A personal story, a passage from Scripture, a tangible practice, and a closing reflection on the topic of COURAGE.
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Tabitha's biological father left when she was young. His leaving shaped her, but it doesn't get to shape the whole story. The rest of the story speaks to healing with Jesus, redemptive love, and finding victory over past brokenness.
In this episode, Tabitha Panariso shares:
About this week's guest:
Tabitha Panariso is unashamedly serious about Jesus and equally terrible at small talk. As a writer, speaker, wife, and mama — she’s realized that the only way to endure is to keep the main thing, the main thing. Her mission: to help women fight for an unwavering faith an in unsteady world. Follow her on Instagram at www.instagram.com/tabithapanariso for her encouraging content and to sign up for her "Pep Talks for the Persistent Soul."
Connect with host, Heather Lobe Johnson, on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherlobejohnson
The truth of the matter is, how you were raised affects you.
It shapes the way you see relationships, yourself, and the world. It affects how you manage conflict, what kinds of relationships you gravitate towards or reject, how you make decisions, your self-worth and self-image, even your approach to faith. So, in this episode I'll share a list of personal reflection questions for you to think about how your family shaped you, offer an invitation for a way to share your story, and give you a prayer to accompany this brave and deep work of looking back.
A LIST: 5 categories of questions for personal reflection:
AN INVITATION to share your own story (13:43)
A PRAYER of encouragement for you in your healing (15:56)
*For a full list of questions, email taketheseashes@gmail.com. Follow Heather on Instagram for more conversations around these topics: www.instagram.com/heatherlobejohnson
This is a story of broken families, radical forgiveness, and the intimacy with God that changed a life. This is Pamela Henkelman's story, and the start to season 2 of Take These Ashes.
In this episode, Pamela shares:
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Connect with host, Heather Lobe Johnson, on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherlobejohnson
If you feel powerless over your people pleasing, it might actually be a good thing...You might actually be on the brink of change.
In this episode of Take These Ashes, host Heather Lobe Johnson talks about her own journey with codependency (people pleasing), and how her encounter with the 12-step philosophy of recovery actually moved her towards sanity and positive change.
We cover in this episode:
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Until we begin to fully grasp God's love for us, we will keep chasing after other loves that break our hearts or never fully satisfy our deepest longings.
In this episode of Take These Ashes, host Heather Lobe Johnson answers listener questions about why we find attention and affection from the opposite gender alluring (and equate it with our value), and whether pornography is okay.
The problem in both cases gets to a deeper question of the case of our hearts-- as philosopher Blaise Pascal says, "There is a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of each man which cannot be satisfied by any created thing but only by God the Creator, made known through Jesus Christ."
Heather discusses her heart, our collective hearts as humans, and God's heart for us through illustrations in Scripture (the woman at the well in John 4 and the prodigal son in Luke 15).
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
When our stories are woven with threads of sexual brokenness, it’s hard to untangle that from the other pieces of ourselves and our stories because it touches us at a soul level. We are fully integrated human beings, and our approach to healing must also be fully integrated. Body, mind, and spirit.
In this episode, we discuss:
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalm 147:3
tw: sexual assault and abuse
When we experience trauma, there are complex layers of wounds that need healing in us. And as Kathleen Arnold, MSW shares in this episode of Take These Ashes, “that wound creates an opportunity for God.” Kathleen leads us in this conversation to discuss post-traumatic growth and the following:
About this week's guest, Kathleen Arnold, MSW:
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
"When we’re in the pit of shame, when we’re in that darkness, we may not believe there’s a way to get to healing. And sometimes it takes people who love us well to fight for us, carry us, take us to the Healer."
tw: sexual assault and abuse
Sometimes when we walk through fire, it takes space and time to realize just how high the flames reach and how deep the pain runs. Aliza had no context or comparison for her first relationship (with a Christian), and when things went wrong it took her a while to wrap words around what she experienced. On this episode of Take These Ashes, join Aliza Latta and Heather Lobe Johnson for:
About this week's guest, Aliza Latta:
Aliza Latta is a Canadian writer, artist, and author, who is a huge fan of telling stories. Her artwork and writing has been featured in publications for LifeWay, Dayspring, and (in)courage. She is always searching for the goodness of God, even when she has to squint to see it.
