Parenting Decoded

Food battles are so common in families this podcast is dedicated to giving ideas on how to move from battle to harmony at mealtime. 

Here are some of the items covered:

Family Mealtime Rules

1.     We eat at the table

2.     We don’t have electronics, toys, or  books while we eat 

3.     If a kid can lift a fork on their own, they need to feed themselves 

4.     When someone gets up from the table, they are done eating

I go into detail about how to implement each of these rules.

I also talk about ways to expand the foods that your kids eat by doing the following things:

1. Take the power away from your kids about what they eat.  You have to not care.
2. Don't be anxious about their eating, you being chill will really help and they will settle down over time if there's no medical issues.  Let your pediatrician be the guide.
3. Offer at least one choice on their plates they like.
4. Have a food treasure hunt with your kids in getting them to try new foods.  Even let them spit it out if they don't like it!

Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST

You also might need to use Energy Drain techniques from Love and Logic Institute.  Here is a link to more info about that:
ENERGY DRAIN

Email me at mary@parentingdecoded.com or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.

Have a blessed rest of your day!

In this episode we review a number of different situations where a parent not remembering something allowed their children to become responsible and prove to themselves and their parents that they are capable as well. 

We also learn how being the "Finder" parent in your household isn't as helpful as we think it is.  Finder parents are those parents who know where everything in the house is thus allowing their family members to have a reason to not be responsible for their own stuff.  This unthankful job should be abandoned ASAP since we are robbing our children of the life lessons of what happens when they forget.

Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST

Email me at mary@parentingdecoded.com or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.

Have a blessed rest of your day!

In this episode targeted toward parents of teens we'll learn how to deal with disrespect in our home.  As part of dealing with disrespect we learn what happens to our teens and tweens when they get upset.  We learn about the brain science behind the teen brain that makes maintaining respect in our homes more difficult. 

We discuss the ways in which parents react to disrespect and how it doesn't work. 

We will cover how waiting until the emotional moment has passed and putting up with the disrespect for a while will be the magic weapon we'll use to gain control of respect once again.  Once we are all calm then we will be able to have rational discussions with our teens and get them to put positive energy back into our relationships creating the respect that we're looking for. 

Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST

Email me at mary@parentingdecoded.com or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.

Have a blessed rest of your day!

Date: 2/25/20
Episode #1 - Helicopter Parenting

Take a look at how to decode this now classic style of parenting -- the Helicopter Parent.  The hovering and nagging are holding our kids back!  Learn why we do this and get hints on what to do about it so you can raise a responsible, respectful child to be an independent and amazing adult.

HOW WE HELICOPTER
- Hovering
- Nagging

2:30min
WHY WE HELICOPTER - three examples
- Forgetting a lunch box: a kid might be hungry
- Not waking up in the morning: a kid might not make it to school
- Contantly checking grades and assignments: a kid might not get all their assignments, projects and grades that they need to be successful in life
We don't trust that our kids can handle life.  Without us they'll fail!

4:45min
HOW HELICOPTERING HARMS OUR KIDS
- Lunchbox kid: learns they can ignore the parents, that if their lunch is forgotten it's not their fault, it's their parent's fault
- Waking up kid: learns if they aren't ready on time then it's their parent's fault
- Grade checking parent: the kid learns they don't have to watch and plan, their parent will do it for them

6:50min
LETTING GO EXAMPLE - let my kid ready on his own
Once I stopped helicoptering my son learned how to plan his own reading schedule.  We did some brainstorming but he owned it!

10:20min
UNINTENDED CONSEQUENCES
1 - Self Confidence is undermined.  When we do too much because we don't trust our kids to take care of everything then they start believing that it's true.
2 - Lazy, entitled kids are created.  When we do too much the kids learn that we'll do lots for them just to protect them so they learn they don't have to do things since mom or dad will cover for them. 

12:30min
LET THEM FAIL!
We need to let go!  To give our kids love and empathy as they make mistakes.  Let them forget their lunch or be late for school.  Heaven forbid but let them turn in assignments late or get a bad grade.  They need to know what it feels like to fail so that they'll want to succeed. 

16:00min
The End!

Contact Info:
If you have parenting questions of your own please email me: mary@parentingwithlogic.com.
My website and blog can be found at www.parentingwithlogic.com.

Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST

Email me at mary@parentingdecoded.com or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.

Have a blessed rest of your day!