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Toxic relationships aren’t bad ALL of the time - and that’s part of the problem. Today, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack talk about how often toxic and abusive relationships can get labeled as ‘passionate’ or ‘rollercoaster’ and can have us walking on eggshells or begging for forgiveness while we wait for the good moments to return. The pair discuss: How most relationships don’t start out as toxic or abusive and, instead, toxicity develops over time when the cracks start to appear. How a toxic person, or someone with toxic traits, may actually be grooming you early on to not have boundaries and to be the powerless party. Why a toxic person will make YOU responsible for their actions or feelings. The most common and frequent signs of toxic and abusive relationships that often get overlooked or brushed under the rug. How your first moments of conflict will show you a lot about the other person. How important it is to set boundaries early in a relationship and understand how the other responds to those boundaries. How a lack of respect from another can lead to self-doubt and lowered self-trust within yourself. The pair also discuss how important it is to NOT accept disrespect in relationships while trying to make space for ‘understanding’ the other person’s wounds and why they act that way. Dr. Tari Mack also helps to explain why we make excuses for other people’s behavior and how, instead, we can talk through how situations make us feel, rather than accusing or losing our sh*t. The pair also discusses how crucial it is to NOT accept disrespect in relationships while attempting to create room for 'understanding' the other person’s wounds and the reasons behind their actions. Dr. Tari Mack also explains why we tend to make excuses for other people’s behavior and suggests that instead, we focus on discussing how situations make us feel, rather than resorting to accusations or losing our composure. ----- ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now & access our community room ‘The House’ at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr. Tari Mack on Instagram: @drtarimack Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I'm diving DEEP into your questions beans – and there's a breakup theme coming through!

These are the topics/listener questions I’m covering;

• How to commit to breaking up with someone who doesn't take you seriously when you try to break up with them
• Feeling regret over ending a relationship once an ex has a new partner
• Going through a difficult break up
• An unhealthy sister-in-law relationship

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Today I talk about how to navigate a situation where either you ended a relationship with someone or they ended it with you and now they want back in.

 

How do you know if you want them back? or how do you keep them out? do you owe them anything? all this and MORE

 

 

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This week we loook at how a mother relies on her daughter to manage dad's feelings. Our listener has spent years believing she's the golden child, but is she?

Gabor Mate - The Body Says No

The Body Keeps the Score

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Mothers define our childhood, so it only makes sense that they might define our adulthood too, right? In today’s episode, Louise is joined  viral TikTok Therapist, LMFT and EMDR/TRM trained therapist and the powerful pair discuss all things Mummy issues and look at the complex relationships we can have with our Mother’s. They look at the positives we can take from our Mother’s in childhood and adulthood but also the way that they can push our buttons like no others. Louise & Lisa look at healthy relationships all the way through to toxic relationships, setting boundaries, commenting on our lives and decision making and more including: ⇢ The psychological model of the ‘Good Enough Mother’  ⠀ ⇢ What we learn from Mom, and what we learn from Dad; ⠀ ⇢ How often we look at the parent who made the ‘loudest’ or most ‘painful’ wounds - and ignore the quieter one;  ⠀ ⇢ How to understand Mum’s judgment, criticism and constant feedback - as well as the guilt when she always calls and you’re ‘too busy’ to talk;⠀⇢ How to set boundaries, why they are important and how to handle the backlash;  ⠀ ⇢The ‘Fleet’ Analogy - about how to have a healthy relationship with your parents (and family) that doesn’t lead into isolation or enmeshment;  ⠀ ⇢ The ‘Characters We Play In Our Families’ - how everyone is taught to play a role in the family and how you can change this when you shine a light on it. And so much more. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast ⠀ Connect with Lisa Smith on Instagram: @somymomsatherapist Connect with Lisa Smith on TikTok: @somymomsatherapist Stream So My Mom’s A Therapist on Spotify: here ⠀ Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kail is joined by Kristen and Alexa this week. They discuss trying to set up boundaries with people but often failing and why they hold on to toxic relationships. They also talk about being traumatized as a kids and what a Kail parenting guide would look like. Kail debates getting a gold tooth after hearing a Jack Harlow song and tries to get Kristen and Alexa's advice. After talking about "How To Build A Sex Room" on Netflix, they discuss what their current kink level is at. Please support the show by checking out our sponsors! Everlywell: Everlywell is offering a special discount of 20% off an at-home lab test at everlywell.com/barelyfamous Dave: Sign up for an Extra Cash account and get up to 500 dollars instantly. For terms and conditions go to dave.com/legal

