In this week's Weekly Mini-Episode, I go over a little technique that I have been using with my clients to help them let go of the fearful and anxious thoughts and take the inspired and powerful action to take control of their dating lives.
How do we transform how we think and feel? Do we think our way or feel our way to something different?
This week I sat down and talked to Cordelia Gaffar. Cordelia Gaffar is the Emotions Opener Transformation Strategist guiding leaders to use their darkest and most difficult emotions to show up powerfully.
She is also a seven-time author and expert in using your emotions to transform your life and your experience of reality.
Many of the men who come to work with me struggle to connect deeply with the women they meet. They are not taking action to create the relationship they desire. They are scared to commit or find it so hard to communicate how they feel when with someone they like. All of these issues stem from an inability to connect to your emotions. And in the episode, you will learn multiple ways to connect with what you feel.
The key topics are:
🧘🏾♂️How Cordelia healed herself from postpartum depression
🧘🏾♂️What is detached love and the power of it
🧘🏾♂️How to connect to the infinite love
🧘🏾♂️Tuning into your wisdom and intuition
🧘🏾♂️Embodiment practices to let go of emotions
🧘🏾♂️How to self nurture
🧘🏾♂️How to reparenting yourself
🧘🏾♂️Using emotions to heal your body
🧘🏾♂️How to let go of shame
Connect With Cordelia Gaffar:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/cordeliagaffar
Website: cordeliagaffar.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReplenishMeRetreats
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
The Guide to Tantric Foreplay 30th Sep (Solo & Couples welcome) - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-guide-to-tantric-foreplay-tickets-163824183543
Creating the Spark - 9th Oct: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
In this week's topics, I quickly tackle an issue that was once one of my biggest dating fears, ending up in the wrong relationship.
I talk about the ways that I avoided bad and misaligned relationships.
We can heal in so many ways.
Some like talking therapy. Some use somatic practices, some use energy and some use plant medicines.
I sit down with Alexandra Chance, healer, mystic, medicine woman, priestess and shaman.
This conversation weaves in many directions telling the story of Alexandra's first experiences of seeing spirits through BDSM, healing through the heart, her experience of African spirituality feeling our ancestors and plant medicine.
This is the type of conversation you sit back with an open mind and open heart and let fill you up and relax you. You are sure to learn something new and more connected to the unknown within you!
The key topics are:
🧙🏾 What is Ancestral healing
🧙🏾 What is voodoo
🧙🏾 Healing through BDSM
🧙🏾 The Spirit world
🧙🏾 How spirits and vibrations enable healing
🧙🏾 Healing through the heart space
🧙🏾 How we are healing for our ancestors
🧙🏾 Womb shamanism for men and women
🧙🏾 How plant medicine can help us
Connect With Alexandra chance:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mamihealer/
Website: https://www.mamihealer.com/
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
The Guide to Tantric Foreplay 30th Sep (Solo & Couples welcome) - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-guide-to-tantric-foreplay-tickets-163824183543
Creating the Spark - 9th Oct: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
in this week's Weekly Mini-Episode, I get into what we men can get out of learning about women's periods and why period sex can be such a loving co-creation.
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Do we men need sexual healing?
It's often assumed that men are sexually liberated, but are they?
I sit down with Amelia Griffiths, a sacred sexual healer and talk about how as men, we can heal their sexual trauma, be that alone, through coaching bodywork and lingam massage.
We get really deep into what sort of shame men carry, how it affects their relationships, sex lives, confidence and ability to connect.
The key topics are:
🔦 What is sexual healing
🔦 Conscious masturbation
🔦 Why we all need to be sexual healing
🔦 The types of sexual shame men carry
🔦 What is lingam healing
🔦 How to heal sexual shame
🔦 Using w*nking to heal
🔦 Using your energy to heal sexual shame
🔦 Creating a heart to lingam connection
🔦 Why bigger isn't always better
Connect With Amelia Griffiths:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemywithamelia
Website: https://www.ameliagriffiths.com/
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
The Guide to Tantric Foreplay 30th Sep (Solo & Couples welcome) - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-guide-to-tantric-foreplay-tickets-163824183543
Creating the Spark - 9th Oct: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
We grow up in a world that dictates to us what we should want, how we should look, what we should buy, who we should date and what we should do for a living. But so many of us follow these rules and end up miserable and confused as to why we aren't happy.
The reason for this is because we are not engaging in what our hearts and soul really want. And not because we don't want to, but because we don't even know how to tune into what our heart truly wants and tune out of what the world thinks we should do.
