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It's nice to find a 12 week program that promises you insane results in as little as 12 weeks, but what they forget to mention is how to sustain you progress you worked so hard for. You need to understand that this is a lifestyle. You should be learning how to eat right, move right, sleep and recover right, and take care of your health. The small steps you take to achieve your goals are habits made to be set in stone that will build into your new lifestyle.

Key Takeaways

• What these 12 week programs fail you with. Why not all your answers are answered with a 12 week program
• The components that make up a lifestyle that will sustain your progress
• How to get progress, sustain it, and continue to achieve more 

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#293: Authenticity Is Calling Yourself Out Too

In this Friday Facts episode, I want to talk about authenticity and how it is not just about the person you show to others, and sharing that authentic version.  It is also about calling yourself out on your own BS and not giving yourself a pass for the actions or behaviours that you know aren't in alignment with who you are and the direction you desire your life to move in. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) According to Brene Brown, “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” When we don’t live in this space (or don’t allow ourselves to), we are stunting our own growth process.  Real growth doesn't come from finger pointing at others.  It comes from looking at the mirror, recognizing our triggers and owning what is ours to own. That is authenticity. 

2) Every relationship we have, stems from the relationship we are constantly building with ourselves.  The work always starts with us and we always go first.  So if we don’t think that we have real/authentic people in our lives, then it starts with asking ourselves if we are being honest, authentic and real with ourselves. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in August)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/582412896496298

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#290: What You Envy in Others 

In this Friday Facts episode, I want to talk about envy and what it is telling you.  What you envy in others or you are bitter or jealous about is actually something you want and can have in your life.  You see in them what is possible for you. So instead of acting with bitterness look at it as a sign or permission for what you can accomplish. Jealousy and envy are extremely low on the vibrational frequency scale and it does nothing but bring your energy down further every single time. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) According to Brene Brown, buying into envy means that when you see someone else’s success it takes away from your own. You believe that there is only so much success, money, love or friendship in the world.  It is a “lack” mentality. Jealousy arises at those times when we are at risk for lost connection, abandonment or betrayed trust.  Learning to view, see and recognize jealousy becomes the key to all that we are seeking in our lives. 

2) It is also an experience of looking outside of ourselves for everything.  This is scarcity culture, never enough likes, opportunities or experiences.  

3) What you see is a guide for what is possible.  Ask the questions, why is this triggering you, what is it showing you.  Triggers are our guidepost for what we are capable of creating. When we think we don’t have enough, what we are truly buying into is that we aren’t enough. Self-worth comes first.  

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in August)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/582412896496298

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#287: Your Cheerleaders Are Silent 

In this Friday Facts episode, I want to talk about the cheerleaders in your life. I came across this message after listening to an episode of Earn Your Happy podcast with Lori Harder.  It was about our cheerleaders and critics. It really had me reminiscing about my past cheerleaders and critics and how they have both played a role in my life. When you are sharing your story and here to make a big difference, know that your biggest critics will be the loudest in the room but your biggest cheerleaders and those who are leaning on you can be completely silent. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) When it comes to learning how to share your story, especially when it is vulnerable parts of our stories, our cheerleaders may remain silent for a long time.  They will watch, follow along, and then at one point they will slide into your dm’s when something speaks to them or when they are ready.  It will never be on your timeline, it will be on theirs and when they are ready. 

2) Our critics are always there and sometimes they are truly the most vocal.  They want to protect us, stop us from hurting ourselves and deep down are bringing their own stories to the table.  I experienced this 100 fold when it came to writing my book and sharing our story. 

3) This is where it is crucial to focus on what you want to create, where you are going and trusting the process by letting go of the plan, see episode #285.

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in August)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/582412896496298

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#284: Authenticity is a Practice 

In this Friday Facts episode, I want to talk about the buzz word, “authenticity” especially in regards to the online space and building a business.  Brene Brown defines authenticity as, “ the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”  We make a choice to be authentic, live in alignment, say yes and no to the things that matter, and honour our boundaries. It is a practice, not a one time thing. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Authenticity is not a case of having it or not.  It is a practice, it is consciously living a life that we want to live.  It requires a check in on a regular basis as our lives change, we change, and we are faced with different challenges everyday. 

2) When we make decisions for the wrong reasons it does not mean that we failed.  Instead it means that we are humans on a journey getting to know ourselves and learning what we want to say yes and no to.  It is a hell yes or it is a no.  There truthfully is no in between. When we make decisions for the wrong reasons, that out of alignment or inauthenticity is a chance to learn how to do things differently the next time. 