On one of our favorite episodes of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to overcome the myth of toxic individualism, break trauma cycles, and experience real intimacy in our relationships.  They discuss how to balance acceptance and agency, develop a healthy sense of trust and self-esteem, communicate what we want effectively, and experience our power through collaboration rather than dominance. Terry describes how we can move past the delusions of toxic individualism and patriarchy that plague our culture, moving away from ‘me vs. you’ and into Us. About our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out June 7th. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:45: Terry’s personal transformation 4:55: Regulating up to our parents 7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult 14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy 18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency 22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples 29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor 33:35: How to support people–particularly women–in dealing with unfairness 37:15: Gendered tendencies–moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy 43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem 49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity 56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity 1:01:00: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Try Splendid Spoon today and take meal-planning off your plate. Just go to SplendidSpoon.com/BEINGWELL for $50 off your first box Ready to shake up your protein Ritual? Being Well listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/WELL. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. K Talks the holidays, dealing with narcissistic family, and how to stay sane. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/healthygamergg/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SARAH KLEIN’S STORY IS DIFFICULT AND UNSETTLING to listen to, but if ever there was an episode of my podcast you need to hear, it’s this one. You may not know who Sarah is yet, but there's a good chance YOU KNOW HER STORY. Sarah was a competitive gymnast who became the first known survivor of sexual abuse by former Michigan State University and USA Gymnastics team doctor Larry Nassar. SHE WAS 8 WHEN NASSAR BEGAN MOLESTING HER IN 1988. Eventually, Sarah was among more than 150 women who confronted Nassar at his trial. With the help of her testimony and many others, Nassar was sentenced to 40 to 175 years in prison in January 2018. Sarah was also sexually abused by John Geddert, best known at one time as the head coach for the 2012 U.S. Women's Olympic gymnastics team, which featured the Fierce Five, who took home the gold medal in London that year. Geddert worked closely with Nassar, but unlike Nassar, he escaped justice by committing suicide after being charged with two dozen crimes, including human trafficking, forced labor, and sexually assaulting a teenage girl. Sarah, now 40, is an attorney who has helped hundreds of other survivors of Nassar's abuse and has become a STAUNCH ADVOCATE for abuse survivors everywhere. Sarah's horrific experiences are painful, but they are not without PURPOSE. As a survivor, Sarah has FIRST-HAND KNOWLEDGE and INSIGHTS about protecting your children from becoming victims. She shares how your children can SPOT AN ABUSER’S RED FLAGS and what PARENTS AND CONCERNED ADULTS can do to help FIGHT against abuse. We also talk about the long-term effects of abuse on women's lives and how to help someone heal after they’ve gone through this kind of ordeal. Sexual abuse against girls, and boys for that matter, are hideous crimes. It’s difficult to talk about, which means too often it's easy to pass it along as not your problem or my problem. BUT JUST THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE! If you suspect somebody is being abused, you have a DUTY to SPEAK UP and TAKE ACTION to protect those who can’t defend themselves. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈  → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ← ▶︎ INSTAGRAM ▶︎ FACEBOOK  ▶︎ LINKEDIN ▶︎ TWITTER ▶︎ WEBSITE   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What are boundaries?

When we refer to boundaries, we are talking about emotional walls that are healthy. Boundaries are meant to keep us in relationship with the people that we love.

Think of them as your property lines around your house. You know where your lines are, where your property ends and your neighbors begins. Therefore you know what you are supposed to take care of and what your neighbor is supposed to take care of.

A boundary defines our self. Within ourselves, our “property” consists of our physical body, our desires, our intellect, and our ability to make decisions. It gives us a sense of defining what is “me” and what is “not me.”

We are not supposed to take on too much of other people’s emotional experiences. When I was a newly practicing psychiatrist, I didn’t know that, and I felt depressed after meeting with a depressed patient. It is possible to have an understanding of what is happening in someone’s emotional world, but not take it on yourself.

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