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    The Path to Trauma Recovery

    enNovember 20, 2022

    Podcast Summary

    • Healing from trauma goes beyond waiting for time to passTo heal from trauma, actively address its emotional and physical impact, acknowledge and process disturbing aspects, and increase control and meaning in life.

      While time can provide some distance from traumatic events, it does not guarantee healing. Healing from trauma involves actively addressing the impact of the event on an individual's emotions and physical sensations. The body holds and stores trauma, and true healing comes from acknowledging and processing the disturbing aspects of the event, rather than just waiting for it to disappear. It's important to remember that some things may always be objectively disturbing, but the goal is to reduce their power over us and increase our sense of control and meaning in our lives. Dr. Ariel Schwartz, a clinical psychologist specializing in trauma and recovery, emphasizes the importance of attending to the impact of the event and the individual's experience, rather than just relying on the passage of time.

    • Invest in quality makeup and skincare, seek therapy for trauma, and leverage Shopify for business growthInvesting in high-quality makeup and skincare can boost confidence and skin health, seeking therapy aids in trauma recovery, and Shopify empowers business growth by converting visitors into customers

      Investing in high-quality makeup and skincare products, like COSIS, can enhance your appearance and confidence while providing nourishing benefits for your skin. Additionally, seeking professional help for trauma recovery is essential, as trained therapists can guide you through the process in a safe and effective manner. The body's protective responses to trauma can sometimes become harmful, but with the right support, these defenses can be managed and transformed into tools for healing. Shopify, a global commerce platform, can also help grow your business by turning browsers into buyers.

    • Understanding the Impact of Unresolved TraumaUnresolved trauma can negatively impact mental and physical health. Meaning making is crucial for creating a meaningful present and future. Prioritize emotional intimacy when sharing trauma in relationships.

      Unresolved trauma can significantly impact both our mental and physical health, keeping us stuck in anxious or depressed states. It's essential to recognize that the belief that all things happen for a reason is not the same as making meaning of the trauma. Meaning making is about working through the pain to create a meaningful present and future. When it comes to sharing trauma in relationships, it's crucial to prioritize emotional intimacy alongside physical intimacy. If you've been with your partner for a while but haven't shared your trauma, approach the conversation with care and consideration, ensuring a safe and supportive environment for open communication. Remember, taking the time to build emotional intimacy will make these difficult conversations easier in the long run.

    • Sharing personal information with a partnerCreating a safe environment, considering timing, and understanding needs for support can help individuals share personal info with a partner. Healing from sexual trauma is a personal journey, and communication, self-care, and professional help can aid in the process.

      Communication is key in sharing deep, personal information with a partner, but it's important to consider the timing and the potential emotional impact. Fear of rejection or judgment can prevent individuals from sharing important parts of themselves, but creating a safe and supportive environment can help. It's okay to keep some details private, and partners should be open to understanding their significant other's needs for support and validation. In cases of sexual trauma, it's essential to remember that healing is a personal journey, and individuals have the power to reclaim their relationship to sex and intimacy at their own pace. Communication, self-care, and professional help can all play crucial roles in this process.

    • Healing from sexual trauma goes beyond mental recognitionBody-centered therapies help individuals recognize and release lingering sensations and emotions in the body, allowing for effective healing in a safe therapeutic space.

      Healing from sexual trauma involves more than just mental recognition and storytelling. The body also holds the impact of past experiences, and addressing this physical aspect is crucial for moving forward. This can be achieved through body-centered therapies, such as somatic experiencing therapy and sensory motor therapy, which help individuals recognize and release lingering sensations and emotions in the body. By acknowledging and working through the physical manifestations of trauma, individuals can reclaim their instincts and regain a sense of safety and control in their bodies. It's important to remember that attempting to work through trauma in unsupportive environments can be counterproductive, so seeking out a safe and contained therapeutic space is essential for effective healing.

    • Healing from trauma is unique and individualSelf-compassion, acceptance, and self-care are crucial during trauma recovery. Healing timelines vary and forgiveness is not necessary for everyone.

      Healing from trauma is a unique and individual process, and there is no set timeline for recovery. Shame and self-blame are common experiences for trauma survivors, often perpetuated by societal norms and the protection of perpetrators. It's important to practice self-compassion and acceptance, and to remember that healing is not a sign of weakness. Forgiveness is not a necessary part of healing for everyone, and it's crucial to prioritize self-care and support during the recovery process. Additionally, using high-quality makeup and skin care products, like Kosis, can help boost confidence and self-esteem during the healing journey.

    • Forgiveness and healing are personal journeysWhile forgiveness can benefit the forgiver, it's not necessary or for the perpetrator. Anger is valid, and healing is a continuous process involving old wounds and new coping mechanisms.

      Forgiveness and healing are personal journeys that do not follow a linear path. While forgiveness can be beneficial for the forgiver, it's important to remember that it's not necessary and not for the perpetrator. Anger is a valid emotion that can help protect and empower individuals when they're in situations where they have to confront their abusers. Healing is a process that involves revisiting old wounds and memories, especially during challenging times like the holidays. It's essential to recognize that it's okay to feel angry and to use that emotion as a protective force. Healing is not a one-time event but a continuous process that involves revisiting old wounds and finding new ways to cope and move forward. It's important to remember that everyone's healing journey is unique, and it's essential to be patient and compassionate with oneself throughout the process.

    • Healing from trauma is not linearRecognize setbacks as opportunities for growth, validate feelings, seek therapy, vulnerability is a strength, share stories, trust the process, find support

      Healing from trauma is not a linear process, and experiencing setbacks or regressions is a natural part of the journey. These moments can serve as opportunities for self-reflection and growth. It's essential to recognize and validate these feelings rather than getting down on oneself. Seeking therapy is a courageous and valuable investment in one's well-being, and the more we talk about our experiences, the less alone we feel. Remember, vulnerability can be a strength, and sharing our stories can inspire others to do the same. Trust in the process and find the right support system to help guide you through your healing journey.

    • Reclaiming control of our storiesTraumatic experiences don't define us, we have the power to change our narrative and heal.

      No matter what traumatic experiences we may encounter in life, we have the power to change our narrative and define our own stories. It's important to remember that such experiences are not a reflection of our worth or identity, but rather the result of someone else's inhumane actions. Dr. Schwartz's insights and tools shared during this conversation serve as a starting point for those who have gone through similar situations. By acknowledging the importance of this conversation and the ability to heal, we can begin to reclaim control of our lives and move forward with resilience. Thank you, Dr. Schwartz, for your amazing work and for starting this vital discussion.

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