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    • Exploring Simplicity in Business and Restorative JusticeMercury's financial solutions embody business simplicity, while restorative justice offers a compassionate approach to societal harms. Both prioritize repair and transformation over punishment.

      Simplicity in business operations, as demonstrated by Mercury's financial solutions, can lead to greater precision, control, and focus for ambitious companies. Meanwhile, in the realm of social justice, the restorative justice movement offers a radical alternative to traditional criminal legal systems. This approach, which prioritizes repair and transformation over punishment, has been shown to lead to better outcomes and provides valuable lessons for addressing societal harms. Sujatha Baliga, a director of the Restorative Justice Project and a survivor of abuse herself, is a leading figure in this movement. Her personal story of overcoming abuse and her dedication to building restorative justice structures offer a compelling path towards a more compassionate and effective approach to addressing harm. As Ezra Klein explores the concept of nonviolence on his podcast, the restorative justice movement represents a promising seed for change and reimagining our social and political relations. This macro-level application of restorative justice principles can offer profound lessons for addressing the harms we've collectively inflicted on one another.

    • Survivor's journey towards healing and justice can be complicatedSurvivors of abuse may face challenges in seeking help due to fear and potential consequences, but their journey towards healing can lead to unexpected experiences and new perspectives.

      The systems designed to protect and help survivors of abuse can unintentionally silence them due to fear of separation from family, potential immigration consequences, or feeling unheard. The survivor's journey towards healing and justice may lead them to seek more power to effectuate change, but they may discover that their desired role doesn't align with the objectives of certain positions, such as being a prosecutor. Ultimately, the survivor's path may involve unexpected experiences, like traveling to distant places and receiving guidance from spiritual leaders, to help them let go of anger and find a new perspective on their past and future.

    • Asking the Dalai Lama for advice on forgivenessConsider the complexity of forgiveness and take time to process emotions before rushing to forgive.

      Forgiveness is a deeply personal and complex process that requires introspection and time. When the speaker, who had experienced interfamilial sexual harm, found herself in McLeod Gunj, she was moved by the psychological well-being of the Tibetan community despite their traumatic experiences. She asked the Dalai Lama for advice on forgiveness, but he didn't provide a formula. Instead, he asked her if she had been angry long enough. This question made her realize the importance of taking the time to process her emotions and consider if she truly was ready to forgive. The speaker's experience highlights the significance of acknowledging the complexity of forgiveness and the importance of not rushing the process.

    • Criminal legal system hinders truth-telling and healingThe criminal justice system can prevent truth-telling and hinder the healing process for victims and offenders. Restorative justice offers a solution through face-to-face dialogue.

      The current criminal legal system can disincentivize truth-telling and hinder the healing process for both victims and offenders. The speaker, who became disillusioned with the system as a defense attorney, shares an experience where she couldn't allow a client to apologize due to potential legal consequences. Restorative justice, which encourages face-to-face dialogue between victims and offenders, was introduced to her by a friend during law school as a potential solution to these issues. The system's setup, including Miranda warnings, can make it difficult for truth to come out, leaving crime survivors wanting answers and offenders unable to take responsibility.

    • Restorative justice: Healing and addressing harm collectivelyRestorative justice is a way of life that involves all parties coming together to identify and address harms, needs, and obligations for healing and restoration.

      Restorative justice is an approach to healing and addressing harm that involves all those affected coming together to identify and address harms, needs, and obligations. It's not about returning to a preexisting state, but rather about being restored to our wholeness as individuals and collectively. The concept has roots in various cultures and communities, including the Tibetan system of justice and indigenous practices. Restorative justice was introduced to the speaker by Susan, who recognized its similarities to the speaker's learning about the Tibetan system. The speaker's teachers, Howard Zehr and Robert Yazzie, have different perspectives on defining restorative justice, but they both agree that it's a way of life and being. Restorative justice calls us to address harms in a collective and restorative way, with the goal of healing and putting things as right as possible. It's important to note that restorative justice comes from many sources, including Western and indigenous traditions.

    • A shift from punishment to restorationRestorative justice focuses on healing and restoration for those harmed, rather than punishment for the offender.

      Restorative justice represents a paradigm shift in approaching crime and justice, focusing on questions of who is harmed, what they need, and whose obligation it is to meet those needs. This is a departure from the traditional criminal legal system's focus on what law was broken, who broke it, and how they should be punished. Restorative justice also emphasizes understanding the root causes of harm and making things right with the person who was harmed. It can occur outside the legal system, but organizations like Impact Justice work within it, particularly in the felony pre-charge context. The goal is to have those directly responsible take accountability for their actions and work towards healing and restoration.

    • Automatic referral to community-based organizations for restorative justiceSan Francisco's DA office bypasses courts and probation for eligible cases, automatically referring them to community orgs for restorative justice, focusing on healing and accountability through dialogue and compassion.

