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    Nicky Jam: How to Forgive Yourself From the Past & Free Yourself From Shame and Trauma

    enSeptember 02, 2024
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    • Mindfulness tools, Nicki JamMindfulness tools like Calm can help make mindfulness more accessible and enjoyable. Nicki Jam's story highlights the importance of staying true to oneself and persisting through challenges to achieve personal growth and success.

      Mindfulness can be a challenge in daily life, but tools like Calm can help make it more accessible and enjoyable. Calm offers a variety of content from experts to help build positive habits, shift self-talk, and improve overall well-being. Nicki Jam's story highlights the importance of staying true to oneself, even during difficult times. His early experiences, such as working at a supermarket and freestyling for customers, led him to a successful music career. Despite facing challenges, such as a lackluster album and language barriers, he remained persistent and continued to pursue his passion. The power of mindfulness and staying true to oneself can lead to personal growth and success. Listeners can access Calm's premium content with a discount by using the code JAY at calm.com.

    • Childhood experiencesChildhood experiences, even normal ones, can impact individuals significantly. Healthy upbringing is crucial to prevent unnecessary traumas and ensure emotional well-being. Friendships formed during childhood hold significance and the desire to reconnect with them is common.

      Childhood experiences, even those considered normal at the time, can have lasting impacts on individuals. The speaker's account of growing up in a challenging environment and the realization that it was not normal later in life highlights the importance of healthy upbringing and the potential consequences of neglect. The speaker's story also underscores the significance of friendships formed during childhood and the desire to reconnect with them. Despite facing hardships, the speaker's sense of humor and resilience have helped him cope. It's crucial for parents to provide a nurturing environment for their children to prevent them from experiencing unnecessary traumas and ensure their emotional well-being.

    • Authenticity and self-expressionStaying true to oneself, despite external pressures, is crucial for personal happiness and success. Sharing experiences can inspire and help others.

      Maintaining authenticity and living life on your own terms, even with external pressures and demands, is essential for personal happiness and success. Nikki Jam's story highlights the importance of staying true to oneself, as he shares how he resisted being an influencer by command and instead focused on his music and helping others find inspiration. Despite facing numerous challenges and setbacks, he emphasizes that everyone experiences hardships and that sharing these experiences can inspire and help others. Ultimately, the key to living a fulfilling life is to embrace your unique journey and stay true to your values and passions.

    • Celebrity strugglesDespite their public success, celebrities face personal battles such as addiction and mental health issues, shaped by past experiences and the pressures of fame.

      Despite his public persona and past successes, the individual discussed in this conversation is human and struggles with personal issues, including past addiction to drugs and recent challenges with alcohol and anxiety. His past experiences, including witnessing drug use in his family and being abandoned by loved ones, contributed to his initial use of drugs. The pressure of fame and loneliness in his successful years later led him back to destructive habits. He wishes for understanding and respect for his humanity, acknowledging that no one is perfect and everyone faces their battles.

    • Coping mechanisms and support systemsUnhealthy coping mechanisms can lead to a vicious cycle of isolation and loneliness, but having a strong support system and being open to their feedback can help individuals recognize the negative effects of their actions and make positive changes.

      Personal experiences and traumas can lead individuals to form unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as excessive drinking or drug use. These behaviors can become a vicious cycle, leading to further isolation and loneliness. However, having a strong support system and being open to their feedback can help individuals recognize the negative effects of their actions and make positive changes. The speaker in this conversation shares his experiences with addiction and anxiety, and how he's learned to cope through self-awareness and the help of loved ones. Despite his success and wealth, he acknowledges that everyone, including himself, experiences moments of loneliness, depression, and insecurity. The speaker's story serves as a reminder that no matter how much money or fame one has, it's important to prioritize mental and emotional well-being.

    • Music and AdversityBelief and support from others can help individuals overcome adversity and achieve greatness in music, even in the face of life-threatening challenges and imprisonment.

      Despite facing numerous challenges, including threats to his life and time in prison, Nikki continued to pursue his passion for music and ultimately achieved global success. The support and love he received from fans in Colombia played a significant role in his comeback and belief in his abilities. The experience of prison was difficult, but when he came out, he had to confront the realities of his past and face the challenges of rebuilding his life. Despite setbacks, including drug addiction and embarrassment, Nikki persevered and used his talent to connect with audiences and regain his success. The power of belief and support from others can be a catalyst for overcoming adversity and achieving greatness.

    • Places and PeoplePlaces and people who have shaped us hold a unique energetic pull, attracting creatives, entrepreneurs, and artists. Expressing gratitude and love to those who've influenced us, even during challenging times, is important for personal growth and spiritual connection.

