anxious attachment style

Relationships can be complex, especially when individuals with different attachment styles come together. The dynamic between someone with a secure attachment style and someone with an anxious attachment style can be both challenging and rewarding. Understanding and navigating this relationship dynamic is crucial for fostering a healthy and fulfilling partnership. 

In this episode, let's explore the unique dynamics, potential challenges, and strategies for building a strong and supportive relationship between individuals with secure and anxious attachment styles.

Individuals with a secure attachment style typically have a positive view of themselves and their relationships. They are comfortable with intimacy, express their emotions openly, and trust their partners. They provide a sense of stability and security in relationships.

So I have been going through something interesting over the last month that I wanted to share with you. A relationship that has taught me so much. First of all about how I was still willing to abandon myself on a deep level to have attention and affection, but secondly, and perhaps more interestingly, it gave me an inside look at how attachment styles can create nervous system dysregulation, and how this can lead to us feeling that the very thing that we say we want from a conscious level, actually feels unsafe for us to experience. 

Listen to this episode of The Living Through Heart Podcast for more on this, my story, and what I learned from this experience. I hope you enjoy it.

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Lindsay helps you understand your attachment style in love and dating and overthinks her own experience with a past anxious attachment style.

In this episode:
Understanding attachment styles
Love and Dating

From Reality TV to staying sober, whatever Lindsay is Overthinking this week, she's sharing with you. Expect humor, advice and thoughtful takes on what's happening in her head and your world. Ready? Let's overthink it.

Learn more about Overthinking In Your Underwear

While it can be a challenge to date someone with an avoidant attachment style, understanding why they want to be with you, but are often afraid, can help us relax and not take responsibility for their actions.   

Anxious thought cycles, anyone? "The Stack" helped me tremendously in overcoming my stuck thinking patterns when I was going through a difficult time in my relationship some years ago. In fact, writing "Stacks" helped me significantly discover my emotional dependency patterns - unpleasant but super helpful.

You can download the complementing PDFs in both English and German for the writing process for free via thesoundofyou.me/foryou

The book "The Stack" by  Dr. Alexander Madaus is originally written and available in German. If you are familiar with the German language, I recommend his book to understand where this process is coming from and also read through many, true and unedited, Stacks written by male entrepreneurs.

Have fun with The Stack!

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EPISODE 151: Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles and Dating Tips with Sabrina Zohar

Do you keep winding up in situationships, you keep finding yourself dating emotionally avoidant men?

Do you avoid relationships like the plague and fear losing your autonomy and freedom?

It’s time to understand your attachment style!

This episode is for YOU!

Sabrina Zohar is dating coach for singles especially women who tend to be on the anxious style attachment. She’s the host of the top 100 podcasts in the world, Do the Work Podcast, I’m so excited to have her on as we talk about dating, relationships, communication, and attachment styles.

In this episode we talk about:

🖤 Attachment styles

🖤 Avoidant and what it means and how to deal -

🖤 Avoidant is being villainized and making them narcissists

🖤 Anxious where it comes from, why you have it and how to deal

🖤 Disorganized / Dismissive what it is, often is back and forth, hot and cold

🖤 How to work towards secure relationship

🖤 Dating tips, communication tips

🖤 Why you keep winding up in situationships?

🖤 How to be more aware and avoid those situationships

🖤 What makes an emotionally available person

Go follow Sabrina and check out her stuff! Make sure to save and share this episode with your friends and tag us on IG!

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Last week we spoke about wants and needs. This week I'm going to talk about how to have effective communication in relationship and how to ask for you wants and needs to be met. 
(Big shout out to my mentor Georgia Rose who taught me that it was okay for me to have wants and needs. You can see more about her here: 
Facebook: www.facebook.com/georgiaroseevents
and here on Instagram: @georgia_liberate)

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In this episode, we will be discussing 5 important steps to begin your healing journey.

✅ Step 1: Recognize Your Attachment Style - The first step to healing is recognizing your attachment style. 

✅ Step 2: Communicate Effectively - Communication is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship, especially when healing from attachment styles. 

✅ Step 3: Challenge Your Thoughts - Challenging negative thought patterns is essential to healing attachment styles. 

✅ Step 4: Practice Self-Care - Practicing self-care should be a priority in your healing journey. 

