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    • Navigating Sadness During the HolidaysThe Foundations of Well-Being program offers a comprehensive solution for personal growth, including practical skills, guided meditations, talks, self-assessments, creative activities, and a clear roadmap for making 2021 a transformative year.

      The holidays can bring up feelings of sadness and disappointment, especially during unusual times. It's normal to experience family discord and long for a sense of normalcy, but it's important to prioritize safety and responsibility. The topic of working with sadness and coming to terms with things not going our way is timely and perennial. The Foundations of Well-Being program, now open for registration, offers a comprehensive solution for personal growth and developing key strengths. It's an amusement park of practical skills, well-organized and accessible, containing guided meditations, talks, self-assessments, creative activities, scientific papers, and a clear roadmap for making 2021 a transformative year. If you're a mental health professional, you can also earn education credits. The program is designed to help individuals invest in themselves for lasting well-being and positively impact others.

    • Accepting and validating emotions during challenging timesDuring challenging times, it's natural to feel negative emotions. Instead of suppressing or judging ourselves, we should practice acceptance, validation, and self-compassion to better understand and respond to our emotions, ultimately improving our overall well-being.

      It's normal to feel sadness or other negative emotions during challenging times, such as the holiday season or during a pandemic. These emotions are natural responses to loss, frustration, and disappointment. Instead of suppressing or judging ourselves for feeling this way, we should practice acceptance, validation, and self-compassion. Social pressures to put on a happy face and ignore negative emotions can actually make things worse by causing repression and intensification of feelings. It's important to give ourselves permission to feel and process emotions in a safe and supportive environment. By doing so, we can better understand and respond to our emotions, and ultimately improve our overall well-being.

    • Accepting Sad EmotionsTo effectively work with sadness, be open and curious, establish a solid base, and remember that sadness, anxiety, and depression can co-exist.

      Acknowledging and accepting sad emotions is a crucial part of processing them. Sadness is often linked to grief and mourning, and can be influenced by past experiences. To effectively work with sadness, find your footing by establishing a solid base for experiencing emotions without being overwhelmed. Be open and curious about your feelings, allowing them to flow while being mindful of your limits. Remember that sadness, anxiety, and depression often co-exist, and it's essential to be aware of this possibility. By following these steps, you can approach your sad emotions in a healthy and compassionate way.

    • Staying with the primary material: Focusing on bodily sensations during intense emotionsTo effectively deal with intense emotions, focus on the primary bodily sensations instead of getting lost in thoughts or commentary. Engage with the feeling through simple words or phrases, and release it using techniques like deep breathing or visualization.

      When dealing with intense emotions, it's essential to focus on the primary, nonverbal sensations rather than getting lost in the thoughts and commentary surrounding them. This approach, known as staying with the primary material, allows individuals to fully experience their emotions without judgment and can help them move through the painful experience more effectively. To practice this technique, individuals can find a safe and quiet environment, sit down, and allow themselves to feel the bodily sensations associated with the emotion. They can also use simple words or phrases to describe the feeling and may find that imagery comes up as well. Once they have fully engaged with the primary material, they can begin to release the emotion by using various techniques, such as deep breathing, visualization, or physical movement. The goal is not to suppress the emotion but to allow it to flow through, helping individuals move past the painful experience and towards healing.

    • Release emotions through various methodsPractice releasing emotions physically and mentally through methods like body relaxation, imagery, writing, expressing feelings, and talking to a trusted friend.

      Releasing emotions involves letting go physically and mentally. This can be done through various methods such as locating tension patterns in the body, deliberate relaxation, imagery, writing, and expressing feelings to a friend. The use of imagery, like draining orange liquid or releasing feelings into the universe, can help facilitate the process. Additionally, expressing emotions through writing and then releasing them through burning or scattering ashes can be effective. Talking to a trusted friend with the intention of letting go can also be beneficial. The Dr. John DeLaney Show, with its practical and direct format, can provide valuable advice and support for navigating emotional challenges. Overall, releasing emotions is an important aspect of emotional well-being and can be achieved through a variety of methods.