Connect with Aliza:
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
What happened to you does not tell you who you are.
On this week's episode, join guest Debra Wallace as she shares her story of walking through the fire of betrayal. Debra and host, Heather Lobe Johnson, discuss the following topics:
About this week's guest, Debra Wallace:
As a woman who discovered her husband’s same-sex betrayal, Debra Wallace validates and comes alongside women who’ve experienced betrayals of their own. As a coach and battle buddy, she facilitates wives care groups with a trauma informed approach as someone who has been in a betrayed woman’s shoes and “gets her.”
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
If you grew up during the Purity Culture movement and it gave you confusing messages about your body or intimacy, this one's for you.
Join Heather Lobe Johnson and Dr. Camden, a Psychologist and Christian feminist, for this episode to learn:
Connect with Dr. Camden on Instagram @drcamden, Facebook @drcamden, and her website drcamden.com, where you can take the free quiz "Which purity culture myth affects you?"
Dr. Camden Morgante is a licensed clinical psychologist and college professor. She lives with her husband and daughter in Knoxville, TN. She writes and speaks about Christianity, psychology, and gender equality and has been published in Fathom magazine and Christians for Biblical Equality’s blog Mutuality. She is currently writing a book on purity culture.
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
For both survivors and bystanders alike, why is it important to tell the truth about the power imbalances we see?
From Genesis 1 to Jesus’s time to purity culture, fraternities, and present day businesses, churches, and politics, guest Tiffany Bluhm guides us through the history of the oppression of women. Today, it shows up in every sector of society, both sacred and secular. So how can we join in the work of speaking up, fighting for justice, and advocating for those who can’t speak up themselves?
In this episode we discuss:
Connect with Tiffany Bluhm on Instagram @tiffanybluhm, her website tiffanybluhm.com, and pre-order Prey Tell on her site for access to the Prey Tell Summit.
This episode is brought to you by RE-ROOTED: A 6-week growth journey for women (offered by Heather Lobe Johnson, Spring 2021). Sign up here for more info: heatherlobe.com/course
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Tiffany Bluhm is the author of She Dreams and Never Alone, their companion Bible studies, and the forthcoming book Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up. She is a sought after speaker, writer, and podcast co-host of the popular podcast Why Tho, a show answering the existential and nonsensical questions we ask ourselves, with author and speaker, Ashley Abercrombie.
She speaks at conferences and events around the world, and her work has been featured in World Vision Magazine, Pentecostal Evangel, TODAY Parents, the Hallmark Channel, The Jenny McCarthy Show, and more. Her Bible studies on the Bible app have been downloaded more than 130,000 times and she was named a Woman to Watch in 2018 by Premier Media.
Tiffany leads an engaged audience online around women’s issues, identity, and faith.
As a minority, immigrant woman with a interracial family, she is passionate about women’s equality, justice, and dignity.
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
Sometimes the lies we tell ourselves come from past grief, pain, and trauma. So how do we “break up the concrete” around those old roots and learn truth?
In this conversation, Liz Petty joins host Heather Lobe Johnson to discuss:
Resources mentioned in this episode:
When we pull up the old roots and look at them in the light, what do we plant next?
After we identify our unhealthy patterns and peel back the layers to look at the roots (episodes 20-22), now we get to forge a new path forward. Today, we’re talking about planting new, healthy roots in our lives. Take heart, friend. This is brave and hard work but it is worth it.
With a combination of practical and spiritual tools, this episode provides examples of how we can begin to live in a new way with healthier relationships and Truth-telling to care for our souls.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Connect with Heather Lobe Johnson on Instagram for prayer and encouragement.
