The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

We like to talk about Addiction on the podcast! 

I'm excited to talk to Mary Kruger (again!) and Cece Skyes who wrote a Chapter in the Altogether Us book entitled, "IFS and Addiction: Compassion for the Addictive Process."

We talk about:

• Alternatives to a manager led (client's or family or therapist's) "Plan"
• Working with your own parts (helper, rescue, fixer, advice giving) when working (or living) with others who have 'Extreme Firefighters'
• "Exiling firefighters is not working"- What if we welcomed their advice and wisdom?
• Bridges 
  • how IFS can Bridge the polarization between the addiction world and the psychological world
  • creating them between ALL parts involved in the addictive process
  • bringing curiosity to the systematic interactions of the parts

Enjoy!

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Find out more about Cece Skyes and her book:

Cece Sykes LCSW

Internal Family Systems Therapy for Addictions: Trauma-Informed, Compassion-Based Interventions for Substance Use, Eating, Gambling and More: Sykes, Cece, Sweezy, Martha, Schwartz, Richard C.: 9781683736028: Amazon.com: Books

Find out more about Mary Kruger here: Home Page (mpkruger.com)

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Welcome to Season 5 where we 'check in':

• I check in about Season 5 of the podcast
• Jenna checks in about the Altogether Us book release earlier this month
• We both share how we check in with our parts

We talk a whole lot about Self.

This episode is beautiful- I was going to edit out the last 10 minutes or so because I start crying but... I leave it ALL in there. 

This one is really good..... THIS is why we do this.

Enjoy!

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Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

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On today's podcast I chat with Brian Jaudon, an IFS-trained coach who works with a wide range of clients from executives and entrepreneurs to shamans and creatives.

Brian has led two highly successful IFS and Coaching courses and has been around the IFS world for a long time. We chatted a few times offline when I started the podcast a few years ago so I love that he is the last guest for season 3.

We have a sweet conversation- the best kind I think for the podcast- it has a lot of interesting information about IFS, Gift Development, asking good questions, Contracting, working with Parts.

But the best part is the authentic connection and the conversation that flows so naturally from that. I'm so grateful to him and to all the guests and listeners who make this so fun and rewarding. 

For more information check out: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching

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Brian says the right question at the right moment is a key that unlocks a lock. Then we give space to experience the ripple that comes from it.

We chatted afterwards about ALL the things and he did this for me- he asked the right question, in the right moment and let silence sit for a minute. The question and the curiosity I have about it continues to ripple.

I'll see you in the fall for season 4....

Enjoy. 

Hi!

This is a re-release of a meditation Dick did on an episode released 10/29/19 that was part of the full episode released 11/6/19.

I chat for about 2 minutes about why I decided to do this (One hint--- Tammy Sollenberger | Insight Timer) then Dick leads a 8-ish minute meditation.

I hope you enjoy it!

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We will take a break through the rest of June and July and return in August where we count down to the publication of the "Altogether Us" book on August 31, 2023!

On today's episode I talk with Dr. Frank Anderson. Frank is a psychiatrist, lead Trainer with the IFS Institute, author of 'Transcending Trauma' and an author in the Altogether Us book.

We talk about:

• his upcoming memoir entitled "To Be Loved."
• some of his story (a type of conversion therapy starting at 6 yo)
• Coming out
  • with a trauma history
  • is a trauma in and of itself
  • The stages of Coming out
  • "Being Gay is a Trauma"
• The high rate of suicidality in LGBTQ teens
• "Orientation is a Dimension of Self Energy"
• Working out Gender
• "Orientation and Gender fall away in the Spiritual Realm"

and so much more!

You can contact Frank at Trauma Specialist, Author, Psychiatrist,… | Frank Anderson MD

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We will take a break through the rest of June and July and return in August where we count down to the publication of the "Altogether Us" book on August 31, 2023!

On today's episode, Jenna Riemersma is the GUEST HOST and interviews Tammy and Joan Ryan about their chapter on the Enneagram in the Altogether Us book.

We talk about:

• How Joan and I met
• How Enneagram Types show up at a Birthday party
• How Parts hold the Type Structure together
• Using Enneagram Type to Map parts
• Common Parts found in Type

Joan Ryan specializes in Organization Development and the Enneagram.  She is a Senior Leadership Coach and has worked internationally in law firms, hospitals, corporations and nonprofit organizations including USAID.  She is currently an Adjunct Professor at Boston College, teaching Inclusive Leadership.  She previously worked as an attorney.   She served 2 terms on the IEA Board in the early 2000s.

An internationally recognized Enneagram expert, Joan received certification as an Enneagram Teacher from the Palmer/Daniels Enneagram Professional Training Program in 1996 and is grounded firmly in Narrative Methods. She had the distinct honor of being mentored directly by both Helen Palmer and the late Dr. David Daniels.

Her current focus is exploring intersections between the Enneagram and Internal Family Systems (IFS-Institute.org). She has recently co-authored a chapter for the new reference work “Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Keyyy Modalities, Communities, and Trends”, editor, Jenna Riemersma to be published in August 2023.  With her teaching partner, Tammy Sollenberger, she offers classes and consulting groups along with individual coaching.