    • Simplify Skincare with OS peptide, Listen to Informed Health Choices, and Practice Non-JudgmentStreamline skincare with OS peptide, learn from experts on ZOE Science podcast, and embrace emotions without judgment for improved mental health

      Taking care of your skin doesn't have to be complicated or time-consuming with the help of OneSkin's OS o peptide. This simple and scientifically validated solution can keep your skin healthy and looking its best without the need for a complicated routine. Additionally, when it comes to our overall health, it's essential to seek reliable sources of information to separate fact from fiction. The ZOE Science and Nutrition podcast, hosted by world-leading scientists, is an excellent resource for making informed health choices. Lastly, practicing non-judgment can significantly impact our mental health. Instead of judging ourselves for experiencing emotions like sadness, it's crucial to acknowledge their presence without attaching shame or negative judgments. By allowing emotions to exist without judgment, we can function effectively and release them at an appropriate time. As the Zen poem suggests, "making nothing in your mind" and avoiding judgments can lead to a good season in life.

    • Accept emotions without judgmentAcknowledge emotions without adding good or bad labels, practice compassion meditation, challenge limiting beliefs, and focus on reparative actions for emotional wellbeing.

      Acknowledging and experiencing emotions without judgment is key to emotional wellbeing. This means being clear about our discernment, but avoiding the addition of good or bad labels to our experiences. Instead, we should strive for a warmhearted acceptance of our emotions, even in challenging times. Compassion meditation practices can help us cultivate this mindset. Additionally, identifying and challenging limiting beliefs underlying our emotions can aid in letting go of negative feelings. Finally, turning towards the good and focusing on reparative actions can help us find joy and connection even in difficult circumstances.

    • Identify the root cause of sadness to find ways to healUnderstanding the source of sadness and expressing needs can help heal emotional pain, whether through communication or self-exploration

      Giving and expressing care for others can help heal the sadness and emotional pain we experience, even when we feel like we're not receiving enough ourselves. This may seem paradoxical, but there's a miraculous quality to the ways in which giving can help us feel better. To better understand our sadness, it's important to identify its root cause. Is it due to loneliness, disappointment, fear, or anxiety? Once we identify the source, we can find ways to positively intervene and meet our needs. This might involve communicating our needs to others, or expressing them to ourselves. If expressing our needs to others isn't safe, we can still ask ourselves what we need to feel less sad or more safe. For some, journaling or free association writing can be a helpful practice in exploring our needs and emotions without censorship. It's important to remember that sadness can sometimes co-exist with depression, and clinical psychology suggests that it can be beneficial to distinguish between the two. Overall, taking care of ourselves and expressing our needs can help us navigate and heal from emotional pain.

    • Understanding the difference between sadness and depressionManage expectations to minimize disappointment, seek help for depression, and recognize the difference between sadness and depression for improved emotional well-being.

      It's essential to distinguish between passing feelings and lasting moods, particularly when it comes to sadness and depression. Sadness is a natural response to situations, but depression can linger independently and become a chronic condition. If you're experiencing depression, especially if it's accompanied by thoughts of self-harm or suicidal ideation, it's crucial to seek help. Depression exists on a spectrum, and even if you don't meet all the diagnostic criteria, acknowledging your feelings and taking action can make a significant difference. Disappointment is another emotion that often arises from unmet expectations. It's characterized by feelings of irritation, frustration, and injustice. To minimize disappointment, it's essential to manage our expectations and understand that attachment to specific outcomes can lead to suffering. By being mindful of our expectations and standards for ourselves and others, we can reduce the impact of disappointment and improve our overall emotional well-being. Additionally, the discussion highlighted the importance of understanding the difference between sadness and depression and the prevalence of depression as a common experience. The speaker also recommended listening to previous episodes on the topic for more in-depth information.

    • Transforming Disappointment into OpportunityDisappointment can serve as a catalyst for growth and agency, helping us create new opportunities and make productive actions towards a better future.