      San Francisco's district attorney's office has implemented a discretionless diversion program for certain cases, ensuring equitable access to restorative justice. When a case meets the criteria, it's automatically referred to a community-based organization for resolution, bypassing the need for a probation officer or court appearance. The organization first verifies the offender's amenability and then reaches out to the victim. These initial conversations are characterized by love and compassion, providing an alternative to the traditional criminal justice system. The goal is to promote healing and accountability through dialogue and community involvement.

    • Building trust and belief in young offendersRestorative justice programs help young offenders take responsibility for their actions in a safe, trusting environment, benefiting the individual, survivor, and community.

      Restorative justice programs are effective in helping young people who have caused harm by focusing on building trust and belief in their ability to make things right. From the initial meeting, it's important to express gratitude for their presence and assure them that they are trusted and loved. This approach, which is strength-based and non-judgmental, helps create an environment where individuals feel safe enough to share their experiences and take responsibility for their actions. Additionally, agreements with law enforcement ensure that anything shared in these processes cannot be used against them in court. The ultimate goal is for all parties involved to leave the process with their dignity and life force intact or increased. This approach not only benefits the individual causing harm but also the crime survivor and the community as a whole.

    • Restorative justice prioritizes victim needsRestorative justice offers victims a deeper sense of healing and closure through direct engagement with offender in a safe environment

      The restorative justice process offers crime survivors something different than the traditional criminal justice system. Instead of focusing solely on punishment and retribution, restorative justice prioritizes the needs of the victim. This approach can be attractive to victims who are looking for a sense of closure or healing, as they may not get these things through the criminal justice system. However, it's important to dispel the myth that the criminal justice system will provide a sense of justice or closure for victims. In reality, the vast majority of arrests do not result in convictions or lengthy sentences. Restorative justice offers victims the opportunity to directly engage with the person who harmed them and have their voices heard in a safe and supportive environment. This can lead to a deeper sense of healing and closure than what is typically offered through the criminal justice system.

    • Approaching Survivors with Empathy and UnderstandingListen to survivors, be patient, and offer support tailored to their unique needs and journey in the healing process.

      When working with survivors of crime, it's crucial to approach them with an open mind and a listening ear. Survivors may express what they believe they want for reparation, but the system often falls short. Therefore, it's essential to ask survivors what else they might need and be patient as they navigate the complexities of the healing process. The harm caused can be spiritual, physical, financial, and emotional, and requests for amends can vary greatly. Some common requests include restitution for property damage or out-of-pocket costs, an apology, and answers to questions. The process of repairing harm involves doing right by the person harmed, the community, and oneself. It's essential to remember that every survivor's journey is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. The key is to listen, be patient, and offer support in a way that resonates with each individual.

    • Involving crime survivors in offender rehabilitationRestorative justice empowers victims and offenders to collaborate, offering opportunities for offenders to make amends and regain self-control, while promoting healing and preventing future harm.

      Restorative justice approaches prioritize the involvement of crime survivors in the rehabilitation process of offenders. Survivors express a strong desire to see offenders turn their lives around and prevent harm to others. However, the degree of involvement varies depending on the relationship between the survivor and the offender. Families and community members often lead the discussion on self-improvement plans. When plans are breached, the circle reconvenes to identify and address underlying issues preventing compliance. Instead of punitive measures, restorative justice offers opportunities for offenders to make amends and regain self-control. This approach shifts power dynamics, allowing victims and offenders to collaborate in restoring harmony and promoting healing. Consensus-based agreements ensure that all parties have a voice and the power to veto or build the plan. The ultimate goal is to create a safe and supportive environment where individuals can rebalance power imbalances and harness their inner good to make positive changes.

    • Empowering crime survivors to reclaim their narrativeRestorative justice enables survivors to decide the outcome of their situation, regain control over their narrative, and potentially help offenders improve themselves, promoting healing and community engagement.

      Restorative justice empowers crime survivors to reclaim their narrative and regain control over their story. This is in contrast to the state's focus on punishment through incarceration. Restorative justice encourages open conversations between the survivor and the offender, allowing for a deeper understanding of each other's lives and capabilities. Most crimes occur within communities, making it essential for survivors and offenders to engage in restorative practices. Nils Christie's argument in his article "Conflicts as Property" highlights how the state has taken away the harm experienced by crime survivors. Restorative justice aims to put survivors back in the driver's seat, enabling them to decide the outcome of their situation and potentially forgiving or helping the offender to improve themselves. By doing so, survivors can regain control over their narrative and heal in a more meaningful way.

    • Restoring relationships and promoting transformationRestorative justice focuses on restoring relationships, promoting healing, and empowering crime survivors through active participation in the process.