For more information and contact see:   https://www.creativecollaborations.net/about

On today's episode I chat with Regina Wei who wrote the chapter on Asian and Pacific Islander Clients for the Altogether Us book.

Regina Wei (she/they), LMFTA is an IFS Level 1 trained Couples and Family Therapist in Washington state who has a specialization in sex therapy. Her work centers folks who identify as BIPOC and/or LGBTQIA+ and focuses on helping clients heal racial, intergenerational, sexual, and other traumas. Regina has an MA in Couples and Family Therapy and an MA in Modern Chinese Literature and Culture. She has written a novel, set in China, that deals with the themes of trauma, healing, and cross-cultural connections and misses. www.ReginaWei.com

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We talk about:

• Her Novel (Themes of Healing!)
• Collectivism and Authority
• Holding space for Tension
• Racialized bodies
• Intergenerational and historical trauma
• Heritage as a Protective Factor
• The role of Shame
• Recommendations for Therapists

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Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page here:  The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Altogether Us author Valerie Simon. 

Check out Valerie here: 

THE INNER STAGE – Cutting edge experiential therapy

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Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Jenna Riemersma about her chapter in the upcoming book "Altogether Us."

We talk about:

• An IFS Shorthand: Notice, kNow and Need
• Moving Towards our own Parts
• Moving Towards our Parts in Relationship with others (as a therapists/helping professional, Friend, Parent, and Partner)
• Moving Towards before we Turn Towards, especially in difficult relationships

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Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Richard Schwartz, founder of IFS and Jenna Riemersma, author of Altogether You and IFS Level 3 therapist.

Jenna is the editor of a new book coming out this year entitled "Altogether Us" which features 30 different authors in the IFS community.

We talk about: 

- The importance of Access to IFS, the Demand for IFS, and concerns about Quality Control

- Dick shares about his persistent parts when starting the model

- Jenna shares the main sections of the book

- Dick talks about what he sees in the future of IFS and what he means by the "Paradigm Shift" of IFS

- We talk about how "IFS Changes Everything"

- Dick and Jenna talk about their personal Visions/Resolutions for the New Year

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Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

Learn more about IFS and upcoming trainings here: What is Internal Family Systems? | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I talk with Lucille Aaron-Wayne, a longtime Certified IFS Therapist, Jungian analyst-in-training and art therapist. She helps people who feel and think deeply learn how to do IFS on themselves and claim it as their own person self healing tool.

We talk about:

- The importance of 'doing IFS' on our own

- The different skill set needed to do Solo IFS

- 6 Common Self life parts

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I loved how practical this episode is, and I loved how Lucille talks about how doing our own work builds a bridge between our 'regular life' and our Self energy.

Connect with Lucille at seekdeeply.com: Seek Deeply: Online Jungian & IFS Therapy Sessions where you can get a FREE one hour guide to Solo IFS!

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Sarah Houy, a certified IFS therapist and the co-founder of Sentur, an IFS app!

Sarah is passionate about revolutionizing mental health care and has been a trauma therapist for over a decade.

We talk about her passion for making therapy and treatment accessible to all people, her first experiences with IFS and Sentur.

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Find out more about the Sentur app here:

Internal Family Systems App | Sentur App

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Madeline Gibson, a Level 3 IFS practitioner and coach living in Lake Como, Italy.

Madeline owns and runs Lake Como Wellness, a wellness events and retreat business. She is soon to launch her podcast, "There’s a Part of Me", for the IFS curious, and in the new year will launch a range of free resources around ‘middle lane drinking’ through the IFS lens.

Middle Lane drinkers are those who haven't 'hit rock bottom' but feel curious about what life would be like without alcohol. Madeline is almost five years sober after going through that lifestyle transformation herself, shorting before meeting Dick Schwartz on retreat in northern Italy.

You can reach out to Madeline on Instagram @the.ifs.coach or email hello@theifs.coach

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Madeline encourages us to be curious as we consider that our drinking parts are destined for greater, more Self led roles. She gives 4 reflective questions or journal prompts to deepen our own connection to our internal world. 

She says that as long as parts are stuck in protective roles they are not living into their full potential.

Check out her website where you can download an ebook, "Middle Lane Drinking: An IFS Approach." Welcome to the IFS Coach - The World needs all of you

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy! 

On today's episode I chat with Anna Vincentz, a Level 3 IFS therapist who resides in Denmark.

We talk about:

1. Attachment: the nervous system and inner and outer coregulation with parents, children, partners, clients and therapists

2. New Danish Parenting: Children always make sense, Relationships matter most, and conscious parenting.

Anna says- Parts don't want to settle for unconditional love and attachment from Self. When they actually get connection from Self they realize it is not settling at all.

And- We don't need to lean in to our partners from our young parts. Our parts need to lean in to Self and then our Self can lean out into our partners.

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Check out Anna's podcast and articles here:

IFS therapy — IFS & Familieterapeut Anna Vincentz MPF

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books.

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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Enjoy!