3) As Brene Brown says, “there is no authenticity without boundaries”, and this hit home for me. Living a life with boundaries means living in our highest form of self respect, giving to ourselves and being ok with saying no to something that simply isn't meant for us. When we say no to others it can be uncomfortable, but that short feeling of discomfort is so much better than anger, resentment or frustrations.  None of those emotions will move the needle forward in our lives. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in July)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#281: The Relationship of Receiving and Fulfillment  

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on receiving and fulfillment. This concept came up while I was recently recording another podcast episode.  Let’s talk about receiving and fulfillment. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Self-fulfillment is defined as the “act of fulfilling one's ambitions, desires, etc., through one's own efforts” (unknown).  It only comes from within, no one can do it or be that for us.  When we live in the present moment, we are able to  practice gratitude. When we are experiencing anxiety we are living in the future and when we are living with regret we are living in the past.  The present is the only moment we can control. When we are fulfilled, we love ourselves first. We fill our cup first because we are aware that to give and receive in this world comes down to knowing that we are worthy and worth receiving.  

2) When we are seeking fulfillment outside of ourselves or waiting for someone to fill this role, we never fill it.  No one else can fill this space for us but us. No one completes or fixes us.  Others can add to our lives, but no one can complete it for us.  The more time we spend searching outside of ourselves, the more empty we tend to feel. 

3) If we are not open to receiving from others we are not seeing or valuing our worth.  That means that we don’t tend to ask for help or support, and even if someone does reach out to us to support us, we may block ourselves from receiving that support.  Receiving and Fulfillment truly do compliment each other and go hand in hand. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in July)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#279: Why Your Story Matters 

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing some lessons I have learned over the past few years why our story matters.  When we are going through difficult times we tend to retreat from the world and hide.  It is our way of avoiding being hurt, judged, criticized or even being seen.  Living this way provides no solutions or changes. When we are open to seeing that our stories, experiences and lessons make us who we are and who we are becoming, we can truly find and create freedom in our lives. This is one of my fav quotes, “You’re not a victim for sharing your story.  You are a survivor setting the world on fire with your truth. And you never know who needs your light, your warmth and your raging courage.” Alex Elle

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Our stories all matter because we all matter.  Everyone has something to contribute, share and give in this world and our stories create who we are and who we are becoming.  They make a massive impact in our lives and the sooner we acknowledge that, the sooner we can be on the path to being “free” from the weight of our stories.

2) Seeing our stories differently requires learning to stand ON your story instead of IN it.  The reason why it feels like your story doesn't matter is because you are continuing to live in it. When we are stuck in our story, we are on a repeat cycle of frustration, comparison, resentment, anger and victimhood.  No change comes from this cycle. 

3) Our stories connect us, remind us that we are human and not alone.  We all crave human connections, and we are connected by our stories, our pain and our emotions.  Shifting this allows us to give our power back to ourselves and not the story.

4) Is there a purpose or a reason for your story?  How is it nudging you to become the person you were meant to become? Finding a purpose in our stories, realizing that it is not all about us anymore can create a massive shift in our healing and our energy.

Owning Your Story Academy
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in mid July)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/582412896496298

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#278: What Are You Holding Onto?  

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on a simple yet impactful concept.  What are you holding onto?  When I work with the women in the Storytelling Bootcamp and Owning Your Story program, we look at their past stories, what meaning they are giving them and what they are holding onto.  What we are holding onto is also holding onto us. That also means that we are giving away our energy, our personal power and our resources to create change in our lives. Since we are holding onto it, we are the only ones who can choose to let it go. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Start by looking at what you are holding onto, what you are feeling heavy about, resentment around and the stories you feel are holding you back in your life. Dissect them, be honest and real and learn how to create the story of letting them go. 

2) There is so much power in breaking down the stories, reframing the story and learning the lessons and letting go of what doesn't serve you. 

3) You will find freedom and feel lighter and see your story in a whole new light.  Learning to bless and release is the way to opening up opportunities in your future.  In order to take on something new you have to learn to let go of what doesn't serve you. Let go of the old to make room for the new! 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in July)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Own Your Story Academy - link to sign up here
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing some thoughts on effortlessness.  I am currently listening to the book, Effortless on Audible by Greg McKeown.  He is also the author of Essentialism.  This book is already hitting home for me and I wanted to share some concepts with you.  

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) So many times we get frustrated with something that takes so much repetition to learn before it even becomes effortless that we then stop long before we give it a chance to become easier.  What habits in your life are effortless now? Are they the ones that serve you in moving forward in your life?

