitments, one can begin to prioritize and create time for passions outside of work or other obligations. And, to effectively support and guide others in this process, active listening and data gathering are crucial skills to develop. By truly understanding someone's unique situation, we can better provide guidance and ask the right questions at the right moments.
Starting a coaching career with a solid foundation: Attend workshops, network with coaches, and build a personal brand to start a successful coaching career, despite the unregulated industry.
Coaching can be a rewarding and fulfilling career, but it's important to have a solid foundation and experience before diving in. The coaching industry is unregulated, and anyone can call themselves a coach, but seeking out a qualified and experienced coach or mentor can lead to better results. For those interested in becoming a coach while still maintaining a day job, starting small and focusing on building a client base and gaining experience is crucial. Qualifications can be important, but ultimately, the results a coach can deliver to their clients is what sets them apart. To get started, consider attending coaching workshops or courses, networking with other coaches, and building a personal brand through social media or other channels. Remember, becoming a successful coach takes time and dedication, but the potential rewards are significant.
Why do you want to become a coach and what will you use the money for?: To become a successful coach, clarify your purpose and determine how the income will fuel it. Eliminate distractions and focus on your goals to create a productive week and design a fulfilling life.
Becoming a coach is not just about the money or the glamour, but about finding a purpose and understanding how the money will fuel that purpose. Before embarking on this journey, it's essential to ask yourself why you want to become a coach and what you will use the money for. Having a clear purpose will help you overcome the challenges and setbacks that come with the job. Additionally, consider the space and focus you have in your life to dedicate to this new endeavor. By eliminating distractions and focusing on your goals, you can create a productive week and move towards designing a fulfilling life. So, if you enjoy teaching and have a clear purpose for the money you'll make, then coaching could be a rewarding career path for you.
Embrace the journey, not just the outcome: Focusing on personal growth during the journey leads to greater rewards and opportunities than solely focusing on end results.
Focusing on the process and becoming the person you want to be during your journey is more rewarding than solely fixating on the outcome. By detaching ourselves from desired outcomes and being open to everything, we allow ourselves to experiment, grow, and potentially achieve more than we initially imagined. The journey becomes enjoyable when we embrace it fully and focus on personal development, rather than measuring success solely by end results. When we show up in the world with a positive energy and vibration, we begin to attract opportunities and experiences that enrich our lives.
Understanding and Cultivating Energy: Focus on physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions to access more energy and attract positive experiences and relationships
Energy is an intangible yet powerful force that influences our interactions with others. It's the reason we're drawn to certain people and not others, and it's something we all possess but often neglect to cultivate fully. Energy can be understood as our life force, and to access more of it, we need to focus on our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions. By doing so, we can show up in the world with more energy and attract positive experiences and relationships. The book discussed in the conversation explores this concept further and offers practical ways to transform our relationship with energy and live and work more effectively.
Embrace a student mindset for personal growth: Identifying what gives us energy and practicing small steps can lead to a more enjoyable and fulfilling life
Embracing a student mindset and being open to learning from others, regardless of their background or expertise, can lead to a more enjoyable and fulfilling life. Self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth, and identifying what gives us energy and what drains it can help us prioritize and make positive changes. Small, manageable steps, such as improving sleep habits or making healthier food choices, can have a significant impact on our overall well-being. Sometimes, all it takes is a shift in perspective or a gentle nudge from a coach or mentor to help us take action towards our goals. So, take some time to reflect on your own energy levels and consider what small steps you can take today to start feeling more energized and fulfilled.
Reflecting on Personal Happiness and Making Intentional Choices: Questioning oneself can lead to recognizing areas of personal growth and prioritizing happiness through intentional choices, such as trying new environments and meeting new people at WeWork.