In this weeks episode, I am joined by Rick William, a trauma-informed coach, breathwork facilitator and creator of transformational experiences for heart-led men.
We talk about the three aspects of creating personal freedom, our inner world (the feminine), our outer world the (masculine) and the integrated game (masculine and feminine integration).
We also talk about the important topic of shame and how to overcome it.
The key topics are:
🪵 Why you keep repeating the same experiences
🪵 How to overcome shame
🪵 The power of voicing your shame
🪵 The new model of personal development work
🪵 Practices to get in tune with your inner wisdom and emotions
🪵 Inner game, outer game and integrated game of creating
🪵 Pitfalls of being only outwardly or inwardly focused
🪵 How to find your uniqueness
In this weeks mini-episode, I talk about the 4 types of sex that we have. Each varying in pleasure, connection, emotionally engagement and nurturing.
I talk about the types of sex that you don't want to me having in a relationship and how to experience the high levels of sex and why.
Is seduction always manipulative?
Or has seduction been given a bad name due to the PUA movement?
In this week's episode, my guest Massimo Stocchi-Fontana, sexologist, psychological therapist, sex coach, and yoga teacher, get deep into how we can seduce the people we meet (and our partners) with honesty, love, authenticity and playfulness.
Seducing doesn't have to be dishonest, cohesive or manipulative if you are willing to bring your authenticity, all of you and when it is done from a place of love. The question is, how?
We also tackle the widespread problem of seducing your long term partner and keeping the sex and passion alive.
The key topics are:
🪨 The fears that men have in seduction
🪨 How to develop an attitude of abundance
🪨 How to go from fear-based seduction to love based seduction
🪨 How to get over the fear of approaching and social fear
🪨 How to increase the sex in your relationship
🪨 Sex and psychedelics
🪨 Seduction from a place of love
🪨 Why playing games causes negative confusion
🪨 Why you shouldn't hide your fear
🪨 The attitude to have when going to the bar
🪨 The skills you need to develop for authentic seduction
Connect With Massimo Stocchi-Fontana:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/massimo.stocchi.fontana/
Website: https://www.massimo.love/
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727
Tantra 101 for Couples Workshop - (Couples Only) - 26 Aug 8pm - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tantra-101-for-couples-masterclass-tickets-156721128113
Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
The Guide to Tantric Foreplay 30th Sep (Solo & Couples welcome) - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-guide-to-tantric-foreplay-tickets-163824183543
This weeks mini-episode inspired my own feelings and inquiry into not being good enough.
I ask the question, What if you aren't good enough?
What will happen? Can you be happy? Can you be successful? Who decides if you are good enough? What is good enough?
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Ilan's Shaking Video: https://youtu.be/TO2cMBkZDms
What is it like being a professional dominatrix?
Do different dominatrices have different ways of working?
Why do we have disconnected sex?
Who is responsible for your partners' orgasm?
All of these and sooo much more answered in this podcast episode.
I am joined by Lola Jean, a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, pro Domme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting.
We talked about so much on this episode BDSM, Spanking, pegging, impulse control, communicating sexual desires, socialised sexual desire and porn.
The key topics are:
🔬 Spanking from and love and kindness
🔬 What is a fetish
🔬 Common misconceptions about being a dominatrix
🔬 Why you are having disconnected sex
🔬 The different types of dominatrix
🔬 How to find a middle ground between you and your partners' desires
🔬 How to recontextualise our fantasies to get buy-in from our partners
🔬 You don't choose your sexual desires
🔬 Why focusing on female pleasure is creating more pressure on women
🔬 Who's responsibility is it to make you cum
🔬 Why do some bodies find it hard to cum than others
Connect With Lola Jean:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lolajeandotcom/
Twitter: @LolaJeanDotCom
Website: lolajean.com
Workshops: https://lolajean.com/quick-n-dirty2
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879
The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727
Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
In this weeks mini-episode, I explain a little about Incel Culture.
In the past, I have had men come to me for coaching after being exposed to red pill and incel culture due to them wanting to transform how they relate to women.
I talk about what I see in the culture, the incorrect and oversimplified assumptions incels have made, how we can understand these men and how incel men can go about creating the connection they desire.
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Just me again this week, but I have a great episode for you.
This episode sprung from a listener request.
In dating, we often come across people that blow hot and cold, on and off. They message you loads, you have a great date, and they go cold, only to come back warm weeks, months, or even years later. Frustrating right?
But why?
Why do men and women do this?
What is happening in their heads (and hearts) that causes this behaviour?
How can you break out of that cycle if you are the guilty, push/pull, hot/ cold person?
