The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast

The cave man instinct to protect us from the mammoths & sabertooth cats is alive and kicking in our 21st Century way of doing life, as it played out back then.  The dangers have changed, but nonetheless, the brain (our cognition) convinces us of a danger that is not real and the body comes to alert repeatedly through the day, ready to protect us, unless we can calm our thinking and take it off guard duty.

Our thoughts, our thinking, our cognition leads to our behaviour. Not the other way round. So change cognition before you try to change behaviour. "If you can change your thinking, you can change your life". It is that stark. Really, it is.

Don't believe the lie people. Use the rest of your other senses to cross-examine your cognition. Get a re-set in your mind using the tools provided by The Kairos Centre -  involving Grounding (to address Dissociation); Breathing (deeper and longer, instead of short shallow - panic); Suck a lemon; and going to your Calm/Peaceful/Restful place - with tapping to soothe the left & right brain.

The use of those Neurotramitters/neurochemicals in the body - for self-soothing - is not the way and is only a 5 minutes wonder - then the unwanted kick back.

Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

....but it isn't that complicated! At least not when you read the material from public friendly neuroscientists like Dr Caroline Leaf.

"The Pleasure Principle" - What's that about? Another very clever Neuroscientist (Dr Struthers) has brought together the individual role played by each of those (neurotransmitters/neuropeptides/brain chemicals/biochemicals - whatever they are properly called). This is where I get ready to run for my bunker, for fear of the wrath of a grieving female partner - when I say that Sex Addiction is not about porn images. Porn is only the needle, to get those chemicals into the body.

What chemicals? Here's what Dr Struthers says (in summary):
As a man goes through the day, testosterone increases with each stare, fantasy and anticipation, creating the desire for sex; norepinephrine (I can't pronounce it) - is being released, getting the brain primed and alert for action; serotonin release creates excitement for the anticipated payoff; dopamine focus the mind, as a reminder to the brain, where and what it did the last time to find the reliable payoff. As the activity starts, endogenous opiates give a rush of euphoria; Oxytocin and vasopressin bind the images and experience together. The next acting out session, to repeat the process, is just a moment away.

I wonder what all this looks like for women? Let's ask Dr Struthers.

Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

We do need to pay much attention to those Childhood development stages and how they may have shaped how we go on to do our adult relationships:
 "Come close; I want you close; I need you close; I need to own you for myself; you're too close; move away; give me space; this is stifling; i need more from you; you're not the one for me; blowing you up". 

Any of these ringing true or resonate with you? It is called sabotage.

Go after the sex/porn/love addiction first and have " Mrs Porn" on her way out, to give Couples counselling more varsity to succeed. Yet, don't not do anything about the the couples relationship whilst doing the sex/porn/love addiction work; since you might unwittingly leave the couple too long and end up burning bridges that you can't repair or get back.

Then psychosexual Therapy may become necessary, if an identifiable disorder has development. Three distinct areas of work, with different skill sets. We do them all at The Kairos Centre.

Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Early years fostered, Adopted, Immigrate, parents separation & divorce, verbal, physical, sexual and/or spiritual abuse, Boarding school, premature birth, incubated, mothers post-natal depression, alcoholic, drug use, parent working away a lot, emotionally absent even when they are home - are just some contributing causes for setting up INSECURE ATTACHMENT - which may later manifest in how the adult child will go on to do interpersonal relationships.

We all need a lighthouse that is stable during the earliest years of childhood development. A black hole void gets set up; that insecure Attachment behaviours try to fill, when that childhood development period is not negotiated through in a "good enough" manner. There then follows, attempts throughout adulthood relationships to repeatedly repeatedly use conscious and unconscious processes to try to fill the void = LOVE ADDICTION.

Want to know more and better understand? In all your getting, get understanding.
Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

You feel insecure in close relationship with another and so the brain provides strategies to "control" the relationship, but is so unconscious that you deny you are doing any such thing.  Attachment is more accurately Detachment; yet a pining to be close to at least one other. Strange contradiction hey!

In your quest for sobriety, don't go for long strides and big leaps. Successful recovery and achieving sobriety, is more about small bite size, incremental, but progressive steps.

YOU can do this. Come on. Get up. Dust off. Get back in the fight.

Remember, one degree shift or small change in your thinking and behaviour patterns, means that in one year, the trajectory of your life will have taken you into a tangent and positive outcomes that you dreamed about and never thought to be possible.

Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Core Emotional Needs, such as Approval, Attention, Security, Respect (and more) get depleted over time and as human beings, getting them met, and kept topped up, is not optional. We will consciously, but mostly unconsciously Fight/Flight/Freeze in order to get them met.