Asking thought-provoking questions can help shift perspective and bring awareness to areas of personal growth. The speaker in this discussion shared that he had been buying cars and making investments that were once enjoyable but no longer brought him true happiness. He admitted that it had been a while since he felt genuinely content, and questioning himself helped him recognize this. WeWork was also introduced as a solution for creating a change of scenery and meeting new people, which can contribute to overall well-being and happiness. The discussion highlighted the importance of taking time to reflect on personal goals and making intentional choices to prioritize happiness. Additionally, the offer of a discount for new WeWork customers was mentioned as a bonus for listeners.
Find a deeper purpose for healthy living: Personal reasons for healthy habits lead to consistency and long-term success, rather than just aiming for physical appearances
Having a clear and personal reason for wanting to maintain a healthy lifestyle is crucial for consistency and long-term success. Merely aiming for physical appearances like six-pack abs may not be enough motivation to keep up the habit. Instead, finding a deeper purpose, such as improving overall well-being, staying active for loved ones, or honoring personal experiences, can make the effort more meaningful and sustainable. Remember, the more personal and important the reason, the more likely one is to stick with it. So, identify what truly motivates and excites you, and make that the driving force behind your healthy habits.
Exploring alternatives to find enjoyment in goal pursuit: Find ways to make goal pursuit enjoyable or consider alternative paths to achieve the same outcome.
Finding enjoyment and fulfillment in the process of pursuing your goals is essential for maintaining discipline and success. However, it's not always easy to find enjoyment in every step of the way. Some people may dislike certain aspects of their goals but still find value in the end result. In such cases, it's important to consider creative alternatives to achieve the same outcome. For instance, Sophie Ratcliffe, an athlete who hated the gym, found joy and success in outdoor challenges. Similarly, Heston Blumenthal and Kylie Flavell bypassed traditional routes to achieve their goals in cooking and media production, respectively. Ultimately, there's no one-size-fits-all approach to achieving goals, and it's essential to explore different options to find what works best for you. If you don't enjoy the process, try to find ways to make it more enjoyable or consider alternative paths to reach the same destination.
Start coaching by learning and gaining experience: Learn coaching skills, offer free sessions, and build confidence to start a coaching business
If you want to become a coach, the first step is to learn the skill of coaching through courses, qualifications, or shadowing experienced coaches. Second, start coaching people for free to gain experience and exposure to different backgrounds and situations. To find free clients, tap into your network and offer your services in exchange for testimonials and feedback. Believe in the value of your coaching and the impact it can have on people's lives to make selling easier. Overcome emotional barriers around charging money and act as the person you want to be in the future to build belief and confidence. Remember, it's important to start small and grow your business through word-of-mouth and testimonials. Don't let internal doubts hold you back from sharing your coaching skills with others.
Focus on the process, not the outcome: Iterate and ship content to discover and refine your unique voice, even if it's not perfect at first.
The perception of the quality of our content may not align with that of our audience. It's essential to focus on the process of creating and improving, rather than being overly attached to the outcome. Even content we believe is subpar may resonate with thousands, and feedback from the audience can reveal unexpected value. Austin Kleon's advice, "we find our voice by using our voice," emphasizes the importance of iterating and shipping content to discover and refine our unique voice. Remember, the most successful creators didn't start with perfect resources or quality; they began by taking action and learning from their experiences. So, keep creating, keep improving, and trust that your audience will find value in your journey.
The Miracle of Existence: Reflect on the miracle of life and consider how to use our opportunities and blessings wisely.
That we are all miracles, having won the greatest lottery ticket in life just by being born. Author and speaker Simon Sinek shared this powerful reminder during a conversation about resilience and finding meaning in challenging times. He emphasized that our existence itself is a miracle, and encouraged listeners to reflect on how they will use their winning ticket of life. Sinek's personal experience of giving birth to his first child during the pandemic served as a poignant reminder of the fragility and preciousness of life. The episode ended with an invitation to ponder what we will do with the opportunities and blessings we have been given. So, let's take a moment to appreciate the miracle of our existence and consider how we can make the most of the time and resources we have been given.