And what should you do if you are dating someone that is like this?
All I can say is that as a man that spent years blowing hot and cold and pushing and pulling women, I know exactly why I did it. I also know how to stop doing it and how to move into a far more functional way of relating.
The key topics are:
🧊 How to spot the hot and cold behaviour
🧊 Why do men & women blow hot and cold in dating
🧊 Fears that cause you to be afraid of commitment
🧊 How we can emotionally mature past
🧊 Why indecisiveness ruins people dating lives
🧊 How to deal with someone being hot and cold with you
🧊 How to get over your fear of commitment
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879
The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727
Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
This is a little practice that I use to stop disagreements, arguments and conflicts from even happening.
This is something you do, not just something you say.
This practice will stop you from having huge blowout arguments.
Touch is one of the most misunderstood modes of communication, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy.
We assume that just because it's something we have been doing all our lives that we actually know how to do it well!
Most people (especially men) don't even think about how we touch our partners, both sexually and non sexually.
We don't realise that the way we touch (or lack off) our partners is actually turning them off, making them cold and closing them down to sex.
So in the episode, I guide you on how you can use conscious tantric touch to connect from the heart and deeply with your partner to bring back or increase the passion in your relationship and lovemaking.
You will see that there are so many more levels to touch than you ever imagined.
Key topics are:
🍑 Why the right touch transforms sexual intimacy
🍑 How to be more present during sex
🍑 How to create more connected sex in your relationship
🍑 The Conscious quicky
🍑 The elements of Tantric Conscious Touch
🍑 Why goal-oriented sex is bad for your relationship
🍑 Why women in heterosexual go off having sex and how to change it
🍑 Leading intimacy with masculine love and care
🍑 How to connect deeply with your partner through the right type of touch
🍑 How to use conscious touch to soften and open up your partner
🍑 Meditation: Use touch to communicate your passion, love and joy
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879
The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727
Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
Weekly Mini-Episode: My Experience - How Lack Of A Father Figure Affected My Ability To Have Healthy Romantic Relationship.
This is a topic that is really close to my heart, something that I have battled with most of my adult life, and I see in many of the men that I coach. And I see in men around me struggling to create healthy and connected relationships and often ending with them giving up, believing that it isn't possible for them.
It takes work. It's it is possible not to repeat the patterns of our parents.
So here I talk about how my lack of a father figure has affected my romantic relationships.
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Polyamory is still a bit of a social taboo, but why?
Have we been so entrenched in the idea that one person can only love one person at a time, or is it that we can't bear the idea of having to deal with the jealousy of sharing our partner?
In monogamous relationships, are we placing too much pressure on our partners to fulfil all of our needs? And is that just leaving us with a string of disappointing relationships?
In this weeks episode, we will be answering all these questions and so much more.
This weeks guest Roy Graff is a mentor and coach who specialises in helping individuals, couples, and polycules navigate polyamory and conscious relating.
This week's episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about polyamory, open relating, and conscious monogamy. There is so much practical information for bettering your relationships.
We talk about building open and honest polyamorous relationships through personal responsibility for needs and desire, boundaries and powerful communication.
We dive deeply into how these same ideas can be brought into your monogamous relationship to form a deeper, happier and stronger bond.
Roy and I talk from our own experience of open relating, polyamory and monogamy about what has worked and, more importantly, what has not worked, not worked!
The key topics are:
🧬 What is polyamory
🧬 The difference between open relationships and polyamory
🧬 How to be responsible for your own needs in a relationship
🧬 Benefits of polyamory
🧬 Misconception of polyamory
🧬 Where jealously really comes from
🧬 Why relationships are really about growth
🧬 Why do we struggle to create healthy relationship dynamics
🧬 Why inauthenticity ruins relationships
🧬 Why society shames people for being polyamorous
🧬 Why conflict is an opportunity for deeper intimacy
🧬 Importance of clearly asking for what you need
🧬 Trauma and jealousy
Connect With Roy Graff:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openrelating
Website: https://openrelating.love
Online course: Connected, conscious and autonomous relationships. https://openrelating.love/courses
Connect With David - The Authentic Man:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net
Upcoming Events:
Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879
The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727
Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983
Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359
Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925
This is a special one, I am answering a question from a listener question.
The question is "Can be authentic without coming across as needy and scaring a woman of."
Everything you need to know is in the episode.
Events: https://linktr.ee/theauthenticman
In this week's mini-episode, I get straight into what is a life-changing topic for me because it literally changed my life.
I talk about how to spot if you are living an unfilling life, and then I get into how you can turn it around are get what you really want out of your life.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/
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