They desire to be met. You are in danger zone for Acting out, as a way to fulfil those needs - temporarily. Yet, temporarily (at the time), is good enough and promises a fix.

Fight may take the form of passive-aggressive. You are out of sort with a partner and you know that they know; they are worried that because of it, you may Act out; but you throw caution to the wind and don't care. In fact, quietly, you are pleased they fear you might act out. That is a way you get back at them and give them their "comeuppance".

You know what Flight response looks like don't you? That is when you run into the arms of "Mrs Porn" or "Mrs Sex" or the pursuit of love & affection. Here is my definition of Flight: You move yourself out of the place where you perceive that your Core Emotional Needs are not being met and instead, put yourself in a place where you perceive your Core Emotional Needs will more likely be met.

Freeze, isn't entirely freeze! It is more about "just getting on with life". Just don't think about it. Throw caution to the wind. Self-pity maybe. 

Getting Core Emotional Needs met is not negotiable. At some point you will be doing Fight/Flight/Freeze, to get them met.

Better understand the dynamics. Let The Kairos Centre come alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Just like similar poles of a magnet repel each other, so it is that Narcissism and Empathy also repel each other. They cannot co-exist in the same place together - in unity.

Either you will have more of one and less of the other being played out or less of the other and more of one! Get it?

Here's the deal. One MUST become less and the other become greater. Which one is the greater in your life?

Let The Kairos Centre help you to make EMPATHY the dominant trait that is played out in your life.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Do the Maths. Remove shame and sex addiction breaks down. Remove Narcissism; more accurately, transform Narcissism (over time) into Empathy and sex addiction breaks down.

Learn how to make shame visible; walk of the page; become touchable - using The Kairos Centre "Shields" exercise. Many clients initially, find it difficult to identify with and own Narcissism until we break it down.

Come and learn more about these two dominant features of sex/porn/love addiction. Let The Kairos Centre unravel it for you.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Having completed the extensive History Taking (by asking lots of questions over three sessions) to build a profile of our clients from birth to current age, we then give feedback and diagnosis. That includes an hypothesis as to the Role, Function & Purpose which the behaviours serve.

It is important not to hide behind the feedback which finds that something happened to you in childhood development; therefore current behaviour patterns are not your fault. Not true!

Not a level playing field, but own the fact that when you became an adult, you are responsible for your positive choices and negative choices. The sobriety and recovery that you therefore achieve from positive choices, belong to you.

I do something strange with my clients. I do brain surgery. I cut the top of the skull off and lift out their brains. I put it on a chair next to them and explain that their brain is not their best friend during the recovery programme. It will sabotage, until treats & rewards kick in and it can see good reward for good behaviour.

None of this make much sense?  Let The Kairos Centre unravel it for you. 

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

The Kairos Centre Recovery Programme is about the couple recovery, not only the person with the addiction behaviours - where you are in a partnered relationship.

Sit in the seat or walk in the shoes of the partner affected and see life from their vantage point - if you dear - if you can!

Difficult to stay with it since to do so means subduing  and turning off inclinations toward narcissism. Take a glimpse through their lens before narcissism kids back in. Empathise with their pain. Even that empathy will take you only so far in your quest for sobriety.

 "White knuckling it" will last only so long. It runs out of puff? "Round and round the mulberry bush you go" again after a short while.

Remember that the umbrella of Shame covers both of you and so will also take the partner into hiding as well as you.

The Kairos Centre work with multiple numbers of partners (particularly female partners) adversely affected and traumatised by the addiction behaviours of the other. Let us support you.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Change has begun when you can see the problem; moved it from the unconscious to the conscious. It does not, however, mean that you have changed it immediately you recognise and can see the problem; but change has begun.

Get up, dust off and get back in the fight. You can do this.

Let The Kairos Centre come alongside you with support.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

"My word is my bond".  When I was a lawyer, this was an overriding priory and principle. Maybe in the past you have made repeated promises to yourself to stop and/or change the behaviours, but you have not followed through and are disenchanted.

Get up, dust off. Get back in the fight. Those that achieve change are those that got up, dusted off and got back in.

Take your journey and resolve up a level. Create a written Agreement with yourself as a promise to use best endeavours to achieve particular outcomes. The Agreement is to be printed, signed and referred to from time to time during your journey. It is to act as a reminder that your signature represents your honour; your word; your bond; your resolve; your incentive to fulfil that which you have Agreed.