✅ Step 5: Seek Professional Help - If you find it challenging to heal your attachment style- do this.

Whether you know it or not, your relationship with others is influenced by something called Attachment Styles. The style in which we attached to others can cause us great joy, or great pain. Over the last two episodes I spoke about how attachment styles form, and then I talked about Secure attachment - which is what we should be aiming for to have happy, healthy relationships with ourselves and others. 
This week I am diving into something very close to my heart - anxious attachment. This was triggered up in me very deeply about 6 months ago and it has been a long, painful journey as I make my way out of the shadow of it, and into secure attachment.
Although this is something I learned when I was studying to be a therapist, I have had 2 main mentors who have really helped me to understand this and how it plays out in our lives; Georgia Rose and Chantelle Raven. You can find out more about Georgia here on Facebook: www.facebook.com/georgiaroseevents
and here on on Instagram: @georgia_liberate
And Chantelle here: embodiedawakeningacademy.com/
Here also are 2 different questionnaires on attachment styles for you to find out which dominant style you are: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/

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There’s so many unspoken rules and expectations when it comes to messaging someone for the first time.

You can find yourself over-analysing texts and getting anxious if someone doesn’t reply to you for ages, honestly it’s a total headf*ck.  And a lot of you told us - a shit texter is a deal breaker for you.

You might've heard  about Attachment Styles, but what ARE they really? What's it feel like being someone with Anxious vs. Avoidant style? Are we born with them, or do they develop?

Buckle up, because in this episode not only will you learn some fascinating "behind-the-scenes", but also how to navigate these attachment styles for yourself and your relationships - all this and more with the help of our imaginary friend, "Jimmy" and his "sippy cups!"

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

1. Why people develop attachment styles and how it starts
2. What it's really FEELS to have  Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized attachment styles
3. Practical tips on how to understand attachment styles better and learn how to deal with it in your own life and relationships

Hey bestie! My mission is to help High-Achievers and people-pleasers heal their Inner Child and find healthy love, especially those who desire an extraordinary connection but often struggle in their relationships. 

Got An "Aha!" Moment? Take a screenshot this episode, share it with the world, tag me @bygloriazhang on Instagram, and let me know your thoughts!
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MENTIONED IN PODCAST:

1. Read this book about attachment styles - Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine
2. How To Heal & Attract Secure Relationships:  Register for my popular free workshop where I reveal my proven 3-step process of how to create thriving relationships by healing your inner child.

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FREE RESOURCES:

1. Download Gloria's FREE Guide to Inner Child Healing.
2. How To Heal & Attract Secure Relationships:  Register for my popular free workshop where I reveal my proven 3-step process of how to create thriving relationships by healing your inner child.
3. Follow for daily inspo on @bygloriazhang!

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The FREE guide to healing all 4 core wounds is available once again, bestie!

This is a 10-page e-book that gives you specific affirmations and clear steps to re-parent all 4 wounds:  Abandonment, Guilt, Trust, and Neglect.

Over 5000 besties have already downloaded it.  Get YOUR free copy by clicking here.

- Why it’s essential to learn about attachment theory.

- What does it look like when someone is either anxiously attached or avoidant?

- Why do women tend to be more anxious in relationships?

- How do you know which one you are, and can you be a mix of them?

- What are protest behaviors?

- How Lisa observed a love bomber and got herself out of it with a clear conscience.

- What is Lisa’s “One Conversation Rule” for seeing if the person you are dating is equipped to handle the tough conversations in life?

- Why are avoidants / anxious attachers attracted to one another, and how to break free of codependency to become more secure.

- How to finally solve this issue to become an Emotionally Naked Dater!

Continue On Your Journey

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Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Mentioned:

Attached

Men Who Can’t Love

Quotes:

“Our parents have a huge influence over who we choose as partners, and how we show up in our relationships.”

“What's exciting is having both feet in a relationship, and being willing to take that kind of leap, that kind of risk, and then seeing what happens.”

“When we're anxious, we tend to attract the wrong men, so anxious and avoidant people are attracted to each other.”