2) The steps to making something easier requires putting in the work to become less impossible, then easier, the easy and then ultimately effortless.  How long does this take? Depends on how hard you want to work at it and how committed you are to doing the work? 

3) What is something you want to become effortless?  Write it down, commit to doing the work with it and then notice and see the changes happening.  It is always you vs. you and it will never move forward if you don’t stay committed in the process.

Storytelling Breakthrough Sessions
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/3SNdvYNH?coupon_code=3SESSIONPROMO

Owning Your Story Academy
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in mid July)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=STORYTELLINGBOOTCAMP

Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/582412896496298

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing some vulnerable thoughts on something that circles in my brain every single day, “Am I Doing Enough”.  Whether it is as a mom, parent, friend, family member, or entrepreneur, we tend to find ourselves in a continuous loop of wondering if we're doing enough. This means our mind is stuck in the cycle of “should” instead of remembering and focusing on what we are doing or completing.  This is where we need to keep our mind, in the present moments and this takes a lot of practice, repetition and training.   

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) What is enough?  The definition is “as much or as many of something as required.” I would encourage you to ask yourself what is deemed as enough? Is there anything that you could define here and if so do it clearly to give yourself a benchmark to focus on. When you make a to-do list do you make it to have 100 items instead of your top 3 things?

2) Where can you delegate, hire someone else, ask for help or take it off your list altogether? What really matters? What activities will move you closer to where you want to be? What are your top values, your non-negotiables or what do you need to be your best self and do you have those activities in your calendar on a daily basis? 

3) Where can you give yourself more grace, compassion or kindness? If you aren’t sure, then ask yourself what you would tell a friend who is doing what you are doing on a daily basis?

Storytelling Breakthrough Sessions
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/3SNdvYNH?coupon_code=3SESSIONPROMO

Owning Your Story Academy
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/TP9NzJpq

Scripting Workshop June 23rd (register at the link)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/ribbMmY8
Episode #234 on The Power of Scripting,
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/18109115


Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on the difference between reacting and responding.  There’s a big difference between the two and without boundaries, self-care and being clear on your own values it’s easy to find yourself in a constant state of reaction.  When you react to everything you are using your energy to manage, control or fix someone else’s behaviour.  That is energy that you could be using to create change in your own life. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Reaction is defined as a behaviour in a particular way in response to something else.  It can be with hostility, opposition or a contrary course of action. This is not always a conscious choice, more like a subconscious reaction, yet it tends to be a pattern that we are stuck in or repeating. Parenting teens who are yelling back is a great example of this.  Saying less is always more powerful and impactful. These reactions can also be adverse physiological or psychological reactions that literally take away from you and definitely don’t create change in your life. 

2) Responding is still technically a reaction, the difference is that it takes into consideration the desired outcome of the interaction.  It takes into account your boundaries, self-care and the direction that you want the conversation or event to go.  This tends to be an intentional or a conscious response. 

3) A reaction may result in a positive or a negative outcome whereas a response is engineered to produce a positive or a negative outcome.  Reacting is emotional and responding is emotional intelligence. 

Scripting is an incredible exercise that I am opening up for the month of June. I offered this exercise in December and after speaking with clients and listeners and based on the year we have had, I decided to open up the scripting workshop on June 23rd with a link to join. https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/ribbMmY8

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=EARLYBIRDSTORYBOOTCAMP

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing a message from a recent post I shared on social media. It hit home for so many people, myself included.  Our comfort zone is a place so many of us stay in even though it feels so uncomfortable.  Our soul is begging us to move, shift and sometimes even run because we know we are meant for something more. Yet we are using our comfort zone as a benchmark and not moving because everything feels foreign and new.  Our comfort zone can never be a benchmark because everything outside of this space will feel new.  Instead we need to embrace that all growth will feel different until we show up for it consistently and once we do that, then it is time to grow again. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Every emotion you experience will be different outside of your comfort zone. When you are not used to being confident, then confidence feels like arrogance.  When you are used to being passive, being assertive feels like you're being aggressive.

2) If you aren’t used to prioritizing your own self care needs or respecting your boundaries, then as soon as you try to do this it will feel selfish.

3) This will also hit home if you are continuously comparing yourself to someone else and the success they are having in their own business or life.  Everytime you tell yourself that “it’s easy for them because x,y,z,” then you completely negate your own ability and you have to be honest with yourself. Instead of judging them, hire them or ask them what they did to create those results. Don’t judge someone else’s results if you are not willing to do the work to get there.  Your comfort zone is lying to you and you’re choosing to buy it.

