The Tao of Dating

Podcast Summary

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• Emily Morse's Exciting Week: Book Release, Media Attention, and Burning Man: Sex educator Emily Morse had an eventful week with the upcoming release of her book, media attention, and attending a Burning Man decompression party.

  Emily Morse, a sex educator and host of the "Sex with Emily" podcast, had an eventful week. She is excited about the upcoming release of her book, "Hot Sex Yeah," which can be ordered on Amazon or bought in bookstores. The Detroit Free Press published a large article about her and her sex talk show, which brought her old acquaintances from Michigan reaching out to her. She also attended a Burning Man decompression party and hung out with the band Incubus. Emily's week was filled with excitement and media attention, and she is looking forward to the release of her book and upcoming events.

• The speaker values convenience and familiarity in relationships: The speaker often reconnects with past partners due to ease and cost, reflecting her preference for convenience and familiarity in her romantic life.

  The speaker in this conversation values convenience and familiarity in her romantic relationships, often opting to reconnect with past partners rather than pursuing new ones. She justifies this decision by noting that it's easier and cheaper than courting someone new. The conversation also touches on the speaker's upcoming engagements in Los Angeles, her recent reintroduction to television, and her listeners' ability to call in with questions or comments for the show. The speaker also mentions her preference for the "Real Housewives of New Jersey" and her difficulty distinguishing between the cast members. Despite her busy schedule, she expresses excitement for an upcoming interview with a guest on the show. The conversation also includes a brief mention of listeners sending in CDs for potential play on the show, with the speaker expressing confusion over the file format. Overall, the conversation showcases the speaker's candid and conversational style, as well as her prioritization of convenience and familiarity in her personal and professional life.

• California Governor Signs Bills on Circumcision and Shark Fin Soup: Governor Jerry Brown upheld personal choice in circumcision while restricting shark fin soup consumption, stirring cultural and familial controversies

  California Governor Jerry Brown recently signed a bill prohibiting local governments from banning circumcision, maintaining the right to personal choice in the matter. Meanwhile, he also signed a bill against shark fin soup consumption, sparking controversy among those who consider it a cultural tradition. Elsewhere, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries renewed their vows on Ellen DeGeneres' show, just two months after their wedding. Chris Humphries' sarcastic humor has reportedly caused friction within the Kardashian family. These events highlight the ongoing debates around personal freedoms, cultural traditions, and family dynamics.

• Discovering the Power of Sensory Experiences as Aphrodisiacs: Sensory experiences, such as the smell of ripe fruit for fruit flies or small gestures of affection for humans, play a crucial role in building and maintaining meaningful connections.

  Scientists have discovered that the smell of ripe and rotting fruit acts as a natural aphrodisiac for fruit flies, triggering sexual behaviors through a specific sensory pathway in their olfactory system. This is one of the first known cases of a food aphrodisiac. Meanwhile, in the realm of human relationships, a listener named Emily is dealing with a long-distance boyfriend who doesn't prioritize romance. The experts suggest that fulfillment comes from feelings, not just a person, and that small gestures of affection can go a long way in maintaining a healthy relationship. While the discussion touched upon various topics, the underlying theme revolved around the power of sensory experiences and the importance of communication in building and maintaining meaningful connections.

• Focus on local connections: Building genuine relationships requires addressing self-esteem, authenticity, and patience in local communities. Don't be discouraged by non-responsive messages in online dating.

  Long distance relationships may not be considered true relationships due to the lack of physical presence and availability. Instead, focus on building connections with people in your local community. For those struggling with dating and intimacy, it's essential to address any self-esteem issues and be authentic in online interactions. Don't be discouraged by non-responsive messages, as men may be wary of potential spammers or scammers. Ultimately, finding love and intimacy requires patience, self-confidence, and a willingness to put yourself out there.

• Virginity in your thirties and beyond: Focus on enjoying the dating process, meet people in person, engage in activities you enjoy, and remember every day is a new opportunity

  Being a virgin in your thirties or beyond is more common than you might think. It's important not to let past experiences or self-perceived shortcomings define your present and future in dating. Instead, focus on enjoying the process and meeting people in person whenever possible. Online dating can be a challenge, as important nonverbal cues are missing, and people may behave differently when they don't know you well. To increase your chances of meeting compatible partners, try engaging in activities you enjoy and joining groups where you're likely to find like-minded individuals. Conversation-friendly and continuous environments are ideal for forming connections, so consider taking classes, attending social events, or volunteering. Remember, every day is a new opportunity to meet someone, so don't let your past define your present or future.

• Connecting over shared interests leads to meaningful relationships: Exploring personal interests and communicating effectively can lead to fulfilling connections through classes, hobbies, or other shared activities.

  Engaging in activities where you can connect with others over shared interests, such as classes or hobbies, can lead to meaningful relationships. These settings offer continuity and conversation friendliness, allowing individuals to build connections without the pressure of traditional dating scenarios. Additionally, having a common interest can serve as a strong foundation for a relationship. Another important point discussed was the significance of good communication skills, specifically in the context of kissing. Chemistry cannot be faked, and effective communication, including active listening and feedback, can help improve the kissing experience for both partners. Overall, taking the time to explore personal interests and prioritizing open and authentic communication can lead to fulfilling connections.

• Recognizing the source of fulfillment in relationships: Self-reflection and new approaches are crucial for finding fulfilling relationships, as attraction and intense emotions are not the only factors. Past experiences don't dictate future success.