Let The Kairos Centre help you with such a document - which takes the form of a Couples (if you are in a couples relationship) Recovery Plan.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Shame is a massive component that underpins, causing, enhances and maintains the proliferation of sex, porn, love addiction. In this context, we are discussing toxic or what is  otherwise called unhealthy shame.

Guilt & embarrassment are off-shoots of shame, but they are different. We can recover from those, but toxic shame says "you are a mistake". That leaves no hope for change.

Shame tells you a lie. Don't believe the lie. Don't buy into the lie. Yet you do and you have to, because shame is "hiddenness" and requires that you go into hiding and stay in hiding.

A female partner, learning about the behaviours, also comes under its canopy and is also forced into hiding the stuff. Shame rubs its hands in glee.

Undermine shame by coming out of hiding; by telling and sharing your story. Your brain and shame will fight you and block you, but do it.

Get to a 12 steps group. That is the safe place to start to undermine shame by coming out of "hiddenness" and telling your story. That is a good forum.

Find a Therapist specialised in sex, pon, love addiction. That is also a great forum to begin the process of undermining shame.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Shame keeps Trauma in place, because it gets in the way of us seeking out and getting the help that we need. In the UK a mental health diagnosis remains a sign of weakness. We readily seek help from a Doctor where we have a pathology in the body, but much less so for the more debilitating psychological pathology which stops us functioning effectively.

Thank you Prince Harry for recently bringing the role of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) to a higher profile by showing to us that decades later, unresolved and unprocessed pathology can be healed. For many, Shame stops them getting help. Shame underpins the block.

Shame + Narcissisim = Sex Addiction and so the role of Shame needs to be understood and exposed. A process, such as EMDR, has a clear role. It works!

Process unresolved issues or 5, 10, 20, 30, 40 plus years, which may still be the trigger, setting up the desire to self soothe.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Urge Surfing, Mindfulness, Reciting your Pillars, are some ' in the moment'  fight back techniques. Here is another one, taken from our EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) practice that is sure to benefit you.

.....but it is all about the tapping, to benefit from igniting the left & right brain - in the form of Bilateral Stimulation. Otherwise, you are just doing 'positive thinking'!

It works! Give it a try.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

Fight the Sabor-toothed Tiger with a lemon! Sucking a lemon and longer, deeper breathing can help you overcome the fight/flight/freeze Sabor-toothed Tiger brain protective response.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre show you how.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

If you are not at "Action"; if you have been pushed, enticed, guilt tripped, coerced, under duress, pressurised, police involvement or legal process; partner threat to leave and take the children; such things are not necessarily good enough incentives to see you through a Recovery Programme in the longer term.

You must be at "Action" Stage, having got there because you see a need and desire has caught up.  Know the Stages Of Change Cycle.

Get knowledge. Get understanding. Reclaim your life - sometimes  for the first time.

The Kairos Centre Team can help and journey with you.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

How did Technological Advancement get us here?

Cave men drawings on walls ➡ camera/Erotic paintings, literature, Bath houses  ➡ (1860-1970) Camera images, Porn mags, Picture/cinema house projectors (public)  ➡ 8mm projector in homes  ➡ (1973 to 1990) VCR !interactive videos in private home (over take porn mags)  ➡ (1990 to 2004) WWW, proliferation of porn sites,  dialup, broadband, cyberworld, virtual world, smart phones, lap dance clubs, social networking sites  ➡ 

....and all these are way out of date.

What should have remained our servant, has become the master to many.

You need to get off the slippery slope. It always, always ends bad, even if not for 40 or 50 years!

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412

It all starts in the mind. What starts in the mind, is tossed around over and over and over as you get on with your day, your week, your month (because of your cognition), will eventually percolate into your heart.  A mouth full, but did you get it?

People speak the things that are in their hearts. Behaviour (action) will spring forth. That is CBT principles.

Regular, frequent, habitual negative thinking, will eventually lead to behaviour (that is also negative). The corollary is that regular, frequent, habitual positive and wholesome thinking, will eventually lead to good, wholesome behaviour. Getting it?

Keep your heart (protect your heart) with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life.

Let The Kairos Centre help you with the provision of tried and tested tools to interrupt your negative cognition on a frequent and regular basis. So that in changing your Mind, you get to change your Life.

Presented by The Kairos Centre:  bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you can be and on the journey, Recover and gain Sobriety from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction.

Bringing colour back to life - without shame.

Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

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Connect with me on Youtube: Gary McFarlane
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Facebook: @Kairoscounseling

Twitter: @GaryMcFarlane

Linkedin: The Kairos Centre - Addiction Therapy

Website: kairos-centre.com

bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1117412