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    The emotional rollercoaster of being a new mom

    en-usJanuary 23, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Navigating the Challenges of Motherhood: Acknowledging MatrescenceMotherhood is a transformative experience with unique challenges. Acknowledge your emotions, prioritize self-care, and seek support to navigate the complexities of matrescence.

      Becoming a mother is a significant life transition that can be challenging and complex, often involving feelings beyond excitement or joy. This process, known as matrescence, can be isolating for new moms as societal focus is often on the child rather than the mother's experience. Grace Bastidas, editor in chief of Parents and former host of That New Mom Life podcast, shares her personal experience of feeling unprepared and overwhelmed. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and addressing the emotional and physical aspects of matrescence. Supporting this conversation, experts including a reproductive psychologist, a clinical psychologist, and a perinatal therapist and doula, share insights on the experience of matrescence and offer advice on navigating this transition. They discuss the importance of self-care, seeking support from others, and normalizing the range of emotions new moms may feel. In summary, motherhood is a transformative experience that comes with its own set of challenges. It's crucial for new moms to remember that they're not alone, and it's essential to prioritize self-care and seek support when needed.

    • Understanding Matrescence: A Transformative Journey into MotherhoodMatrescence is a holistic process of growth and development during motherhood, impacting body, emotions, and beliefs. Acknowledging and normalizing this journey can lead to improved mental health and overall well-being.

      Becoming a mother involves a significant transition called matrescence, a holistic change that impacts various aspects of a woman's life, including her body, emotions, and beliefs. This concept, which dates back to the 1970s, was coined by medical anthropologist Dana Raphael and gained popularity through the research of reproductive psychologist Orly Athan. Matrescence is not just about postpartum depression but a profound period of growth and development. By acknowledging and normalizing this complex experience, mothers can find empowerment and compassion, leading to improved mental health and overall well-being. Expectations and societal pressures to feel only joy during this time can be detrimental, so it's essential to embrace the full range of emotions that come with matrescence.

    • Understanding the Complexity of MotherhoodMotherhood is unique and influenced by personal and societal factors. Reflect on past experiences, seek support, and avoid comparison to find your rhythm as a mother.

      Motherhood is a complex and individual experience that can be influenced by various factors, including cultural background, personal history, and societal expectations. It's important to remember that finding your rhythm and figuring things out may take time, and it's okay to ask for help and support if needed. Additionally, the way we were parented as children can impact how we approach motherhood, and it's essential to reflect on these generational effects to make informed choices for ourselves and our children. Lastly, it's crucial to avoid comparing ourselves to others and instead focus on being the best parent we can be for our unique situation. If you're experiencing postpartum mood and anxiety disorders, there are resources available, such as the Postpartum Support International website, which offers directories and regional coordinators for support. Remember, it's okay to seek help and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being during this transformative time.

    • Behind perfect images lies reality for mothersRecognize unrealistic expectations, set priorities, create a support squad, and focus on balanced family life.

      Social media can create unrealistic expectations for mothers, making it essential to recognize that behind the perfect images lies reality. Another takeaway is the importance of setting up a game plan for what matters most, such as creating a family mission statement, to help manage expectations and prioritize self-care. Additionally, building a support squad of trusted helpers is crucial during the often lonely transition into motherhood. Remember, it's important to release the "shoulds" and focus on creating a balanced and intentional family life.

    • Embrace Support During PostpartumIdentify strengths of loved ones, delegate tasks, prioritize self-care, and be patient during postpartum healing.

      Building a support system and accepting help from loved ones is crucial during the postpartum period. Whether it's emotional or physical support, identifying the strengths of those around you and delegating tasks can alleviate stress and pressure. Additionally, prioritizing self-care and reconnecting with your body through gentle exercise and getting outside can boost mood, improve recovery, and promote overall well-being. Remember, the postpartum period is a time of healing, and it's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate this new phase of life.

    • Self-care for new moms: Essential for their own well-being and child's developmentSimple self-care actions like going for a walk or taking a shower can help moms reset and refocus. Mindfulness and connecting with other new moms are also crucial for support and well-being.

      Self-care is essential for new moms, not only for their own well-being but also for their child's development. Taking simple actions like going for a morning walk or taking a shower can help moms reset and refocus. It's important to remember that self-care is not selfish, but rather a way to fuel up and bring your best self to parenthood. Another takeaway is the importance of mindfulness and taking a few moments each day for yourself. This can help manage thoughts and feelings, prevent feelings of isolation, and remind yourself of your own worth. Lastly, connecting with other new moms is crucial for support and debunking the myth of motherhood as an idyllic oasis. These connections can be made through various means, including meetups, Facebook groups, or local community centers. Remember, self-care, mindfulness, and community are essential pillars of support for new moms.

    • Navigating the Transition of MotherhoodTreat yourself with compassion, prioritize self-care, remember identity evolution, connect with other moms, and seek support when needed.

      Becoming a mother involves a significant transition, known as matrescence, which can be overwhelming but is a normal part of the experience. It's essential to treat yourself with compassion, set up a plan for physical and emotional self-care, and remember that the shift in identity is an evolution, not a loss. Don't be discouraged if it takes time to find mom friends or feel comfortable in a group. Remember, you are still the same person, just evolving into a new role. Take care of your physical and emotional needs, and don't neglect your mental health. And finally, don't be afraid to seek support and connect with other moms. The bond that forms in these groups can provide relief and a sense of community. So, take your time, be patient with yourself, and know that you will come out of this experience stronger.

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