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=EARLYBIRDSTORYBOOTCAMP

Scripting Workshop June 23rd (register at the link)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/ribbMmY8
Episode #234 on The Power of Scripting,
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/18109115


Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#269: The How Isn’t Up to You 

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on getting stuck on how when we are making decisions in our business or personal lives. The how isn't up to us and in fact believing that it is, means we are actually believing in only our own power. In fact when we buy into the how as the only way possible, we block all of the other possible ways for the magic to unfold. This message has proven itself over and over in my practice of scripting. This keeps my mind focused forward on what it wants to create without staying stuck on the how or the specific details of it. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Focusing on the how limits all of the other incredible ways that something can fall together in our lives. The people, the opportunities or experiences that become available once we get into action.  We create the opportunities by not limiting it to the how’s that we know of.  

2) Ask yourself the questions of what you want to create, who do you want to work with, what transformations can you help others create, and how you are open to all of the different ways that it can come to life. 

3) Scripting is an incredible exercise that I am opening up for the month of June. I offered this exercise in December and after speaking with clients and listeners and based on the year we have had, I decided to open up the scripting workshop on June 23rd with a link to join. https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/ribbMmY8

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=EARLYBIRDSTORYBOOTCAMP

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#267: Vulnerability & Receiving Go Hand in Hand

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing my thoughts on vulnerability and receiving and how the two truly go hand in hand. Vulnerability is the courage to allow ourselves to be seen.  When we are in a constant state of deflection, perfectionism or trying to do it alone, we are literally blocking any opportunity to receive.  This is keeping us isolated in our story and not open to receiving and the process of receiving is literally how we expand and grow. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness, it is our greatest act of courage...Brene Brown. It involves courage, strength and not being attached to the outcome or the results that we are creating.  Being vulnerable means that we are open to asking for help, support or guidance to move ourselves to the next stage in our life or business.

2) When we don’t allow ourselves to receive it can be for a number of reasons such as feelings of lack, unworthiness or feeling like there is no one else to support us on our journey.

3) When we fully receive compliments, money or anything, we are allowing ourselves to expand and receive more.  At all times we are either growing and expanding or contracting. A huge part of this process is whether we are allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and receive what is available for us. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=EARLYBIRDSTORYBOOTCAMP

Scripting Workshop June 23rd (register at the link)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/ribbMmY8
Episode #234 on The Power of Scripting,
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/18109115


Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#266: Your Calling is Not a Conference Call 

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on our calling and how we forget that it isn't meant to be understood by everyone. It is our calling, after all, not a conference call. It is time to get back to the things we are being called to do and trust that it is our calling for a reason. We are truly the ones to bring it to life. 

In today’s episode, we discuss:
1) Our calling is a really big term that people focus a lot of energy on and worry whether they have it right or not. We figure it out as we go and it is always changing or shifting as we learn and add in new experiences.

2) Ask yourself how much time and energy you are using to convince others of your calling and then not acting on it based on the thoughts and opinions of others?

3) What if the people who are meant to be part of the conference call to bring your vision to life are people you haven’t even met yet? You will find your people when you continue to step into that new version of yourself. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#264: You’re Either Expanding or Contracting

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing my thoughts on expansion vs contracting.  Expansion is such a big word, it is inviting new people, experiences and situations, yet it is also a potentially scary feeling with so much unknown, fear and uncertainty. This is where growth happens because this is the only place it can happen.  Expansion needs space to grow! 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Make a list with the words expansion on one side of the paper and contraction on the other.  Look at all of the different experiences or times in your life where you expanded and what did it lead to?  Build your own contrary evidence to disprove your negative or self-limiting thoughts.

2) Be honest and real about what you want to create and what will it require you to do?

3) Receiving allows us to expand even further.  It is a process and sometimes it’s easier than others.  Embrace the fact that there’s always room for more. Believe in the possibility of abundance and flow in your life and business. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in June)
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/sQ8UMqdY?coupon_code=EARLYBIRDSTORYBOOTCAMP

Pre-Order your signed copy of the Great Canadian Women, She Moves Mountains,
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/GhUox7is (shipping included)

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#261: I Had to Go First

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am reflecting and sharing my thoughts from writing my upcoming chapter in the Great Canadian Women series, She Moves Mountains.  This was a very emotional journey and vulnerable as I dove into my life over the past 15 months and what I have had to overcome to make it to this point in my entrepreneurial journey.  I am being real and raw on this episode in the hopes of inspiring you and sparking you to see that you have to choose to go first in your life too. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) How many times in our lives we have to go first, we have to step forward with no guarantee of what lies ahead for us. We do this because we know that we don't want to stay where we are and we don't want to go backward in our lives.

