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    The Truth About Female Sexuality - with guest Wednesday Martin

    en-usFebruary 18, 2019
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    About this Episode

    Dr. Tammy talks with anthropologist, culture critic and best-selling author Wednesday Martin about female sexuality, infidelity and her latest best-selling book Untrue. Learn how science has perpetuated stereotypes about the true sexual nature of men, women and the master narrative we all have been taught to believe without question. Dr. Tammy and Wednesday challenge these myths while answering your questions about infidelity, monogamy and how to improve your relationship with yourself and your partner.

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