At a Total Loss

Mim, Lenny & Bhai's mom, is back to catch up on what has happened since she came on Episode 18. Since then she has raised awareness about baby loss by cycling the length of New Zealand with her husband Roy, shot a film that she is submitting to all the major festivals, and started a training program for health care providers that will help improve the bereavement care of parents after their baby dies.

Mim & I talk all the time so you will hear some weird banter & a lot of laughing. Which is OK TO DO! Our grief vibe matches up and she has been a big part in getting through these last few months.

Listen to her insight on facing her grief head on, meeting other loss parents in the middle of no where, and how she hopes to help change the way healthcare workers treat bereaved parents.

Find her on IG at @lennyslegacy https://www.instagram.com/lennyslegacy/

Website for Lenny's Legacy: https://lennyslegacy.co.uk/

And stay tuned for info on when the film will be out!

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

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Nathalie is a mother of twins, one here on earth and to the other, A'mya who died just days after birth 11.5 years ago. Since then, Nathalie has parented both of them the best she can while learning about her own grief. She is a holistic counsellor and coach as well as a writer and published author of multiple grief resource books and the founder of the Grieving Parents Support Network.

This conversation is truly so healing. We cover what it's like to carry twins knowing one may not make it, what it's been like to parent one without her sister, and how she is a source of hope for those that she coaches by shining a light on what this life is about after loss.

We discuss:

• Grief as front & center at first
• How it stays but it isn't as big as in the beginning
• Healing is a process and not an end point. We don't ever say we're "healed"
• How to not lose hope with the potential of losing hope
• Survivors guilt with twins
• Teaching her daughter about her sister & letting her find her own way of grieving
• Understanding our grief
• Being OK with always having just plan B, living life with grief
• Relationships during and after loss
• Who we are before will dictate how we handle loss
• And so much more!!

Find Nathalie on her website at https://nathaliehimmelrich.com/

Find her books here: https://nathaliehimmelrich.com/my-books/

The grieving parents network: https://grievingparents.net/

You can also find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mymissbliss/

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram  @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

THIS episode is SO good, we NEED this convo ASAP. Ashton from Episode 29 is back to talk about TRIGGERS & what it means to manage them. She is a Loss Momma as well as  a certified transformational life coach and mentor for those looking for guidance in creating their version of success and fulfillment.

This episode is excellent for those trying to navigate communication, relationships, going back into the world after loss, deciphering how to heal, & even for those that support them to try to understand what is happening. LISTEN TO IT AND TAKE NOTES.

We talk about:

• Self Management
• Self Awareness
• Social Awareness
• What is a trigger & what does it do?
• How you feel vs how you react
• Controlling others, you can't!
• Healthy communication
• Education
• Emotional Intelligence
• Steps & strategies to deal with triggers
• PAL activators that are crippling
• Basic Techniques that WORK
• Fear of Triggers
• OMG we talk about SO MANY THINGS...

This episode is so good I can't handle it.

If you'd like a complimentary session with Ashton find her on Instagram @ashtoncantou & her link in her bio

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram  @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

I'm changing it up! This episode will not be centered around loss but more so about life after loss. Sarah from Episode 3 joins me to discuss what the Loss Life looks like! Things are different now, but that doesn't mean we still can't enjoy things, seek out fun, & laugh a lot. Sarah is the perfect example of this being 3 years out from losing her son.  Death of our babies alters us, we are a different breed, so Sarah and I discuss what that looks like moving forward in our losses.

Sarah and I are friends here in Atlanta, we run with a small Loss Mom group, we have cocktails, laughs, we even have the same OB, all while we bring our boys with us.

So if you want to know what life kinda could look like years after your loss, here's a not great portrayal but it's probably entertaining af.  LOL.

