The One About Men Are Lost

Why is anger easier for men to express than other emotions? Can men work through their anger in healthy ways? What's underneath the anger and how do men discover a broader range of emotions? Jim & Jay explore all these questions as they attempt to discuss anger without getting angry. Plus, the guys celebrate reaching a podcast goal, spin the wheel of emotions, and pick the top clowns of all time.

This week Jim & Jay open up about their personal journeys to understand themselves as sexual people (maybe skip this one, mom) and share about the repression, shame, guilt, and fear they have experienced around sexual desire. The guys also discuss their adolescent confusion about French kissing, horror movies, virgins, and Playboys in the woods. Plus, best euphemisms for sex!

Jim & Jay discuss an insightful and fascinating article about masculinity by Christine Emba. Plus they chat about storage unit cartels, the pros and cons of skipping class, and the worst Star Wars movies. Really if you’re not a giant Star Wars nerd you may just want to skip the last 30 minutes. "Men are lost. Here's a map out of the wilderness" by Christine Emba https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/07/10/christine-emba-masculinity-new-model/

Why do men and women play sports separately? What are the pros and cons of gendered athletics? How come people are so mad about transgender athletes? Jim & Jay discuss these questions and more. Plus, the guys pick their favorite school supplies, and chat about trapezoids, the Dukes of Hazard, and the great mystery of Cliffs.

Jim & Jay usually break men down, but this week they’re building men up. A lot of men are doing great things, and in this special episode the guys highlight some of them with their first annual "Men We Like" list. Plus, Jay passes for a much younger man, Jim senses happiness lurking around the corner, and debate over the best things to do in the pool gets heated, in more ways than one.

Men learn masculinity from their fathers and pass it on to their sons. This week, Jim & Jay discuss their own experiences of fatherhood and sonship: what went well, what could have gone better, and what they hope the next generation will improve on. The guys also chat about the virtues of psychedelics, nudist colonization, and the most unbelievable human accomplishments. Plus, Jim learns a shocking secret about this very podcast that could change everything.

If having a good job is required to be a man, it’s no wonder men are breaking down. Jim & Jay discuss why most men hate their jobs, why we don’t all work 15-hour weeks, and why it’s so painful to fall short of expectations. Also, Jim celebrates partnership, Jay embraces the sacred power of chocolate, and everyone tries to listen to music backwards (you know, for the satanism). Plus, stick around for Best Chucks!

Do we choose monogamy or does monogamy choose us? Is marriage bad for your health? How is deciding to get married like riding an escalator? This week, Jim & Jay tackle these and other tough questions about The Three Ms. They also explore the mysterious logic of telemarketing, recall the wonders of Real Sex on HBO, and definitively determine that Jay is a lover not a fighter. Plus the guys pick which First Ladies they most wish could swap places with their husbands.

What if there’s nothing wrong with me? What do you think about that, Jesus?! Jim & Jay open up about how some of their Christian experiences encouraged self-hatred, preyed on weakness, and normalized male privilege. Jim also explains why he started shutting down his emotions, and how a Catholic monk turned him into a Buddhist. Plus, the guys chat about the early days of HBO and MTV, the loss of the original Star Wars lasers, and the question: is it still an 80s song if you didn’t hear it until the 90s?