Original Airdate: October 14, 2021

Ep 23, re-edited for this RePlay

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Can Anxiously-Attached and Avoidantly-Attached people really (1000% honestly)  work in a relationship together?   I've avoided talking about this for a long time, because I realized that a lot of people aren't going to like my answer. But in today's episode, I'm ripping the band-aid off and  giving you my full, honest, unfiltered opinion on the reality of this pairing based on my experience as a professional, as well as what you can do if you find yourself in an anxious-avoidant bond.

 *Why Do Some Women Easily Attract Extraordinary Relationships... And Others Struggle?*
Register for my FREE workshop The Lovable Woman, and learn my 3-step process of how to create healthy, high-quality relationships:
➡️ bygloriazhang.com/workshop

Episode Highlights:

• Why do Anxious and Avoidant people attract each other?
• The common pitfalls of anxious-avoidant relationships
• Can it really work?  My blunt and honest answer of when it can or can't work.
• What YOU can do, if you're the Anxious or Avoidant one, to begin your journey into Secure Attachment
• My philosophy on what the foundations of a lasting relationship should be built on
• The tales of my "bubble gun side hustle" story and the important lessons here on finding the right, compatible match for you
• Limited spots in my free workshop to learn how to attract a compatible match for you – click the link to save your seat: bygloriazhang.com/waitlist

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FREE RESOURCES:

1. Book A Free Love Strategy Consult:  Learn to see if the Soulmate program is right for you by booking a free call with my team here.
2. Follow for daily inspo on @bygloriazhang!

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WAS THIS HELPFUL?
I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to follow, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, we'll send you my Inner Child Starter Kit if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this link: bygloriazhang.com/reviews

The FREE guide to healing all 4 core wounds is available once again, bestie!

This is a 10-page e-book that gives you specific affirmations and clear steps to re-parent all 4 wounds:  Abandonment, Guilt, Trust, and Neglect.

Over 5000 besties have already downloaded it.  Get YOUR free copy by clicking here.

Let's mix things up, High Achievers! I invited my dear friend, Hiwa Alaghebandian, who is a Food Artist, Lawyer and Podcast Host of The Blush Pod. Today, we decided to have a totally unfiltered, all hands on deck conversation about codependent relationships, dating, and growing up feeling like an outcast. Stay tuned for this really fun and interesting episode!

**Why Do Some Women Easily Attract Extraordinary Relationships... And Others Struggle?**
Register for my FREE workshop The Lovable Woman, and learn my 3-step process of how to create healthy, high-quality relationships:
➡️ bygloriazhang.com/workshop

Episode Highlights:

• Hiwa’s journey with inner child healing, surviving after being in a codependent relationship and discovering her true calling
• The Inspiration behind Hiwa’s Podcast, The Blush Pod
• Our candid but grounded take on which Sex in the City character we resonate with
• Hiwa’s experience in growing up feeling like an outcast and how it relates to her childhood wounds
• How Hiwa went from being a Lawyer to becoming an Investor, Food Artist and Podcast Host

Hey bestie! My mission is to help High-Achievers and people-pleasers heal their Inner Child and find healthy love, especially those who desire an extraordinary connection but often struggle in their relationships. 

Got An "Aha!" Moment? Take a screenshot this episode, share it with the world, tag me @bygloriazhang on Instagram, and let me know your thoughts!

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MENTIONED IN PODCAST:

1. Follow Hiwa on Instagram: @hiwaaaaaaaa
2. Listen and subscribe to Hiwa’s Podcast, The Blush Pod

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FREE RESOURCES:

1. Book A Free Love Strategy Consult:  Learn to see if the Soulmate program is right for you by booking a free call with my team here.
2. Follow for daily inspo on @bygloriazhang!

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WAS THIS HELPFUL?

I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to follow, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, we'll send you my Inner Child Starter Kit if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this link: bygloriazhang.com/reviews

The FREE guide to healing all 4 core wounds is available once again, bestie!

This is a 10-page e-book that gives you specific affirmations and clear steps to re-parent all 4 wounds:  Abandonment, Guilt, Trust, and Neglect.

Over 5000 besties have already downloaded it.  Get YOUR free copy by clicking here.

In this episode I share the concept around people-pleasing, what it is, why people do it and why it's detrimental to your self-respect and self-love.

For the full show notes, click here. https://anabellingleton.com/2021/08/11/ep-43-people-pleasing-is-self-betrayal/

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