      While we cannot always control the actions of others or the circumstances of our lives, we do have the power to choose how we respond to disappointment. Instead of dwelling on what we didn't get or what didn't happen as planned, we can refocus our energy on what we can control and make productive actions towards creating new opportunities. Sometimes, disappointment can even serve as a valuable lesson, teaching us to make better choices in the future. It's essential to acknowledge the experience of disappointment, but not to let it consume us. Instead, we can use it as a catalyst for growth and agency, and continue to seek out new experiences and possibilities in life. As the speaker mentioned, the difference between being able to work with disappointment positively versus being overwhelmed by it lies in the experience of agency - the feeling of being in control and able to make things happen. By embracing this mindset, we can transform disappointment into a powerful force for positive change.

    • Accepting Negative EmotionsIt's natural to experience negative emotions, but suppressing them can harm us. Practice accepting them, communicating needs, and focusing on the good things in life for mental health.

      Accepting the presence of negative emotions, such as sadness and disappointment, is a natural and necessary part of life. It's important to be honest and open about these emotions within ourselves, while also practicing detachment and not getting caught up in the stories surrounding them. This process allows us to lean into the next moment at cause, maintain hope and anticipation, and find value in our feelings. Strong intentions and weak expectations can help us navigate these emotions in a healthy way, allowing us to be resilient and mentally healthy. It's natural to have negative emotions, and suppressing them can be harmful. Instead, we should work on accepting them, communicating our needs, and turning towards the good things in our lives.

    • Embrace agency to navigate disappointmentsRemember disappointment is inevitable, but having agency to influence positive change can insulate us from negative experiences. Check out Rick's Foundations of Well-being program for support.

      Maintaining a sense of agency and the ability to influence positive experiences in our lives can help us navigate disappointments and avoid negative attachment to specific outcomes. This concept was discussed towards the end of the podcast episode. It's important to remember that disappointment is inevitable, but having the power to influence positive change can insulate us from the negative experiences that often come with it. Additionally, the speakers reminded listeners about Rick's Foundations of Well-being online program, with a current sale and available scholarships. They also encouraged listeners to support the podcast by leaving ratings, reviews, and subscribing, and to follow the show on Patreon for additional content and interaction.

    Recent Episodes from Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior
    Psychological defenses are subconscious strategies we use to protect ourselves from uncomfortable emotions, and they exert a hidden power over our behavior. From denial and repression to projection and rationalization, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how these defenses shape our actions, influence our relationships, and affect our overall well-being. They start with the function and structure of most defenses, before giving a few simple examples. Rick then dives into the role of defenses in psychoanalytic theory, their role in managing self-worth and shame, and what we can do to become less defensive over time. They close with practical strategies for working with our defenses, including a brief discussion of what we can do to help other people with their defenses. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:30: Psychological and historical factors influencing psychological defensiveness 8:00: Some examples of unconscious anxiety bubbling up 12:00: Repression, regression, projection, reaction formation, and sublimation 16:55: An overview of Freud’s developmental model of the personality 24:10: A few examples of how our defenses manifest 33:40: Consciousness, competence, and joining the defense 44:00: Navigating shame and guilt 50:15: Distress tolerance 57:15: Social connection, and finding healthy outlets 1:00:20: When and how to approach others about their defensiveness 1:10:45: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself

    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself
    Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response: an appeasement strategy where we manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 2:15: What the fawn response looks like 9:05: Power imbalances, shame, and contempt 11:35: What personal history tends to lead to fawning? 20:00: How to work on the tendency to fawn 36:30: Shame, self-acceptance, and opening up to self-expression 41:25: The fawn response in relationship 46:40: Becoming your own source of safety 52:20: Making equitable arrangements, and acknowledging your best efforts 1:01:50: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira
    Somatic trauma therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins Forrest to explore how we can create more secure relationships. They talk about the lessons they've learned from their relationship, the impact of trauma and prior relationship wounds, and how very different people can make things work. Topics include complex PTSD, how to work through disagreements, changing our model of relationships, and learning how to actually support your partner. I loved this conversation, and hope you enjoy it! You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 1:10: The myth of relationships solving your problems, and self-awareness 4:25: Me, you, and us 13:45: Changing your partner by changing yourself 16:45: Embracing the challenges of vulnerability 23:25: Disagreeing well, making specific requests, and holding space 33:05: Learning how to support your partner 37:40: Five different styles of relationship 40:55: Moving from trying to please your partner to showing compassion 45:15: Love as a choice, and expressing wants and needs positively 49:30: Simply liking your partner I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag

    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag
    Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag and answer questions from listeners. They explore how to deal with chronically negative people, managing avoidant tendencies that get in the way of us finding a great relationship, and separating normal desires for support from more problematic ones. They then talk about how we can build self-confidence and become more internally referenced, before closing the episode with a sticky situation involving supporting an aging parent.  If you’d like to send in a question to be answered on the podcast, join our Patreon or email us at contact@beingwellpodcast.com. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 1:00: My friend is chronically negative, what can I do? 13:05: How can I move past a cycle of avoidance that’s inhibiting my ability to find a good relationship? 26:05: I want to be supported by my partner, but I’m worried about becoming enmeshed. How can I seek help in a healthy way? 39:30: How do I stop seeking validation from others? 45:20: How do I react to ongoing criticism from an aging parent? 58:15: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want

    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want
    Forrest and Dr. Rick explore “manifesting:” the idea that our thoughts impact the world around us, and by changing those thoughts we can change our lives. Talking about manifesting is complicated, because on the one hand our thoughts really do matter. On the other, manifesting is closely tied to a small mountain of problematic pseudoscience. They discuss and debate some of the issues with manifesting and the law of attraction before focusing on how to apply key psychological principles to create the life you want.  Rick and Forrest talk about creating clarity around our goals, setting intentions, improving self-worth and self-efficacy, and overcoming some of the negative unconscious beliefs that can get in our way, before exploring authenticity, consistent effort, and working with fear and inhibition. Then Rick closes the episode by walking us through a practical example of how to change a belief. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 3:00: Defining manifestation, and separating psychological and supernatural mechanisms of action 6:55: The mind-body connection, and the psychological aspects of manifesting 15:50: Charlatanism, preying on uncertainty, and the problems with the law of attraction 25:20: Changing behavior vs. changing thoughts, and the lure of the supernatural 32:10: If you want to skip the context, start here. 32:35: Getting what we subconsciously believe we are worthy of, and “don’t know” mind 38:50: Identifying wants, surrendering to the best within us, and using pain as a guide 48:55: Embracing the reality of consistent effort 54:55: How to change a negative belief 1:08:10: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe

    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe
    Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss the “flight” response to stress, which includes feelings of anxiety and fear, avoidant behavior, and an underlying sense of insecurity. They explore the emotions and behaviors associated with the flight response, and how we can build up a stronger, more secure sense of who we are. Rick shares some practical tools that will help you change your self-concept, safely apply principles from graduated exposure, and feel safer from the inside-out. I’ve loved this series on the stress responses, and think you’ll get a lot out of this episode. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:00: The purpose of the flight response, and when it is and isn’t useful 5:35: Social withdrawal, conflict avoidance, and preserving safety vs. comfort 12:15: The trouble with low likelihood, high-cost risks 16:35: Exploring our capacity for stress, and identifying the risks worth taking 26:30: Feeling “sturdy,” and why we choose the flight response vs. other stress responses 33:30: Graduated exposure  39:05: Learning to trust our new capabilities as we change 44:50: Overdoing a change as a form of self-sabotage, and reserving the power to flee 54:25: Responding to anxiety 1:01:40: Being present with painful situations we can’t escape 1:08:40: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation

    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation
    Dr. Rick and Forrest continue their series on the stress responses with the “fight” response to stress. They explore anger, repression, and the balance of self-expression and self-regulation before talking about how we can claim the adaptive aspects of the fight response without falling prey to its more problematic aspects. A major focus of the episode is resentment and repression, alongside related topics like empowering yourself, managing expectations, and “experiencing out.” You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:15: The useful aspects of anger 5:40: Specific behaviors associated with the fight response 8:35: Giving yourself permission to express anger 13:40: Navigating resentment 21:40: Thwarted expectations as a source of unhealthy anger 32:05: Claiming your anger, and being wary of its seductive nature 35:45: Developing an authentic sense of empowerment 39:45: Going from complaint to request 43:30: Antidotes to unhealthy anger 52:40: Challenging authority without feeling intimidated or shamed 54:20: When we’re angry at ourselves 59:00: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy
    In this mega-episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson explore everything you need to know about therapy. They share how you can get more from therapy, finding the approach that’s right for you, and some perspectives on why therapy is so expensive. They then run through the five major schools of Western psychotherapy before discussing a few alternative modalities. You’ll learn how long to stick with a therapist before looking for alternatives, questions to ask a prospective therapist, and how to maximize your results. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: The biggest factors that contribute to therapy going well 7:25: Finding the therapeutic modality that works for you 14:00: The cost of therapy, and the problem created by insurance companies 20:35: The five major schools of western psychotherapy 21:20: Psychodynamic therapy, and investigating the unconscious 23:20: Behavioral therapy, and variable reinforcement 25:55: Humanistic psychology, and seeing the good in yourself 29:05: Cognitive therapy, why insurance companies like CBT, and exploring our beliefs 36:15: Mindfulness-based therapies, and being with our experiences 41:15: Family systems therapy, social justice, somatic therapy, and non-Western thinking 46:20: The differences (and similarities) between therapy and coaching 52:40: How long therapy should take, and how to evaluate if it’s working 1:02:15: The role of client motivation  1:04:55: Questions to ask a prospective therapist 1:10:15: The importance of the therapist’s engagement 1:12:50: Common qualities Rick found challenging with past clients 1:16:05: The importance of internalizing change, and recognizing what’s really shifting 1:21:20: Recap Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Healing After Trauma with Dr. Peter Levine

    Healing After Trauma with Dr. Peter Levine
    Somatic psychology legend Dr. Peter Levine joins Dr. Rick and Forrest to explore how we can use body-based approaches to recover from traumatic experiences. Peter uses his personal history with trauma to illustrate the practices he’s taught to thousands of people through his work. They discuss the importance of resourcing experiences, creating safety, developing interoception, abandonment wounds, bringing a diverse perspective to somatic work, and working with shame.  Please be aware that this episode includes a description of sexual assault. About our Guest: Dr. Peter Levine is the creator of Somatic Experiencing and the Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education. He’s taught at a number of universities, has received Lifetime Achievement awards from numerous organizations, and is the best-selling author of several books, including Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma, and his most recent book An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:15: Peter’s dream about publishing his recent book 6:40: Themes connecting the personal and professional for Peter 10:15: Physicalization, pendulation, and decontextualization of trauma 16:15: Presence with others, and moving gently into shame to move through it 20:55: The fundamental view that we our innately healthy, and completing the arc 23:05: When the prompt “feel it in your body” doesn’t work 28:15: Advice for when you don’t have access to therapy or a SEP practitioner 30:35: Tenderness 34:30: Anchoring in the here and now when accessing past memories 39:35: Conceiving of yourself as a source of safety 43:30: Generating your own internal wellbeing 46:20: Acknowledging the reality of your history, patience, and completion 49:45: Living by dying 52:15: Recap Offer from Dr. Rick: If you'd like to improve your self-worth, check out Rick's new 4-hour, live online workshop. You'll learn methods and practices that can actually change your brain and your habits, so you start nurturing your sense of worth and belonging. Our listeners can get 20% off with coupon code BeingWell20: https://selfworthworkshop.com/ Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Recovering from a Challenging Childhood: Reclaim, Resupply, and Repair

    Recovering from a Challenging Childhood: Reclaim, Resupply, and Repair
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