What we talk about:

• REALITY TV, it's our thing, we love it, who cares
• Specifically Vanderpump Rules & the Scandoval!!!
• How watching reality TV has helped in our coping & makes us feel comfortable after loss
• Getting hooked to these story lines because it's something out of our reality.
• Our emotional capacity to handle griefy things in movies & TV
• Analyzing characters as we watch based on our traumas
• Drinking and grief
• Stillbirth and infant death now being written into story lines a lot more or are we just more aware?
• Needing Loss Moms to run businesses around us so that we can go to them cuz they get it.
• Serial killers or random death tragedies?
• And so much more sh*t lol

Find Sarah on IG at @sarah_emmert

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram  @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Jennifer Is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 15 years of experience who specializes in treating PTSD/trauma, addiction and couples counseling. She is certified in Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) which is an evidenced based therapy to treat past trauma.  ART provides immediate relief of past trauma by reducing negative images, sensations and symptoms allowing you to start healing.

I personally sought out Jennifer's help here in Atlanta when my OB gave me her information to try to help with my trauma. It was life changing. Here, Jennifer breaks down what it means to get actual good help in therapy. She also breaks down how this therapy works & what to expect.

We have to give ourselves permission to feel better. To try to heal from our trauma & be able to cope with the pain that severe loss brings. I open up about my own personal journey in this episode.

Jennifer's website: Truenorththerapyga.com

Helpful news article: Psychology today 

Jennifer can be reached by phone or email: 678-469-0505 or Truenorththerapy2020@gmail.com

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Raised Jewish, Bekah is the mother of 3 children in Heaven & 3 earth-side. After discovering her first baby, Faith, had a life-limiting diagnosis at 20 weeks, she turned to God for the first time in her life and discovered a spiritual depth & connection that eventually led her to her Christian faith. Rebekah goes on to suffer a miscarriage as well as the death and stillbirth of her son Asher. She now shares openly about her journey in hopes to help others going through a difficult loss.  Her transparency on both the joy & the grief side are so appreciated and her perspective on loss, grief, God, hope & love are inspiring.

I think perception is everything in this space. And some of us do lose our faith whether briefly or permanently during our darkest times.  The truth is, some of us find our way back as we surrender to our pain and ask God for help. Here is a story of 3 losses. Something we don't hear often. But how she continues to move forward is something that I believe will benefit many people.  

You can find Rebekah on IG at @the.beautyfromashes or on her YouTube Channel - The Beauty from Ashes

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Marlie Willer is an experienced trial lawyer that focuses her practice on medical malpractice, with a particular emphasis in obstetric negligence. Throughout her career, she has advocated for children and families in over 16 states across the country. Marlie prides herself in being a strong advocate for families and children that have suffered birth trauma who are often left in the dark and sent home without any explanation other than – well these things happen.

There is our physical and emotional side of baby death, then there's the legal side. I wanted to include this perspective to all of us who have thought about digging into what happened to our babies and who is at fault. Marlie goes over all the legal aspects of opening a case as well as the emotional toll that it takes on parents. She is open and honest about her experience and her compassion for suffering parents is apparent in the hard work she does for the Loss Community. 

Disclaimer: The information in this podcast episode is provided for general informational purposes only. The information contained in this episode does not constitute legal advice. No listener of this episode should act or refrain from acting on the basis of any information included in this episode without seeking the appropriate legal advice on the particular circumstances at issue from a lawyer licensed in the recipient’s state, country or other appropriate licensing jurisdiction.

To contact Marlie: Website lirowillerlaw.com, telephone number 617-844-6841, and instagram handle @birthinjurylaw. Consults can be arranged through any of those ways. 

***NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

WATCH IT HERE: Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

This is PART 2 of Episode 33 with Laura & Lainey Mae. In this second part, Laura tells us about the death of her baby at just 2 months old. She also dives into candidly what she thinks could have happened to Lainey and how asking questions surrounding the death of her baby has been challenging and down right scary.  Something seems off and as she starts to investigate what happened, she doesn't like what she is putting together.  

She just didn't know what she knows now.  Why are we in this position after our babies die? Why does no one but us want answers? In her pursuit of finding out what happened to her daughter, Laura is also trying to establish a life & a future where she can not just survive this pain but LIVE despite of it.

This episode may be tough to listen to so please be aware. However, do not shy away from it because of fear or sadness. There are things that need to be heard and listened to.