      The speaker values the impact of certain places in shaping who they are and feels a deep sense of gratitude towards those places and the people who helped them during difficult times. He believes that these places hold a unique energetic pull that attracts creatives, entrepreneurs, and artists. In his personal life, he cherishes the relationships he's built and the lessons he's learned, even from challenging experiences. He emphasizes the importance of being strong and expressing love and gratitude to those who have influenced him, despite their flaws or past difficulties. The speaker also shares his belief in the power of prayer and having a connection with God. He reflects on the importance of being true to oneself and acknowledges the need to dedicate more time to spiritual growth.

    • Forgiveness and Personal GrowthForgiveness allows us to release anger and resentment, reconnect with people, and find joy in relationships. It's not always about the other person, but about our own personal growth and happiness.

      Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal growth and happiness. The speaker shares his experiences of reconnecting with people in his life, including Daddy Yankee, and how forgiveness has allowed him to move past conflicts and find joy in relationships. He emphasizes that forgiveness is not always about the other person, but rather about releasing the burden of anger and resentment. The speaker also discusses his belief in the importance of helping others and being a good human being, which brings him happiness and pride. He encourages everyone to forgive and reconnect with people in their lives, and to live in a way that brings them happiness, even if it goes against societal expectations. The speaker acknowledges that he is not perfect and will continue to make mistakes, but believes that the ability to forgive and learn from experiences is essential for personal growth.

    • Artist's new single and albumThe artist's new single 'Sonja' is a global hit due to its unique blend of sad and happy elements and the upbeat merengue transformation in the album, reflecting his experiences and emotions over the past few years, while he remains open and authentic despite misunderstandings and underwent a challenging gastric bypass surgery for improved health.

      The artist's new single, "Sonja," is expected to be a global hit due to its unique blend of sad and happy elements, and the creative process behind its upbeat merengue transformation. The album as a whole reflects the artist's experiences and emotions over the past few years. Despite misunderstandings about his personal life, the artist remains open and authentic, expressing himself through his music. The artist also underwent a gastric bypass surgery which was physically challenging but ultimately improved his health and wellbeing. Through it all, the artist remains focused on enjoying life and appreciating his fans.

    • Resilience and forgivenessThrough resilience and forgiveness, negative situations can be turned into positive experiences. Empathy, understanding, and apologies are essential for healing and growth.

      Even in the face of adversity and conflict, it's possible to turn a negative situation into a positive one through resilience and the power of forgiveness. The speaker shares a story of a violent encounter that led to an unexpected friendship years later. This experience taught him the importance of empathy and understanding, and the value of giving and receiving apologies. The title for this phase of his life, if it were a chapter in a book, would be "Insomnia," reflecting the restless nights spent grappling with the memories of the past. If he could create one law for the world to follow, the speaker would choose "Everybody give yourselves a hug," believing that kindness and compassion are essential for healing and growth.

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    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating

    How can you start letting your guard down in love?

    How can you become more open and vulnerable in your relationships?

    Today, let's welcome Alexis Ren and Allie Michelle. Alexis is a model, entrepreneur, and social media influencer with over 18 million followers on Instagram. Known for her advocacy of mental health and self-empowerment, Alexis has leveraged her platform to promote wellness and personal growth. She is also the co-founder of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Allie is a bestselling author, spoken word artist, and certified yoga, breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and craniosacral therapist. She is passionate about holistic health and personal development, which she incorporates into her work. The duo are the co-founders of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

    Alexis and Allie's friendship began when they were preteens and they share how their relationship has been a cornerstone of their personal growth, providing mutual support through life's challenges. A significant turning point in their friendship occurred when Alexis's mother passed away, leading to Allie’s family adopting Alexis. 

    A significant theme throughout the discussion is the balance of masculine and feminine energies, which Alexis and Allie explore in depth. They describe how these energies play out in their lives and work, with Alexis often taking on a more masculine, action-oriented role, while Allie embodies a more feminine, intuitive approach. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring both energies within oneself and in others, as this balance has been crucial in their personal and professional lives.

    Alexis and Allie also address the societal pressures that women face, particularly around beauty standards and career expectations. Both women emphasize the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to support a friend

    How to manage criticism

    How to build a strong friendship

    How to stay authentic

    How to handle creative blocks

    How to empower others

    Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 
    • 08:25 Growing Together Independently
    • 10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes
    • 15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence
    • 18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 
    • 21:59 Types of Archetypes
    • 27:18 What's Holding Women Back?
    • 29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy
    • 33:38 Why Did It Trigger You?
    • 41:00 How to Prepare for Life
    • 45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life
    • 52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy
    • 01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy
    • 01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things
    • 01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice
    • 01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious
    • 01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment
    • 01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 
    • 01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 
    • 01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

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