"Thank you for the things that bring us to our knees."
What would it look like for us to accept, and even be grateful for, our suffering? As you address the root causes of your pain, you may wrestle with denial, avoidance, bitterness, or bargaining away the pain. But it's possible to look at our past pain with acceptance, as those trials can lead us into intimacy with God and authentic community with others.
In this episode, Heather and Ryan Johnson discuss their separate stories of pain (addiction for Ryan, and unhealthy relationship patterns for Heather) and how they now look at their stories with gratitude.
Resources mentioned:
*Content warning: In this episode, we talk more specifically about addiction, rape, and abuse. If any of these topics are triggering to you, please listen with caution.
Is there something in your life-- a habit, a painful cycle or pattern, an unhealthy coping mechanism-- you can’t seem to shake? Maybe it’s time to look a little deeper at the roots.
In last week's episode (episode 20) we acknowledged there might be some deeper reasons for our repetitive cycles and struggles. This week we dig into four different categories of those roots:
Heather Lobe Johnson shares more of her story of recovery from unhealthy relationship patterns by uncovering the root causes. She also invites us to slow down long enough to pay attention to our own. Next week we'll discuss how to move forward once we discover the roots of the pain.
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"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
If you're stuck in a pattern you can't seem to break (unhealthy relationships, habits, or thought), there may be a deeper cause of pain at the root. Once we realize we don't want to stay in that cycle (when we're desperate for a different way of living), we can begin to take steps to truly change.
In this episode, as an intro to this series on addressing the roots of our pain, Heather Lobe Johnson shares an original spoken word piece. "ROOTS" is about this very place of surrender and readiness, as we turn to the Lord and others to help us begin the work of uprooting lies, shame, and old wounds still affecting us in our daily lives and choices.
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Licensed counselor and boundaries coach Kerrah Fabacher joins host Heather Lobe Johnson to discuss boundaries in healing from relational wounds, and why boundaries are necessary in life.
In this episode Kerrah explains what boundaries are, why we might struggle to implement boundaries, how to actually practice boundary-setting, and whether boundaries are biblical (hint: look at Jesus for an example). She also helps explain why certain personality types, childhood hurts, and self-worth might affect our ability to set healthy boundaries.
A few helpful quotes from Kerrah:
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Where is God when we suffer? Where is the abundant life promised to us? What does Scripture have to say about grief?
In this episode, Heather Lobe Johnson is joined by Kristin Vanderlip to discuss how pain is addressed in the Bible, and how God meets us in our suffering. Through Kristin’s own story of unexpected loss, she came to see hope in a real, lasting way. She also found a surprising connection to a certain Bible story that may apply to you, too.
Show highlights:
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On our darkest days, we have to keep chasing after the light.
Author and speaker Dorina Gilmore joins Heather for this conversation about finding light when we’re living in the shadows of grief. This is also a timely conversation as we reflect upon the hard year of 2020 and head into a new year. A few highlights from this episode:
[2:14] Dorina’s story of walking through the fire of unexpected loss and grief, and what it means to be a “glory chaser”
[12:27] What does it look like to acknowledge the darkness but still chase after the light?
[16:50] On Dorina’s practice of gratitude: “I had to look for the tiny miniscule pinholes of light that were coming through. But when we actually name those and count those, it’s amazing how they lift our spirits.”
[20:19] Moving in and out of the shadows/light (the complicated nature of grief and the tangled yarn analogy
[24:00] What Dorina wants to tell you if you’re still in the thick of darkness
[27:18] On reflections of 2020, preparations for 2021, and giving ourselves patience when grief lingers
[33:43] Psalm 139 and how God is the light in our darkness
Connect with Dorina Gilmore:
-Podcast: Walk, Run, Soar
-Book: Walk, Run, Soar: A 52-Week Running Devotional
-Instagram: @dorinagilmore
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