Find Laura on Instagram at @lauralazas

***NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

WATCH IT HERE: Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Shop ATL merch! https://at-a-total-loss.myshopify.com/

In Part 1 of a 2 part Episode, Laura talks with me about precious Lainey Mae, who died at just 2 months old. Laura is a single, Christian mother who is very open about her story & how challenging this has been to do alone even with such an incredible family as her support system. She has been such a light and a source of laughter, hope, & goodness for me and I wanted her to share her entire story.

We all have such different stories but we all share so many commonalities when it comes to out living our babies. You will hear her message of beauty, faith, inspiration, as well as anger, rage, and regret.

What we also talk about:

• Dealing with high blood pressure that leads to emergency induction
• Being pregnant with someone close to you
• Looking back on the joyous moments is so painful
• Did our babies know they would die?
• Mediums
• Dreams
• Believing in Heaven & staying close to God
• People afraid of death.
• So much more

Find Laura on Instagram at @lauralazas

***NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Shop ATL merch! https://at-a-total-loss.myshopify.com/

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

WATCH IT HERE: Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Adeyling talks with me about her beautiful son Sage, who died from a life limiting illness, Thanatophoric Dysplasia, that they discovered at just 20 weeks. She has since had another boy, Skye, and has been growing her candle company Sage & Sara. We talk about loss, pregnancy after loss, building a business from the inspiration we find after loss, and all things in between.

Adeyling's company gives back to non-profits and gives her the chance to continuously talk about Sage and bring awareness to baby loss to people all over. She is a support system to other Loss Moms and uses her marketing skills, her journalism background, and her calling to dig into the loss space to help others.

What we discuss:

Fear during PAL

• Finding out about Life Limiting Diagnoses early on & choosing to carry
• Having a good doctor you trust
• Teaching our living kids about their sibling
• Hoping for miracles
• Applying who we are to what we are now
• Using our skillsets for different audiences
• Diving into the loss community
• Living a purpose filled life & finding something to help us survive
• So much more...

Find Adeyling on IG at @sageandsara

Website: sageandsaracandles.com

**NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

WATCH IT HERE: Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

I talk with Dr Harvey Kliman about his research and medical opinion when it comes to the placenta, pregnancy loss/stillbirth, & reoccurring pregnancies. He is a research Scientist in the Department of Obstetrics, Gynecology, and Reproductive Sciences at the Yale University of Medicine and the Director of the Reproductive and Placental Research Unit with the following Research Interests: Pregnancy Complications and losses, Autistic Disorder, Endometrium, and Infertility.    

Dr Kliman is the one who gave me some answers around Brody's death. He shed some light on what could have happened & how we prevent it from happening again. Without his placenta pathology report, I would still be going off of what my OB said, "he was perfect, this was freak, & it won't happen again." False.

Here's what we discuss:

• His background and how he got here
• Developing the Estimated Placenta Volume measurements
• Pushback from doctors
• Causes of stillbirth
• Causes of a small placenta
• How to monitor if your placenta is small
• How do approach doctors about EPV
• C***d & the placenta
• And so much more...

Important info from Dr Harvey Kliman:

EPV: Estimated Placental Volume

Pregnancy loss: Pregnancy Losses

Home page: Reproductive and Placental Research Unit

Organization: Measure the Placenta

Email: harvey.kliman@yale.edu

This is an episode for those who are curious about the placenta, who want to find answers, who also want to learn about other things outside of a small placenta, & to hear how we can prevent this from happening again in subsequent pregnancies.

***NOTE: this is always an open platform from the viewpoint of the guest and does not always reflect my beliefs. As always do your own research & use your own judgement on what's best for you. I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. ***

For more REAL TALK about pregnancy loss, stillbirth and grief, hit follow!

Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

WATCH IT HERE: Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Liz is BACK (on her "comeback tour" she says LOL) to discuss pregnancy after loss! Last time she was with us for Episode #1, we discussed life after the death of her son Harrison.  Since then she has had her "rainbow baby", Abigail, and is here to discuss how hard PAL was for her.  