  Fulfillment in relationships comes from a range of feelings, not just physical attraction or intense emotions. The author shares the story of women who settle for unfulfilling relationships, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing that the person who makes us feel good will eventually become attractive to us, regardless of initial impressions. The author also highlights the importance of self-reflection and considering new approaches when past experiences haven't led to the desired outcome. The book, "The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible," offers insights and practical advice for women seeking meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

• Believe in abundance of potential partners: Embrace the belief of an abundance of potential partners and positive experiences to increase approachability, happiness, and attractiveness.

  Adopting an abundance mindset is crucial for success in dating and in life. According to the DAO dating approach, which combines ancient wisdom and modern science, there is an abundance of potential partners in the world, and denying this abundance can limit your opportunities. Instead, embrace the belief that there is an abundance of people and positive experiences out there for you. This mindset makes you more approachable, happier, and attractive to others. Additionally, the be, do, have mentality suggests focusing on becoming the person you want to be before seeking a relationship. By being happy and fulfilled, you will naturally attract companionship.

• Focus on personal growth for a healthy relationship: Prioritize self-improvement, adopt an abundant mindset, practice daily gratitude, and recognize the importance of masculine and feminine energies for a healthy and loving connection.

  Focusing on personal growth and happiness before seeking a romantic relationship is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling partnership. This means adopting an abundant mindset, being grateful for what you have, and practicing daily gratitude. Shifting your focus towards the positive aspects of your life can help train your mind to be more optimistic and attract better experiences. Additionally, recognizing the importance of the masculine and feminine energies in the world and within ourselves can contribute to a more balanced and harmonious relationship. By prioritizing self-improvement and embracing gratitude, you'll be more likely to attract and maintain a healthy and loving connection.

• Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Relationships: Women should consciously bring out their feminine energy in relationships to avoid repelling their partners. This can be achieved by focusing on self-care, sensual pleasures, and embracing inner power.

  In relationships, having polarity and balancing masculine and feminine energies is essential for an attractive and harmonious connection. When individuals, particularly women, take on a lot of masculine energy in their professional lives, they should consciously bring out their feminine energy in their intimate relationships to avoid repelling their partners. This doesn't mean being passive or weak but rather recognizing and embracing the inner tigress's power. Women can cultivate feminine energy by wearing softer clothing, taking care of themselves, and focusing on sensual pleasures. Men are attracted to femininity and women taking pleasure in their bodies. By shifting focus from the mind to the body and embracing the feminine energy, individuals can create a stronger and more attractive bond.

• Prioritize Your Own Needs: Women should prioritize their own needs and well-being to better support and care for others, using the analogy of putting on an oxygen mask during an emergency.

  Women should prioritize their own needs and well-being before entering or maintaining relationships. This concept, known as enlightened self-interest, encourages women to make decisions that benefit them in the long term. The speaker uses the analogy of putting on an oxygen mask during an airplane emergency to illustrate this point. By taking care of oneself first, one can better support and care for others. The speaker also cautions against getting stuck in unhealthy relationships, such as those with "bad boys," and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and making conscious choices.

• Look for a partner with heart and spine: Find a partner with motivation, compassion, and reliability for a healthy relationship and personal growth

  When it comes to relationships, it's important to look for a partner who has both heart and spine. Heart represents compassion and the ability to care for oneself and others, while spine signifies masculine strength and reliability. The ideal partner would have a balance of both. Extreme behaviors, such as being unemployed or excessively workaholic, can hinder one's ability to be the best version of themselves and may not make for a healthy relationship. The classic bad boy, who exhibits only heart or spine but lacks the other, may lead to codependent relationships or constant seeking for love and validation. Instead, focus on finding a partner who is motivated, compassionate, and reliable. These qualities will not only benefit the relationship but also contribute to personal growth and overall well-being.

• Help him grow into a greater version of himself: Compliment and reinforce positive traits to create deep connection and fulfillment in relationships

  Becoming irresistible to a man involves helping him grow into a greater version of himself by focusing your attention and energy on his positive traits. This can be done through sincere compliments and reinforcement of desirable behaviors. The ideal man is someone who possesses both heart and spine, making him compassionate yet determined. This balance is important, as a man who has lost his masculine spine but gained sensitivity can leave the relationship flat. By being a catalyst for his growth, you can create a deep connection that leaves both parties feeling fulfilled and irresistible to each other. Remember, men crave compliments and encouragement just as much as women do, and a simple compliment can go a long way in building a strong and loving relationship.

• Complimenting and Encouraging Men in Their Careers: Encouraging men with compliments and support strengthens relationships and makes you irresistible. Empowerment through positive words and actions creates a strong bond.

  Encouraging and complimenting men in their careers is essential for a healthy relationship. Women have historically been perceived as not supporting their partners' professional goals, but offering genuine praise and support can make a man feel fantastic and make you irresistible. This empowering approach, known as "empowerment," is a way for women to positively impact their relationships without relying on anyone else. Compliments and encouragement are powerful tools that can make people feel good and appreciated, and they are not found in abundance in today's negative social media landscape. By focusing on making your partner feel good through words and actions, you can create a strong bond and have a monopoly on men. This concept can be further explored in Doctor Ali Binazir's book, "The Tao of Dating," available at taoofdating.com.