What is character development really? Why is it such a common phenomenon? Is it a rite of passage in dating?

Let's just say I'm exploring a different perspective to the topic. Don't get me wrong, I'll always encourage people to choose themselves if they feel unappreciated but why is this a staple in today’s relationships?

I don’t have an answer though 😂...

You thought I would forget to suggest animated series to watch and binge?! Here you go...

Rick & Morty | AdultSwim | Available on Netflix

It is currently 5 seasons long. It is a brilliantly written series with complex characters whose arcs are uniquely thought out (in my perspective).

Archer | Fox | Available on Netflix

It is currently 12 seasons long. There's a disfunction in the family and team dynamic of the main characters and the comedic timing and writing is brilliant.

Family Guy | Fox | Some Seasons on Netflix     The Simpsons | Fox

Family Guy is currently in its 20th season while The Simpsons is in its 34th. Both are family based and carry the same premise but are from different generations. It is interesting to see the evolution of animation through the different seasons of these shows and the writing dynamics change over the years.

Bojack Horseman | Netflix

This series in particular holds a special place in my heart as it touches on very deep and heavy themes like anxiety, depression, PTSD, generational trauma e.t.c and (in my opinion) tastefully tells the story of how they affect the different characters. Each character feels like an important part of the puzzle that is the story.

Big Mouth | Netflix

Puberty but make it creative and interesting.

PS: This list is subject to change. There are new shows coming out everyday...

I joined Tinder and Bumble for a week. God's speed to all who use these apps regularly.

In my very casual and non-scientific social experiment, I used 4 key questions to gauge the quality of the conversations that I was in store for.

Q1: The Icebreaker
When was the last time you cried?

• Shows emotional maturity
• Weeds out those without critical thinking skills

Q2: The Passion
What are your hobbies and what do you like about them?

• Gives you a glimpse into the passion of the person

Q3: Toxic Person Alert
What do you do for self care?

• If he cannot take care of himself/herself ,  that is a RED flag. A WAVING red flag.

Q4: The Person's Brand
Look at their bio AFTER talking to them. Is it aligned to the banter?

The amount of effort put into the bio. I think it's the elevator pitch of the individual - the why you should swipe right and match with them.

Did I learn anything? I am not a dating app person. Nairobi has an interesting selection of partners (not my taste but to each their own).

If you DO use dating apps, please stay safe. PROTECT yourself and be smart in your selection. 

Hi There,

I know it's been a while ... but I'm back!

I went on a hiatus for over 1 year and A LOT has changed;

• Changed jobs - TWICE
• Went to a dark and twisty place (Grey's Anatomy fans will understand this reference)
• Started painting again 
• aaaaaaaaaaaaaand ... in a bid to heal my inner child, I'm learning how ride a bike. ( I may have skipped that bit of my childhood)

Anyway, I can't wait for all of you to hear what's coming up in season 2.

I'm back !!!
Thank you to everyone who checked up on me, as I hope you all know, I take hiatuses VERY seriously.

This week, we try to unpack the animosity towards women in Kenya by men on social media with the lovely Joanne Mbataru , the host of the Creative Captive Podcast.

Of course I talk about some books including:
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
The Hidden Power of Fucking Up by The Try Guys

Hi guys! The jingle bells are ringing in the distance and I review some books adapted for the big screen and give you an honest review of how well I think the series were captured from the original written work.

Follow Faith Nzama on Instagram: @suckerforcoffe or visit her website: http://www.suckerforcoffe.com
I'll review work from;

Stephen King

• The Shining
• Misery

Carol Kepner

• You

Jay Asher

• Thirteen Reasons Why

Michelle Obama

• Becoming (This clearly had an impact in my life)

Thomas Harris

• Silence of the Lambs ( Actual genesis of the character Hannibal Lectre)

Bonus: Batman: The Animated Series - Brilliant adaptation of the original batman comics 

The Tea: When a film/series is based on a book, read the book first

Hi. So I turned 25 a few weeks ago. Do I have a list of 25 things I have learnt? Nope, but I have learnt what not to do.

"Like a lot of girls, I became aware of the liabilities of my body early, long before I began to even look like a woman." Michelle Obama in Becoming

I genuinely don't have a blueprint for being a limitless woman, I just learn from my experiences;

• Speaking out in the important meetings
• Setting your boundaries
• Believe in yourself
• Love yourself
• Get that paper

Novel Recommendations for the Limitless Woman

• Becoming - Michelle Obama
• Lean In - Sheryl Samberg
• Year of Yes - Shonda Rhimes

The Tea: You are Loved | You are Worthy | You are Brilliant

Hi guys ! How are your hearts? Have you done your self care routine?

This week I'll be talking about being an introvert in this current world touching on what an introvert is, I don't have an answer for this, I personally prefer animals over people.

What types of introverts are there?  There are various tests out there, take your pick. You really have nothing to lose;

Myer Briggs: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
Keirsey: https://profile.keirsey.com/#/b2c/assessment/4814019/questions?locale=en

Also, to understand the importance of introverts in the workplace, please read this book;  Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain - https://medium.com/@jeffrisandy/10-lessons-from-quiet-the-power-of-introverts-in-a-world-that-cant-stop-talking-by-susan-cain-15bdf86e5025

The Tea: Don't ask your introvert friend to be more social. Don't ask your introvert partner to be more social. We are not broken. We are quite fine actually.

Hi !!! How is your heart? How are you all doing?

This week I talk about introspective relationships and try to break them down. I also touch on why I think they are key to one's development;

• Learn more about yourself
• Know your flaws and shortcomings
• Unlearn your toxic traits
• You won't be someone's half, you'll be a whole person.

Of course I tell a snippet of a major break up I've had and how I processed it through the various stages of grief.

The Tea: Stop asking your single friend when he or she will date. Quite honestly, we don't want to as we are working on ourselves and the dating scene is  literal TRASH. Kindly, stop.

Hey there,
This week I talk about intimate relationships and why I am not in one. Not the deep dark reason, but the variables of why I'm not in one, the best way I know how... Two stories! 5 years apart but almost similar in the level of cringe.
I also touch on social media as a variable of chaos and impact in the momentum of relationships in this day and age (this sounds really old, I know*)