At the time of this recording, I am 15 weeks pregnant so diving into this world of trying to have a living baby after full term death and stillbirth of your first child has been helpful for me.  Maybe it can help you! We are in this together, after all...

We talk about:

*Trying to Conceive and how not glamorous it is

*Pregnancy after loss depression & anxiety

*"Gender disappointment" & how common it is for Loss Parents

*SIDS & living in fear

*Being able to leave her baby easily now

*Statistics saying that we have great odds in our favor

*The mental and emotional challenges PAL brings

*Being treated like a "normal" parent and how it sucks

*Infertility

*Hormones after it

*What life would have been like if our babies didn't die

*And all things pregnancy loss, life after stillbirth, grief, & PAL...

Liz wants to hear from YOU if you have had 2 babies or more after loss. Find her on IG at @lizmeyers19

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Ashton and I connect to talk about her beautiful daughter Sage who died at full term due to a cord accident.  Ashton is no stranger to heartbreak & struggles & she opens up about her first miscarriage that set the foundation for how she would go on to cope with the death of Sage.  This conversation has so many nuggets of wisdom, insight, advice & hopeful examples of forward movement. What you're hearing is 2 people openly & honestly discussing their experiences with tragedy & trauma while putting in tons of hard work in order to live a life of purpose where grief & gratitude coexist.  REAL TALK.

Ashton is a certified transformational life coach and mentor for impact driven entrepreneurs and high performers. She will help you go from surviving to thriving. Her mission is to support you in creating your version of success and fulfillment.

You can find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/ashtoncantou/

Check out here website: https://www.ashtoncantou.com/

Her blog: https://www.ashtoncantou.com/blog

https://www.ashtoncantou.com/copy-of-confidence-catalyst-2

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief follow me!...

Instagram: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media!

My girl Sydney and I discuss her life after the death of her first son Adam on Valentine's Day 2021. Her story is open and very honest, personally what I dig most about her.  She talks about how much blame she has on her Doctors and, sadly, on herself & how she coped with that. We go into pregnancy after loss and what that was like giving birth to her rainbow baby.  She is super honest about gender disappointment and processing the opposite sex of her baby that died...And then we start talking about all the other kinds of stuff! Mediums, and spirit babies, and signs from our children, and all the cool stuff that comforts us. Check this one out and have an open mind and an open heart...

To connect with Sydney, find her on IG @Sydney.mcclain

Book we discuss: Spirit Babies

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube @thekatherinelazar

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I sit down with my husband, Brody's father, Michael to discuss Brody's 1st Birthday and what this year has been like. He is very open and candid with his experiences with grief, coping, and dealing with me. We go IN on the dynamics between Loss Parents and how we are so different.  

Michael is open to discussing any and all things about loss with other Loss Dads.  You can find him on IG @lazar.michael

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Katie and I talk about her beautiful daughter Makenna, who was born early and lived for 4 days in the NICU.  Katie discusses very openly her experiences with her birth and the days to follow.  She is feisty as hell, and I love how open she is about her grief and the ways she honors Makenna.

We talk a lot in this podcast.  Everything from the love for our babies, to poor treatment from doctors, to grief and even fake online Loss Moms (yes that's a thing)...

Words will never be enough to explain the love I have for my daughter. Makenna dying didn't stop me from being her mom and loving her just as any other parent would love their child. She is my light.

Katie created Rainbows for Makenna.  A non-profit that provides comfort boxes for parents suffering loss. You can shop here: https://www.rainbowsformakenna.com/

And find Katie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rainbowsformakenna/

NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  I am not a doctor or a therapist.  Im just a loss mom giving you a front row seat as to what I've experienced.

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: https://katherinelazar.com/

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Ally learned of her daughter Noelle's life limiting diagnosis, Ebstein's Anomaly, during a follow up anatomy scan.  Ally discusses what it was like to live with hope & fear while navigating a pregnancy with so much unknown. Although she only lived 62 minutes on Earth, Noelle's memory lives on in her parent's lives and heart. Ally now uses her spare time to promote Noelle's legacy and advocate and spread awareness to neonatal death, and Congenital Heart Defect (CHD) Awareness.  