      Restorative justice is about restoring relationships and creating space for transformation rather than focusing on punishment and retribution. This approach acknowledges interdependence and the importance of unconditional love and accountability. Restorative justice facilitators aim to be equally partial and biased towards helping every person involved in the process become their best selves. The restorative justice journey involves confronting the person who caused harm and asking questions to gain understanding, promoting healing and reconciliation. It's grounded in the belief that people belong to one another and that everyone deserves the opportunity to change and grow. This approach empowers crime survivors by allowing them to be active participants in the healing process and creating a more compassionate and restorative justice system.

    • Restorative justice and nonviolence: deeply connected philosophiesBoth restorative justice and nonviolence prioritize positive change and resistance against oppression, sharing deep roots and requiring intense commitment.

      Restorative justice and nonviolence are deeply connected philosophies. Restorative justice, which aims for equal partiality and seeks to heal harm rather than punish, shares roots with nonviolence, as both prioritize action towards positive change and resistance against oppression. Kazu Haga's work on Kenyan nonviolence and his involvement with restorative justice initiatives further illustrates this connection. While restorative justice and nonviolence may not be soft or passive approaches, they are powerful forces for good and require intense commitment and engagement. Restorative justice plans can be onerous and ask a lot of the individuals involved, but they offer opportunities for healing and transformation rather than punishment. Ultimately, both restorative justice and nonviolence are strategies for creating positive change through empathy, understanding, and a commitment to making things right.

    • Building a world where restorative justice is the normScaling restorative justice requires addressing structural challenges and expanding its reach to demonstrate its effectiveness compared to the criminal legal system.

      Restorative justice, a paradigm that focuses on healing and restoring relationships after harm, has the potential to replace the current criminal legal system in the United States. However, scaling this approach and making it a viable alternative requires addressing structural challenges, such as securing funding, obtaining memorandums of understanding from jurisdictions, and providing necessary resources to community-based organizations. The ultimate goal is to build a world where restorative justice is the norm, rather than an add-on or a tool used to dismantle the existing system. This vision involves continuous expansion and data collection to demonstrate its effectiveness compared to the criminal legal system. The journey towards this goal is complex and challenging, but the belief is that it's necessary for creating a more equitable and peaceful society.

    • Impact of Restorative Justice on Relationships and CommunityRestorative justice practices foster open communication, co-created values, and community building in various aspects of life, from criminal justice to personal relationships. Recommended books include 'The Little Book of Restorative Circles', 'The New Jim Crow', and 'Radical Reconciliation'.

      The practices and values of restorative justice can have a profound impact on various aspects of our lives, including relationships and community building. The discussion highlighted the success of these practices in criminal justice reform, particularly in cities with progressive district attorneys. The speakers shared personal experiences of using restorative justice in their marriages and family disputes, emphasizing the importance of co-created values and open communication. They also encouraged scaling these practices to reduce reliance on mass criminalization and policing. As a closing question, they recommended three books that have influenced their work in restorative justice: "The Little Book of Restorative Circles" by Kay Pranis, "The New Jim Crow" by Michelle Alexander, and "Radical Reconciliation: Beyond Politics, Race, and Religion" by Christena Cleveland.

    • Understanding Restorative Justice Through Interdependence and ForgivenessFocus on repairing harms rather than demanding forgiveness in restorative justice. Emphasize interdependence, accountability, and repair in truth and reconciliation processes.

      Key takeaway from this conversation with Sujatha Baliga is the importance of focusing on repairing harms rather than demanding forgiveness as the primary goal in restorative justice. Baliga emphasized the influence of the Dalai Lama's book, "For the Benefit of All Beings," in helping her understand concepts like interdependence, restorative justice, and forgiveness. She also highlighted the significance of Thomas Kuhn's "Structures of Scientific Revolution" in inspiring the idea of paradigm shifts. Baliga clarified that forgiveness is an individual journey, separate from the restorative justice process. She also discussed the importance of accountability and repair in the context of truth and reconciliation. Ultimately, Baliga emphasized that the work of love and repair is not easy, but it is always worth it.

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    Episode 128:  #SurvivorStories Series with Ashleigh Rae on Your Voice and Accountability in Recovering from Sexual Violence

    **Note:  We refer to Ashleigh as "Alyssa" because we recorded this interview prior to the lifting of her gag order.  Ashleigh is now not legally prohibited from speaking publicly about her experience.**

    On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is Ashleigh Rae, a survivor of sexual violence, childhood rape and sexual assault by multiple offenders. She took her case to court and won not once, but twice. We speak with Ashleigh today about her experience as a survivor of sexual violence, how it is different from other forms of abuse, how her trauma has impacted her, what accountability looks like, and what role forgiveness, community, and feminism plays in her healing and recovery journey. Throughout our conversation, we ask Ashleigh to share #abusertactics, #signsofabuse, and #upstandertips.

    During our conversation, Ashleigh and I referenced the following resources and topics:

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