2) What this past year of the pandemic looked like for us, and how important it is to continue to practice empathy, patience, compassion and kindness with ourselves because everything we do or create in our life, comes from us first.  It all stems from the relationship and belief that we have within ourselves.

3) I share the experience of back surgery, my rehabilitation process and how I had to learn how to put my needs, energy, health and wellness first. This was an exercise in trust, empathy and compassion like no other.

Book your Storytelling Breakthrough Sessions with this promo code.
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Pre-Order your signed copy of the Great Canadian Women, She Moves Mountains,
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/GhUox7is (shipping included)

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#258: Are You Keeping Shame Alive?

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing my thoughts on shame, what it is doing to us and how we can literally change the story.  Shame according to Brene Brown is, “an intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.”  Shame is one of the most powerful emotions that profoundly shapes, controls and dictates the way we interact with the world. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) We all have shame stories.  These are the stories of struggle, the stories we feel mean that we failed or the stories we hope that no one ever actually finds out about us.  They have a tremendous hold on us and we continue to feed the story and keep it alive by hiding behind it. The armour we carry represents the shame we feel and feed in our lives.

2) We give shame its power and its hold on us when we don't talk about the difficult things in life.  We are feeding it, fueling it and literally giving it all of our power. We are the only ones who can change the story.

3) The only way to change the control shame has is to give it a voice.  When we give our story a voice, shame cannot survive. What we don't need in the midst of struggle is shame for being human. You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging. Brene Brown. This co-dependent relationship we have with shame is what is keeping the shame alive and blocking us from the connections, relationships, joy and fulfillment that we are searching for.

4) “Courage gives us a voice and compassion gives us an ear. Without both, there is no opportunity for empathy and connection.” “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.” Brene Brown

Book your Storytelling Breakthrough Sessions with this promo code.
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/3SNdvYNH?coupon_code=EARLY3SESSION

Pre-Order your signed copy of the Great Canadian Women, She Moves Mountains,
https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/GhUox7is (shipping included)

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

#257: Stop Waiting for Permission

In this "Friday Facts'' episode, I am sharing my thoughts on permission and how we get stuck waiting for permission to act in our lives.  There is no one who can give you permission to create change, as it truly only comes from inside of us.  We can’t ask and wait for permission to show up as ourselves. Whether it is about creating a small shift, a massive change in our lives, leaving something that isn't working for us or choosing something different, we are the only one who can step up and decide what step to take next. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) We tend to wait for permission because we don't want to disappoint others, yet we end up disappointing ourselves or living in resentment or blame when we don't take responsibility for our own choices.

2) This action alone gives others the power in our lives and this can keep us in a space of resentment or frustration as well. It is these actions that make us feel like we don't have any power in our lives.

3) This tends to come from years of people pleasing and working hard to live up to the expectations of others.  If you were not encouraged to fail or told that you don't have to please everyone, this could be an easy trap to fall into. If you live this way it can be very hard to learn to listen and honour what your body needs because you are judging yourself or you feel like the act of “resting” is not “enough”. 

4) What is the one thing you haven't been acting on that you know deep down you want to give yourself permission to do.  If there is anything this last year has taught us it’s that we can’t wait any longer. Don’t make waiting an option to follow through with what you are wanting to do, create or be in your life. 

Book your Storytelling Breakthrough Sessions with this promo code.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses 

#254: Your Mission Doesn't Wait for You

In this Friday Facts episode, I am sharing my thoughts on our life mission and how it doesn't wait for you.  This one might hit home for you.  There is this continuous loop of clients and people in general waiting for things to line up perfectly before they get started.  Waiting for the timing to be right, to be ready, and to have it all set up perfectly to avoid failing.  This is not the way it works.  We are meant to get started and learn as we go and to let it unfold as it is meant to.  We are actually the ones who will open up the doors of opportunity, by getting into action.  Don't make your mission wait for you, because it won’t. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Every single person has a mission or a purpose that they are here to fulfill. Everyone has a purpose. Don't get so wrapped up in finding your purpose or understanding the meaning of it, because while you are waiting, you are not allowing it to come to life.

2) Waiting is wasting time, energy and resources.  We aren't meant to start with a plan all laid out because even if we did, that is not how it unfolds.  Life doesn't go according to plan, that is the normal.  Life unfolds in the most surprising ways when we get into action and let it unfold.

3) Your mission is a phone call on your heart that screams louder than anything else.  It is already speaking to you.  If you listen, you can hear it. It doesn’t wait for you to figure it all out.

4) Your mission will continue to evolve and you become a living embodiment of it as you continue to show up for it. 

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others