Ally is a light in a very dark place & she chooses to tell her daughter's story to help others suffering the same situation. 

Below are some links that are helpful and relevant to what we talked about during the podcast:

Ebstein’s Anomaly: https://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/e/ebstein

https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/JAHA.120.016684

https://academic.oup.com/ejcts/article/45/3/549/441522

https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.115.015839

Comfort care Birth Planning: https://www.perinatalhospice.org/birth-planning

Little Angel Gowns: https://www.facebook.com/littleangelgowns/

Phoenix Children’s Hospital: https://www.phoenixchildrens.org/centers-programs/center-heart-care

Ronald McDonald House: https://rmhc.org

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Sarah talks with me about her first born son, Nathaniel, who she and her wife Amy conceived through IVF.  His precious life ended traumatically with severe early-onset preeclampsia, placental abruption, emergency C-section, a brief NICU stay and death within his mothers’ arms. Sarah took to grieving while trying to find out what happened, and planning for future pregnancy like a full-time job. In the midst of the uncertainty, she found resources that helped answer critical questions. In honor of her son, she created whenmybabydied.com which aims to offer families a centralized resource hub of information and answers for the question no parent ever thought they’d have to find. Sarah and Amy, in the midst of their grief, have entered into pregnancy after loss, as Sarah is now due with Nathanials sibling.  This comes with many more challenges that we discuss as well.

Here are some great resources that we discuss:

ACOG research:

·         5 attached articles

·         Aspirin for Evidence-Based Preeclampsia Prevention trial: influence of compliance on beneficial effect of aspirin in prevention of preterm preeclampsia: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28888591/

·         Prevention of preeclampsia with aspirin https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32835720/

Harvey Kliman: Reproductive and Placental Research Unit: https://medicine.yale.edu/obgyn/kliman/placenta/pregnancyloss/

Measure the Placenta: https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

Preeclampsia Foundation – Aspirin: https://www.preeclampsia.org/aspirin

Sarah is such a light to speak with and I think so much of what she says will help...To find Sarah on IG: @whenmybabydied

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, diagnosing anyone or determining how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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In this special Christmas episode, I talk with my mom, Brody's Mimi, to hear her perspective on Brody, his death, his life, grief, life after loss and being the mother of a Loss Mom.  I will warn you, there are a lot of tears.  But my mom shares her experiences, her perspective, her spirituality, her faith, her broken heart and all the things that come with being a Loss Gramma.  She had tragedy strike as a kid when her dad died at an early age and just under 2 years ago, her own mother died. Her perspective from someone who has lived a lot of life and what life looks like for her now is incredible to listen to...

For those that wish to reach out to her and connect as a Loss Gramma, you can find her on Instagram @kycakra

I hope this helps for anyone that has someone to talk to that understands, and even for those who don't understand what this is like for everyone involved.

As always, please remember that this is MY experience, my life that I choose to share with you.  You might not resonate with all things that are said.  Nothing is meant to treat, diagnose, or offend anyone. Please use your own judgement about your own grief.

My wish is that this could help someone know that they aren't alone and potentially provide some insight you didn't know you needed.

Merry Christmas to all

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Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Melissa and I talk about her beautiful son Lachlan who died and was stillborn in 2016.  Since then Melissa has become a Pregnancy and Infant Loss Coach, helping others navigate their new world after the late term death of their baby.  Melissa works 1:1 and in groups and will be hosting her first in person retreat next year. She is open, honest, and real about her experiences.  Her honesty and passion for helping others is so inspiring, you'll want to listen to every word she says...

We talk about:

*Life after baby death and stillbirth

*Medical Care in Canada

*Care after the death of our babies

*Living life with grief

*Being outspoken about our loss

*Helping others during their time of need

*Her coaching

*The beauty in seeing people work through the pain on their way to healing

And so much more!...

To find Melissa, check out these links: @healingloading  & @boysin2places

The help centre: PILSC.org

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/